Musleh Khan – Ask Musleh – What are the Do’s and Don’ts of a Pre-Marital Relationship?

			Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters Welcome to Ask Muslim and this is your
brother will select parm. Today we're going to look at the first question that you guys have been
asking. And that is, what are the do's and don'ts in a pre marriage relationship? So for example,
you know, you found that Mr. or Mrs. Right, and you have the intention of marrying that person. So
you just want to know, how do you guys communicate? How do you guys meet each other what kind of
relationship you should have? What are the borders and that sort of thing? Well, I want to start off
by saying one basic principle in our shared era, and that is that it is permissible to talk to
		

			anybody, unless there is a reason or a haraam reason to prevent you from doing so. So for you so so
basically, what I want to say is that the highlight of it is halon. And the bottom of it is how
long, so it's hot out for you to speak to somebody of the opposite gender, if you need to buy and
sell. If you need to get something if you need to study if you need to just you know, do something
at work just to get a job complete, that's permissible in our shed here. Why? Because every single
one of us we have guidelines to follow, we have morals, and we have ethics that we follow in how we
do these things. So you want to make sure that every single time you do that, whenever you're
		

			talking to that Mr. or Mrs. Right, you want to make sure you also follow the rules and guidelines of
your deen. So don't get involved in like these private conversations and say things like, Oh my god,
you know, I saw you today and you had such a beautiful alibi on and then the sister will say to her,
oh my god, your beard is getting bigger, you look so handsome. Leave those things for later. At this
point, because you guys are not married, you're just getting to know one another. Just keep things
straight to the point and make sure you have a reason and a wisdom of why you need to talk to each
other. So you need to plan your wedding day. You need to plan the new attack, you need to plan all
		

			the logistics of the marriage You need to make sure that you know when can the families meet that
sort of thing. Those are permissible you should do those things. You should try to work out all
those details as best as you can. So remember that principle the heck out of it is halal. The Haram
of it is hard on the foundation in our Shetty or is we are allowed to speak to anybody as long as
there's a wisdom and a reason and we follow the rules that we need to to make that a Hillel
circumstance. Remember also, the last point I want to leave you guys with is remember that the
prophets of the love it was sentiment. There are many Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim and other books
		

			that narrate that he would always talk to the women, Allah will always talk to the female
companions. And he's to answer a lot of a lot of their questions. They used to come up to him and
ask him about these really small and intimate situations and issues that they would have, that were
really, really personal to themselves, they will just walk right up to the prophesy settlement asked
him about those issues, and he would respond. And that's really, really important. He wouldn't say
to them, no, no, no, stay away. Now. We can't talk you need to have big curtain in front of mirror
and that sort of thing. He wouldn't do that. But he would respond Why? Because the promise I sell
		

			him had the best manners and he had the best etiquettes and how to deal with those circumstances.
You also want to make sure you hold on to that as best as you can. So that's so that's the first
question inshallah that I wanted to address. I hope that's clear for each and every one of you guys
and remember, keep those relationships high that as possible. And make sure you remember that you
are a Muslim and you fear Allah azza wa jal, wherever you are and whatever you're doing, so I hope
that helps set Mr equal to law. He will.
		

			Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh everyone, this is your brother Muslim Khan here and I'm
sitting here in my office, and welcome to Ask Muslim. So today, here, I'm scratching my nose. We
don't want to scratch my nose while we're talking. Okay.
		

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			Somali, Kumara Mottola, he will borrow care to everybody and welcome to Ask Muslim This is your
brother Muslim Khan and today we got our first question that we want to look at. A lot of you have
been asking about the do's and don'ts in our relationship. So those of you who have found that Mr.
or Mrs. Right? What are the do's and don'ts that you got to you know, whatever.
		

			I last heard that. I want