Muslema Purmul – How To Forgive And Heal The Past

			It's natural for people to
experience difficult trials and to
		

			feel their heartbreak in the midst
of those trials, especially things
		

			that include,
		

			you know, feeling betrayed by
someone else or let down by
		

			someone else. And in these
situations, it's easy to be shaped
		

			in a bad way. Someone has a bad
marriage experience, then they go
		

			and hate all men, or someone has a
bad experience with a woman, and
		

			they start to see all women in a
bad way, whatever the case is. And
		

			we ask that Allah doesn't let us
walk away from those experiences
		

			scarred and crooked. We want to
come back whole and better. This
		

			life was not meant to be easy.
Allah Tara mentioned the Quran.
		

			Verily, We created man in toil, in
struggle, in trial. You know, this
		

			is something that we expect from
this life, but at the same time,
		

			we're supposed to face those
struggles and trials with faith
		

			and in such a way that we can walk
away from them even gracefully,
		

			with compassion, with becoming a
better person, instead of instead
		

			of becoming worse. So the first
thing that I want us to think
		

			about in regards to this is to
forgive yourself and to forgive
		

			others. And I say to forgive
yourself, because sometimes the
		

			problem we think is with others,
but in reality, it's a strong
		

			level of discontentment with one's
own self
		

			that is nagging the person and
causing the person to feel of
		

			pain. So realize that you have the
ability to forgive yourself, and
		

			Allah mentions the Quran, to never
despair from the mercy of Allah.
		

			Whatever it is that you've done or
that you've gone through, don't
		

			despair from his mercy. The other
thing is, sometimes the person has
		

			been traumatized by what someone
else has done to them.
		

			Forgive them as well. This is the
time for forgiveness. And the
		

			Prophet saw him. He told us that
if that, if a person ever suffers
		

			an injury from someone else and
they forgive that person, then
		

			Allah will raise that person's
rank and will forgive that the
		

			forgiver's own sins. So,
subhanAllah, your forgiveness is a
		

			reason to be forgiven. Sometimes
the problems are bigger than just,
		

			you know, praying and going back
to the in terms of worship, but we
		

			actually have to go and get
professional help. And
		

			professional help should not be
seen as a taboo. It's not seen as
		

			you know you're crazy or
something. It's something that you
		

			should see as a means of tezkiyya,
of purifying your heart from ills,
		

			purifying your mind from ills. So
go and get professional help if
		

			that's the next step for you, if
you've experienced something
		

			that's traumatizing or something
that you feel would affect you
		

			later on in life, in terms of
marriage or family, this is a time
		

			to recover and heal. So go and get
professional help. You've taken
		

			the first step by watching a
video. And we know the Hadith of
		

			the Prophet Muhammad, saw that
someone who takes a step towards
		

			Allah, Allah comes to them in
arm's length. And if you go to him
		

			in arm's length. He comes to you a
fathoms length. And if you go to
		

			him walking, and he comes to you
rushing, so be happy that you've
		

			taken the first step now take the
second and third and fourth and
		

			fifth step to really try to
recover and heal from whatever
		

			you've experienced, and remember
that you're worth it and that
		

			you're not beyond recovery. Don't
think I'm so screwed up right now,
		

			nothing can help me. That's not
true. It's the shaytan, and it
		

			says West Wasa, you can easily get
out of whatever situation that
		

			you're in. You just have to be
willing to struggle a little bit
		

			longer, a little bit harder to get
through it. You.