Musleh Khan – Ask Musleh – How do we control our anger with our parents?

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			how should we control our How should we control our anger with our parents when it's close to
impossible to do so?
		

			Well, I totally disagree with that. It's not impossible to do. So, anger is not something that's
impossible to overcome. There are many 1000s and 1000s of people who have these issues, and they've
overcome them very pious men and women in the past who had the same problems, and they've overcome
them. So what I'll do is, I'll tell you how to control anger, in a general sense. And then
specifically how you do this with parents, generally speaking, anger is something you have to fight
with it. You have to be aware of that very moment that you're mad and you're doing something wrong.
If you can be aware and have just some level of consciousness that you're doing something wrong, you
		

			have to fight with it. You have to tell yourself to stop you have to start talking to yourself.
You're like, No, no, no, no, no, almost like, Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't break it. Don't
break it. You know, you have to start talking to yourself and get a message into your brain and have
that little whoever it is start telling you to calm down. When you're dealing with parents directly.
The best advice that I can tell you is to fear Allah and control that anger, fear Allah azza wa jal
and control your anger with mum and dad, it is not impossible to do so it can never be impossible to
do this with your parents. Why? Because Allah in the poor and tells you a bit Wiley Dini Asana, to
		

			be righteous and good to your parents. Why would Allah tell you to do something that might or may or
may not be impossible to achieve? It can't happen. If Allah is telling you to be righteous to
parents, it means that you have what it takes to do that. But you have to have some focus, you have
to have some discipline. The next thing that I want to say specifically with the parents isn't try
to understand their wisdom behind why they do certain things. Be patient with them, understand that
maybe they might eat differently, walk differently dressed differently from you. But at this end of
the day, they still want good try to look beyond that and try to look at the goodness that they have
		

			for you. Don't focus on the negative things. Don't focus that my mom is just always yelling at me.
What is she yelling at you about? She's yelling at you. Maybe because she wants you to clean up
something she wants you to go and do something she wants you to do better in school, focus on those
things. focus on the positive circle around those emotions and insha Allah so Allah azza wa jal to
also help you