Channel: Musleh Khan
10 Signs Your Marriage is in Trouble – #3 Thinking about someone else
Shaykh Musleh explains that having constant thoughts of someone other than your spouse, deprives the marriage relationship of love and mercy.
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Salam, alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters, your marriage is in trouble. And here's the third point, you're thinking about someone else. So what are we talking about? Now, this could either happen when you're alone together with your spouse or when you're intimate with with them. Any time alone with your husband or wife, your thoughts are drifting to maybe somebody else you knew. You're constantly imagining a relationship with somebody else. And this stuff is real. Unfortunately, a lot of our shoe and imams aren't talking about this problem. But you'll be shocked to know how many couples are suffering from this, where their thoughts and their focus is always on
a past life or somebody else they wish to be with. Here's what happens when you think this way. Allah subhanho wa Taala snatches away the Baraka in your current relationship. Now, Allah azza wa jal says, What gyla Bina Kumar, the term Walkman suited to the room that he placed between the both of you two things love and mercy. Now this love and mercy, it can't be there, if you're thinking about somebody else. So for whatever reason, if those thoughts are there, now, if you happen to see an individual from the past, if you were married before, and you see your ex, somewhere at a function or at a conference, and you start thinking, well, what if, what if I was still with him or
her? What if we were still married, we would probably had a child by now, but I can't have a child with my current spouse, and you start thinking to yourself, subpanel, my life could have been so much better, he treated me better, she was a better wife, she was more obedient. Stop doing this, this is satanic. This is from shavon, you need to focus on a couple of things. Number one, this is Allah subhanho wa Taala 100, that you are married to the person you are married today. Number two, our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us to focus on the good qualities that your spouse has, because generally speaking, every single marriage out there in sha Allah will always have more good
than bad, your spouse will always have more good qualities about him or her than the bad ones. And I always say, don't think about what you're losing out with someone else. But rather think about what Allah subhanho wa Taala could be protecting you from, you don't know what your life could have been? Had you married that person you keep thinking about? Had you had a life with that individual you keep dreaming about. And then the worst of it all is shaitan allows you to start thinking this way, even when you're intimate with your spouse. Now, how dreadful and how devastating is that? So brothers and sisters, it's really important that you focus on one another. And the way to build this
focus, the way to build this concentration with one another, if you like, is to really spend time with each other, make time for one another, go out do things, it doesn't always have to be a lecture. It doesn't always have to be at the masjid, go out to dinner, spend time with one another, and you'll start to focus on each other, the rest of the world will be a completely blank slate. And everything you need is going to be found within each other beneath the lateral. Thinking about other people, as I mentioned to you, it's something from shaitan one of his traps is he puts faces and images in your mind you'll start to reminisce and think back and then all of a sudden shaitan takes
it a step further than what if what if that marriage worked out? What if you had a relationship with that person? You had a crush and so on. So what if you got married, they would have done this for you giving you money giving you a better life? Then shaitan would put a perspective in front of you and say look at your life today. Look at how you live minimum wage jobs. You're barely scraping by. Your husband is taking rights away from you. You trilled your children are troubled kids, they don't behave they don't listen. All of these things shaytaan will just magnify all of the problems and ignore all of the good qualities in your marriage don't allow that to happen. And this way in
shuttle hotel you could focus on each other and your thoughts and your mind would not linger to anyone else. So May Allah subhanho wa Taala put Baraka in your mind but Baraka in your in your, in your way of thinking for one another and May Allah subhanho wa Taala put Baraka in the marriage Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh