Mustafa Khattab – Our Kids Before Its Too Late

Mustafa Khattab
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The speakers discuss issues with youth in Canada and the West, including problems with parenting and drinking drugs. They emphasize the importance of starting at a young age to solve problems and encourage parents to teach children at a young age. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of good manners, including being naughty and giving children opportunities to learn. Good manners are key to building a successful family, and children are made up of similar things.
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And I bare witness that Muhammad

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is the seal of the prophets and the

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final messenger

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to all humanity.

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Mashallah, in my opinion, has a very good

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voice. It makes me forget half of the

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football it is. Days. So

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So today, inshallah, we will continue

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our discussion about the problems of our youth

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in Canada and in North America and the

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West in general.

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So to take care of these problems, you

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have to start

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You have to start at a very young

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age.

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To give them good education, to give them

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manners, and to give them akhlaq.

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So to solve these problems, you have to

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start at at a very young age.

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But most of the parents,

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they always come to me with problems when

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it is too late.

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Believe it or not,

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the imam is not a superman

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or a spiderman or, for that matter, a

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bad man. I'm just a man.

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They always come to me when it is

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too late thinking I have a magic wand

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somewhere in my office. I'm gonna hit the

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kid, and they'll become good again.

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So the parents come to me, saying, for

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example, my kid is alcoholic.

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My kid is on drugs,

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or my son is in jail,

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or my daughter got married to a non

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Muslim friend,

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or my son is beating me at home,

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or is raising his boys to me or

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her boys to me at home. What can

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I do?

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So I tell him, sorry. It is too

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late. There is very little that we can

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do.

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You should have studied a long time ago.

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I'm not a Superman.

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But, of course, I tried to do my

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best,

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but you should have studied a long time

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ago.

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So this reminds me of a very short

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form. It's a beautiful one that I studied

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at the last 25 years ago, and I

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still remember this poem by Ahmed Shawty. It

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says that a young girl with his father

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her father were walking in the park.

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Then she saw a crooked tree. The tree

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was not straight. It was crooked like this,

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falling on its side.

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So the daughter said, oh, father, wait for

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a minute. We can get a rope and

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try to fix up this crooked tree.

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So the father said, it is too late

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now. The tree is very big. If you

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wanted to fix it, you could have done

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it when it was very young.

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Sadly, very young. But now it is too

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late.

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Then the father concluded with this line, if

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you don't fix

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and teach Adam and Aflac to your kids

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at a young age, it will be very

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hard and very difficult when they grow up.

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So it is very beneficial to start with

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your kids at a very young age and

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not to wait until it is too late,

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then you come complaining.

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There is this saying back home, when you

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teach your kids at a young age, it

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is just like writing on stone.

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But when you try to fix them up

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at a very young old age, it is

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just like writing on the water. It It

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will just disappear

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in a minute or a few seconds.

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So you have to give them akhla when

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they are young.

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It is your responsibility

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on the day of judgement

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that Allah would ask you,

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your kids have no Islamic manners. Why? Why

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didn't you teach them?

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Your kids don't know how to pray. They

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don't even know how to say al Fatiha

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properly.

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Why?

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Sayyid will say, oh, Allah, I was busy

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working 2, 2, 3 jobs. I was dry

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I was a cab driver. I didn't have

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a time.

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So Allah would ask you,

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why don't you take them to an Islamic

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school and they will do the job for

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for you?

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Another excuse. Oh, Allah, I only made $500

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a month. I didn't have money to take

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them to the Islamic school.

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Then Allah will ask you, why don't you

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take them to the Masjid in the weekend?

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They have free programs and free courses.

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Then you will run into other excuses. And

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this is something we humans are good at.

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We never run out of excuses. We always

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have excuses.

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So the prophet

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if you read in the sunnah, in the

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authentic Hadid, he used to teach children at

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a very young age.

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He used to teach them rebadat,

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how to know Allah

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how to deal with the with the people.

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He used to teach them Aga and Akhla

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and manners.

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And we'll give a few examples. If you

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read in the Hadith of Abdullah ibn Abbas,

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may Allah be pleased with him and his

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father, Al Saheeh Tamili.

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He said, I was a very little kid.

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When the prophet, salaam,

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then he said, oh, young man, the prophet,

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salaam, is speaking, I will teach you a

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few words.

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Be mindful of Allah,

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and Allah will always be with you.

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If you ask,

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ask Allah.

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If you need assistance,

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ask Allah to support you.

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And know for sure,

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if all humans were gathered to gather together

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to benefit you with something, they will never

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benefit you except with something that Allah has

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written for you. And if they were to

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gather together

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to harm you with something, they will never

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harm you with anything except with what Allah

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has written for you. The matter is decreed

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and closed.

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He was the stepson of the prophet from

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his wife, Umu Salam.

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He said, I was eating with the prophet

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one day, and the hadith is in Bukhari

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and Muslim. So he said, my head was

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all over the place, and I am a

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kid.

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So I was eating from here, jumping over

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the plate, eating from here, and messing up

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the whole thing. So the prophet said,

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young kid,

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say mismillah when you start eating,

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and eat with your right hand, he was

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eating with both hands,

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and eat from the plate that is closest

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to you. So the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa

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sallam, was teaching him manners at a very

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young age.

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So number 3, that the prophet sallallahu alaihi

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wa sallam was always teaching adab and aflav

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to the young kids, and there are hundreds

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of examples in the sunnah there is no

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need to mention.

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The kids, they are like sponges. Whatever they

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see, they imitate.

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Kids are imitators.

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If they see you praying at a very

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young age

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you know that kids, when you pray in

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the masjid,

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at their very young age, like 1 or

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2 years old, they come stand next to

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you and make salah and everything. Even when

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you move your finger in the shahru,

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they do it with both hands. I don't

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know why. But they imitate everything you do.

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But if you lie,

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they will do the same thing.

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If you smoke in the house,

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don't be surprised if if they smoke, cigarette

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butts in the house. They imitate everything you

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do.

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So all we need is aflav and good

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manners

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in the house, in the school, and in

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the masjid.

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Otherwise, if they see bad manners and bad

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akhlaq, they imitate. This is something they're good

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at.

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And I gave the example of a masjid

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in the US.

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In

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Ramadan, in the Jum'ah, the people, they disagreed

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on which one of the 2 imams should

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give the food.

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So one group said, no. We like this

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imam because they like his haircut.

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And the other people know, they say, no.

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We we want this imam because he speaks

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our language.

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So they had a big fight in the

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Masjid. The people started fighting and screaming and

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hallowing and bleeding in the Masjid. So one

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of them just called 911

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to stop the massacre in the Masjid and

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the bloodshed.

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So the police officer came,

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and when the police officers stepped into the

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Masjid, they started to walk with the shoes

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on the carpet, the people got mad. Officer,

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officer, haram, haram.

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So the officer said, What? What is haram?

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So they said, Walking on the carpet with

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your shoes is haram, man. You don't know

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this?

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So fighting and screaming and bleeding in the

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masjid is not haram, but walking on the

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carpet with your shoes on is haram.

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This reminds me of my favorite Somali

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saying, Bastigal Baunu Lagim Marvisan Appa. Both of

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them are the same thing. Does

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Allah subhanahu wa'ala

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So in Islam,

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a son or a dul, they have rights

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on their parents.

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And these rights are mentioned in a story

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from Muhammad Al Khattab radiAllaman.

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An old man came to Muhammad radiAllahu anhu

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and said, oh, Amir al Mu'mineen,

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leader of the faithful,

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my son has warned me. He raised his

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voice to me or he hit me. He

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did me something wrong,

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So I want you to retaliate and punish

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him. So the son said, Amir Al Uminim,

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does the kid have rights on his father

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or his parents in general? So Amir Al

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Uminim said, yes.

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So the son said, what are they?

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So Omar

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said, number 1, to choose

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a righteous mother for you, a good mother

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for you,

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and number 2, to give you a good

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name,

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And number 3, to teach you manners and

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akhlaq and ibadat and Muamlaq to the people.

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So the youth said, bye, Allah.

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He has he had not done any of

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these.

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Number 1, he made a woman who was

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a pagan, Mushrikah.

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She

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used to worship the Islam, the idols.

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Number 2, he didn't give me he didn't

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give me a good name, like Muhammad or

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Hassan or any of good these good names.

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He gave me the name of John, and

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John in Arabic means Abirow,

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the Essay. Abirow.

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Number 3, Balahi didn't teach me a flab

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or manners. He didn't even teach me one

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letter of the Quran.

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So Umar al Khattab, radiallahu alanlu, looked at

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the man and said, you have wronged him

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before he wronged you.

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So if you want to teach your kids

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and to fix them up when they grow

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up, you have to start at a very

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young age. And don't wait until it is

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too late, then you come to the shave.

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Complain.

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Because it is too late. There is nothing

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to do.

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