Mustafa Khattab – Hayaa Sense of Shame 2

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The concept of shyness and shame are important in Islam, as it can lead to embarrassment and fear of one's reputation. While individuals should not use personal belongings in public, protecting their genitals and personal belongings is crucial. The speakers stress the importance of preserving one's genitals and personal belongings, as well as reminding oneself of past mistakes and avoiding embarrassment. They also mention a book called "APeas of the Unamps" that provides examples of straightforward behavior.

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			So last time we, spoke about kaya,
		
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			this concept of shyness or the sense of
		
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			shame that a person should have. And we
		
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			said that they're on the back. They classify
		
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			this concept of kaya into 3 different types.
		
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			The first one, kaya from Allah. And the
		
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			and also we'll talk about what are the
		
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			things that help you to have this quality
		
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			of kaya,
		
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			shyness or sense of shame. And there are
		
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			some certain things in Islam
		
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			that you should not have kaya about. It
		
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			Allah
		
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			So in this kadeem, there is a lot
		
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			of
		
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			people who gave me this far.
		
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			The prophet
		
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			said that you should be or you should
		
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			have this sense of kaya, this sense of
		
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			shame from Allah
		
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			the way he deserves.
		
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			By this, he means you should watch what
		
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			you talk, what you say.
		
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			You should watch what you hear. You should
		
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			watch what you look at. And your brains,
		
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			this capacity, this gift, the Allah subhanahu wa'ala.
		
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			So you should only use these abilities and
		
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			these abilities in the way that pleases Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa'ala.
		
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			And don't use them in the Haram. Then
		
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			he said, you should also preserve the abdomen,
		
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			your belly,
		
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			and everything that has. And
		
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			by this, he means that you shouldn't eat
		
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			haram, you should watch what you eat, and
		
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			you shouldn't use your private parts to eat
		
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			zila and all these things. And the prophet
		
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			says that always remember death,
		
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			and the title will become dust or ashes.
		
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			So all these things will help you as
		
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			sheikh Hayat from Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
		
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			And you don't care that the angels are
		
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			are watching you and are recording whatever you
		
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			do, this by itself is worse than whatever
		
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			one you are doing.
		
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			And he says, when you do something wrong,
		
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			and after you do it, you are excited
		
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			or happy. This by itself is worse than
		
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			doing something karah. Say, for example, someone robs
		
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			a man and after you finish, they're excited.
		
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			They're happy. Why? Because, yeah, Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala, this is what they think. Gave him
		
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			tafir
		
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			to do something.
		
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			Some people even, they don't even need to
		
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			be, proud about it and talk about it
		
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			and to be proud of something won't be
		
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			did. All they need is just take a
		
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			selfie and post it on Facebook.
		
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			And this is how we know that someone
		
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			is doing something wrong. It's because of this.
		
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			People,
		
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			Allah subhanahu, and they expose
		
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			themselves because they are proud of the wrong
		
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			they have done.
		
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			Then he said,
		
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			when you feel
		
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			depressed
		
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			because you couldn't do something haram, this by
		
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			itself is worse than doing the haram itself.
		
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			Like I'm going to meet this girl, man,
		
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			and the car broke, broke down on the
		
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			way. So you are depressed. Oh, man. What
		
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			is this? So this by itself is worse
		
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			than doing the Haram itself.
		
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			The Abdullah N Abbas said,
		
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			when you are sitting in the privacy of
		
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			your room
		
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			and
		
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			when the wind,
		
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			moves the curtain of your room and you
		
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			feel ashamed that somebody will see you, but
		
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			you don't care that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			is watching you, this by itself is worse
		
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			than doing the sin.
		
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			Sometimes you are doing something haram, something wrong.
		
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			And when the door is open, oh, it's
		
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			a 4 year old kid and you feel
		
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			ashamed that this kid might see you doing
		
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			something wrong.
		
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			But we don't care that a lot of
		
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			haram, haram is washing. So by this,
		
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			sure you heard of the story before. A
		
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			man came to him and said, yeah, Iman,
		
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			I'm out to my ears in sin. I
		
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			do all sorts of haram. Every haram in
		
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			the book, I'm doing it. But what I
		
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			want from you who told me to see
		
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			how I will do it,
		
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			Whenever you do something wrong, remember these excuses,
		
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			and you'll be okay in the next life.
		
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			He said, okay. Number 1. So the man
		
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			has decided.
		
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			He said, number 1, if you want to
		
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			do something wrong, if you want to disobey
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, don't eat from his
		
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			rizq, don't eat from his
		
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			He said, but we still have 4 more
		
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			excuses. Maybe I'll have a chance. So he
		
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			says, number 2, if you wanna disobey Allah,
		
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			then don't disobey him in his kingdom. Go
		
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			somewhere else.
		
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			He said, but
		
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			Allah subhanahu ala'ala knows about it.
		
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			It's a number 4.
		
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			Say, for example, you live a life of
		
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			sinning.
		
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			You do every wrong thing in the book.
		
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			Okay? And it is time for you to
		
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			die. So as your time is up, you
		
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			are about to go.
		
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			And you feel like if people see me
		
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			doing something horrible like this, my reputation will
		
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			be damaged.
		
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			So if you stop doing it, maybe you
		
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			can go ahead and do it in secret,
		
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			but die in public because you're afraid of
		
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			the people.
		
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			Invited him because he received a letter from
		
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			the prophet of inviting him to Islam. So
		
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			he said, bring me someone from Mecca to
		
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			ask him about this new prophet. So he
		
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			invited Abu Sugham, he was a famous man
		
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			at the time, he's a businessman.
		
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			Doing something wrong so you are ashamed so
		
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			you don't do it.
		
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			The 3rd type is from yourself.
		
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			Say for example, nobody sees you. You're in
		
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			your house.
		
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			Everything is okay, but you won't do something
		
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			calm because, you know, that
		
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			You probably heard of the story of Al
		
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			Tanabe. He's one of the very famous people
		
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			in the history of Islam, but most people
		
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			have never heard of this name, Al Tanabe.
		
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			So Al Tanabe, basically, within his
		
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			young age when he was a youth, say,
		
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			17, 18 years old, he was a drunkard.
		
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			He was not a good person. He was
		
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			not practicing the religion, and he was living
		
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			in Qasrath
		
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			at the time. So we're talking about 1300
		
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			years ago
		
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			or more. So what happened? He was sitting
		
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			in front of his house waiting for his
		
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			friends to come so they they go out
		
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			and drink.
		
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			So all of a sudden, he saw a
		
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			man on the back of the donkey,
		
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			and there was a big crowd behind this
		
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			man.
		
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			So he said, what's wrong with these people?
		
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			Because the people who are were walking in
		
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			the front and the back. They almost carried
		
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			the donkey and the and the man on
		
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			the back of the donkey. So I said,
		
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			what's wrong with these people?
		
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			You know that those of you who are
		
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			married,
		
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			they know that they, the bravest thing you
		
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			can do in the house sometimes is to
		
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			be a coward. And the most gullible thing
		
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			you can say to your wife or husband
		
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			is to be quiet, because otherwise,
		
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			bye bye.
		
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			So
		
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			he said, okay. I'm gonna give him a
		
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			hadith that suits his situation.
		
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			So we told him
		
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			if you don't have shame, if you don't
		
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			have a sense of shyness or shame in
		
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			your heart, from yourself, from the people, and
		
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			from Allah, do whatever you want.
		
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			Then he left.
		
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			Then Al Qaeda went home and started to
		
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			think, what did he mean? What did this
		
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			man mean? What did this
		
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			There are some certain things. If you think
		
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			about, that would help you achieve,
		
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			this concept of kha'yid. The first one is
		
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			that Allah
		
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			is watching all the time.
		
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			And on the day
		
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			of judgment, we'll get the reward, the book,
		
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			and ask everything we have done in this
		
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			story. Sometimes we forget that we did certain
		
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			things, but the punishment and the the shame
		
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			and the disgrace will always be there.
		
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			So we should always be mindful of the
		
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			things that we do in the presence
		
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			of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and that He's
		
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			watching us. Number 2, you should always remember
		
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			the sin that you did before.
		
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			If it is forgotten to you, it is
		
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			not forgotten to Allah subhanahu wa'ala because he
		
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			knows everything.
		
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			Remembering the sin will humble you because it
		
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			will make you remember the
		
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			that will humble you? Is better than a
		
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			good deed that will make you arrogant?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			So these are some of the things that
		
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			will help you generate this,
		
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			sense of shame or sense of, shines.
		
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			They also say,
		
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			if you remember
		
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			that when you do something wrong and the
		
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			pleasure will last only for a few seconds,
		
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			for a few minutes, but the disgrace and
		
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			the punishment will be there forever.
		
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			And when you do something good, the difficulty
		
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			and the hardship will last for a few
		
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			seconds or a few hours or a few
		
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			days, just like when you fast Ramadan.
		
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			Then after you are done with the i'ala,
		
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			the honor and the reward will always be
		
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			there. This will help you to achieve
		
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			khayat from Allah as well. We're gonna conclude
		
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			with the things
		
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			that you should not be shy about.
		
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			We said that there are some certain things
		
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			you have to be shy about, like doing
		
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			khalam and all these things in the presence
		
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			of Allah and the presence of the people.
		
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			But there are also certain things that you
		
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			should never be shy about.
		
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			Let's say, for example, say in a word
		
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			of truth.
		
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			Someone asked your opinion about something when you
		
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			are standing before the judge
		
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			to give a testimony. It should be it
		
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			should tell the truth.
		
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			A person is proposing to my sister for
		
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			marriage, for example, and I went to you.
		
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			And I'm asking you about this guy who's
		
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			proposing to my sister, and you know that
		
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			he's an idiot. He's not a good guy.
		
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			Okay. He's not a good Muslim.
		
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			So you should be straightforward. He's he's not
		
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			a good person. He's not a practicing Muslim
		
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			because
		
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			you are going to ruin someone's life. This
		
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			lady was going to be married to this
		
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			man for 30 or 50 years more or
		
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			less because you are shy, you are ashamed
		
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			to say the truth. So you should always
		
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			say the word of truth regardless.
		
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			Number 2,
		
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			they say if you are about to do
		
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			something good, don't be ashamed or don't be
		
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			shy because people will say, oh, he's he's
		
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			he's showing off. Like, you are giving a
		
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			salatah. There's a fundraiser.
		
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			You wanna donate money? Often, if I give
		
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			the money, they will say,
		
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			show off. He's showing off. Don't worry too
		
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			much about the people. Just do it.
		
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			Said, 2 people will never learn anything,
		
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			those who are shy to ask and those
		
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			who are arrogant. Why should I ask this
		
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			man because, you know, I have PhD? Why
		
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			why should I ask him about salah? Because
		
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			I have PhD in mechanical engineering, why should
		
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			I ask him? Because you should know this
		
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			thing about religion. Otherwise, for example, you're salah
		
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			salah accepted