Musleh Khan – My Engagement Is Messed Up – 02

			Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters, my engagement is messed up. Here's
part two, you've invested so much time, so much money, so much efforts. The wedding has been planned
the nikka has said all the invitations have been sent out. But there's only one problem. One of you
or both of you are not happy. The relationship just doesn't feel right. But because all of the plans
have been put in place, the families are happy. Everything is set the wedding dresses bought, he's
bought his tuxedo or whatever it is that he's gonna wear. You realize that there's so much pressure
there's so many pieces that are put together that you can break up at this point. Even though you
		

			don't get along. You disagree all the time things don't feel right. There's no Mowat dead, there's
no rush. There's no love and mercy in that relationship. You decide to go through with it anyway.
Because it becomes something symbolic. It becomes something that look what are people going to say?
What are people going to talk about? Even the parents, they put this pressure on you that? What are
people going to think about that you guys are breaking up one month before the wedding day, just
because you guys can't get along? Don't worry insha Allah when the wedding happens, things will work
its way out. Now this again, is a very, very difficult position to be in. And quite frankly, it's
		

			very immature for you to think this way. Because at the end of the day, Allah subhanho wa Taala told
us that the two main ingredients for a relationship to work is Allah puts mocha and Rama and he
tells you why the test school la her so that you can both find Sakina and tranquility, tranquility,
especially within her, you need to find this in that relationship or it's just simply not going to
work. These are not things that just suddenly sprout out of nowhere once the marriage happens. And
we've seen so many marriages fall apart, because they began in this particular way, just pressure
from every corner to get married. So they do they do get married. And there is problems and turmoil
		

			right from day one. And they have to live with this. And then things get more complicated because
children start to fall and fall into the picture. And it becomes even more of a mess. My brothers
and sisters and especially those of you who are engaged, pay attention to the signs, pay attention
to all of the disagreements that you have. How many times you guys disagree how many times you guys
are arguing how many times you guys get into these different arguments and fights and can't seem to
resolve them. And all those people that want you to stay together except the both of you. These are
important because Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us a mentality to consider and to think about
		

			sometimes in life, there are things that might appear pleasing to you, but Allah azza wa jal has put
great evil in them. I said unto him, bolshaya Well, who was shalom? Allah azza wa jal says, then
there are also things that you might love and Allah has put evil in them or the opposite or the
contrary is also also true, that there are things that you might hate but Allah has as Sergio has
put great in them, while La Jolla RLM one two letter Allah moon, Allah subhanho wa Taala has
complete knowledge of everything and you don't at the end of the day, what this teaches you is that
at the end of the day, you need to have something tangible to work with, you need to have signs that
		

			things are going okay in sha Allah hotelera Allah so that that way you can see potential in the
marriage in sha Allah hotelera. So again, brothers and sisters, food for thought, something to think
about, really assess your relationship. Don't get caught up in all of the fantasy, all of the love
and the emotion and really stick to this as maturely as you can and really pay attention to one
another. Pay attention to each other's personalities. Pay attention to even the tone of voice how
things are being addressed. When you get upset when there's an argument how you address each other,
what kind of tone and language you use, you use with one another. These are the things that are
		

			going to paint a picture that when the real problems happen in the marriage, how they're going to be
dealt with. So May Allah subhanho wa Taala put Baraka in your relationship and May Allah subhanho wa
Taala make it easy for all of you was set up monokuma rahmatullah wa barakato