Musleh Khan – 10 Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble – EP02

			Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters, your marriage is in trouble if number
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			the treatment that you receive at home is completely the opposite of the treatment you give to
others outside the home. So we're talking about this double standard with respect to how you treat
your family to those outside the house. Now, this is important because all we need to do is discuss
one hadith of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam where he says hi eurocom hydrocone Alley, and
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companions that the best of you are those who are the best to their family. And then he continues
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			alayhi wa sallam, I am the best to my family. What does that mean? Now this is a hadith I think a
lot of people have not done a very good job, at least in explaining the intent behind this Hadeeth
and how it's relevant to you and I in this day and age, considering the complexity of the problems
that are happening in relationships today. Here's the prophesize seven, he's saying to his
companions, I'm the best to my family, and I treat them better than I treat all of you. Now to put
that into perspective. Honestly speaking, this is the prophesy centum saying to his companions, you
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			treat you well. But you guys don't get the treatment that I give my family, they get the best of me.
So you get good treatment, but my family gets the best. Now just think about it. Think about how
that image looks and think about reality. today. Here are some of the problems with how we treat our
families, you'll find that a husband, he'll have his wife waiting in the car in the middle of the
winter time because he wants to go and ask a question to the shape. So he has you're sitting there
with no heat, nothing and all the kids are screaming and crying. It's late at night. And he says to
her No, no, no, you just wait because I need to talk to so and so. I need to go out with my buddies.
		

			I'm going to come home later after a show. He sits in the masjid for two, three hours. And what are
they doing? They're just talking about nothing. He comes home, she asks him, Look, you're late. I
want to spend some time with you, the kids were asking for you. And he says no, no, no, no, I was at
domestic Leave me alone. That's not the Islamic treatment. That's not the proper etiquette,
especially with your wife. And sometimes it's reversed, where the wife will say look, I want to be
with my friends, I want to go out and do my thing. I want to have my time alone. And if she's having
a bad day and she unloads her stress and her problems to him, then we all know what what happens, it
		

			turns into a huge fight. All of this could be avoided with one principle, change your attitude with
respect to your family. These are the people you wake up with you go to sleep with you eat with you
spend the most time with these individuals. And the process, Selim had to emphasize this principle
to his companions, because quite honestly, the most difficult people at the same time for you to get
along with is going to be your family. If you can get along with your family. By default, Allah as
the widow will give you the strength to get along with everyone outside of your home. It's just
natural, it's impossible that it won't work. So here's what you need to do. You need to stop for a
		

			moment and really think about what your attitude is at home. So regardless of whatever stress you
deal with outside of your home, what are you bringing back inside your home? So you could have a
rough day at work. But when you see your husband or you see your wife and you see your children, are
you going to unload all of that stress and all of those problems to them. What did they do? They
don't deserve to be treated that way. This is your family at the end of the day. And Allah subhanho
wa Taala gave us the husbands and the wives the responsibility to look after our family and give
them the rights and to be gentle with them. That's your responsibility. There is an a statement of
		

			automotive no hubbub of the law one where his wife described him as a lion outside the house, but he
was like a gentle kitten inside the home. So he knew how to separate those two attitudes or
personalities about him. He needed to be strong he needed to be the breadwinner. He needed to be the
protector when he was outside his home. But when he came home, he needed to be gentle.
		

			calm, relaxed patient, control his anger when he was dealing with his family. That's the kind of
example that we need. Now, I admit this is not easy because at the end of the day stress is real
problems are real and things can get to us. This is where you need to develop some sense of control
and to really understand how you can separate the two and not unload your stress to your family.
They don't deserve that. If this is happening to you right now every single day all the time. then
realize that this is a sign that your marriage is definitely in trouble and it needs to be addressed
in need to go and seek help find a counselor, any man even professional help in some extreme cases,
		

			and inshallah hoteller have this addressed as soon as possible. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah bless
you all and make your marriages easy with said Mr. De Kumara to Lahore Qatar