Nadim Bashir – 7 Important Things To Teach Our Children
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The speakers discuss the importance of parenting and teaching children to be thankful to their parents. They emphasize the need to teach children about their rights and fulfill their parents' expectations. The importance of being truthful and address criticism is emphasized, along with the need for parents to be truthful and address criticism. Finally, the speakers emphasize the importance of standing up for justice and finding people who represent the community to make small changes to make a larger impact.
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I asked Allah subhana wa Tada just as he has gathered us here today on this day of Juma May Allah subhana wa Tada gather us along with our families in Jeddah for those who are Allah in the companionship of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam in his Sahaba eurobodalla mean I asked Allah subhana wa Tada to make our last Imam our best armor that may Allah subhanho wa Taala make the best part of our life our last part of our life. I mean a little bit I let me
Last week, in JAMA football we talked about the importance of respecting parents honoring our parents revering our parents, and what to do in situations that if our parents have passed away perhaps, and what do is we can make for our parents. And once again ask ALLAH SubhanA wa Bucha to give our lie our parents who are still alive a long life, may Allah subhanho wa Taala protect them may Allah subhana preserve them. And we ask Allah subhana wa Tada all those who have lost their parents, may Allah subhana wa Tada make their graves a garden paradise. And may Allah subhanaw taala have mercy upon them the way they have mercy upon us. I mean, you know, but I mean, today in sha
Allah and the hotbar, I want to talk about the next aspect of parenting, which is, what do we need to teach our children? There are some important things that we need to teach our children. And often we get into this debate that what are the most important things and everyone has their own opinion about what are the most important things, and of course, their opinion is, is based on their own family dynamics. And we all have different family dynamics and each one of our children, they have different strengths and different weaknesses. But overall, there is a story that we find in the Quran, a story of a man who taught his child some very important things of life, who is not
necessarily a prophet, but the fact that his advice to his son was so beloved. And it was so amazing that Allah subhanho wa Taala made his advices part of the Quran. And not only do we read that read that part, we will read this part till today, we have been reading that part, we read that part in the sutra, till the Day of Judgment, and that is a story of local man al Hakim, this man who gives such an amazing advice, and majority of the other man, the scholars are of the opinion that he's not necessarily a prophet. But once again, it's not about who you are as a person, but is what you do and what you teach to others and how you shape the mind and the personality of others. Just like we
define in Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he took the Sahaba he took this community, the community at that time in Mecca, the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu, a community that no other king want to rule over. But he made them into gems, and not only just gems, gems, who would contribute to their community, but gems who will shape the entire world who changed the entire world. And today if we also focus when it comes to these important things that Lemond taught his son, if we can teach our kids the same thing, and once again, it does not come overnight. It's a journey. Today. If we think that teaching our kids is like an overnight matter, it's not an overnight overnight matter.
You have to keep on going at it. Today you teach them tomorrow you teach them you will say it 50 times you will say 100 times but you got to keep on going at it as parents we cannot just expect them to do as we may have done in our past, but we have to keep on pushing them and as long as we keep on focusing on one of these seven things, seven things that look man, he's teaching his son as long as we can focus on these things Inshallah, that our kids will grow up with strong morals and strong with a strong foundation and Shalem the very first thing that we got to teach our children is the importance of being thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala yes and so local man, Allah subhanho wa
Taala is saying well Dana local man Allah heck matter and the school Lilla Woman Yes score for in nama Yes, Guru enough. See what this is, is the attitude mindset. Our kids today, they don't have a gratitude mindset. Our kids today have an in gratitude mindset. They feel like everything should go their way. Brothers and sisters as parents we need to teach our children what is gratitude of life. We got to teach them how other people live. Take them around with you. Just like we find with Ibrahim Ali, you sit down with your fellow Ibrahim will Allah either menial Beatty with a smile, he himself did not erect the house of Allah subhanho wa taala. He himself did not build the house the
car by himself. But he took along with him the support and his own son is my is my daddy, he's Salam. And this teaches us that whenever we go out and we do anything good, and we find this often with parents that they go out and they do so much good, but their kids are sitting at home, no brothers and sisters and parents. Whenever you go out and you do something that is good, drag along and bring along your kids. They will not want to go on the weekend. But you take them with them against their own wishes because they do not understand the hikma and the wisdom, why you're taking them but you must take them so that they learn as they're growing up that what does it mean to be
thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala it also means that we teach them the importance of other things in life. We teach them the importance of perhaps money in life, the how money comes with great difficulty and how you should use your money correctly. Our kids today do not have this
concept. And once again, I've talked about this before. And I'm very much adamant about this, that we as parents, I understand that many parents here sitting in this count congregation right now, you came here to this country, or perhaps your father's came here to this country. And they came with very less money. And they worked hard. They worked hard, they send money overseas, they made money over here, and they made a living for themselves. And they have not just made a living for themselves. In many cases, they have made a fortune for themselves. And we feel that just like I went through the difficulty, I want my child to have a very easy life. We don't realize we're
spoiling them. What's the need to go and buy your child an iPhone Pro, iPhone 14 Pro, when they don't even know they don't even have the basic discipline of life. But we keep on going. We buy them expensive things in life, and they haven't worked hard for anything in life. Do you really think? Does anyone here think that if I keep on buying my children things after things after things, they will understand what gratitude in life is? Do you think that they will understand and have the right attitude of life, they're going to feel that now we are entitled to anything that we want. If I want something, I should get it right away. And we in this way, brothers and sisters, we're not showing
them love parents, we're not showing them love. We are spoiling our children when we give them every single thing that they want. This is not the way to do the tarbiyah of our children, teach them what is hard work, teach them you want something you have to work hard for it. The Siva of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we often study the life of the prophet Selim, after post war he, after it cannot be small. But very seldomly, do we focus on the CETA of the Prophet prior to him becoming a prophet. And when you study his life, when he was perhaps 16 1718 years old, he did not just have a very easy job, he was a shepherd, you know how difficult it is to be a shepherd. And why these
Ambia they were shepherds, because shut being a shepherd builds understanding within you. It builds responsibility in you, it builds accountability within you. It builds patience within you, it builds bravery within you. And there's so many other things are mentioned in the Sierra that why they were shepherds. Yet today, when it comes to our children, we want them to have, we always facilitate them and buying some expensive things when they haven't even worked hard for it. Brothers, sisters, we're not doing anything good for them. When we do these kinds of things, we are spoiling our children, and in return, they are going to become more ungrateful in life. The next thing, that man, the next
thing, so even though Allah subhanho wa Taala is sending this message to local man. But nonetheless, this is something that we have to teach our children, then the first thing that a man actually teaches his son is about our EDA, and this is something that we all have to focus on when it comes to our children, especially in this day and age. There was a time when we talked about when we said the word Aki that when we said, when we said teaching our children and laying the proper foundation of Islam, it was always about Iman and shift. And we will always teach our children that do not do shit. But it became something that it was not, you know, not taking very importantly. But nowadays
we are living in a time. There is no doubt in the fact we are currently living in a time. There are so many other entities out there besides Shinnick that is destroying our faith, destroying the faith of our children and so forth. And Wallahi brothers sisters, if you feel that there are no problems in our community, and these are problems of the outside world and so forth, brothers and sisters, sit down with me one time sit down with any of our leadership right here at this measure, or any other leadership at any other masjid. And they will tell you because we are the ones who have received those phone calls on a day to day basis, the most disturbing situations to the point that
now at times, I have become desensitized myself. It does not bother me when I hear these kinds of things that is sad for myself. But to be honest, who else when people go to when they have the most, you know, the most disturbing situations, these problems that we see outside brothers and sisters, they're not problems of the outside, they're now become problems of our own community. These are things that are destroying the Eman of our children. And we have to teach our children do not sugarcoat it, be straightforward about it. Teach them these things are haram. These things are not allowed in Islam. We're not teaching our children to be violent. We're not teaching our children to
go and take people's rights away. But we're teaching our children that you need to stand up for what is right, you need to stand on the side of Islam and we teach our children Paul in Canada about oh come webinar
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This is in SUTA Toba or Surah Bara that if anything comes before Allah and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we are in serious trouble. We have to teach our kids what Islam is. What does Islam mean? And the fact that no matter what the world is to
20 years from now, 40 years from now, 2080 years from now, we may not be here. Many of us may not even be here, but we teach our children What is Islam, the foundation of Islam and the importance of sticking to the foundation of Islam. And this is exactly what local man did. He says He taught his son love to shrink Billa in the Sharika lagoon, Arlene, the next thing that Look man, the third thing that he's teaching his son is people's rights. Our deen is not about only a bad diet, or Dean is also about o'clock. Today we have minimized or Dean to just solid NCAM if I'm doing solid if I'm doing cm, I have a first first class ticket to Jana, and we have ignored all the other aspects of
our deen and you see people's true colors when it comes to other aspects of Deen brothers and sisters our deen is a complete package of I told me no no we bobble keytab waterfront everybody this is exactly what bunnies saw Elin. They took some of the book of Allah and they distorted some of the other book of Allah or they ignore the rest. They pick in the chose whatever they want to follow. This is exactly what the ummah of Rasulillah Salam is doing today, and we cannot follow that same path. Our deen is an entire package. And therefore when it comes to this matter, it also includes people's rights. And therefore Superman teaches a son that when it comes to people's rights, the
very first one at the at the highest of all the order of people's rights is respecting parents while was slain Al Insana be widely day here, Santa's that we talked about this last week. And the reason why he mentioned this is because once again, there's everyone else's right. And we gotta teach our children, there are the rights of parents, there are the rights of siblings, there are the rights of relatives, the rights of everyone in your family, no matter how much annoying they may be, no matter how much you may despise them. But we got to teach our children dignity and respect, no matter how much your uncle on your auntie from either side, that you may not like them, but you teach we have
to teach our children dignity and respect. Whatever family feuds that we have, we cannot let our children to become part of that family feud. That's why it's very important. We teach our children the importance of rights rights for everyone. And not only that, but we as as parents, we gotta teach our children also. And I say this, of course with a grain of salt because none of us are the best parents. We try to do our best. Of course, we all have flaws. But we got to teach our children also that what does it mean to be a wife? We got to teach our daughters what does it mean to be an ideal wife? We're going to teach our sons what does it mean to be an ideal husband not based on our
culture based on the Quran and the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So this is something that's very important. And not only that, but the idea of the Quran recited right before the Juma hotbar. So the first is certainly sir. At the end, Allah says, What up la la vita, Sir, I don't know who you are, how many Allamah this they say, based on this idea that each one of us we will stand before Allah subhana wa Taala on the day of judgment, and Allah will ask us, whose rights did we fulfill and whose rights do we not fulfill Allah will talk, talk to us, Allah will hold us accountable. And Allah will not ask any one of us. Listen to me very carefully. Allah will not ask
any of us that whose duty not fulfill our rights. Allah knows who did not fulfill our rights, when we are going to be questioned about each one of us is that whose rights do we fulfill and whose rights did we not fulfill? So the next thing that Lachman is teaching his son is, of course, fulfilling people's rights. The next thing that a man is teaching his son is the importance of spirituality. And when it comes to spirituality, he mentioned only one thing and that is taqwa. Yagoona, you're in * with Allah, but even harder. Fattah confy, Salatin ofus and I were to fill out the ITB Hala, that even if you have a mustard seed at the size of an atom, and it is spread
anywhere around the world, even if maybe in Iraq, meaning that local man is teaching his son, my son, and in this case, in our case, my daughter, wherever you do, wherever you are, remember that Allah subhanho wa Taala is watching alum yallambie And Allah Allah, how many times our kids want to sit alone in the in the room with their own iPads, with their own computers and so forth. We teach them yes, as parents, we tell them that you want to sit on the iPad, you want to sit on the computer, you do it in a public place around the house, you do it in front of the parents, we don't give them the technology of the world and we tell them that you know what you have a free rein to do
whatever you want to do. No you make them sit in front of you. But at the same time we have to also instill within our children, this concept that Allah is watching you, we as parents, how long are we going to be there to keep on monitoring our children, we got to teach our children also that we may not be here one day as parents we are not going to be there to keep on you know correcting you if you're doing something that is wrong. But do remember that Allah subhanho wa Taala is watching this is another
One point that we got to teach our children which is the importance of spirituality. This also includes that always doing something to improve their spirituality Alhamdulillah. Today, you find many youth today, and I applaud these youth, they're going around town, there's so many opportunities in town, where they're going and gaining and instrumenting their spirituality, it is always important, especially if when it comes to our youth. And when it comes to our children, that they're always in the company of other good people, this is a boost to their spirituality. Another important thing that we got to teach our children is the importance of a Baghdad, Lama says to his
son, Yagoona, your acronym is Salah, masala, oh, my son established the solid, all that Reba that are contingent on the solid, if the solid is strong, everything else is strong. We learned from the Hadith of the Prophet SAW Salem, the very first thing that will be questioned to a person on the Day of Judgment is the welfare of their salad, and how punctual they were about the salad, and the and the health of their salad, and how well they're performing the salad and the salad comes out to be satisfactory, everything will come out to be satisfactory. That is why brothers and sisters, our children today, they feel I tell you, honestly, our children, when you keep on telling them solid,
solid, solid, solid, they say that my parents are in knowing they say that my parents keep on nagging me and we as parents, we feel that I don't want to annoy my children. So you know what, I'm going to tell them once and die, is it? No, see, our children don't understand the benefits. They don't understand the Hikmah they will understand these things later on. Right now is that time this is why Imam Ghazali was very particular about this in his books, that when it came to children, and especially when it came to Salaat your responsibility and my responsibility, our responsibility as parents is we keep on enforcing this upon them. And when this becomes a habit, the later on they
will do this. And I guarantee you they will come back and thank you in life. Today they're calling us they're saying to the parents that you keep on nagging me today they're telling the parents that you are annoying when you keep on reminding but solid, but we should not be worried about what they have to say, today is the time to build a habit. Tomorrow it will become their success. So that is why no matter what the situation is, we keep on going back to our children and remind them solid solid. If they're not praying solid, make them make we'll do it right in front of you. Correct they will do if they will do is not correct and make them praise solid in front of you. I get it that we
want to trust our children. By being honest with you. The best thing to do is the best thing to do is have them pray right in front of you. You can correct this a lot if they are if they are missing something in their salon or they're not praying correctly. And the next important thing that he teaches his son is the importance of standing up for what is right always standing up for justice and always standing up against what is what is wrong. He says up he was salata what more Bill ma roof when her honeymoon Curry was when I saw that he taught his child that no matter what no matter what era it is, what time it is of the century and so forth. Whenever you see someone is being a
someone is a victim, when you see someone is mudroom, someone is oppressed, you have to stand up against that we learned from hateful football even before as well son was was a prophet that he stood up for justice. And not only that, but a man is also teaching his son that my son when you do something like this, there is going to be a wave of criticism though you that will come your way. That time there was people will criticize in different ways. Today people will kill you on social media, they will say derogatory things about you on social media, you should not be worried about those kinds of things was better. I saw by today brothers sisters, you know, one thing that our
children they cannot stand is any kind of criticism. They loved, the love to be loved by others. They're always looking for validation. They're always looking for other people's appreciation and so forth. We got to teach our children that true appreciation may not come in this dunya but most certainly it will come in the ark era. When you see something that is wrong. You stand up against it. When you see something that is right, you will always turn on that side. It does not come down to family. It comes down to what Allah has declared right? And when Allah has declared as wrong. This is why it is Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he made it very clear, it does not come down to
family that even if the daughter of Rasulullah Salam committed theft, there will be a hit against her. The person did not care about family because he wants to establish on my roof and here I am Monica. And the last thing that man taught his son is which is something that is extremely important that we teach our kids all the time is a clock character without character Wallahi there is there is a person does not have the personality of a Muslim. You cannot be a Muslim without character. Even before the province became a prophet, he had character when he says Boris to Tima muckety muck o'clock it means that I have come to perfect I've come to complete meaning that there was already a
foundation of character we have
To build this within us, I guarantee you know I tell you honestly when people come to me and they say, oh we have a boy we have a girl for our we have a girl for our son or we have found a boy for our daughter and he's this and he's that or she's this and that will lie. The very first thing I tell people is forget about the fact that if we come to the masjid forget about the fact that if they were half of the Quran or half Dotto Quran, the first thing that is the most important thing is a clock do they have a clock or not? Do they have character or not? Because that is the foundation to every single thing. If they have no clock, they don't have anything. This is why we find from the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was informed about a woman who prays Salah she does so much better but because of her o'clock other people are suffering the provinces that have made it very clear that these are bad that are not going to help her so that is why brothers and sisters we have to teach our children the importance of Allah so once again, just for just to quickly recap what are the seven things that we got to teach our children the very first thing is gratitude number two is a strong foundation of Aki the of Ardene number three is people's rights number four spirituality number five A by that number six on demography and AI Mancha and number seven character
in a clock these are seven things we have to keep on focusing on when it comes to the Therby of our children. I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make our children leaders for the future may Allah Subhan protect their Iman May Allah subhana protect our upcoming generations to Allah mean BarakAllahu Nana Willa configure Philippine Alim whatever I know what your community with the Hakeem and stuff from Allah Hi, Lea welcome what is a Muslim manifesto fellow in the hood of affordable him?
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quickly Inshallah, in this last part of the football, I just want to emphasize exactly what our Amir was talking about earlier on, is that one of the things that you'll see outside when you go is that there are people standing outside who are representing us on a citywide level, on a statewide level and so forth. Is is very important. And I'm a strong believer in this that before even before national politics and so forth, it really comes down to your own city when Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran, in Allah, Allah, you don't matter become an Hatha Yoga, you know, maybe unfussy him, you cannot make a greater change till you don't make the small changes in life, you want to
make a greater change in life in any aspect of life, you got to make some making, you got to start making small small changes. And that means you got to focus on the smaller areas. And these people who are standing outside, this is people who are representing us in the city, or on a state level, and so forth. That's why it's very important that we talk to them. These are people who are representing us, you have a full right to ask them any question that you want, because you are the constituents. So therefore you can ask whatever you want, you're the ones who are going to be voting and so forth if you choose to vote or not. But the point is, that these are people who are
presenting us, we should go ask them, ask them, of course, respectfully, if you disagree with their response, you just walk away very respectfully, and so forth. There's no need to engage in an argument and so forth. But at the same time, we have to understand that if we want to make greater changes, we got to start on a citywide level, and we got to start within our own community and so forth. And this is the more important politics that I personally believe you cannot people want to focus on national, where even on the city level, we have not even made changes. So that is why cities statewide, always try to talk to these kinds of people. These are the people who are
representing us. I ask Allah subhanaw taala to always grant us leaders who will care for their people and always make the right decisions. I mean, overall, I mean, Allah was someone who sent me in Allah Muhammad Salah is someone was significantly McCann Allahumma So now Allah mahalo fina Wofford villa. Hola Donna was female Varna wa female with the Dinah what have Mota in our home Kadena electroni? Hi, while tsunami coalition was FURTHER NAM in colada, Allah hamaca Santa Monica sciatica mata hollaby he been in Obinna ma co take I mean particle mountable they wanna be genetic.
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