Mustafa Khattab – Dont Drink That Coffee
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And I bear witness that Muhammad salallahu alaihi
wa sallam is the seal of the prophets
and the final messenger to all of humanity.
Whoever Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala guides, there is
none to misguide. And wherever Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala leaves to stray, there is none to
guide alayat.
What a beautiful day,
freezing rain
So,
to warm you up I'm going to mention
a story about coffee
to start my topic today InshaAllah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala So there was a guy
he was sitting in front of his house
back home,
and he had,
tasav
karwa, you know, a cup of coffee in
front of him. He's sitting in front of
a house, and people do this all the
time back home,
North Africa and other places. So this guy
was sitting in front of his house and
he had the coffee on a chair in
front of him.
And he was stressed out and he was
depressed.
So he reached out for the coffee and
he didn't want to drink it so he
would pull back. And he did this several
times
and the coffee was getting a bit cold.
Then came his
silly friend, his neighbor, the people who like
his post on Facebook,
but that's all they know about him.
And he said, what's up dude? And he
took the coffee and he drank it. Right?
So his friend told him, you didn't ask
me why I'm depressed. You just drank my
coffee and that's it? Then you are laughing?
That's that's it you are doing for me?
So this brother who was depressed
said,
since you didn't ask about how I feel,
I will tell you.
Well, I'm a failure. I'm a loser. Every
time I drew something, I try to do
something, I fail. So I failed in school,
I dropped out.
I tried to start a business, and I
failed.
I tried to do so many things and
I I failed.
And as a matter of fact, another example,
I tried to take my life today. I
put poison in the coffee,
and I failed because you came and you
drank my coffee.
Right? Thank you.
Compare this story to the story of,
Abu Lad nab Bess radiAllahu anhu. He was
doing a tikaf in the masjid masjid in
Nabi SAW ASSAILAM not long after
the prophet SAW ASSAILAM passed away. So he
was doing a tikaf in the masjid. And
you know the prophet SAW ASSAILAM, you know
his father is there in in the masjid.
Then came a man, complete stranger,
that ibn Abbasid alaihi wa'an, who didn't know.
And he sat next to Abulayhi wa'an.
The story is authentic. It's a Hadith, an
ibn Hibban, Tabalami,
other books of Hadith. He sat next to
him, so Abdullah ibn Abbas saw the man
and the man was depressed. He was sitting
like this and, you know, he didn't say
nothing, but Abdullah ibn Abbas salallahu alayhi wa'alhu
felt him.
He didn't know him, but he felt him
that something was wrong.
So he came to him and he said,
okay. What's up? What is the problem?
And the man told him, I owe someone
some money and I can't pay and I
feel depressed.
So Abu Lahti ibn Abbas radiAllahu a'hu said,
okay.
Let's go together. I'm gonna go to the
man and talk to him and remind him
of the ayah and the Quran
like
to make it easier for you, to give
you more time to pay. And if you're
not able to pay, maybe he will drop
some of the amount as zakah or something
to to help you out.
And he said, okay, let's go. So the
man said, yabna amr Rasulillah, you're the cousin
of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, you
will go with me to the man's house?
He said, yeah. We are here to serve.
You know, we are brothers. I'll help you.
And he said, what about your atikaf? You
are in the mission.
He said, Abdullah ibn Abbas radiAllahu anhu, Samiatu
sahibahadabtar.
I heard
the, the the one in the grave, Muhammad
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
say
So I heard the man in this grave,
the one in this grave, alaihis salatu wa
sallam, he told me, he stood in front
of me, that whoever walks with his brother
to do something, to help him do something,
and he gets done,
then this is better than doing Iftikat for
10 years. Right?
So today is full Baha'i InshaAllah about
brotherhood. What it means to be a true
brother or a true sister to someone. Because
sometimes we get the perception
that a good person, or your brother, or
your sister, is someone who the who likes
your post on Facebook, who who shares your
post, who, call you know, comments on on
on your, posts, and so on and so
forth. But this is not the true meaning
of brotherhood in Islam and sisterhood in Islam.
So this is the focus,
I started this series,
a while ago to talk about the reality
of life, to put things in perspective. So
we can understand what is going on here
before it is too late.
So as an imam, I'm like the doctor
of the community, the spiritual doctor of the
community. I see the problems, people come to
me, and I feel people. So I like
to share some stories with you to open
our eyes to see the problems and try
together to solve them.
So we know in Islam we have 3
different levels of brotherhood and sisterhood, Insha'Allah.
So basically, the basic one which is, you
know, brotherhood, sisterhood in humanity.
And this basically covers everyone you see around
you.
Regardless of their faith, regardless of their religion,
their race, color, everyone around you, believe it
or not, came from the same root from
Adam and Hawa.
The second level which is biological
brotherhood and sisterhood. Your brother and sister from
the same father and mother.
And the third
type which is brotherhood in faith.
The believers
constitute they make up one brotherhood.
So the people who are, you know, share
the same faith with you. And this is
the 3rd level of brotherhood in Islam.
So basically the prophet
and the Quran,
they mentioned some basic rights for your brothers
and sisters. You claim to be a true
brother, a true sister, then prove it. And
the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam will share
some hadith with you,
to give us that, your rights that you
owe to other Muslims, and by extension, of
course,
they owe the same rights to you because
it's a give and take relationship.
So the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam says,
for example, in Bukhari
haqqud Muslim alam Muslim isit.
A Muslim, brother or sister, they owe other
Muslims,
6,
rights. And the number is generic. It's not
only 6, but the prophet
is just giving you examples.
And this can apply to other rights as
well.
If you meet your Muslim brother, then give
them salaam.
And of course, not just hi, bye. You
have to check on them, like what you
are doing, what's up, and is is there
anything I can do for you?
If
they have an occasion, a social occasion,
or anything,
and they invite you, then go and help
them and show support.
And if they ask for your nasiha, then
give them nasiha, fisavila. Like someone is going
to get married or looking for someone to
marry, is going to start a business, he's
doing istikhara.
You give them naseeh based on your experience
in life. You don't mislead them if you
don't have the knowledge, but give them naseehah.
And, usually, people ask for naseehah in 2
ways. They will either ask you, they will
call you up or they will come to
you or send you an email.
Or by just looking at them, you see
something is wrong and you come to the
rescue and offer them your naseeh, your experience.
So they don't have to ask
for naseeh.
If they sneeze and they say Alhamdulillah, say
Alhamdulillah, tashmih.
If the person falls sick, you go and
visit them, cheer them up a little bit.
And if the person dies, weigh that matter,
fadbahu.
Some people take it literally. Fadbahu means to
follow them. If they die, it doesn't mean
that you die after them. It means you
go to the janazah. Right?
And the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam speaks,
Allah
will ask you,
my servant,
I feel sick and you never visited me.
So the person will say, you Allah, how
can you fall sick? And
how can I visit you? And Allah will
say, don't you know that your brother or
your sister or your neighbor were sick
and you were able to visit them but
you never did?
If you visited them, you would have found
my reward by their sight.
Then the hadith continues, Adi, I was hungry,
you never fed me, how can I feed
you? Don't you know that I was hungry,
your neighbor was hungry and you never went
out to help them? And so on and
so forth. It's it's a bit longer hadith.
So these are some of the rights
checking on your brothers and sisters and taking
care of them, and I'll tell you why
at the end Insha'Allah ta'ala. Another haft is
You're not a true believer
until you love for people what you love
for yourself.
And by extension, if you hate something for
yourself, you hate it for them as well.
Right? So this is another right that you
love for them what you love for yourself.
And number
3,
don't commit injustice
to them
because you hate for them what you hate
for yourself.
And I'm not sure if I mentioned the
story here. A long time ago, I was
in,
in South Carolina
and I have this brother
in the community. Masha Allah. An amazing brother.
He had, like, 4 children and he wanted
to buy a car because he's tired of
taking the bus.
He he was working for his PhD degree
from Clemson University
in engineering. An amazing guy, brilliant guy,
from Jordan. So basically, he wanted to buy
a car, and they have,
Craigslist in the u in the US just
like Khadija here. So he was looking up
different options to buy a car, and he
found different options within his budget. I think
3, 4,000, something.
So basically, he looked at the cars, and
he realized that one of them, the name,
the contact person was Mohammed.
So he said, Zakir, I'm gonna buy Muhammad's
car. He's my brother. He would take care
of me, masha'Allah. So he called the brother
up. He was living in another city, which
is about 45 minutes away. So another brother
gave him a ride. He went to the
brother. He bought the car. Everything's okay.
I'm your brother. I'm not gonna, you know,
fool you. And he gave you the car.
And the brother told me that before he
could reach his house,
you know, the smoke was coming out from
the back like *. He felt like World
War 3 broke out behind him. He went
home. He tried to open the, you know,
the door. The the door fell off.
What? What is this?
He tried to call Mohammed from Greenville
a million
times nowhere to be found. He's not picking
up.
So he he was lost. What is this?
Like, this is junk and, you know, the
brother fooled me. So he tried to find
him, try to track him down. He couldn't.
So, eventually, he went to the imam of
the masjid in Greenville, and he tried to
find the brother.
Subhanallah, you're asking about this guy after giving
the description.
So, eventually, they found the guy.
So the guy told him, what are you
talking about? I gave you a good car.
I gave you a good card. So he
said, no. It's it's a piece of junk.
Just give me my money back. Take your
card. He said, no. No. No. I I
spent the money. I don't have the 3,
4,000.
But because I'm a good guy, I'll give
you the money back
by installments. So every month, I'm gonna send
you,
20 bucks, 25 bucks. I'm a good guy.
I'm not that evil, you know. So the
brother took advantage of his brother. Right?
So he used Islam to abuse his brother
and this is not acceptable. This is shameful.
This is bad. You know, when you abuse
the trust that people give you they give
you because of his faith.
Another example
of one of the Alama'b, his name Skeps
me right now. He said he was traveling
in the desert and, a chor, a hirsas
or a tugh, came to steal his money.
So, you know, the guy took his money.
He robbed him. He took his money. He
was traveling by himself, and this guy came
with his sword, and he took his money.
So when the thief was leaving,
this brother called him, and he said, what's
your name?
He said, well, my first name is Hassan
or something. Just the name. Right? He said,
so you're a Muslim? So please, I have
just one request.
Please don't tell people that you stole from
another Muslim.
I don't care about the money but when
you tell people that you stole from another
Muslim,
people will say Muslims are stealing from one
another.
And of course, we're not supposed to lie
or cheat or steal from anyone. Muslim or
non Muslim. But if you do it to
people, people will say, well Muslims are thief
and this gives a bad image to Islam.
You're not supposed to do it, period.
So this is another right. And Nabi al
salam al
Muslim.
A Muslim, a true Muslim is the brother
of their Muslim brother or sister.
They don't commit injustice to them.
They don't let them down.
The Prophet salAllahu alayhi wa sallam also says
that, you know, the Muslim is the brother
of their Muslim brother or sister.
They don't wrong them and they don't let
them down.
And whoever helps their brother or sister in
something, then Allah will take care of them,
unyaum al qiyana. And if you cover their
mistakes, Allah will cover your sins.
Another haqq
that you don't scare them, you know. So
there are the do's and the don'ts in
the hadith of the prophet salallahu alayhi wa
sallam. And this is based in a hadith
in Al Haqq in Tabalani.
The prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam was traveling
with some of his sahabah
and one of his friends,
companion, it doesn't give his name, you know,
he had some stuff, like he has a
bag or something next to him with his
keys and, like, his stuff. His you know.
So another Sahabi wanted to play, you know,
a trick on him or a joke, a
practical joke, or a prank. He wanted to
prank him, basically. So he took his bag,
and he hid it somewhere in the bushes
or somewhere where he, you know, dug in
the sand and he put it and he
covered it. And the Sahabi like, I'm lost.
Where is my stuff? I can't do without
my stuff. And he was scared and the
prophet
layahu alwhadukum mataaasahibihi
lajatanwararAAibin
He told him don't scare your brother by
taking their stuff. It doesn't matter if you're
joking or you're serious, don't scare your Muslim
brothers or sisters in any way.
So I know around April, you know, people
call each other,
sorry Muhammad, your mom just died or your
house is on fire. Yahweh, I hear stories
all the time. Wallahi, I've seen cases like
at the door, at the lazar in Egypt.
I've seen cases in front of my eyes.
Like the brother, like he was living with
us and, you know, some other guys from
the medical school in the other room. So
they sneaked into the room. They had, like,
you know, for anatomy and stuff. They have
bones, they have skulls and stuff. So one
time, one of them,
he broke the skull and he put it
under this guy's pillow.
He came late at night around 11,
you know, he was all by himself. It
was about the weekend. And he went to
his room. He he tried to sleep
and he felt something was under his bell.
He turned the lights on. He looked, and
there was a skull, and he all I
heard
was screams. I was living in the other
room. Sorry. But across from his, from his
room. And all I heard was screaming. What
is going on? I went to him and
he said, Wallahi, I was about to jump.
We were in the 3rd or the 4th
floor. Like, he was scared to, you know
So this is not acceptable. You are not
allowed to harm them, and you have to
do what is best for them as well.
We ask Allah
to go with the best in this life
and the best in the life to come.
Why am I telling you all these stories
and the habuq and muslimeen and so on
and so forth?
The reason is,
unless you are a native Indian,
you are not from here. We came from
a different country.
And one of the problems is, when you
guys come to the hookah and you are
facing me, you don't see the reality. All
you see in front of you is hair
or someone's back if they don't have hair.
Right? You don't see the faces. I see
the faces.
So what I see right now is a
mosaic of people. I see people from
Pakistan, India, Bangladesh,
Guyana, people from Turkey, people from Europe, Africa,
North America, people from all over. Right?
In front of me right now, I see
at least
35, 40 different nationalities.
So we have to have each other's back.
Right? This is survival technique for minorities, and
everyone is doing it. The Chinese are doing
it. The Ukrainians, the Italians, the Jews, everyone
is doing it. This is the only survival
technique. We take care of each other as
brothers and sisters. Right? We have to be
there for one another.
And the problem, as I said, the Masajid,
and this is the only place we as
brothers and sisters meet,
in terms of faith,
is a Masjid here, especially Salatul Jumaa.
And in many cases, the the the Masjid,
you know, becomes like a big
bus.
Right? Where you sit in a bus
20 minutes 30 minutes and I'm being the
driver here and after the food doctor, just
get off the bus.
You don't know the people around you although
you see them every Jum'ah. You don't know
their names, you don't know where they're from,
you don't know their struggles in life, you
don't know what they're doing in life, their
business. We don't know nothing about each other.
So, please, do me a favor. Today after
Jum'ah and after every Jum'ah, turn to the
person to your right, shake their hands, ask
for their name, and what they're doing. Like,
what is their business? This is good for
networking.
Like, if you are a doctor, a good
doctor, I'm gonna come to your clinic. If
you're a business person, I'm gonna support your
business and buy from you. I'm gonna buy
food anyway, clothes, shoes. I might as well
help my Muslim brother and sister
or buy local and and so on and
so forth. We take care of each other.
There's nothing wrong if we support each other.
People, when they fall sick in the community
because no one knows their name a lot
of people here are single.
They don't have family here. They don't have
friends here. They just come to Jummah and
leave. And because we don't know their names,
we don't know where they live, we don't
know where they do,
they feel like lost. No one cares about
them. No one is asking about them. They're
they don't come for Jummah for a month
because they are sick, and no one is
asking about them.
What does this tell them about the community?
Like, we don't care. Right?
So this is our collective duty as brothers
and sisters to check on each other. I
know people in the community, as I said,
they fall sick, they are diagnosed with cancer,
they stay at home for months, no one
is asking about them. And this makes it
worse for them that no one cares about
me.
I know brothers and sisters, they have businesses
and they are struggling,
and
no one is supporting them. We need to
support each other's business and take care of
one another.
I know brothers and sisters in the community,
they have children
who are late thirties,
early forties, they are not married, they don't
know anyone. Arumullah, he says, some of them,
they come to me
and they say, Ibrahim, you know, my my
daughters, they're 30, 40 years old and, you
know, they're good, beautiful, educated and
we don't know anyone. Can you help me
out? We have come to this point. Same
thing for the brothers. I have sons, you
know.
30 years old, 40 years old. We don't
know anyone in the community, or we just
came and, you know, we
need to help each other. Right? So again,
we need to take care of one another.
This will help us with our faith as
Muslims to stick together. This will help us
socially.
This will help us economically
to to be well off because we have
each other's back. We take care of one
another. But again, please, before we leave, let's
make this, drill, every Jumah. Turn to your
right, shake someone's hand, ask for their name.
What do you do? How can I help
you? And do a lot of networking.
Because we as a community, we're one brotherhood.
We need to care about one another and
take care of one another. So this is
my message for today. We ask Allah, subhanahu
wa ta'ala, to give us the best in
this life and the best and the lot
to come, and give us sincerity in everything
we say and do. And ask Allah, subhanahu
wa ta'ala, to