Mustafa Khattab – Istikhara

Mustafa Khattab
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The concept of Istikhar is discussed, emphasizing the importance of praying for it and not just waiting for everything to happen. People often use negative experiences when praying for it, and negative language to describe emotions and actions. The importance of praying for guidance in Islam is emphasized, and negative emotions can be directed at others. The Turkish Quran is used as an example of how people use negative language to describe emotions and actions.
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So, how many of you have have heard

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about Istikhar?

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Do you know what Istikhar means? Raise your

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hand if you know the answer.

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I know.

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You have a sister?

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Yes. Yes. You.

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Istikhara is basically when

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you put all your tawakkal in Allah, and

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you do it in a prayer kind of,

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so you just make dua. Yes. Excellent. But

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when do you do it?

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When do you do Istikhara?

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After school the same day. No. No.

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It?

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Not what time, but

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when can you do it?

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Why do you need Istikhar? Why do you

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need Istikhar?

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K. Thank you. Last, someone else?

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Yes?

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So, we need guidance from Allah. Exactly. I

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sent like, we need guidance from Allah Subhanahu

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Wa Ta'ala.

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So you plan to join a school,

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or you're planning to travel or to buy

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a laptop or an iPhone, something. You wanna

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do something,

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but you don't know what to do and

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which, you know, or which, way to go,

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then this is the time you pray to

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Istikhara for Istikhara to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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I gave a Khubba many, weeks ago,

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but I wanna remind you of what I

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said basically.

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Before Islam and even till this day, a

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lot of people do certain things to make

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a decision or to choose something.

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So before Islam, for example, they will bring

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a bird,

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and they will throw it up in the

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air. If it goes to the right, then

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I'm gonna go ahead and do it. If

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it goes to the left, it's a bad

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omen. I'm gonna do something else. Right? Throw

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up in the air. Right? Good. Left, bad.

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But what if it went straight up? They

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didn't say in the stories. We don't know.

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Other things.

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Sorry?

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So if it went up and then

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it went it went up and then it

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went a little bit

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Eventually it has to go, you know, right

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or left. It can't go all the way

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to the moon, you know. Why?

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So this is one way. Another way,

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in the story of Suratah when the prophet

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was was doing Hijra from Makkah to

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Madinah, exactly.

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They would basically

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bring 3 pieces of wood,

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and they were right, do it, and the

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second one, don't do it. The third one

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is blank.

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So and they will pick 1.

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So if it says do it,

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this is what Sarafa did basically. If it

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says do it, you will go behind the

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Prophet

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and if it says don't do it, he

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would stop.

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Every single time when he picked the thing,

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they call it Aslam and Araby,

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it says don't do it.

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He said okay, no, I I have to

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do it again. He tried several times and

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every single time it says don't do it,

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don't go behind him. He said you know

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what, my Gods don't know anything, and he

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decided to go behind the Prophet

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regardless, and,

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maybe you know the rest of the story,

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it's a long story.

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So this is another way.

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A third

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way,

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this is something that actually people do tell

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this day

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by

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looking at the stars,

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they call it the zodiac signs.

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If you are born in a certain month,

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right? So say for example,

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my,

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zodiac sign is is Cancer because I'm I'm

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born in July.

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So I get the paper and it says,

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for example, something will happen and I go

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for it. If it is something positive, I

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do it. If it's something negative, I don't

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do it. Right? Tell these days people do

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it all the time, especially back home. They

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buy the paper, the la haram should happen,

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you know, and they take a look.

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But again what they do because no one

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knows alwai, the unseen, except Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala. No one knows what will happen tomorrow

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except Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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Even in the weather forecast, they make mistakes

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all the time.

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Like they tell you it's gonna rain in

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the afternoon, no rain.

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They say it's sunny tomorrow, and the birds

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are singing, the sun is shining, you go

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out the flood of Nur. Right?

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They are not accurate all the time. Sometimes

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they are, but sometimes they are not, but

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what they do basically they rely on the

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signs of Allah, you know, the speed of

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the wind, and there's certain natural signs they

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take into consideration when they give you, the

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news. But basically,

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in in zodiac

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signs, they give you some general terms which

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are true for everyone. So say, for example,

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you are born

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in August. You get your the paper, and

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it tells you people are born who are

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born in this month, they expect a big

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amount at the end of the month.

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This is your salary.

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Or if they say,

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next week, you would be paying lots of

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money, and this happens to be the 1st

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week of the month,

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turns out you have to pay your rent,

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your bills,

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certain things.

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A disaster will happen next week, and it

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turns

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out that your family wants to go on

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vacation, you have to pay lots of money.

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Right? So they speak about general terms,

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and everyone can apply this statement to your

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life, and you feel like it is true,

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but they speak in general terms. So they

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are not actually accurate, and we don't believe

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in this stuff from an Islamic, perspective.

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Another way,

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people do the flower thing. You ever tried

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it before?

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Some people do it before they get married.

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You know, she loves me, she doesn't love

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me, all that stuff.

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This is not acceptable Islamically. Why? Because

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the flower doesn't know.

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You make dua to Allah. Right?

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Some people do it in another way. Can

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someone give me a Muslim Quran?

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That'll be one.

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Thank you.

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It's a Turkish Quran, but we'll use it.

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It's Turkish.

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Okay.

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So what happens I've seen a lot of

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people do this,

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they open the Quran at the random page,

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and if it says something positive you go

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ahead and do it. Like if it talks

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about Jannah,

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okay I'm gonna go buy this house, or

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I'm gonna go to this school, or I'm

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gonna marry this girl. Right?

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But if it says something negative, like if

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it talks about Jahannam,

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you gotta run fast. I'm not going I'm

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not going to this school, I'm not buying

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this house, I'm not marrying this man. Right?

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Because if it talks about something fast. No.

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No. If it's a sister doing it, not

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me.

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So,

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if it is positive, they do it. If

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it is negative, they don't do it. Some

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people, especially back home, in our countries,

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they go to a certain guy who claims

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to be,

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like,

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a scholar

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with superpowers

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and direct connections. Right?

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Right? The fortune tellers and stuff. They take

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a look at your hand,

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and they see,

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we see here in Arabic you got, 18.

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On the other side you see 81 in

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Arabic.

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You subtract the 18 from the 81, this

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is 63.

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This is the, how old the prophet

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was when he passed away.

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You're good men, we're good sister. Right?

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But the problem is this is true for

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every single one on the planet.

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There's nothing unique about you. Right?

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Just take a look at your hands, most

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likely we'll see the same thing. 18 in

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Arabic and 81 on the other hand.

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Something else? I have 111.

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Okay. 911.

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I said 1. Okay. Okay.

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But anyway,

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But anyway,

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people decide

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You got 112.

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Okay.

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But anyway anyway,

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people have different ways of deciding what to

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do in the future,

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and,

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we know in Islam there is one way

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to decide.

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And this is called the Sakaara as the

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sister said, because Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala knows

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what is best for you. So in this

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case, you pray 2 rakam,

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sunnah, and after the salah you say the

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dua, either before salam or after salam, it

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doesn't matter. You say, You Allah, You know

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everything,

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and I don't know. You have all powers,

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and I'm powerless,

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so please guide me

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to choose this thing if it is good

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for me. If I'm gonna go to this

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school, or marry this person,

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or buy this house or car,

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or, you Allah, if you think this thing

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is bad for me, keep me away from

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it, and keep it away from me, and

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give me what is best for me.

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If you don't remember the whole thing, just

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say, you Allah, guide me to choose the

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right thing. Right? As simple as that. Why?

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Because sometimes we think something is good for

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us,

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and it turns out to be very bad

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for us. Sometimes we think something is good

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for us or or actually bad for us,

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and it turns out to be something

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is good for us or or actually bad

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for us, and it turns out to be

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something good. So say for example, the example

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I gave, last week. If you miss the

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plane or you

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miss your bus because you're

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traveling, you're going to Ottawa or somewhere else,

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when you miss the bus or the train,

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you think this is the end of the

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world for you. Yeah. This is very bad.

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It turns out in the morning, when you

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read the paper, the plane crashed.

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Or the bus something terrible happened to the

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bus and everyone on board died.

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You never know.

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Sometimes things seem bad, but they turn out

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to be good. And vice versa, things look

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good, but they turn out to be bad.

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Sometimes you're desperate to buy a phone or

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a computer, and it turns out to be

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a disaster for you. Like it's super slow,

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it explodes.

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Right?

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Or some people I know, some people they're

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desperate to marry someone.

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They're desperate to marry someone

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because they think they love so you love

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them so much, and this person is very

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good. And when they marry them, it turns

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out that this is the worst person in

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the world.

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You never know, So you always need to

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pray to Allah

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for guidance,

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to make things easy for you, and to

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guide you to what is best for you

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in this dunya and in akhirah,

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and, we'll answer your questions,

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next time.

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Bless you and your families and give us

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the best in good lives.

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