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For him Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala shortfill MBR you will mousseline Isla, he have told you sada what a term would asleep a maverick, salam Wa alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. And all of our students joining us online, welcome. So we are just doing a quick recap before we get into today's lesson. Here is one particular way to look at why you and I need to iron. Sometimes to understand the need of something, you look at how your life is without it. So when there's no need when there's no door, here's what happens. Your heart is affected. We've talked about that. We've talked about even your mindset, your concentration, your focus, all of that is
distorted, all of that is lost, life becomes very confusing,
misunderstood.
Even the things that you can't explain. You don't you want to know how to put into perspective. And today I'm going to show you some examples of how Prophets and Messengers did that with Dora, how they were able to put the most simplest, routine and trivial moments of their life became literally literally life changing.
This is one of many verses in suited of Baha, that Allah tells us one of the consequences of those who turn away from his remembrance. So do is also a form of remembrance. Remember every time you and I make dua, it falls into two categories. It's never outside of these two. Right? First is a request you're asking Allah for something follow. Or s Isla de we say you're literally asking Allah for anything and everything. And the second category of your door is going to fall into praise and glory and gratitude to Allah subhanaw taala so those are the door is like when you wake up in the morning, what do we say?
Alhamdulillah you're not asking Allah for anything. hamdulillah the Ohana that Adama to know what you leave him no short. When you walk into the Masjid. What do we say? Allahumma if you're asking Allah for something now, you're asking Allah O Allah, open if tattly Oh,
hoping for me above automatic, all of the doors to your mercy.
Okay. So always remember, do I will fall under one of these two categories. Now, we also talked about how easy it is for us to connect with Allah through Dora.
Does anybody remember one of the things that we said it was really important, and it has a lot to do with how Allah sends down laws and legislation to you and I, versus how we make Dora to him?
What did we say? How does Allah do that? How does the Les send laws and legislation to us?
Through a Koran, through Revelation through the Sunnah, step by step, sometimes we get it in chunks, we'll get like a large verse about inheritance. And sometimes we'll get pieces of that. So prayer didn't come all at once it came in steps, the prohibition of alcohol didn't happen all at once it gradually happened. But when it came to Dora, Allah said, just asked me, just talk to him, just turn and talk to me.
Which, you know, the psyche behind that is how Allah of His mercy simplified,
and our path towards asking him and making dua to him. That alone, Allah didn't say, Well, okay, do A, B and C and venule, you can make door just talked him who you are when you just reach out and call upon me, right? SDG welcome, doesn't mean I'll respond SDG of those of you who study Arabic, ie Jabba and Eastie, Java, ee, Java, I'll respond immediately. st Jabba which Allah says in the area, as study Villa calm, meaning, I'll gradually start to the process of responding. You may not get it all at once. But slowly as you continue you as you continue to do it more and more and more and more,
the response will become more alive. And you'll see it and feel it and understand it more and more and more.
What was this? What was this coin thing all about?
And we mentioned has nothing to do with the death of Queen Elizabeth. Okay, so, yeah.
Yeah.
Good. Our relationship starts with Allah literally at the flip of a coin, one side of the coin, Allah gives you the other side of the coin, you ask and request from Allah.
Literally, it's that simple, right? And this is not an analogy that I made up like, you can find this analogy of literally the flip of a coin that or the mat talk about.
And I think this is where we stopped. Right. Okay, so let's continue the stories of, do I. So one of the stories that we pause that is, of course, the baker and Iman, my daughter, whom I love. And I want to ask you, can somebody share with me one of your daughter's stories, I'm very interested.
Nobody has a daughter story.
I don't really have an actual story. But when you pass that last week, I guess I was just a reflection on people. So from when I was younger, yes, in terms of
what I was asking for, and I guess the younger you're asking that you dwell on an exam, or you get into a program or you know, just sort of really concrete, immediate things. And now it's a little bit more like abstract and
just sort of, you know, circling and maybe you don't know, overall guidance or something a little bit more, less tangible.
So how did we go from being very specific about the things you wanted from Allah, to, as you said, things that are more broad, and
you don't more meaningful in many ways, but the broader scope of your life now is captured in guidance. When you ask Allah for guidance, like how did that transition happen?
How did you go from asking you to love exactly what you wanted to Allah, mercy, guidance, good health, strength, patience, all of those things.
This is a change of my thinking priorities was really, really important to me, at the time
was very, very important to me. So can I add something to that? Couldn't can we say also knowledge and experience? You understand the value of value of guidance now? Yes. You understand the value of patience now? So when an adult who is engaged with their deen or at least
makes an effort to understand their Deen as opposed to a student who just needs something resolved. These two students of Allah are very different when they're asking for the exact same thing.
That's what all of the Prophets and Messengers did.
When they started making dua,
you'll notice a very interesting pattern. But it's very clear that the first types of DWIs that start off, let's say, for example, with the story of use of alayhis salaam, he's thrown into this wealth. That's one of the first DWIs he starts making to Allah is all about patience to irlam and say that when he was in that state, that Allah blessed him and honored him to be patient, and to continue praising Allah in a manner that was befitting to him. We don't have the details of this. But it's unanimous that there is no way that you Safar Alaihe Salam sat in that well, crying, wandering, fighting off whatever bugs and none of that stuff, maybe that was, you know, part of the
experience, but his connection to Allah subhanaw taala never stopped. The Prophet Yunus, Ali Salam, all the relevancy you'll see it in a moment, that before he was swallowed or engulfed by the whale, he was a man of tisby and vicar he was from amongst them who sat behind, he was constantly made the killer. This is why that when he was taken when he was swallowed by the whale, and then the ISS feel volo mantle Bahara then he went right down to the depths of the ocean. Just recently, explorers went to the deepest bottom of the ocean ever in history, and again, started discovering things they've never known existed. So I started with the moment I saw that I thought to myself, Oh, my God,
imagine they're at like, somewhere within the vicinity of where this whole incident happened. pitch dark sunlight has never touched that part of the ocean, ever that depth of the ocean. But the point is, that when Eunice Alehissalaam is there, and he started to make does anybody know what the phrase he said?
To me, no volley mean, the angels heard
his words, but had to confirm who it was coming from.
Now, why is that important? The angels were familiar with this person who was in constant vicar of Allah.
So that familiar familiarity was already built over months or perhaps years prior to that incident. So they understood and knew and protected whoever it was. And Allah subhanaw taala confirm that that is universally his Salaam. And that's how the ease began. My point here is this
dua stories are not just things that you sit back and be like, Oh my god, I can't believe that happened by Allah just and then you pop up on tick tock or something. The tears are frog dies, you don't know what just happened, right? That's not what it's for.
I get why some people do that. I get it.
But the essence of Dora the sweetness of Dora the clarity in the response of Dora is normally found when you're secluded, alone with Allah that's when you start to see it. Sit there like oh my god.
I wanted to go to this place. But when I hit that traffic light, and I call late and nn Subhanallah Now I understand why let did that. Because had I gotten where I was going, I would have missed this call that informed me that my son got into an accident here that you start doing that you start connecting dots. You couldn't have seen when other voices are popping in front of you and tell you oh my god, you're so blessed. Oh my god, you're this You're that. This is why Imam Ahmed Rahim Allah. Just before he died, he spent about 11 years isolated and secluded from everyone
stopped all of his classes, all of his teachings and spend time alone. It's the Sunnah among scholars that you have alone time. It's a sinner that I argue for the most part is lost in this day and age. Somebody you can say well, you know, we're so busy live kids school.
I'm sorry, man. But with with that many hours in a day, if you can find even like 20 minutes for yourself even while you're just driving, because that can be your alone time with Allah. What's left? Allah gave you only 24 Because it's all you need. So if you're saying that's not enough, what are you say to Allah? You don't really understand my daylight you kind of cut me short. You don't want to do that.
So when you think about your daughter's story, I want you to think about not just how Allah
responded but what your reaction to that moment was how you internalize the moment and how in how it encouraged you. It brought you closer to dua. I've got
so many stories of this.
I don't even know where to begin. But as as we continue all share, so
who are you? Just Sophie colonic?
Okay, let's continue. How do I honors us? The Prophet alayhi salatu salam said there is nothing more honoring than Dora. Here's my question to you right here.
How does do I do this? How are you and I honored through do?
Does anybody have any thoughts on this? How are we honored through door?
The only surprise for me is and it should be for you is that you know this answer. But it's tricky, for whatever reason, for most Muslims to put their thumb on it and be like, Ah, yes, yes. Yes, that is right. There's only one answer to this, by the way. Yep.
know that's more of a consequence or blessing that you enjoy with your door? How are you honored?
What is it that's uplifting that takes you from one place to a higher place through door? Go ahead. I'm not sure but like when someone says don't
know what, good good thought process go ahead.
Grab the opportunity to communicate with the lesson
itself isn't
that
everybody gotta
the fact that you rely upon Allah subhanho wa Taala alone and Him alone is the greatest honor of your entire life.
pause and think about that for a moment.
Everything you do,
every decision you make
you do it through some kind of door. So if you're about to embark on a project or anything, or Allah, I ask you for strength, oh, Allah make this easy for me? Or do you have a routine before after Salah it's always don't adore adore. Or you have a routine in the mornings or some some time during your day. The point is, you have the steady connection to Allah. Now when you need help for peak from people and people let you down doesn't matter. You can still walk with this sense of strength. You know, empowerment, you emotionally and spiritually can handle it all. You know, just yesterday, I got some news of a brother whose father passed away. And he was he's a good friend of
mine. And when I got when he got me on the phone, I said, I'm so sorry to hear about that. May Allah subhanho wa Taala dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot dot. And he became very emotional. And he said, I appreciate that. And I'm so grateful to Allah. And so grateful that I had my father, my father for 40 plus years. But Allah gave him to me for that amount. And when you hear those things, that people are grateful for the time, they're grateful for those moments. That's not something you just develop when tragedy strikes. It happened because you were honored through all those moments, a times of ease that Allah subhanaw taala kept you connected with him. So when the moment became the moment and
you needed him the most, Allah just gave you the right things to say and gave you the strength to say it and when Abu Bakr and or the Allahu Anhu the news came to him that the prophet Ali salat wa salam had died. You know what everybody did in front of him? Oh, my God, how could he die? What are we going to do.dot.he stood up and he said, Men can AR Bhutto, Mohammed, whoever used to worship Muhammad, for inner Muhammad and I've met then realize and understand that the prophet or Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam is dead. Woman can AR Bucha Allah that with whoever worship Allah for in the law Hayyan lionmoon Then Allah is all ever living and he never dies. Now you told me
about critters who to the prophesy seldom
best friend
he's the only companion
that walked through the process of like this holding hands.
Imagine doing that today.
This is the only companion and even the Prophet artists lot was said I would look at Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Allahu Allah at times and say yeah, but
I love you. Just I love you so much.
companions used to say about Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu. Man, they used to say that we would lose sleep every night to toss and turn toss and turn. And when people would inquire why. Bad dreams what's going on? says no, just can't wait to see Abu Bakar the next day.
It's just I love the guy. It just I want to see him.
How did Abu Bakr
Radi Allahu sangoma have the strength to stand up in front of everybody and say, Look, he's dead. Okay. He's gone.
How to get there? It's because I will back out of the Allahu Anhu on that. Think about how his story began. When everybody denied the process Salam Abu Bakr stood beside him, says that what he says that he does, I believe him because he never lies.
The first person to give sadaqa in any gathering was and were backed out of the Allahumma the first you know, there's a story of Abu Bakar of the Allahumma that after fajr every day he'd walk out into the distance you know, just within a dozen until he disappeared every single day during his Califa
so no matter the Allah one sees that and it gets curious as I think any one of us would write we're going every day.
So one day I will followed him and kind of like did it in a you know hide behind a rock Okay, see him I still have my eyes get a little closer, till he saw Abu Bakr walk into a home of an elderly woman.
And he went inside he spent a few hours, not minutes hours the matters is a Khalifa is the leader of the whole ummah. And then he comes back out and he comes back in to the marketplace and takes care of the rest of the companions. So model the Allah Han walked into the same house afterwards
and knocked the door and when the elderly woman came, she was blind.
So he asked her
who is this person that comes to you? She says, I don't know. But I heard that he is a gentle soul, a generous soul. So model the Aloha asks him, while x asks her, what does he come here and do every single day said he comes here. He tidies up the house, he takes care of the animals, he milks them, he prepares food for me. And he puts it to the side. And he makes sure that I have everything I need. And then he leaves. And aroma asks the elderly woman you don't know who this person is, says no, he has chosen not to expose his name or his identity.
And that's when Omar started to cry because he said, It's a secret deed that Abu Bakr is doing for Allah by taking care of and providing for someone with not a single companion having a clue what he was doing.
So when Abu Bakr needs Allah, and needs to talk to Allah, and needs to give strength to the people around him, that's how it happened.
So to summarize this point,
if you want dua to work,
then the first step is to develop a consistency with Dora.
duar is not a pill or like Advil or Tylenol that you just go to when you have some strep and that's it and it just turns on a light bulb. It's not the way Dr works. At least generally speaking unanimously, I'm still relevant. And of course we know that Allah subhanaw taala can do as he pleases. So, now at least, you know, how do I honor this. And at least you have a couple of stories of how this worked for companions. I'll just work for prophets and messengers, and I can go on and on but we'll come back to uh, you barely set up we're gonna get into Musa alayhis, salam, and so on. As we continue, someone asked to remodel the Allahu Anhu to pray for him. Now I really want to talk
about this. And he said, Why do you think I'm a prophet? You pray for yourself?
So
Does this sound familiar? Chef, can you pray for me?
Yes. Can you make dua for me?
Please be brothers. Can you please announce so and so on the microphone and if not, I'm never coming back to this Masjid again.
And if they didn't, so we will make the DUA Allahumma you know, give them a few facts. You didn't mention brother son of so and so from you didn't mention
The whole lineage that I gave you, what kind of Masjid is this? How dare you? And and and you know that kind of language? We all know it, because we all here we all hear it everywhere we go every Masjid.
Now you told me
what is our moto doing here? He literally refused somebody who asked to make dua.
He literally says them why?
That's his way of life. What's your problem? What are you talking about? Make dua for you go do it yourself. Why did our model do Lavon do that, by the way, he's not the only companion to do this. As a matter of fact, there are other men till this day
that don't really grasp the idea of asking others to make dua.
They don't really like, understand it. This is the phenomenon that manifested itself in this part of the world. amongst countries where the Muslims are the minority. This is where this whole culture began of, let's go to the Pious One to the chef to this person to let's get them to make dua instead. But if you go to scholars, where the majority of that community or country are Muslims,
this rarely, if not ever happens. So my question to you is, what are your thoughts on this? Do you understand the point of armor what he's trying to say?
Because there's a principle into it. So make sure you understand this. And if you need to write it right is a very basic principle in all the books of our attitude, and that is that
the highest chance or probability that your door is accepted is when you make it yourself.
That is the highest chance of your door is being accepted. When you do it on your own. You know, I used to do a lot of rope Autopia and exorcism on people, right. And one of the first lessons that we learned when we were being trained to do that was
the best and most effective rakia is the one that you perform on yourself.
best and most effective, meaning if you play some poor edit, or you start reciting, or you make the doora, to fight off, whatever it is you're struggling with, is more effective than any Island or chef.
Think of it this way.
When you're battling shaitan, if you ask somebody to do it on your behalf, it's like taking a grenade and throwing it a tripod.
But when you do it yourself and battle shaitan on your own, it's like taking a machine gun and firing it at shaytaan that never runs out of bullets, and it's consistent, and it's going at full speed to see the difference.
So, let's go back and understand. So what do we do? Is it wise to ask others to make dua for you?
What do you think?
Think before you respond to right, just just think it through the process. I never make dua for anyone. Yeah,
absolutely. So how do we reconcile with our own model the Lavon is saying
and what the process Selim did, and pretty much what are them, many of them do till this day, especially in this part of the world, right? Teachers, imams, including even myself, when people ask me to make dua, I can't pull a mod on them.
So how do we reconcile?
They are both from a ruling perspective. There's nothing haram happening here. Okay, there's nothing disliked or wrong happening here. What Omar is doing is is teaching people that
don't depend on someone else to do this.
Before you go to someone else, do it first. You do it
and that is why I wrote at the bottom here shall please make dua for many people ask for this but take a look. But don't mean it.
Because it's like they've been going to this masjid for like 10 years and every week of Joomla there's a name pronounced we've been asked to make dua for.dot.dot.so Now when they're in the same situation, oh, I can just go to the message and ask them to make dua
See, that kind of thing where it's become sort of like a routine I need to hear his or her name being mentioned. Okay, that's great.
So when we say don't mean it, you
really want to be made for yourself or that person, it has to start with you.
There are times that it's just not valued. Those are the people that I argue who are really adamant about the name called like main make sure you mentioned their name.
I wish I could say it doesn't matter. Like, who cares? Allah knows the names. Allah knows what's in our hearts. What's in our intention? Why is the name so important to you to be announced on a microphone? I know why. Because you don't value the DUA that's being made. Which you're valuing maybe the title, the name, the recognition, that's what's important to you.
Otherwise, if it wasn't you wouldn't care.
You simply wouldn't care that the name isn't mentioned you would stay at Hampton Inn that somebody else made to offer me somebody else me to offer that's all sometimes it's because they themselves don't do it.
They themselves and I argue with this latter one here is probably the more common one.
They're they're just not doing it enough.
You know, and this is what this course is all about. It's to get us all from wherever we are even if we are people who are consistent in dua.
Does this make sense? If do I was a fruit and it's really sweet for you. We want to make it as sweet as possible to make it more flavorful, more delicious, more juicy, that sort of thing. So yeah, you could be enjoying your Dora the apple isn't fully ripen, but we want to insha Allah that when this is done that Apple is fully right and and it feels like a real fact yet as poor add mentions, that kind of fruit that when you bite into it, you're like Allahu Akbar. I can feel this fruit all in my arms everywhere. That kind of fruit. That's the kind of door that we want. Okay, there's lots to go through today. Okay. Why are the wires may not be answered? Does anybody have any questions so far?
Okay.
Today, many Muslims don't value the wire as much as they should spend a lot of time preparing for the perfect event and forgetting that DUA and remembrance is how Allah subhanaw taala blesses our events.
So
the graduation, the fundraisers, the weddings, you know, I got into a lot of trouble years ago with an organization that invited me to fundraise, right? They put this ridiculous target, they said, I want you to raise at least a million dollars tonight, to a miski community that I think their highest of all they've ever been, they were able to raise was not even 100,000, right? Like who you're gonna work, some merit 1 million, this is your thing. So I said, Look, I don't know what Allah has in store. But if you want me to, if you want me to do this, here's how I'm going to do it. Take the mic. I look at the audience. And I say to them, my brothers and sisters, tonight in sha
Allah Huhtala if we want this to be a fruitful night, let's all purify and renew our intention. And bring out the sincerity to do the right thing for Allah subhanho wa Taala
So donate what you can May Allah reward you such as ACCME Aloha Pharaoh Darwin Alhamdulillah learn that was the end of the speech.
And yeah, they never invited me again.
But I'm
very close to the, to the target. Very close to I don't want to say the amount I just I don't want to, but it was close to that.
But then if I'm
Yeah.
But you see, the the problem was the risk I took. It could have made and break their hot wallet, this according to them. But like Subhanallah guys, like how many more days months or years of our lives? Will it take for us to really comprehend and internalize that money and wealth doesn't belong to us?
We don't we don't get paid because we worked for it.
We got paid because that's Allah's risk. He wrote for you that day. Allah wants you to work, but the equal sign what comes after that? That's not your boss or your President or anybody else.
You know, I have because data is my job like it's part of my daily earnings. Great. It's how I maintain my life and my family.
I have endless stories of my lowest lowest moments of my life where Wallahi I thought, I will not make it to the grocery store this month. Right? I was like, I gotta go and disguise myself and get to one of those charity places and apply for those free, you know, pack food packages they give. And holds, I would have to stop and remind myself, No, this stuff comes from Allah. I'm going to keep working, go back, do the talk, gold travel, go do that. Just Just do what I have to do. And hopefully, it'll work its way out. And let's just say that Allah never disappoints me.
So here's another principle, our ultimate teachers to help our Dwyers work.
You have to and must have complete trust with Allah. You've got to trust him that he knows what he's doing. That you're not left abandoned. You know what's happening in Florida right now with the floods and things like that. Right? Does anybody have family in Florida? I'm sure some of you have family that right? So do I.
And the questions already started coming, well has a love doing this. I work 20 years for this property. Everything's lost. Everything's gone. Flood came destroyed it all.
I don't have all the answers. But I do know that the moments where I completely just left my trust with Allah. Were the moments that helped me to understand why this happens, even if I can't see it. Now. Later on, when the storm comes, that Allah subhanaw taala will give me some clarity of why whatever happened happened.
And that's all I could say, if if you can't get that there's nothing else that anyone can offer you. You've got to trust her law. You've got to trust him. He's your Creator, is my career. We say that all the time. Right? Yeah, Yohannes Entomol, Fukumura, Illa, Allah, or mankind, you are the ones in need of Allah, Allah who well as I know, you will Hamid. Allah is self sustaining, filled with praise. In other words, don't think that Allah needs you to do this, you need it. Right. So that's the reminder here. So before you spend time putting all the things that connecting all the dots crossing all the T's, the most important preparation was your intention.
If you got that intact, didn't matter. Here's another fundraising
story. This was in Fort Mac. And Fort Mac is a small city. Has anybody here ever been to Fort Mac? Alberta? Yeah, just don't go there. Sorry, for the for the Mac guys what I mean, when I say don't go, it's really small. Like they have one highway that circles the entire city.
I was there for one day, less than 24 hours and even that was driving me nuts. Right? And the coldness is it totally different worlds, right? Anyhow, when did a fundraiser go to the masjid really small, I think the entire mystery was the size of this library. And the same thing, an out of this world target, they surpassed it.
They surpassed it.
Because I stand up there and I start doing my thing. And this person raises six figures, six figures, six figures, and I'm like, do I need to move up here and get a job at one of those oil plants or fields? Like what is going on here? And later on? I asked, you know, some of the organizers, like how do you guys like how does that happen? Like is jobs good year two people just have good income, like what is it or people extra generous? says no, we have an imam that specializes in just sincerity and intention.
And everything that he ever tells us and reminds us it was all just connected to intention so much so that even some of the congregants got annoyed when somewhere else but many of them state so because of that people just started trusting to doing the right thing. Okay, I have the money trusting Allah I'm going to do this for Allah and they just kept giving, giving, giving, giving that small complex now
this shutdown
because they bought this six t million piece of land and the UN building this massive. Literally it will probably be the biggest Masjid in Canada when it's done.
How did all of that start? In a room a small and a masjid as small as this? SCHEFFER Samia mean do you have you heard of this name? Chef with Damien or Hema hula, contemporary scholar he has books that you know Masha look at fill this entire library. He died in the late 90s
in Makkah,
his first
teacher was his grandma.
And after when she passed, he started teaching. His first class was about three students.
By the time he died, you know the Haram in Mecca, the entire haram was filled with just his students.
And he taught them while he was doing a blood transfusion if they connected a mic on his hospital bed, and he kept teaching his class
how do you how do you reach that level?
Because his whole life was filled with dua he just kept. So another principle when you live a life of dua, Allah honors you at the time of death. Allah honors you your greatest honor will come at that moment Allah will elevate you Allah will give you the heart the personal heart of personal whole atom so the great lesson ending May Allah bless all of us with that Lawman. Yet God shaped us guide to the reliable Yes. So here there's quite a few, the most recent is of course
yeah, that's that's the
that's how scholars are.
That's how scholars are. Well, you're doing insane Oh, here's another reason why DWIs may not be answered, take a look at this a ensuited straw.
And I believe it's verse number 11 We adore insan will be shattered into a hole Belhaj dua will be highly what kind of insane why jeweler, when men supply a man supplicates for evil and he supplicates for good. People ask for bad things right? Hate them. May Allah curse them. That.
Yeah, Allah captures that in the Koran. Because you know why? Even our Prophet alayhi salat wa salam told us that even when people jokingly do that Allah is listening,
to see walking, oh my god loves, curse these people for what they've done.
Watch out.
And then their specific ahaadeeth Our prophet Ali Santosa told us about specific individuals that jokingly or in state of anger, pull, your Dwarves are still accepted. One of those categories are parents. When parents make dua, good or bad, especially for their children. And May Allah guide the shape on on my house, this all that stuff? And if their children become unbearable, all No, no, you know, I can never forgive you. Allah never forgive you, all men. All of that is accepted by Allah. There's a story, a very famous story in Sahih Muslim, that a man excuse me, a mother will come in the day of judgment. And she would have had a son that was pious, and he meets sujood. So often in
his lifetime in tahajjud, that he indented a spot of Sajida on the floor in the ground. That's how much he prayed to Allah. And the doors of Jahannam were wide open and the doors of den are slammed shut in front of him. And he'll come on the Day of Judgment. Yeah, don't be I've worshiped you I did this this this is why am I not allowed. Because your mother still has a grudge against you. She held something against you for some time.
Because there was a story of that he upset her very much to the point that she made a promise that will Llahi I'll never forgive you.
And that help. So Allah will ask the mother, that the only way your child will move forward into Jana is if you forgive him.
It's serious when you're a parent. This is one of the Tafseer of when Allah describes that your children are fitna doesn't mean that they're difficult to raise. But they're also a challenge for you.
To keep yourself together, that you don't lose your mind. And you say the wrong things or you do the wrong things and you lose control. So that fitna is not necessarily the children. But when you have children, you're the fitna for them. That's one interpretation as well. So
that's the first part when it comes to making dua for evil. And of course supplicate good and man is very hasty. So what's the lesson what's the barrier that prevents us from having our door accepted according to this a? What's the barrier?
Program?
It's a tough it's a tough one.
That
feeling anxious
when I've been making do it all for the last 10 years just for this cancer to go away and it's not going away.
I've been making dua for the last 20 years for my, for my child to like, get their act together.
So what happened? What's your advice to people?
Who are like, come on, like, I just I need a lot of acceptance. I want him to just respond why why why? What's your response to that? to that person? What would you say that? You know that it's good for you? How do you know? That that would be a good thing for you? Okay. All those wise if it was okay, good.
Okay, what else would you say to them?
By providing some evil from happening to maintain that for you for the hereafter good as well. So your answer may come later. Okay? Strengthening
the strengthening you. So maybe it's not about answering.
So this is more of a lesson, then you're being taught something keep making.
Maybe Allah wants to test and say, okay, test to see. Let's see how long you hold on to me. Have you heard the expression that
some of the pious men and women even till this day say that their most,
the happiest moments of their lives were when they're, they were sitting on the hospital bed, when they were extremely, extremely sick, and Ill immobile couldn't do anything. Those were the most blessing moments of their life.
Right? These are pious men. And you know why they say that, right? Because most people that are close to Allah, when they're in that state, what do they do? What did they increase in doing?
And then there are others who have never prayed on a rock era, and they get really sick and they're on the hospital bed and
they transform, they use them or they're like, now I gotta change my life. So now the moment you thought was going to be the worst end up being the best moment of your life.
So the point here is this.
If you're hasty in dua, the danger behind that is you don't know the outcome of your DUA. So you don't know what you're hasty for. You think it's a response. You think that it's because you want a certain thing, but you don't know if that's what's coming? You have no control over that. So the hastiness in and of itself. This is why the prophesy Selim says that hastiness is from where
do you know what that means?
When we say that hastiness is from shaitan, what does that mean? Does that mean a Chaitanya is just like tempting you and pushing you to be more less patient about what does that mean?
See, that's my thing, students.
When I read an A or Hadith, I have to figure out what it means to me. I have to figure out how to, like connect. So when I read this hadith, that shaytaan that hastiness is from Showtime. I need to figure out what is it that I'm getting from Showtime right now with this whole hastiness thing?
Because I could easily just say, no, no, no, no, not that kind of hastiness. I am just so anxious to hear from Allah to accept his other whatever it may be. I don't have any ill feelings or any ill intentions. No, no, no, not that kind of hastiness.
So how do you explain that? When we say the hastiness of shape, one
that will explain this hadith that not only this shaitan tempt you,
when we say to be hasty, he tempts you to lose the trust between you and Allah. Because when the response isn't coming on time, what usually happens, we do this to each other all the time. If I make an appointment with you, and you don't fulfill the deadline, what ends up happening first time, don't worry about it, you'll recover them. Then the second time you do the third time, what happens to our trust now?
Slowly, then you start to like, Okay, forget you, you know what I'm gonna go just go to somebody else. So the hastiness is that shaitan slowly cracking away and tackling the trust and the bond you have with Allah. It's not necessarily that you just are so you know, you're impatient. You can't just chill. It's not just that alone. It's something far deeper than that. And you all know that when somebody is hasty, and does things, you know, without thinking it through, what's the consequence of that? become irrational, you make a lot of mistakes, it ends up with regret. So that's another consequence when when the process is telling us that it's from Showtime. meaningly So
what Satan does, and this is the consequence, you're going to get your you're going to experience so control the aid or the Hadith doesn't say, Don't be hasty.
He's just saying that hastiness was from shaitan
saying, Don't be hasty. You can be hasty in in a certain way where you want to just experience and accept Allah subhanho wa Taala is called or whatever it is, you want closure.
But if you think it that way, then that's okay. But if you think it in another way, then that's where the problem is. We're coming back to this again. So point is, the next barrier, if you'd call is just hastiness. You've got to hang in there. Allah knows when is the right time.
The Prophet alayhi salatu salam tells us tomorrow that Aldi Muslim and Elijah Allah Tala be Darlington Illa Allah Who Yeah, processes whenever a Muslim supplicates to Allah He accepts his supplication or averts any similar kind of trouble from him until he prays for something sinful or for something that may break ties of kinship. This is an interesting Hadith. So the first part, it starts off, whatever Muslim mix do,
his do is accepted. He accepts a supplication. So here's the first reassurance. And this is where you might have heard that all of the Wiser accepted comes from this hadith, and there's a few others as well, but this one here, so we know that no door goes unanswered.
And this dua here, when we say no to Argos on answered, it's specifically for whom? Muslims. Why? Because the Hadith says this, it doesn't mean that when there's a non Muslim, looking for Allah doesn't mean that it's just an automatic rejection. But what we say is that Allah subhanho wa Taala will decide because a non Muslims do I can also be accepted, especially the dua of hidayah and guidance, right? God, where are you? Just Just show me a sign. I sincerely want to connect to you, whoever you are, whatever you are. That's how sometimes the day is born. So sometimes guidance is born.
Then the Hadith continues, he accepts his dorm or averts the Dora enter from any, any similar kind of trouble from him until he prays for something sinful.
Explain to me what's happened here.
Oh, sort of our own humans, so in mithya.
So If Allah doesn't accept the DUA,
then what is the next step that Allah will give you or do for you?
Something could have happened.
Somebody could have happened. You have no idea where or how.
But because you're just making dua to Allah, it didn't. It didn't happen to you.
With natural disasters. You ever like talk to family, wherever they are in the world? You guys, okay. Did the storm get yours? No, no, that was on the northern side of the country. That was on the southern that was on the outskirts. We're in the city. No, it didn't affect us.
You know why that happens? Maybe because of your door. You save the whole city
or model the Aloha. During his Khalifa.
There was a there was a drought that went on for some time to the point where even all the wild trees in the desert started to crack and break off, like trees that were of no help or benefit to anyone couldn't plant or reap any of its fruits. So Omar was walking on the outskirts of Medina, thinking and reflecting on how he could help his people because money and all of the resources, the reserve that they had saved was running out.
So he came up to a small city, a small community right on the outskirts of Medina. And if you came to our model with me show you where it is because the community is still there. And anyhow, somebody stopped him and said yeah,
why don't you just make dua that Allah save us from this drought bring rain?
Sir Amara, the Allahu Allah. He says, Okay.
He takes off his garment, he puts it on the ground, he starts praying to rokerites right there and making making dua.
By the time he said Salam aleikum wa sallam, and he was going to pick up his garment. There were raindrops on it.
And he put the garments on and he walked back and the rainfall
so
my point is that
although you had what seemed to be a struggle, it looked terrible. The people were suffering and and and this was all part of Allah's plan, that it could have contained
But somebody stood up and stayed with Allah trusted Allah and committed themselves with Allah.
The hadith continues.
And it goes in praise until something sinful or something that may break the ties of kinship out today or tomorrow him. So the first thing is alum may avert some kind of evil to come to that person, man lemmya Darby Etham, here's the condition that they don't follow.
After making dua with some kind of sin or mistake. So some people will make dua, and because they get anxious and they lose that trust, they start doing awful things.
So that's one consequence, then that will break the possibility of your door accepted, which is obvious I didn't listed here, but sins, of course, is definitely a barrier. Here's an interesting one. Oh, called TR to Rahim, or the break the ties of kinship is a huge barrier of having your doors accepted. When you break ties with family.
Quick question. I mean, I gave a few talks about this in the past and
the saddest reality that be after those talks. It's just It's mind boggling to me. How many people have that issue? You know, my brother I haven't spoken to in 20 years. A sister is here. I don't even know where she is. My niece this or this person, my cousin my aunt and and hasn't talked to me.
It's almost a safe assumption. To assume that pretty much every single family out there has something like that in the family, where there's a family tie that's cut. Now, what you can't control is not your fault.
But if pride, arrogance, all I don't want to talk to them, because they embarrassed me 37 years ago, in front of those two people to store in the other country we were living in. So I'm not talking to them anymore. If it's like that, well, they owe the money and they they paid me back late so
I just stopped talking to them and stuff like that.
That's a whole different ballgame.
Because there's more than one Hadith of our Prophet or the salat wa salam telling us that there's no acceptance of any a bad no sadaqa no duras, all your Salah, your Hajj, everything is subject. Now everything is just going to sit there subject to being accepted by Allah because of this one thing that they are told, right? Students, why is Allah so strict about people who sever ties with family? Why?
Because ties of kinship, really test your intention with
people it is, of course, going to be so easy to be kind in relation with anybody who's been nice to you, but a bit of trouble.
Okay.
Okay.
So I'm going to add something to that. And this is the gist of the response to it. Why is Allah so strict? Because our Prophet early subtle, Salam told us the best of you are the best to whom
lots of Muslims are the worst to their families.
So because of that hadith,
that's what changed everything. Because that's Allah's way of saying, if you want to have any chance of me giving you what you want,
then you have got to start with the most important things. And the top of that list is this. You have got to take care of and you've got to be the most patient, the most kind, the most tolerant, the most acceptable, the most generous, the most helpful, the most, most, most of every good quality that you possess, as a human being has to start off with your family.
If you can't do that,
especially and here's the idea. If you can't do that with the people whom you understand and know, more than any other human being your family, right? How we say to each other. You're my brother, I know everything about you. You don't have to say anything. No, my mom always has this love sentence she says to us. She says whatever you're trying to spell. I already read it.
I felt like it was your milk pm or when I heard that statement.
Wow.
This is pretty deep because an
My mother said you my children,
just I know, I understand you. So with those people you can't get along with, there's no hope for nothing else. That's the So the expectation is there. Again, let me just say that whatever is beyond your control, it's not your fault. Our Prophet Tommy slept was salam told us you are not accountable for the things that are beyond your control. Okay, so I totally understand that there is some family only Allah can help them. I get
Okay,
let's just continue, let's just finish this hadith. Upon this, some of the companions then ask for Carlota lumenal poem, so a man from amongst the Companions as either loop theory, either look, there is that okay? So you know, what, if these are the things that are might hold us back, so you know what your soul Allah will just increase and make more Daura you know, our version of that is, so we'll just okay.
I can't get along with this person. I don't even want to try. But I'm going for hydro every year for the rest of my life. Next, I'm gonna trip I'm jumping on it. I'm gonna do all this time. But
here's the thing.
There are people who do that.
And not realizing that none of it may be accepted because of this one thing that they had control over. But they allowed it for too many months or years to linger. So it became now a situation that it's impossible to go back to. And think that, okay, I can compensate by adding a couple of extra hygiene aromas and extra total, we have never missed Salah and never miss extra fasting or I can just compensate and even out and that's what this hadith is saying. The Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam says no, no,
Allah is more plentiful in his response, meaning doesn't matter how much you ask. It's not the quantity that matters to Allah here. It's also the quality because why some people simply don't have that emotional mental strength to keep talking to Allah every day. Like the elderly brothers and sisters, right? Maximum tell them so you got to make dog day and night, you got to wake up or tahajjud you know, or somebody who's sick, somebody who's free, or somebody who's new to Islam,
you know, all of that stuff takes time to build.
So this ending of the hadith is really, really hopeful. Allahu Akbar, meaning that if you just ask once that but at least it's once every day,
then that's sure you know, it's a lot better than somebody asking 100 times just once a month.
So at the end of the day in the Prophet Ali's office, I'm still gives hope that even though those barriers are there, that you should still continue to ask even though the quantity of the times you ask is little, just understand that Allah's blessing and Baraka in response is plentiful. Okay. You should have this hadith in your in the handout. Okay.
Yeah, go ahead.
Kinship
Yes.
You mean like a divorce? No, no, no, no. But just like living still married living in the same house, we're not going to talk for three weeks.
It's severe, it's probably there's a whole discussion separately for a husband and wife the accountability is could be even far more.
Then it comes back to you, in the same way but I think what you said was unique.
Yeah, so we've established that we don't know how Allah accepts door eyes right. So that also includes the evil ones. Because why? This a says, They will ask for evil and good.
Which means that when dua is made
for evil, Allah is listening to it because it's highlighted here that the Allah paid attention to that.
And Hadith categorized only some not all. So parents, Hadith categorize that parents evil do are accepted all the time.
Again, against their children in particular, there is a another Hadith that even husband and wife making dua against each other whilst married is also a
excepted. That is why even when a husband gives a divorce to his wife out of anger, it still counts according to the majority, but don't take that as Affectiva. I don't do that when it comes to marriage. I don't give generic facts. Well like that. So I just want to paint a picture for you on basic principles. So don't if this happened to you Don't be like, Oh my god, we're not married? No, no, don't go back to your husbands or anything and say that to them, right.
So that's the idea.
There are some other categories as well. The Prophet alayhi salat wa salam also told us that when children make dua against their parents as well, even against their parents, I hate them, I wish to scuttle let's just make this happen to them. But Allah could potentially accept that you had all Insano be sha Allah is at least bare minimum, he listened to that door. So the whole idea is that whenever what you learn from that is whenever you make a DUA, whether it's out of anger, or with the intention of evil, be cautious because this area tells us, Allah is listening to that, and stop there.
Don't go beyond that.
Because we don't know.
Does that make sense? So you can ask the follow up.
situation?
So what happened? Good, good question. Right? So what happens if you just unintentionally just under something, there's a fight happening in the house abusive situations, as you mentioned? Look, the scholars have different on that
they use the principle of actions are judged by their intentions. So normally, in the state of anger or rage or what have you. People have a tendency to say a lot that they don't mean and once the once the temperaments Calm down, and they're just like, oh my god, what have I done?
There are specific Hadith for certain scenarios where it still counts. But for the most part in sha Allah, you know, in situations like that, really intense situations like that, where emotions are running high and so on, generally speaking, our limit tell us that those cases, nothing that you say even including door really counts. Unless you make it clear. No, when I was angry, and I was breaking the wall, and I said, what I said about you and I made that door I meant to. That's a whole different story. Now you're verbalizing and affirming your intention of what you said. That's a whole different scenario. So it's kind of studied like a case by case in that sense. Okay.
Anything else? Good question. Anything else? Okay, let's take one more.
It is now 2pm Why is my watch at 2pm
Oh, it's died.
Well, it's further looks right. It doesn't matter if it doesn't work.
Yeah, it's 2pm somewhere I'm sure right stick one more point and we're done.
What either and I'm either insanely out or when the journey be here what you missed several shuttle candidate was, here's another reason why do eyes may not be answered. And when we still favor upon man, he turns away meaning when Allah does answer, or does give you some relief, then there's just like, Okay, I want you to just think about
lockdown
and post COVID life, okay? I want you to think about that with this a.
So when we were on lockdown, and there was probably a lot of tahajjud happening around the world, right? A lot of extra Salawat a lot of sincerity, all that good stuff people were for the most part, well behaved clubs are closed, the bars are closed and nn right.
So Allah then says, Majan all of this panel is captured important, right? That when Allah gives them then that freedom a favor a blessing, and I am there a noble favor. So when Allah took away lock down and slowly the barrier started to open, what did people go back to?
That's the thing.
So they went back to their old ways. So that's what a lesson he turns away and distances himself meaning they went back to their old way so they went back to square one they didn't learn but when evil touches them, but when that lockdown came back again or it happened, then he's full of extensive door for federal dua in ideal dua dua in the ideal dislike.
I really like what you do when you go grocery shopping, and you put like items in the cart and
You know when sometimes you go to the grocery store or store and all the items in the cart build like a mini Mount Everest and you have stuff stuck under the cart as well and the kids are holding stuff and like it's a big grocery day today right? And it's like a lot you're stuffing in as many items as you could that's called ideal
when you stuff above and beyond capacity so in other words they started making dua till like everything was just dua they were cautious of every tap they made on the front I can't do that you know, what was ALLAH is not going to take us out of the shackles of lockdown so we can't do that this day. We're cautious of everything. That's what Dora in early it was. So something to reflect on okay. And that's what we're going to pause here. We're next section is we're going to look at slab as I had wanted to get to
hear
but nevertheless, inshallah we'll we'll get there.
So
this is where we get into some other good stuff. But anyhow,
does anybody have any questions? We have about
four or five minutes left. So we'll pause here at least for the recording and in shot low tarla I'll hang out for another five minutes or so. If you have any questions. So I pray that Allah Subhana Allah Allah accept from us our doors, may Allah always make us the people of Dora and may Allah subhanho wa Taala continue to increase us as people of Dora Allahumma Amin Subhana Allah who will become decrescendo Allah EULA Illa, Anta stuff Hirokawa to we like to Darwin and hamdulillah popularity