Mustafa Khattab – Learning from Children
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The importance of learning from everything and everyone in the Quran is emphasized, with examples such as the man and woman of a church who have a lot of pressure and difficulties in their lives. The speaker advises against pushing anyone who is not a prophet or king to ask for a gift and emphasizes the benefits of learning from children and not just reading, writing, and speaking. The importance of consistency in communication and communication is emphasized, along with the need for parents to encourage children to ask for help.
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To look around and see what's going on.
And we see everywhere in the Quran, Allah
is
inviting us to look around and to learn
from everything and from everyone.
And we said said that everywhere you go
in the Quran, every time Allah speaks about
something
or there's something to be learned, Allah
says, don't they think? Don't they reflect?
Don't they,
use their intellect? Don't they reason? Use their
reason? And so on and so forth? We
said last time, there are so much to
learn in this world. You can learn from
anyone, and you can learn from everything. And
we gave a lot of examples when you
can learn from Islam and what you can
learn from the people around you, your friends
and
and family,
from old and from young.
And, also, it's more about learning even from
animals
and from everything around you. So today, in
short, my continuation
and some more things that we can learn
from the people around me.
Allah
is telling us in the Quran. He's talking
about the people of Hikma, the people of
intelligence.
They are the ones
The bee would go to the field. There
are flowers.
So the bee
goes straight to the flowers to take the
dinter, Rahim,
and there's maybe junk or
nitter, to the useful substance
for the beam. So a Muslim is like
this. You listen to lectures. You listen to
classes and scholars and.
Some of the stuff is good and acceptable
and makes sense. Some things I mean, it
it won't make any sense. Right?
And masha'ed and rabbahi,
different groups and different schools,
they say good things and sometimes they go
overboard.
The only one that you take
even with your arm, your eyes closed is
also by Asad. And, of course, the Quran
before this. But anyone else, if they give
you a proof, you accept.
If they just use whatever, if it doesn't
make sense, you just you look for something
else that is supported by evidence from the
Quran and the sunnah of the.
So,
some of the things that we can learn
from
and some of the stories and the and
the examples I'm gonna I'm gonna give today
may be astonishing to some people,
the examples I'm gonna I'm gonna give today
may be
astonishing to some people, but this is the
truth. And some of these, examples are mentioned
in the law. Sometimes we listen to the
stories passively. We don't know what almost kind
of means by these stories.
So one of the examples,
learning from the sisters. A lot of times,
we read about men who are very, famous
throughout history. We learn from the big man
example.
But there are so many sisters we can
learn from their example, even from the time
of the Sahaba. There are so many ladies
throughout history that you can learn from their
example.
But the sisters, they got a lot of
things. They got a lot of things.
The pregnancy and taking care of kids,
cooking,
cleaning, doing the dishes, changing the diaper.
A lot of pressure in the life.
You also have a pressure because you have
to go to work wherever you work, but
you also have to release. You can go
out. You can play stuff. You can talk
to your friends. And but most of the
time, the sisters stay in the house, especially
in the winter time. Again, if the kids
at home.
They have all these pressures. They have also
the monthly this time of the month when
they, you know, they have this,
you know, thing going on, and
they have a lot of difficulties in their
lives. And when you come to work and
the sisters, they know. They're very intelligent. Right?
So when you have a problem at work,
they know even before you open your mouth.
They know. These sisters know.
You and your wife has this time in
the month the monthly cycle.
She's going through all these psychological changes and
physical changes, and you don't have a clue.
You're asking, for example, my favorite example. You're
asking you what? She's, you know, she's not
feeling good. You're asking her to pass the
salt. You say something, whatever. She's, you know,
she didn't hear you. You say something, then
she overacts.
She will hit you in the in the
gland in your face,
and you think to yourself, what did I
say? I didn't say anything. I just said
salt. I didn't say asphalt.
Just salt, not assault. Right? But you don't
understand the psychology of the system, but she
understands you.
So during this time, avoid anything controversial.
Don't push her too much because now you
should understand the psychology.
Also,
sisters,
yeah, they think they do things together. Believe
me, if you have a difficulty at something,
talk to your wife. Ask her from Ashur.
And the girl, sasal alaihi, did exactly the
same thing. If there was something difficult, he
was not happy about something. He would just
talk to his wife, what do you think
I should do? Although he was receiving
So when she received the letter from Suleyman,
she's she spoke of her council of men
and they were the chiefs. And that the
chiefs. Right?
So she said, well, I received this letter
from Suleyman. It says,
He said, woah. Woah. Relax.
If this man is a prophet,
if he is a king, if we give
him tribute, if we give him gifts and
money, he will be happy with it.
But if he is a prophet,
then he will not accept the gift, then
you should look for a different way to,
deal with him.
So she analyzes the situation to see if
he was a prophet or if he was
a king. At the end, she realized he
was a king a prophet because he refused
a gift. She said, okay. Now he's a
man of the mission. Let's talk to him.
And she visited him. Eventually, she became Muslim.
Now imagine if she accepted the, Nasir al
al Mashur of Hamid, let's go to war
despite the skill of each other.
Just for Umrah, which normally takes about,
it depends on the crowd, 40 minutes, 50
minutes, more or less. The tawah and the
saba and mama. It doesn't take longer than
this.
So the prophet traveled like 270
or 300 miles to Mecca for Omer. They
told him, no. You can't go back another
300 miles.
Come next to you 300 miles. Then for
Omer, then go back. So the total is
over a 1000 miles to do Omer. It
normally takes about 30
don't talk to anyone. Just go out, shave
your head over your animal, and believe me,
they will follow you. So the prophet
went out, he shaved his head, and he
offered his animal. And, sure enough, all the
sahabah, they started to do the same thing.
So much so that some of them, they
said, we're doing it so quick that we
were afraid that some of us might die
in the process because they were quick following
the example of the pro's.
So, Ashur, talk to the sisters, put them
in the picture, ask them for their Al
Seeihah advice.
We grew up with this saying in my
village in Egypt,
and I heard it from some relatives,
as if it was a hadith or something.
Ask
your wife for Al Seeihah from Ashurah
So this is not Habib.
Right? So this is not Habib. It is
not authentic. It is not, you know, something
that the prophet had said because he himself
was talking to his wife and was talking
to taking Mashula from her.
So this is something we can learn from
the sisters.
Also,
learning from children.
Last night, I focused on, different things. We
focused on animals. Maybe we're gonna give a
few examples from animals today. But children,
this would be a whole of the football
by itself. There are so many things we
can learn from children.
You look at them, you you think, oh,
they don't know anything. Right?
They're just, you know, innocent. They don't know
anything.
Pure and innocent. They don't know how to
lie. They're not biased. They're not racist.
Once they start to look around and see
us lying all the time, they see us
behaving arrogantly, and they see us being racist
to different people of different colors from different
countries. Now, they imitate us.
But they are not born with these qualities,
lying and stealing and being racist and biased.
They are not born with these qualities. Right?
They always speak the truth,
but they learn from us.
And I remember giving the example
of it's a true story, by the way.
I heard it from.
Someone calls and you do it like the
person, but he keeps calling. So
you did, basically. Right? You're reaping what they
what you saw, basically, as they say. Also,
one of the things we learned from children
is logic.
Believe me, when you talk to children who
are alive,
3, 4, 5 years old, don't use my
gas with them. Figures of speech,
metaphors, they don't know what you're talking about.
And you can say, for example, you're talking
to your son, he's
bragging about something or he's bugging you.
He starts to cry because he wants to
eat something, whatever, to watch something, and he
starts to cry.
All these. So you tell him, okay. Raise
your voice because your dad is asleep. Raise
your voice so he will wake up.
When they learn a language
and this is very important for all of
you who,
who study different languages and they have difficulty
with it. Children learn start learning by listening
to the language of their parents, then they
start to speak, then they start to write,
then read.
What we do, we do the opposite, upside
down. If you're starting to learn a new
a new language like English or French, usually,
you start by reading,
writing,
then,
speaking, then listening, and then you do the
opposite. This is why you never learn because
you do it the opposite.
So they are very logical. They are very
smart.
Few years old. So she went there, and
when Musa Ariesha refused to to be nurse,
Halam Nahi Law from different places, so she
approached them, the soldiers, and she said,
can't tell you about a family
who will nurse him and take care of
him.
Will
take good care of him.
So they said, how do you know that
they will take care of him?
Are you from the family of Musa? Because
they wanted to seize her and take her
just like they took Musa.
She said, who would it like to serve
the son or take care of the son
of the pharaoh? Because this is what Musa
was called at the time, the son of
the pharaoh. Right? So they said, okay. Yeah.
It makes sense. This is a good point.
I said, okay. Bring the lady on so
she can take care of
of Musa Ariesen.
I mentioned the story
also of the halibah.
When children, they are very inquisitive,
they are very curious. They ask questions
and sometimes we're trying to, deceive them just
to keep them quiet. I mean, ask a
few questions about where we came from,
where Allah is, how do you describe Allah.
These difficult questions,
and there are so many ways you can
answer. The easiest answer that we do, you
know, keep your mouth shut.
You just, you wanna watch a movie. It's
not like you change the topic, so you
don't want the answer.
And sometimes you just tell them anything that
comes to your mind. But these kids, they're
very intelligent. You have to resonate with them.
You have to explain to them in a
way they understand.
You know, me and my brothers and sisters,
where did we come from?
So she should have explained to him using
an analogy or something. So
the the best way that she was able
to explain was, you know what? In the
morse at night before we slept,
I put some sugar, and I put it
under the carpet. And in the morning, I
found you and your brothers were dead. Right?
Doesn't make any sense, but she she couldn't
explain it.
So the kid is very, is very curious.
So what he did late before he went
to bed, he put some sugar under the
carpet.
And in the morning, he went, he raised
the carpet, and he found roaches.
Roaches. Right?
So he came to his mother, and he
said, you know what? I put sugar at
night. In the morning, I didn't find kids.
I found, you know, roaches. Sure at night
in the morning, I didn't find kids. I
found, you know, roaches. She said, nah. Do
we have roaches in the house? Why didn't
you kill them?
Why didn't you kill them? He said, how
can I kill my children?
Because now he's just listening to what his
mother said.
So some of the other left,
they say,
if you want something from Allah, don't ask
him one time. But keep asking. So consistency,
just like children.
Dad and dad and dad, you see all
of us say, yeah.
And if you refuse to give your kids
a hand, what are they asking for? You
know what kids do? Then start to cry.
This is what you need to do to
Allah. If you're asking for a wife, for
a husband, or a job, or whatever, for
a long time, or you're sick, you're asking
for a good help,
The prophet says in the Umitikh hadith,
in Allah
So Allah the prophet says Allah will always
answer you
So the prophet said, if you want something
from Allah, be consistent
and keep doing it for a long time
asking Allah. Eventually, if it is the best
for you, he will give it to you.
And some of our alhaman even will say,
A lot of people, they never make God.
Allah, they never remember him. The only time
they remember Allah's commandment is when they go
to jail or they go to hospital for
surgery
or if
you are sick or something, now you remember
Allah. You need to make God. As soon
as you recover, as soon
as you find a job, as soon as
you find a wife, you're not making dua
to Allah again. Right?
This is why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, in
some cases, he doesn't answer you right away