Mustafa Khattab – Ramadan Special Quran Gems 13
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The speakers emphasize the importance of leadership and giving children opportunities to learn about Islam. They stress the need to be led by example and not let children be confused by media. The speakers also advise parents to teach children about Islam, particularly when they are in public schools, and provide opportunities for them to learn about Islam. They give advice on being in a logical way and communicating with children about Islam, as well as a teacher named Alaysha who taught children about the gadaat and umalat.
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Program downstairs inshaAllah so you can take your
kids there.
The second thing if your phone goes off
inshaAllah you can just put your hand in
your pocket and turn it off. It's it's
perfectly okay inshaAllah.
Number 3. Alhamdulillah
today,
we had a fundraiser
Jum'ah. Allah
blessed us with so many generous brothers and
sisters,
and, our expectation was to,
raise 500
actually,
we had as a salah Hajjariyah We gave
this opportunity,
to buy 500 salah spots in the masjid
so we can pay off the loan renovate
the roof and fix the parking lot
So out of the 500
prayer spots in the masjid Alhamdulillah, at Jum'ah
today, we sold 300. Taghbir.
Allah. Taghbir.
Allah. Taghbir. May Allah
reward you for your generosity. I thought I
would never meet anyone more generous than the
people of Edmonton,
but, Alhamdulillah, you made me change my mind
today. The people of Edmonton will be jealous.
So Alhamdulillah, until the end of Ramadan, we
have 2 200,
spots in the Masjid, 200 salah spots. Those
who would like to buy,
1 or more spots inshaAllah
The pledge forms are here, you can buy
them for yourself, your family, your parents, Assa
Sala Khajari inshaAllah I'm gonna keep them here
So,
over the last couple of days we've been
talking about, starting a new page with Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, judging yourself in this dunya
before you are judged in Afila.
So before I begin talking about
our relationship with our kids, because this is
something you need to think about as a
way of judging yourself in this dunya. We
spoke about your parents, we spoke about your
husband, your wife, but today we'll talk a
little bit about the kids.
One of the scholars,
his name was Rabi'r al Nukhaytha, and there
are different narrations from other scholars.
He used to judge himself in this dunya,
so every time he did something wrong, there
was a way,
a very unique way of judging himself.
How did he do it?
He made a grave in his bedroom,
like, by the wall, he dug a grave,
and it has a heavy cover or lead,
so every time he did something wrong, or
he got, distracted by dunya, so he wanted
to remind himself of Adra and the day
of judgment and the grave. He will go
inside the grave, and it was very dark,
and his kids and his wife, they would
just put the lid or the cover over
him.
And he would tell them half an hour,
I'm gonna judge myself,
half an hour come back, open the door
for me, I'll come out. Alhamdulillah.
So every time he will go there in
the grave, it's very dark, and he's gonna
start crying,
and, he feels like he's being judged in
the grave, and he would ask himself at
the end, what do you want now? Now
you have seen it all, it's dark, the
punishment is there, what do you want? So
he would tell himself, He
would say, You Allah, send me back to
the dunya, I'm gonna clean the mess, I'm
gonna be a good guy, I'm gonna be
a good person.
Then he will knock on the door, his
wife will open the door for him, he
will come out.
So he did this like,
10, 15 times through his life, until one
day, he went
inside and as usual he said to his
wife after half an hour just you know
open the door I'll come out.
His wife, you know, we get the flyers
from Walmart,
from No Frills, food basics. So she saw
the sale
Forget him. She went to the store,
shopping the whole day. Right?
After half an hour,
he did his routine. Abir Jar'ooni'aliyahamaluzaliha.
As usual, You Allah sent me back. Okay,
let's go. He knocked on the door, no
one is there.
7 hours he was stuck in there. He
actually thought he was dead.
Right? He said, La Hawa Allah, I'm dead.
Khalaas, no more.
Finally.
So he was expecting someone to come and
say,
He was sitting there expecting, you know, all
the time.
Finally,
time his wife came, you know, with a
car full of stuff from the store, a
lot of things they don't need anyway.
So she came in, he opened the door
and he said La, how long have you
been? I actually thought I died, right? So
don't leave me inside again. And he told
himself,
work for the day you're going to knock
on the door, no one will open for
you. Right? This is your last chance. So
keep this, image in your in your mind.
Now, the relationship with your kids, this is
something you need to think about,
before you move to Africa.
One thing, and this is something we need
to do with our kids, we need to
lead by example.
Sometimes we do something, and we tell them
to do something else, and this is very
hypocritical, and the kids are confused.
Like, you talk to them, you have a
cigarette in your hand, and you tell them,
If you're small, you would be an idiot.
When you have the cigarette in your hand,
do you think they will listen to you?
Of course not!
You tell your kids that backbiting
is haram, but our neighbor is ugly.
They will never listen to you, because you're
back biting people. And so on and so
forth. There's this story, it's a true story
of a brother,
someone called him, his son was telling the
story. So he said, this man called,
my dad didn't like him, so my dad
said, Okay, answer the phone, answer the phone.
So I picked up,
and,
he said to his father, This is Amu
Ibrahim.
He said, I'm not here. So he said
to Amu Ibrahim, My dad is telling you
that he's not here.
Afnil.
So you are teaching them to lie, and
you are mad when they lie to you.
Right? So we confuse our kids. You know,
you have to raise them and lead by
example. In Jum'ah, a few weeks ago, I
gave this example
that some of us would come here, we
don't follow the adaab or Islam. Sometimes we
get a convenience store, we sell pork, we
sell beer, and your son will come to
you with that, but the imam says, you
know, this is haram, and you tell him,
no no no no. If you sell it
to a Muslim, it's haram, but if you
sell it to a kafir, it's okay.
15 years later, your your son will come
to you with that, you know, I have
a girlfriend. So your dad will say, but
the Sheikh said in the masjid is Haram.
So your son will tell you, No, I'm
dating a a Kafir girl. She's not Muslim,
so it should be okay.
So the argument will come back on you.
Right? So don't use that stuff with your
kids. So you should lead by example.
You don't expect them to do the opposite
of what you are saying. They are like
sponges. They will just they will watch you,
they will observe you, everything you do they
will follow.
Teach them about Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Teach
them about Islam. Especially if they go to
the public schools and they are bombarded with,
know, you heard it all,
new * education,
all these things,
Christmas, Halloween,
all that stuff. Right? All these things. So
you need to give them the Islamic perspective.
And I keep telling people, yes, I understand.
If you can't afford to send your kids
to Islamic schools,
and then go to the public schools, at
least in a week, and teach them something.
Send send them to the masjid to learn
something about Islam.
You don't send yourself or your kids actually
to the public schools to be taught by
Al Gautub Ali Muhammad Ali, and at the
end of the year, you expect them to
be like Abu Bakr, Omar, and Ufmal and
Ali. Who are who are you trying to
fool? Right? So you keep this balance. Yes,
they learned the secular way, but you also
teach them something about Islam.
In the Quran,
the Prophets were always talking to their kids.
And say for example,
So Ibrahim alaihis salam and Yaqub, the different
prophets, they were teaching their kids tawhid.
And Surah Yusuf Yaqub
was talking to Yusuf alaihis salam. This is
why when he had the dream, he came
to his father and he spoke to him.
And they say that Yusuf alaihis salam was
taking away from his father, Surah Yusuf is
Surah number 12 in the Quran. So Yusuf
alaihis salam was taken away from his father
when he was only 12, 12 years old.
And later on in the story when he
was in jail, he was doing Dawah about
tawhid.
Where did he get that from? Because the
people of Egypt at the time, they were
mushrikun, they were worshiping idols. So what he
got from his father when he was a
baby?
Luqman alayhis salam. You know Surah Luqman. He's
teaching his son about Tawhid. Means salah. There's
a day of judgement, be nice to people,
respect everyone. So he's teaching him about the
gadaat and umalat, your relationship with Allah and
the relationship with the people.
The last thing I want to say, because
tomorrow inshallah we'll be doing a new,
you know, a new topic,
is Your kids, when they are young, they
will always come to you with questions.
Hey, dad, who created this phone? You will
say, well, Samsung.
Who created Samsung? This person, in China.
Who created China? Allah. They will say, Who
created Allah? They have these questions, right? So
you need to find ways to explain to
them. Your kids will come to you and
say, Dad,
where did I come from?
So,
some of us would jump out of the
window, someone would say shut up, what are
you talking about?
Right? No, no, no, you need to explain
to them, because the Quran talks about these
things all the time, so you need to
talk to them in, in a very logical
way.
And the Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam, when he
spoke to kids, he spoke to them like
adults.
He would talk and teach them like grown
ups. He was not like, you know, baby
talking them. He was talking to them like
adults. The Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam, you know
from authentic ahadith, I got one minute.
He used to gather all the kids in
the house, al Hasan and the Hussain, and
teach them the last ayah of Surah Isla.
All the time.
So he's teaching them about tawhid.
So don't baby talk them. Just talk to
them like adults,
and give them the the right proof and
the right argument, explain to them in an
acceptable way. We can't get into more details
inshallah. I'm gonna get conclude with this, small
story. We'll like inshallah.
So one day there's this kid, he comes
from school, and he goes to his mom
and he says, mom,
how did I come about? Where did I
come from as a baby?
She said: It's very simple.
You know, it's very simple. I'm gonna explain
to you. We have a carpet like this
one in the living room, so I put
some sugar under the carpet, and in the
morning I lifted the carpet and you are
there.
Masha Allah, sugar. Made of sugar.
So the mom went to see the kid,
he put some sugar below the carpet to
see what happens.
First thing in the morning he woke up
and found 5
lifted the carpet, he found 5 cockroaches.
So the kid came to his mom when
she woke up and said, Mom, I did
what you did, you know, I lifted the
carpet, there were like 5 cockroaches,
you know.
She said, Did you kill them? I didn't
know we have cockroaches in the house. You
should kill them. So he said, How in
the world can I kill my kids? These
are my kids. Right? You told me.
So I get it. We'll come back on
you. We'll continue tomorrow inshallah.
So the question for last night, there's Surah
till, Surah Tun Na'al
Surah Tun Na'al, the Surah of the Blessings
in the Quran. This Surah lists at least,
or actually more than 20 favors from Allah,
more than any other Surah, And this is
Surah Al Nahl. Surah 16,
and the winner is sister Nafila.
Sister Nafila.
Yes.
Yeah. If we can get someone to send
it to the sister, in the back.
If you can't pass.
The question for tonight
is,
difficult.
According to the Quran, how many angels
will carry the throne of Allah on the
Day of Judgment? How many angels will carry
the throne of Allah
on the Day of Judgment? If you know
the answer, imayal me inshallah at imamustafaa atlatoyacenter.zaajazaqamalameha.