Mustafa Khattab – Idiots Guide To Failure

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The success of the first three characteristics of a successful Muslim is centered around having a vision for one's future, arguing with others for no reason, and not wanting to see TV all day. The importance of avoiding whining and blaming others is emphasized, as well as avoiding arguing and debateing. The success of these characteristics is also highlighted in recipes for failure, and a person who made a mistake is mentioned.

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			Can everyone, turn this way?
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			So,
		
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			over the last,
		
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			few months
		
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			since the school started in, September, we have
		
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			been talking about how to be a good
		
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			Muslim and how to be a successful citizen,
		
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			and we said you have to,
		
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			have some plans for the future,
		
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			and you have to have a vision for
		
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			your future.
		
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			You have to work hard, put your trust
		
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			in Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
		
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			be a good person.
		
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			So,
		
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			there is this book series, they call it,
		
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			Idiot's Guide
		
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			to Something. Like, if you want to,
		
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			to, if you want to learn Facebook, or
		
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			if you want to learn how to write
		
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			a book, or if you want to learn
		
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			about Islam,
		
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			or any any subject. Engineering,
		
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			robotics, anything.
		
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			They have you buy the book,
		
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			Idiot's Guide
		
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			to Robotics, for example.
		
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			So,
		
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			today, InshaAllah, I'm gonna give you the Idiot's
		
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			Guide to Failure.
		
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			If you want to fail
		
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			if you want to fail, I'm gonna give
		
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			you the recipe in just 5 minutes. Right?
		
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			There are 3 things basically you need to
		
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			do if you want to be a failure.
		
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			If you want to fail in life, you
		
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			have no future,
		
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			no success, there are 3 things you need
		
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			to do.
		
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			Say Bismillah?
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Bismillah. Number 1,
		
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			And number 3,
		
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			and number 3,
		
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			keep arguing and debating with everyone for no
		
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			reason.
		
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			The first thing
		
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			the first main characteristic
		
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			of losers is they keep whining all the
		
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			time.
		
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			They want me to
		
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			listen to that. Listen to this. What do
		
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			you like?
		
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			You Allah.
		
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			Why didn't you give me a rich father?
		
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			You Allah, why didn't you give me another,
		
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			you know, parent or something? I heard this
		
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			before. Right?
		
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			I need a father who has lots of
		
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			money, who would take us, like, on vacation
		
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			all the time, who would buy us all
		
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			the candy we like, who would buy us
		
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			all the clothes we like, who would buy
		
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			us all the candy we like.
		
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			So they basically,
		
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			to love their parents, they want their parents
		
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			to take them all the time to Toys
		
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			R Us, so they fill a truck with
		
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			toys.
		
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			They go to,
		
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			that place.
		
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			Barn.
		
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			But if they ask them, will you please
		
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			come and pray for just 2 minutes?
		
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			Oh, World War 3.
		
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			Come on, man.
		
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			They want to watch TV all day long,
		
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			play video games all day long,
		
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			and when they ask you for 5 minutes
		
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			to do your homework,
		
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			I'm miserable because of you. Why are you
		
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			doing it?
		
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			Come on, man.
		
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			Come on. This is your job. Your job
		
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			is to do your homework, not to watch
		
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			TV all day long.
		
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			So they whine about their dads not having
		
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			lots of money,
		
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			like Bill Gates.
		
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			They talk they whine about their mom.
		
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			Oh, my mom, her cooking skills are in
		
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			the basement,
		
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			and the best thing she can cook is
		
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			to boil an egg. What is this? Biryani
		
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			everyday?
		
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			Why Allah? Give me another mother.
		
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			Come on, man.
		
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			Stop whining. They whine about their teachers.
		
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			Too much homework.
		
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			They whine about the imam, he reads longest
		
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			surah in the book in salah.
		
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			He makes me miserable.
		
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			They whine about everything and everyone.
		
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			They whine about the weather,
		
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			Cold? Too cold? What is this?
		
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			Summertime? They whine about the heat. Too hot?
		
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			What is this?
		
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			They always whine.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Why? So stop whining, please. Stop whining, please.
		
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			The best thing to do,
		
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			best thing to do,
		
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			if you don't want to be a loser,
		
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			the best thing to do
		
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			is to follow. There's a beautiful hadith from
		
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			the Prophet SAWH, so remember this hadith.
		
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			If you live in a small house, look
		
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			at those who are homeless.
		
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			If your car is so small, look at
		
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			those who walk to work for example because
		
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			you cannot afford a car.
		
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			If you want to buy your clothes, look
		
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			at those who don't have clothes at all.
		
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			Right?
		
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			If you want about the food,
		
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			look at those who dig in the garbage
		
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			can
		
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			to look for food. And I gave you
		
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			the example before,
		
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			I I have seen someone,
		
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			and he said
		
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			he was in one of those countries, and
		
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			he said,
		
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			we used to get our food from the
		
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			garbage somewhere
		
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			in in that place.
		
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			And he said
		
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			that they went to, the people who live
		
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			in that area, and maybe they sent them
		
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			letters or something, and they said, please don't
		
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			throw,
		
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			the diaper in the bag where you put
		
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			the food because this is where we ate
		
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			from. Right?
		
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			It is terrible, man. It's terrible.
		
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			And and and the the water we waste
		
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			all the time, there are people in some
		
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			places in Africa, they have droughts, and they
		
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			have famine, and they wait miles
		
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			and miles just to get, you you know,
		
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			some dirty water for their, you know, drinking
		
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			or cooking and stuff. There are there are
		
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			people in this world who are way less
		
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			fortunate than than us. So when you look
		
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			at them, the prophet said,
		
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			don't look at those who are more fortunate
		
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			than you are, look at those who are
		
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			less fortunate, and this would help you appreciate
		
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			the namil of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in
		
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			you.
		
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			And I think I gave before the, example
		
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			of,
		
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			Zainid ezidam, very famous, soccer player.
		
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			And, he said when he was young, he
		
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			used to whine all the time because his
		
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			parents
		
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			couldn't afford
		
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			a pair of riding shoes. So he was
		
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			whining all the time, he used to go
		
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			play in the streets
		
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			with no shoes,
		
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			and, and he used to whine all the
		
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			time. Like, everyone has a pair of nice
		
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			shoes,
		
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			why not me?
		
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			Why? So until one day he came across
		
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			a disabled kid his age who had no
		
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			legs. And now he started to appreciate it,
		
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			and he said, at least I have legs.
		
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			I felt sorry for the brother, but I
		
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			I I don't have legs.
		
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			And,
		
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			yeah. Speaking of, playing soccer,
		
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			barefooted, I remember when we were young, we
		
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			used to play, we used to go to
		
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			Al Azhar, you know,
		
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			half an hour or something before the class
		
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			starts,
		
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			and,
		
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			we'd,
		
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			play Ferghosh in the open court,
		
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			and it was very dusty, so we used
		
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			to play.
		
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			We didn't want the shoes to get dirty,
		
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			so we used to play bare footed.
		
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			And, I remember one time, I was about
		
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			to kick the ball. It was not a
		
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			ball actually, it was either an oil plastic
		
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			bottle,
		
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			or sometimes if we were lucky enough we'll
		
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			get a, like,
		
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			socks, and we'll fill them with clothes or
		
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			something, and this is what we did basically.
		
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			So I was about to hit the ball,
		
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			and for some reason I hit a concrete
		
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			pillar like this.
		
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			And this is why if I take off
		
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			my, my shoes you will see my fingers.
		
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			One set of fingers are like this, but
		
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			the other ones are like this because
		
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			I hit it so hard.
		
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			Anyway,
		
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			anyway,
		
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			those were the old days, and I remember
		
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			another accident,
		
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			so, I said, you know what? I don't
		
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			want to get injured,
		
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			I'm gonna put my shoes on. Okay, Carlos,
		
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			I don't want to injure my feet. So
		
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			that same day, that that's the next day,
		
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			a friend of mine or the other guy
		
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			he was kicking the ball,
		
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			and and I was trying to stop the
		
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			ball, I had my shoes on because I
		
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			didn't want to get injured,
		
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			and his shoe flew and it hit me
		
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			in the head and I had to go
		
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			to the doctor again maybe for stitches or
		
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			something. Right?
		
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			Maybe it it was written for me. So
		
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			the point is stop whining.
		
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			Second thing, blame everyone
		
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			for all your mistakes.
		
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			If you didn't do your homework, and you
		
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			come to school and they ask you, okay,
		
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			where is your homework?
		
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			Oh, my mom didn't make the food on
		
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			time, my dad came late, my brother,
		
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			Titanic,
		
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			this that.
		
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			Come on, man. What does it have to
		
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			do with anything?
		
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			Don't blame people.
		
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			Don't blame people, because this is what people
		
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			like to do.
		
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			They blame everyone
		
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			for their own mistakes, and this is why
		
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			they never succeed.
		
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			Because you always think you are perfect, everyone
		
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			around you
		
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			is is bad, and this is why you
		
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			you will never improve.
		
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			So if you drop,
		
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			like, your ball, you drop the food on
		
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			the floor, and they ask you, okay, why
		
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			did you drop it? Don't say, well, because
		
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			10 years ago you did this, you said
		
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			that.
		
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			Stop this blame game. Don't blame other people
		
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			for your mistakes.
		
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			Assume responsibility.
		
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			So what? I made a mistake, it filled
		
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			out Khabaz, end of story. And stop blaming
		
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			other people. And remember when you point the
		
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			finger towards someone and say they did it,
		
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			one finger is pointing toward them and 4
		
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			are pointing toward you. 1, 2, 3, 4.
		
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			So you have to bear responsibility
		
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			for your actions.
		
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			Debating and arguing. This is the last thing
		
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			in the last few seconds inshallah. Stop
		
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			arguing and debating,
		
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			about everything. Right?
		
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			Yes, sometimes you have to argue or make
		
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			a point,
		
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			but
		
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			sometimes
		
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			people just argue and debate
		
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			about nonsense.
		
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			Like if I I get a question, I
		
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			think I got a question one time,
		
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			Is water halal or haram?
		
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			I said, Well, if it is Sabiha, it
		
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			should be halal.
		
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			And the guy said, Why?
		
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			I said, Why what?
		
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			Why the water halal? And I said, Why
		
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			is it haram? He said, I don't know,
		
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			like, what is your proof? Proof for what?
		
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			Proof of water is Halal?
		
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			For Haram? I said, I didn't say it's
		
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			Haram. He said, Okay, what's your proof? I
		
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			said, Halal? Okay, what is the proof? Oh,
		
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			man, my God.
		
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			You know, don't debate and don't argue. If
		
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			you want to make a point, if there's
		
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			a valid reason to make a point, alhamdulillah.
		
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			But if there's no reason to argue and
		
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			debate, there's no point.
		
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			In the Quran, and this is the last
		
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			thing I want to say.
		
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			In the Quran, in the story of Adam
		
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			alayhi salaam when he was in Jannah,
		
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			and because of shaitan,
		
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			he made a mistake,
		
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			he was about to leave. So Adam alayhi
		
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			salaam made a mistake,
		
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			he didn't listen,
		
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			don't eat from the tree, he didn't listen,
		
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			and Shaytan also made a mistake because he
		
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			refused to make sajdah.
		
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			Why
		
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			Adam alaihis salam was forgiven and Shaytan was
		
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			not forgiven?
		
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			Why?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Because shait
		
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			Adam alaihis salam said, You Allah, I made
		
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			a mistake. Forgive me. Thank you Jannah InshaAllah.
		
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			Shaitan said, well, I'm I'm better than him.
		
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			Why didn't you do this? Why did you
		
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			do that? And he is arguing with Allah.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So if you make a mistake, I made
		
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			a mistake, I'm sorry, I'll not do it
		
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			again, I'm I'm gonna do my best to
		
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			fix it, don't argue and debate. Right? So,
		
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			again these are the 3 recipes for failure.
		
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			Worry about everything,
		
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			blame everyone for your mistakes, and argue and
		
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			debate about everything. Right? If you want to
		
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			be successful you have to avoid these three
		
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			things. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala make you
		
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			successful inshallah we see you tomorrow. Salaam Alaikum
		
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			wa Ta'ala.