Musleh Khan – Life with Children #21 Final Thoughts

			Said mid commodity to lucky Obamacare to everyone Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa
Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Noah Barrett. Welcome to the last and final installment of life with
children, our family life series that we've been doing for the past 20 some odd days of Ramadan. And
this is the final, I guess you could say the final episode, the final installment in sha Allah
hotevilla. after Ramadan, I'll start a different series, a brand new subject, I'm addressing other
issues. But at least for now, I wanted to take an opportunity to hear to really go back now and
reflect on some of the things that we talked about the purpose of the series, how to utilize it, and
		

			the lessons that we spoke about the lessons from the poor end incident, and how you could utilize
those lessons in your own parenting techniques and in your own life and your interaction with your
children regardless of their age. And so mainly this particular journey had began with the
reflection with sort of local men and the advice from the father to his son. And we went through
every single advice, extracted everything that we could in terms of techniques, ways to approach
certain issues, scenarios and problems and how to resolve them. Even before we got into sort of
Lockman we started getting into different areas. What experts have been saying around the world in
		

			terms of dealing with problems dealing with problems with parenting, just because somebody has a
child doesn't mean that there are parent, we looked at all of these issues. So I really hope that in
sha Allah, especially for those of you who have been following me throughout the series, to really
take the time to go back and listen to this again and share it with people who you think might find
use, you might find it useful and beneficial. The second thing that I wanted to share with you is
that tonight, at least where I am in Toronto, it's it being the 27th night of Ramadan, I thought to
myself that this would probably be a good place to stop the series, the most blessed night of
		

			Ramadan, the the strongest candidate in terms of what they like little puddle could be all of the
rewards and bulka of this particular night, and just how it's just the perfect time to stop. So I
intentionally wanted it to be this. Tonight, I had originally planned for only 20 episodes, but
seeing that this is the 21st it's just literally final thoughts and reflections.
		

			Please keep in mind, one of the goals that I had behind this was not to tell people how to parent,
and not to make anybody feel like whatever they were doing was not working. But to really show that
including your culture, your tradition, your heritage, the country, the place that you live in.
Considering all of those factors, how the poor end and sin in terms of parenting can still be
applicable, it can still walk you through all of the struggles and problems in America, wherever you
may be. And this is why the poor end is a universal message for all of mankind. So wherever you are,
whatever the issues that you're coping with, in terms of parenting, this poor end can solve that for
		

			you. And this is what the main goal of the series was all about. It was to show our viewers that
this book can actually guide you through every single known issue struggle or problem in parenting
that you could think of now that you've experienced and what is to come until the end of time.
That's what this book is all about. And we barely scratched the surface. It's a massive topic
throughout the entire port end. But the point is, at the end of the day, I hope that in shout Allahu
Taha, it was a source of reflection, inspiration and growth for you and your families. The last
thing that I want to share with you is where we go from here, there's only a few days left of
		

			Ramadan. And he does around the corner in sha Allah. And we briefly mentioned in one of our videos
that when our day comes, pretty much nothing, we're not going to be together praying or eat as a
community, that's for sure. At least we could have a Salah in our homes, pray as a family, and then
you can tune into one of the reminders that will be broadcasted online. I'm going to do one
actually, I'm going to do several, so you can definitely just come onto my page and you'll be able
to see in here, a shorter email reminder. Secondly, when it comes to the prayer, try to do the
little things that you always do when you prepare for the heat sauna. So wake up, take a shower, try
		

			to get it done as early as possible in terms of the sauna and you don't have to be all decked out I
know you're still in your home but at least aware something pleasant something nice, something that
could least add that you know this prayer is going to be special that he does here and go all out
when it comes to your food, make something or or whatever it is that you want, but just make it a
fun day.
		

			something meaningful, at least it gets a taste or sample of what their eat experiences like. And you
know that when it comes to young kids, you know, that means gifts. So do whatever you can to get
some gifts for the kids in the house and just follow through the rituals follow through the
traditions of reading the Sunnah acts of it read. So try to do that in the in this particular
Ramadan, just so that we can at least have that experience, or at least a little bit of that
experience in sha Allah. last and final thought that I have is that
		

			I wanted to extend my utmost gratitude, first and foremost, Allah subhanho wa Taala, for giving me
the strength to get through this, there was some very challenging times in the month of Ramadan, I
particularly for me, particularly in terms of isolation, it was mentally exhausting and challenging
at the same time. But nevertheless, I'm a strong believer that you can live for long enough sin illa
wisata, Allah subhanho wa Taala would never burden a soul more than it can bear. And so I believe
that the end of the day, we all have what it takes to get through COVID-19, to get through this
Ramadan. And to get through whatever challenges are ahead of us. As long as we are alive. Allah sees
		

			that in me and in all of you, we have what it takes to get through the next day. And that is so
crucial and so important when you're a parent, whether you're a single parent, whether you're a
divorced parent, whether you are just parents in general, the point is that at the end of the day,
the fact that you are still alive, and you wake up each and every day, and you see your kids and you
go through and listen and experience, all the challenges that come with parenting is a sign that you
have what it takes to get through all of that. Why? Because Allah still gave you the strength still
gave you life to continue doing this. So don't think of it as Oh my God, why is love putting me
		

			through this? Sometimes we focus on the things that we can't achieve and miss out the things that we
actually have the strength and ability to overcome. And so that's really important that at the end
of the day, understand your ability, understand your strength, and your life, you're still waking up
each and every day, you have what it takes to get through that. For all the students that have been
tuning in and listening to this, I have always always done my best to try to stand up for you to try
to give you a voice to try to give you an opportunity to be heard. And but at the same token, and
it's not just about saying what's on your mind, but it's also about when it comes to your parents,
		

			to show them the dignity and the honor and respect when you are trying to express your feelings and
your opinions. Because at the end of the day, our religion teaches us that we don't have to be
silent. And we don't have to be patient through any form of abuse or problems in our home. But when
we do stand up, especially when it comes to our parents, that we do this in a civilized way, we do
it in a dignified way. Because at the end of the day, this is the order of the poor. And at the end
of the day, just common sense tells you that even if they are your parents, but they're bad parents,
they're not making good decisions for you. They're not treating you well. You get the help that you
		

			need. You go out there you seek the support that you need to overcome and get through some of those
issues. But at the same time as a believer, as somebody who carries Amen, you do your very best to
do that in the most civilized way pleasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala that's absolutely important.
Some of the scholars say that when you keep yourself composed in problems, that is enough for Allah
subhanaw taala to give you the strength to get through those issues, Allah will help you Allah will
support you and Allah will get you through those struggles in sha Allah hotelera so for the
students, take some time that if you missed any episodes, go back Listen to this. Again, these are
		

			more or less reflections, we took Hadeeth we took a yet and we started talking about them and just
reflecting how we can become better people and better Muslims, better children better parents.
That's really the ultimate goal at the end of the day in sha Allah with your item. Last but not
least, this is the last 10 nights of Ramadan. This is the 27th ninth of Ramadan. Remember the
narration of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam he told her I showed her the love of Tara Langham
that she should try to say as much as possible, especially in the last 10 I said what I'm about as
much as possible Allahumma in the car for when Katie went to hibbeler fo Farah for and or Allah you
		

			are the source of you are the one that pardons and you love to pardon so pardon us. Pardon me. So
you're always asking Allah for pardon pardon what pardon your sins, your mistakes, bury them, put
them aside erase the history of those mistakes and sins. This is the door that you are encouraged
from the center to repeat as much
		

			as possible in these last night's and if tonight is later to puddle, I pray that Allah subhanho wa
Taala bless all of us with the great honor, the great mercy the great status of being able to
maximize this night with all of our a bad debt and that it counts as though we have worshipped Allah
subhanho wa Taala for more than 1000 months later to Qatar hieromonk elfi share the date of power is
better than worship of equivalent to 1000 months so I pray that we get that those blessings in shot
local Tera vaada so with that being said, guys, stay tuned because because just listen to this. I
have fantastic news in sha Allah just a hopefully honoree day or maybe just a little bit after a day
		

			a few days or so I'm going to share with you a brand new project that I've been working on myself
and some of my students have been helping me trying to get through and put together this incredible
incredible project so I can't wait to release that but at least in the meantime, stay tuned I will
introduce another series that will start after Ramadan begins nilla heater Allah it's a fantastic
series I've put together a lot of material for it, it's a bit more intense. So a cello tada I'm
looking forward to that because I get to reflect research and learn myself as I do that. So stay
tuned for that in shot long term. I will released one more video in sha Allah before the month is
		

			over so you can look out for that because they live with announcements and other things but if
nullah hytera so wherever you are Guys, please please be safe, be healthy. And may Allah subhanho wa
Taala accept from us our worship in this blessing month of Ramadan. May Allah subhanho wa Taala give
us the strength to find see and experience later to unclutter and give us the rewards and blessings
of this night of power. Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the strength patience to get through this
difficult time reunite us back with our communities, our friends, our extended relatives, the people
that we were not able to see for the past few months, may Allah subhanaw taala reunite all of us
		

			sooner rather than later. I'm getting anxious to see a lot of you in the massage it and then getting
anxious to travel again. And so I look forward to that and I pray each and every single day that
Allah subhanho wa Taala will restore at least some sense of normality that we're able to travel and
see and support one another at American wherever we may be. So with that being said once again a bit
just below head on to all of you for supporting me and watching the series and sharing it each and
every day. Mail lines. So Joe bless you guys. I look forward to talking to you all again. Take care
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