Musleh Khan – Spiritual Growth #7 Become Amongst The Closest To The Prophet (s)

			Salam aleikum. warahmatullah wabarakatuh Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. Robert.
So today, it's Part Seven. And it's one of the most beautiful, beautiful subjects that all of us
will ever study in our religion. And it's also one of those sciences, one of the branches of Islam,
that you don't actually need to open up a book to learn. And this is, of course, referring to our
etiquettes and luck, etiquettes mannerisms, good luck. Not only is it a part of the Sunnah, and it's
taught to us within the poor and, but just common sense teaches us how important it is to have good
etiquettes not just with yourself, but with the people around you. The Prophet alayhi salaatu wa
		

			sallam told us that good luck will enter you in Jenna. And one of the most remarkable things about
this subject is common sense can take you a long way. And you use your common sense by picturing or
putting yourself in somebody else's shoes, how would you want to be treated, and that's how you
treat others. So immediately, you can place those yourself in a scenario where you're the subject
and people are treating you a certain way talking to you a certain way, what it is, what is it that
you would expect from them, what the tone of their voice is the choice of their words, and just
their overall etiquettes their actions, the way that they present themselves, their posture, and how
		

			they stand in front of you, all of these things, paint a picture of who we are. etiquettes is
perhaps one of the most important subjects that any human being can ever reflect on, study and
understand. And the reason why is you could have zero knowledge. But when you have good etiquettes
people will love you and respect you. You could know nothing about this world, but your kind, your
understanding, you know how to control your your anger, and your lack of patience, or whatever
issues you might have, you know how to keep all of those things under control. People will accept
you, Allah will still bless you with pible How many times have we met people like this, you know,
		

			when you go into the massage aid, or wherever you go with school or at work, even notice, like
you'll always meet someone who can barely speak English, who doesn't have much of an education was
never really been able to study much in their lives. But they're always kind to you, they always
treat you well, they always respect you, you still appreciate the company in the presence of that
person. Now, that's today's subject. And I want to go ahead and read to you some of the things that
are mentioned in this particular talk that I gave, of course, many, many years ago, and some of the
acquired and some of the statements of the son of aroma hula. So for example, Abu hanifa when it
		

			came to etiquettes, with parents, Abu hanifa Rahim Allah used to have this habit, it's just amazing.
He would be sitting in with his mum, and they would be eating Abu hanifa Hema, hello would never
start eating until his mother was finished her food first, when she finished her food, then he would
start eating. And so some of the students would ask him why he did that. And his response is just
absolutely remarkable. He says, I fear that if I'm eating, my mother would see something in my plate
that she would desire. And I would have already taken a bite out of it or eaten it. So I wait until
she is satisfied. And I also wait to see if she sees anything in my plate that she would desire so
		

			that I can give it to her first before I start eating. It's just absolutely remarkable, like even
these little things that we do that are so routine, and such a big part of our lives. But yet some
of the greatest acts of mannerisms and examples of etiquettes you find in these moments. Continuing
with respect to our Prophet, Allah, his Salatu was Salam. He gave us so many a hadith about having
good luck and I'm not going to go through and say okay, you have to do this. You have to do that.
And now you're a good person.
		

			Just keep in mind, Allah subhanho wa Taala waited 40 years before he gave the Prophet Allah His slot
was the Quran. He allowed 40 years of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam his life until now he was
ready to receive the poor and what do we learn from them? One of the biggest lessons behind that the
wisdom behind that this was the time for him to receive the core n was that prior to that,
throughout his entire life, he was always known to be an honest man, a loving and caring individual,
someone that people could trust. And so his etiquettes were being refined. Allah subhanho wa Taala
was purifying his behavior and his attitudes.
		

			That's why the scholars they say that one of the biggest gateways towards knowledge and towards
understanding and connecting with the poor end is to have good luck. Because that's what Allah did
with the Prophet alayhi salatu was salam, once he reached a point that align, so which I was pleased
with, then it was time for him to receive the book. Now, what's the connection here? You see, when
you have good luck, it's a sign that you have good intentions. It's a sign of sincerity, you not
only think about yourself, but you think about people around you, that's lost that sincerity, you
care about the overall well being of people around you. And you don't care what religion they belong
		

			to, you don't care what background they have, all you care about at the end of the day is that
everybody is treated well and treated fairly. And so our Prophet alayhi salatu was Salam continues,
and he tells us in another Hadith with respect to families, so how do we implement Good luck, it
starts with the family. And this is why we have had with our profits early, so it was Sam told us
how eurocom hydroquinone actually, the best amongst you, is the one who is best to their families.
What does that mean? haidakhan is a very generic word highroad. It's a very generic word to describe
something that's pleasing something that's acceptable, something that's good. So the bare minimum
		

			that we are encouraged to behave with our families, the bare minimum, is at least be a decent
person. Even if you're angry, even if you're stressed out, even if you're frustrated, you had a long
day at work. Your family is not the people that after a long day of work, you take out all of your
stress. And unfortunately, lots of people do this. You know, when when dad comes home, he's all
tired and stressed out, the kids want to play with him. They want to laugh, they want to jump on
him. And he's like, Yeah, get out, get out of here, go go with your mom, go play with your mom
tired, or he's watching TV or is doing something else. That's not the point. That's not why Allah
		

			subhanho wa Taala puts you out there to work all day you work. And you strive and you struggle, so
that you can have this comfort time with your family at the end of the day. That's the whole reason
you go out there, and you do those things. So at the end of the day, you put forth the hours. Now
you wait for your paycheck, you wait for a return, but in the meantime, when it comes to the late
hours, and so on, when you're home, this is the time where your family sees the best in you. It's a
hard thing to do, but it's something that you must do. And so our Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam
says this is the starting point. And why is it essential to be good to family, when you can be good
		

			to the people you sleep with and you wake up with and you live with every single day of your life
than the people that you rarely see. So everyone else outside of your home, it becomes a piece of
cake. You know, patience is in autopilot, controlling your anger autopilot to be an honest,
trustworthy, loving, caring person. All of these things are automatic. And keep in mind our Prophet
alayhi salatu was Salam. Here's another incentive, why it's important to concentrate on good
manners. Prophet alayhi salatu salam tells us that on the Day of Judgment, the people that are
closest, and they are nearest to him, are the people that had beautiful o'clock, they had beautiful
		

			etiquettes. And so that's a huge incentive for all of us that what that teaches us is, it doesn't
matter at the end of the day, how much knowledge you acquire, doesn't matter what kind of an
intellect you might be. At the end of the day. If you can be a nice person to people in general, if
you can't be a good person, then all of that was a waste of time. You still end up potentially being
amongst those that are refused or rejected on the day of judgment to be in the company of our
Prophet alayhi salatu salam, another Hadith. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam summarized his
entire Prophethood in one sentence, one sentence, it summarizes entire Prophethood and it's not what
		

			you think he's not going to talk to us about the poor end, he's not going to talk to us about Okay,
this is what I did. I fought in this battle, we were victorious here, etc. No one had eath that's
his authentic narrative in Bukhari and Muslim. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam says in NEMA borer is
truly a 10 min muckety muck of luck. I was sent down for truly one purpose. In other words, what
this means is that everything that is taught to us by our Prophet Allah Azza wa sallam all revolves
around this one sentence. And he says, I was sent with this one purpose to beautify good manners,
and to complete, beautiful and beautiful etiquettes. So at the end of the day, when we talk about
		

			practicing the core and etiquettes as part of that journey, when we talk about implementing the
teachings of the sadhana, it's all about etiquettes. And this is what
		

			prayer and fasting and all of the disciplines that we have in our religion, this is what it
ultimately leads to. It leads to you becoming an overall genuine dear good person in society in this
world in life in general. You know, a man of Sheffield or Hema hula
		

			when he prepared himself to go and study with Imam Malik Rahim Allah remember chef here his mum told
her son to Allah Min ilmi min Amelie cobbler eating me. I want to own my son, that when you go and
you visit mm Malik and you learn from him, that you will learn from his etiquettes and his
mannerisms first, before you take from his knowledge. So in other words, go there and observe him,
hang around with him. Talk to him have conversation, see how he eats, see how he interacts with the
people see how he dresses all of these things. And this is why are the men become older man, because
their whole journey through knowledge is complete. It's not just restricted to the theory aspect of
		

			it. But even the action and implementation how they practice their knowledge is what gives them the
great status that they have a metal rahimullah. He had over 5000 students in his sittings. You know
in his lectures, he considered approximately 500 or so that they were true students of him though
they were the students that excelled above and beyond the others. But then Mmm, Rahim Allah, it was
narrated that many of the students 1000s of the students who said that when we would listen to him,
even though we were not counted amongst his dear students amongst a special group, we all continue
to learn by observing Mm hmm. It's etiquettes. And so we're talking about 1000s of students just
		

			sitting there and just observing because again, at the end of the day, earlier, men are our
Waterford will MBA, they are the inheritors of the profits. So what you see from them is the closest
thing that you see to the prophets and the messengers. There's also one other statement that I
really want to share with you that that's just absolutely beautiful with respect to the subject. And
that is of course with hassanal bacillary Rahim Allahu taala the great scholar hustle bustle, yo
Rahim Allah studied a hillock and etiquettes for 20 years. When we say study he concentrated on the
subject. Now, in the beginning of this video, we said this is a lot of it has to do with common
		

			sense. You don't actually need to open up a book and learn how to be kind, learn how to be loving,
that's the fifth or in us. But what hustler Buster is referring to here is that every a and Hadeeth
and science of Islam that he studied thoroughly and in depth.
		

			Along with that journey, he also learned how to implement good etiquette. So for example, if he
studied Sunnah, and all of the cam and Phil and rulings behind sada, he also incorporated in that
journey that when you pray, that you're considerate with the person beside you, in front of you, and
behind you, you ensure that you had you know, nice decent clothing on you had good hygiene, when you
prayed you didn't distract others around you. You are not the Sala police. So when before or after
the Salah, you didn't start to criticize or anybody. And then in addition to that, even when masala
was over, has an embassy learn to incorporate that there was a discipline, even post prayer that,
		

			you know, the first thing that he did wasn't to just start to socialize and laugh, you know, some of
the things that a lot of us might do. But he was constantly in earth cow praying making door and
this is what the tab you're on the scholars in general, this is their methodology, this is what they
would do. And so brothers and sisters really the message here today, without good etiquettes nothing
care, nothing that we learned will carry value. It would be it won't be meaningful anymore. It
wouldn't carry the status and the weight and the honor that you would hope and want for it to do.
And so going back to Islamic Studies in general. Everything that we learn about our Deen would be
		

			against us if we didn't have good etiquettes and this is something that you unanimously talked about
and agreed upon amongst all scholars since the beginning of time until perhaps the omo tm is the
letter Allah. Allah will always be the first step towards receiving the knowledge of the Quran and
the Sunnah. Well last and final point. So at the end of the day, how do we acquire good etiquettes?
How do you develop that seriousness and that discipline so that etiquettes
		

			All these become a priority for you. Well, we hinted at this earlier. There's one headache that
literally sets the tone. And it's one of my favorite hobbies and we all know this hadith we've
quoted several times, in some of our previous discussions, where the Prophet Alayhi salat wa salam
says law you know, a hadoken had your hip belly, a female, your hip bull enough, see, none of you
truly have Amen. In other words, none of you have real Amen. Amen. That's sincere Amen. That's
consistent Eman that's preserved and protected. None of you have true faith in Allah subhanho wa
Taala. Unless you love for your brother, what you love for yourself. In other words, unless you
		

			treat others how you wish to be treated, that's a starting point. treat people the way you want to
be treated. So if you're somebody that's always you know, involved in drama involved in problems,
always, you know, somebody that no one can seem to get along with, everywhere you go, you stir up
problems with people, there's all these issues. This is some visit indication to you, there are some
serious discrepancies there are some serious problems in terms of your etiquettes and a HELOC. and
edit one of the meanings behind it is to beautify. And the last thing that I will say is that in
Arabic, there are several words to describe etiquette. So we have a flock of holyoake we have a Deb,
		

			we also have bid Rohan. Just like we say Beware the dang bid rune in the Quran is often translated
as righteousness in general, but bedroom, it has other characteristics to it, it also means
stability in a land. You know, once everything is working, and it's in everything is synchronized
perfectly. That's also the work bedroom refers to stability in that land. So so for example, in a
city, if you shut off the water supply, then build ruin is no longer applicable because there's
instability. Now there's no water supply for the entire city. But once those things continue to work
again, you have to constantly maintain it and constantly service it. That's what our luck needs. Our
		

			luck also needs constant maintenance and service. So we're always thinking about ways of how we can
improve the way we speak and the way that we conduct ourselves. And this is why one of the most
beautiful words on the subject is bedroom. Because bedroom, what it tells the believer is that you'd
never ever settle for the good etiquettes that you have, you always try your best to improve it a
step further. And that's one of the most beautiful things about this subject is that it has no
limits. If you're loving it sky's the limit how loving you can be, if you're carrying it sky's the
limit how carrying the potential of how caring you can be, all of us are at different levels. But
		

			the point is, at the end of the day, this is the priority. This is the starting point. This is the
gateway to all higher and goodness in this world and in the era. This is the gateway to attaining
true knowledge that remains with you. And next for you. It uplifts you, it benefits you, it
beautifies you It makes you a better human being overall, it's good advocates. And so with that
being said, brothers and sisters, and everybody listening to this, unfortunately, you know, in our
communities, this is really truly one of the saddest realities, the good etiquettes in general, is
something that's almost impossible to find. Just think about how Muslims come out of parking lots
		

			after tomorrow, you know, just look at the etiquettes like, at least here in Canada for the most
part, but I'm sure many other parts in the world do this. We have to get special security we have
sometimes we even have to get police officers to guide us out of the parking lot. Why? Because we
just don't know how to do it in in a synchronized fashion. We don't know how to do it in a way Okay,
we let one car go by or this or that we don't know how to do that stuff. And forget about just
getting out of the parking lot. Do you ever see how a lots of massage it how the parking lot looks
on the day of tomorrow or whenever there's a large gathering. You know, there's one car two blocks
		

			like seven other cars parked by the fire hydrant blocks the driveway I kid you not have seen this
with my own eyes more than once of Muslims that if they're running late, they don't want to miss the
Salah or Juma you know what they end up doing? They literally park right in front of the entrance of
the parking lot of the masjid. And then when all is said and done, you think to yourself, okay,
well, maybe this whoever this person is they ran in, they caught the Salah, but immediately when the
Salah is over, they'll run back out move their car because obviously they're they've blocked the
entire parking lot. And only to find that that person is sitting there he'll pray like photocards
		

			sooner than he'll pray his no I feel then he'll make his door eyes. Then he'll see a friend he says
I'm on a concave Harley have a quick conversation and then he'll come outside. So that lack of
courtesy and consideration all of these things boiled down to at the end.
		

			of the day a lack of good etiquettes to just be considerate and courteous to others. And so brothers
and sisters, I really hope and I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us the strength that we
continue to improve our luck and etiquettes with each other with ourselves and the community at
large. Allahumma Ameen. May Allah subhanho wa Taala continue to increase us May Allah subhanho wa
Taala continue to beautify our lamp in our etiquettes alone. I mean, you know, from time to time, I
forget to do this at the end of the video, but I remember now so I'm going to do it right now. And
we are going to go into my box of goodies here. And this is tomorrow's subject. Oh, wow. Take a look
		

			at this guys.
		

			I don't know because it's going to look strange on the screen. But our next subject for tomorrow, in
our journey with spiritual growth is the life of the grave about us. So life in the grave. So we're
going to Now tap into what the era is going to look like that transition period that we go from this
world to the next, the gateway the highway, the road, the path that we take to get to the theater is
of course, that path within the grave itself. So tomorrow is going to be a very serious subject in
sha Allah, Allah. And as I'm just skimming through these cards, there is so much to talk about so in
sha Allah huhtala Stay tuned for tomorrow's discussion Bismillah hytera Allah on life in the grave,
		

			may Allah azza wa jal give us strength and continue to teach us knowledge and knowledge that is
beneficial for us, not against us Aloma me just like I'm a level higher than everybody May Allah
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