Muhammad West – Youth Series – Part 01

			Relying on rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala
Sayyidina Muhammad wa early wasabia Jermaine, our beloved brothers and sisters in Islam Assalamu
alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen All Praise to Allah subhana wa
tada and Allah Allah Allah Allah we bear witness that no one has the right to be worshipped besides
our last panel data. And we ask Allah to bless us and have mercy on us in this world of Juma Allah
guide us in what we say today may Allah except the doors that we make May Allah grant this you might
be a cafaro a forgiveness for all the sins, the mistakes the things we've said, done, thought all
		

			the harm we've done this week mela, wash it away. As we sit here in this walk of Juma and we send
our love greetings and salutations our beloved Nabi Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to spice in
pure family, to his companions and all those who follow his student until the end of time. May Allah
bless us to be steadfast in the student of Nabil Mohammed solos are loving the dunya. And let's be
in his companionship in the earth here. I mean, what hamdulillah Hamdulillah, as we know, June is
youth month. And voila, it is one of the areas of those of you who were listening to the President
speak last night. One of the big areas of concern for us as a oma and more specifically for us as a
		

			nation is the capital the situation with regards to our youth, some very, very disturbing numbers,
some disturbing things to think about. And the crisis really at which we are standing at this point
in time. Our youth situation is nothing short of a crisis. And I said this many times, that if you
have a young son or daughter, youth, usually it's from the age of when they moved away from being
children. In Islam, we don't have this concept of, of adolescent, you're not in between you, you you
are a child, and then you become an adult, you're responsible. And so when we talk about youth,
we're talking about those adults from when they become McAuliffe until about 35 years old. So if you
		

			within that bracket, you still youth and some uncles might say I'm in my 60s when I solidified
myself as youth, what hamdulillah but if you look at what we what the current situation that we have
as a country, if you have a young son or daughter in that bracket, that is a practicing Muslim to
the base of the ability to make the Salah they're not indulging in major haram will come around but
of the major sins. They have their life sort of in order they studying are they working
Alhamdulillah should be very grateful that you have a very good comparison compared to what's out
there. You have a very good son or daughter, you've been blessed a lot Samantha has blessed you. And
		

			for those youngsters in the youth who avoids the major sins and performs the Salah, the only thing
that's really required data is appropriately is obedient to the parents looks after the work the
studies. It is as if though in the climate we live in earlier of the valleys of the earlier alarm
Allah bless our youth, Allah bless us, I mean, but we have some serious problems to deal with in
this country with regards to youth. If we think about two years ago, why is Youth Day wise, may wise
June the youth month because of the uprisings our the young people some of you mean 40 years ago was
before my time span a lot. Some of you were that youth, you were those young people that stood up
		

			and actually change a system, you brought a system to an end, you know, you started one of the major
movements in bringing the change to a system like a party to its knees was the youth. I mean young
people 40 years ago, change the country. Young people a few years ago change many countries in the
Middle East. Of course, things haven't gone the way we thought it would be. But young people really
change the world and they have this ability to change the world. That's why Allah subhana wa tada
will always love a young person and give Baraka to a young person, more so than the old person, the
old man that comes to the masjid five times a day clean America very good. But the young person that
		

			comes regularly to the magic, if not five times a day is a higher caliber, because it's much more
difficult. So with the youth comes as a PSA and this ability to change, yet we look at our youth in
South Africa. And it's actually a a sore point. It is something that we talk about negatively, that
if we look at in the last 25 years, how many of those of us who are in that bracket of 15 to 35.
Will most of us were born either out of apartheid or towards the end of apartheid. caught us Yes,
apart these legacies, they will be there for a long time. But we call this so many opportunities
that have gone missing. The youth inequality did more. And were more successful than the young
		

			people that are now coming up in the land of opportunity. Just some numbers that will shock you
something that we you know, you have heard in the President's speech, that of all the kids that
start in grade one, only 50% of them will actually matriculate, meaning within that schooling. Half
of kids leave schooling half. Now, if you don't have a metric. You're basically I don't speak about
our uncles and Auntie's at work, you know. 56
		

			Two years ago, that was a different time. But in today's day and age, if you don't have a material
you illiterate, you're uneducated, you know, you will not use vanilla, you're virtually unemployable
you have no skills. So you have 50% of those who start school don't finish school. And of those who
start those who finish, a very small percentage goes on to study goes on to not only study in the
university, but they get a a tertiary qualification. Half of these people are unemployed. So you
have 50% plus of our country, sitting at home doing nothing. And this is the, this is the strength.
These are the people that drive the country forward, this group of 15 to 34 other people that really
		

			is the backbone of any country, any country that moves forward, any group that wants to move
forward, you have to have highly motivated young people. And we have as a country, we have more than
half of them sitting at home, doing nothing panela, two thirds of them will live in poverty, and
they will remain in poverty.
		

			80% of our women did an analysis 80% of our kids do not read and write on the level that is
required. So Africa consistently is at the bottom, in terms of literacy and numeracy, countries that
are very poor, much poorer than us has far biggest issues. The kids are doing better than our kids,
subjects like maths and English, which is vital for any any form of profession. Our kids, our kids,
my kids, your kids, some of us who are youth us are not where we should be in terms of global
standards. And we live in a world where we're competing with the rest of the world. Kids in South
Africa are competing with kids in China and India and America, and SubhanAllah. We are not, we could
		

			say even average, we at the bottom, the lower end. Some of those numbers, the only countries who are
beating in terms of doing better in terms of numeracy in terms of job creation, the only countries
who are beating our countries like Syria, Afghanistan, countries that have been through war, that's
how bad our numbers are. So serious problem.
		

			serious problem. And then above that, we of course have these extra social, extraordinary social
ills we have in South Africa, violent crime statistic that said, half of young people that die if
people die between the age of 15 and 40, basically, half of them that Die, die of non natural causes
violence, substance abuse, Panama, so we are losing 1000s, hundreds 10s of 1000s of young people
through avoidable causes. Each child, Allah subhanho wa Taala, every single person we come to know
Allah sees, created on the fitrah, created pure, created with ability are honored. And Allah says I
honored every single child of item, every single offspring, every child that we have is special. And
		

			then we take them and Subhanallah What do we do, as a result, something is wrong with the way in
which we are raising our kids.
		

			So this is something that we have as a country as a crisis. So who do we blame? Where do we start
looking at the problem? Perhaps one of the areas a statistic that I saw was, you know, about a week
ago, someone came in expert on this and spoke about it a problem that South Africa has, and the
cause of perhaps why our youth Best of the worst in the world. Why our youth score below the rest of
the world? Why are we youth, so unskilled, so unmotivated?
		

			The problem lies with the parents, or the lack of parents. They did a survey where they looked at
countries.
		

			And they looked at how many parents you have in your life. So there are kids that grow up with a mom
and a dad. There are kids that grow up with one Father, one mother, there are kids that grew up with
no parents grew up with, of course, they have parents biologically, but they have no guardians in
terms of parents looking after them. And in a survey of, I think, 50 countries, South Africa is
right at the bottom.
		

			Only $56 into this Think about this. Only 36% of the kids in our country in South Africa, know about
having a mother and a father in the house. Only 36%. About 50% of the kids in South Africa have only
one parent, and the majority would be a single mom, meaning we have a crisis of missing fathers. The
problem if you were to really put your finger on it, other dads last week, we know Youth Day and
Father's Day coincided only as to give a wonderful Hooda about debts. And this is the problem. They
are no good male role models for many, many of our kids, either the father is completely absent,
don't know where he is, or isn't interested. I know where he is, but it doesn't really impact my
		

			life.
		

			It is they he doesn't show a good example from a dean. We do need a perspective.
		

			Maybe Subhanallah if he's the financially emotions are the end we know what the rise of divorce 50%
of marriages don't work out my law protect us. It's so easy.
		

			Easy for fathers to walk away, that they're not involved in kids lives. Now when a child grows up, I
mean, even more scary than that 20% of the kids don't have a mother or father being raised by
Google's grandparents. Dangerous, what do we expect is going to happen? It's a time bomb. It is a
time bomb, we will not give an Allah did not give this country the worst of the lot when he put the
youth in the different countries he gave. So Africa rejects No, our kids are just as smart as just
as able, as the kids in China, America, whatever it might be. But then we take them and we mix them
up. Unfortunately, the problem lies in our parenting, our schooling, leaders, we are at fault here.
		

			And it's not just a financial thing. It's not just a money thing, with much bigger issues to
discuss.
		

			So this is one of the areas that is very, very scary.
		

			Britain did a study, they called it the longest study in the history of Britain, what they would do
is they would take a sample of young kids are born under 200,000 kids, or born the same time, and
they track their lives, rich, poor, different backgrounds, and they track the lives of 20 3040
years, see what thing who became some of them became successful, some failed, some live long, some
died some diseases, and they looked at the lives they try to think, well, if we wanted to put down
what are the key ingredients for success in your life, we take a newborn baby, what things must we
give this child so this child will succeed in life, the number one thing, the number one factor that
		

			will bring about success. This study has proven the longest study in Britain from World War Two
until now they're doing the study 1000s of people they surveyed, the things that make most kids that
are successful, is that they have good parents in their life. That's the number one thing you can
have. You can come from a poor family poverty, poverty, of course is negative. If you come from a
poor family, chances are it'll be very difficult for you to get into a good school difficult to be
University, your cycle of poverty. But you can break that cycle. If you have good a good upbringing
and upbringing means parents will talk about what is a good parent doesn't mean that's the crux of
		

			output. But today, my Joomla ability to use Joomla. But most of the faces here Hamdulillah, a
working people uncle's and most of you are dads, I don't see too many kids here. So for you, for me,
I'm a father as well, it's scary. That my kids, my child, my children might be this in this negative
statistic. drop out of school, substance abuse by law, protect them, Allah protect us.
		

			We can only do so much yes as parents. But by and large, we as a country are failing. So this study
proved that if you bring your children up in a certain way, no matter how many things are going
against them, you can break the cycle of poverty, they can come out of it, your kids can go further.
And they looked at certain things like they see
		

			parents that lead to the kids, the children are five, and they read to them daily, those children in
the 30s had higher qualifications. Think about that, just by reading half an hour a day to our kids
at the age of five. And they said by the age of 10, when in primary school, taking an interest in
the work, but don't do the work for them. But know what they're doing. Let me see your report card.
Have you done your homework just by doing these things? When those kids are 30. Many of them were
successful.
		

			The steps we do now will impact the outcome of our kids long term.
		

			They said For example, one of the key focus is having a constant open dialogue with your kids, pets,
children, it was successful. We asked them how did you get here? Many of the most of the mistakes
are always the odd one out. But the majority of people that are successful, they will tell you we
had a big influence from our parents and many of you Yeah, hamdulillah you've qualified your
professional people. You are above average, the modest budget as you're sitting here, you will all
tell me you had a positive influence in your upbringing from a father, a mother both a pain and
suddenly along the line. You came from a good environment, majority of us, all of us we stand here
		

			with that. And that's what the study is proving.
		

			Now, if the most important factor in a child's upbringing, or child's success is the parents that
raised them, how do we what do we expect when 70% of our kids in this country? Don't have two
parents 70% Is there any reason why it's not it's really not a shock that 50% of these kids will not
go on to amount to much they won't achieve anything.
		

			They they in that lies really the problem. So really parenting is the ingredient for success and we
don't need fancy studies. We don't need scientists to tell us this. We don't need stats essay to
tell us this. A lot of us in the Quran.
		

			We know the story of surah Kahf Nabi Musa and ceram they are on a journey. Now the moose is learning
from either the things he did not know and he meets the French
		

			He meets the people on the boat, he meets the boy whenever you see the kills, different times
different discussion. But the last situation, they come to a city, a town. And these towns people
were really terrible people. I mean, they were bad, they didn't even give them a glass of water to
ambia of Allah to have the closest people to Allah not the same to our enemy pocket. They're asking
just give us a glass of water, a piece of bread. And these people just get lost, don't want to see
babies go go leave our city. And so as they obviously clearly frustrated and angry that they leave
the city and
		

			Islam as he puts up the city, he sees this wall about to collapse. And he starts fixing it. And it
Moosa is really frustrated, he's tired, he's hungry, and he says, passingly Why you can ask these
people some at least asked him for money, you fixing the wall or asking for payment. And so he that
explains why he's doing this. And he says, As for the wall, why I'm fixed, why fix the wall, it
belonged to two orphan boys in the city. And there was beneath it, a treasure for them. Under this
wall is some money that can be left banks. So you have to hide your money under this wall, this
money. And the father was a good man.
		

			The father was a righteous man, sorry, the father was sorry, he was a good man. So your Lord
intended that they should reach when they become mature, that they should extract the stranger as a
mercy from your Lord. Yeah, we see Subhan Allah.
		

			Allah is saying, the reason why he is bringing financial success to these kids is because they had a
good father, the father, they are orphans, meaning the father died. The father wasn't really in
their life, even before you know, the whole life. He died early. But he was a good man, you may do
all for them. In fact, it just shows you the kind of man he was, he puts a treasure aside for my
kids one day, I can't be the he's thought about when they grow up, I want to leave something for
them. This was a good dad. And so Allah says, I will look after these children alive standing you
and me that if we want success in our kid's life, we should be the first step comes from us. Because
		

			Allah has given us kids that are pure, that are sinless, that have full potential that are clean
slate, yet we are the problems. And similarly, anyone here that is successful or hungry is You've
worked hard. Anyone here that has move forward in life, if you don't realize it, many times the
success in our life isn't because of us. Because we had a good father or mother. They maybe couldn't
help us with our studies. They couldn't sit with books, we maybe we further them academically, but
they do is are the things that got us through wasn't our smarts wasn't us sitting there doing exams
or working hard in the world in my office.
		

			The financial blessings in these kids life came because they had a pious good father. So Allah is
saying, one of the ingredients for success in the kids is through the parents. And the opposite is
true as well. But if the parents fail, that failure has a knock on effect on kids to come. It has a
knock on effect. And of course, parents will win. That's what Allah says as soon. As she has seen
said last week, Allah says to you and me, especially the mean, your kids are fitna. For us, we have
a special questioning on piano. If you have all your ducks in a row with terms of your personal
life, if you fail your kids, those kids will testify against you and me and that FTM the failures
		

			will be blamed on us. And some people might be legitimate, we have to answer we will be what did we
do? So we in South Africa have a problem with dads, really, the problem lies with our dads, and I
get calls for Hannah so many calls. Sisters, Chef, my husband has left me Are we all good luck, it's
inevitable, it happens. I can't do anything about it. But now that he's gone, he's completely absent
from a financial aspect, let alone the emotional aspect in the kid's life. You can divorce your
wife, you can divorce your English, you can divorce your children. And in fact that financial
responsibility of your children will remain your financial responsibility until they're old enough
		

			to care for themselves. Your daughter's for example, until she gets married. She will be you're
financially responsible, even if the kids don't speak to you anymore. Even if the kids don't do they
duty towards you as a parent, it's an amount of responsibility. You don't pay the rent, you don't
pay the electricity. You don't pay your bills. When you feel like it. You pay it because you have to
do it. And that's behind the law. So many debts are absent and it's a financial but that's the easy
part. Being involved in the kids lives being physically present. growing them, nurturing them
teaching them that is sadly sadly very absent. I look at the young men sadly
		

			it's very sad for me when you speak to 18 1920 year olds and you ask them because they want to get
married Mashallah fantastic. Tell me about your goals, your ambitions, your dreams. don't have
anything really. We'll see.
		

			To see how it goes, no dreams, no ambitions. We are our main. We are the main you go to Islamic
clauses even secular classes you find the girls are studious studying working on is there are
exceptions we have Mashallah very good good youngsters, but they are the minority. We are our main.
We are the young men of this map of this nation. So it's a it's a bad, you know, situation and the
numbers yesterday we saw the president confirmed it. It confirms statistic after statistic. The
problem lies in our main
		

			we have to step up and it's time bombs vanilla, it's getting worse. What will that generation be the
generation that didn't grow up with a father or mother doesn't have any education? What are you
alter your options when you at the age of 3035 you married you have your own kids now? What's going
to happen? It's going to become worse in the next generation. So that responsibility is very, very
big. And this is confirmed in a Hadith of the Prophet Moses is agreed upon by Bukhari Muslim the
Prophet says every child is born in the state of fitrah meaning Allah has given each and every one
of us a pie a pure child. There are no rejects. No rejects.
		

			These children came from Allah from his side perfect.
		

			But the parents process yo yo we Danny made them Jews, Christians, fire worshippers Muslims made
them studious made them lazy. Yes, of course, everyone ultimately will take their own sins. But the
parents had a major influence the prophecy As parents, we are the ones that have a major influence
in how our kids turn out. So that responsibility is real, and more so on deaths. So how do we be a
great parent? That's the question and what guidance Do we have so long as you gave some guidances
and I want to take in Charles opportunity to mention I was while I was doing the Office of the work
yesterday, managers Yes, I have to say after work yesterday, one of my colleagues is the only one in
		

			the Quran that we can really look up as a great dad and he's a super dad in the Quran. We'll talk
about inshallah, what made him a super dad, so only as he mentioned last week, one of the things if
you look at the MBR the Olia Allah confirms this in the Quran as well, that one of the things good
parents do is they make Dr. Khan constantly for the kids for the family, even before they are born,
you find a brownie making dua is only some use old man when he got an obese value, but he's making
the art from basically from when he's married. Maybe zecharia is standing in a robe. All he's asking
for is a good pious child. They're making the art before they're born even.
		

			Allah mentioned we did save this from the Ivangorod man. The special people the special servants of
Allah one category of them is the ones that was what do they do? They make a dua all they do is they
make this do out what do they do? But I've been I have been an admin as well Gina. Gina kurata,
angiogenin Tina mama many they consistently continuously daily, every seller that make this to
Allah, late Mr. Grant me from my family, my wives, my husband's if you're the wife, and my children
to be the coolness of my eyes, and let us be leaders in meaning. It isn't just be good people It has
been of the best people that make this continuously. You can make this to our you know, it's a good
		

			time. Try to I speak to myself as inculcate this make this to all of the before you said Solomonic
masala make this to a higher it's time to make dua make this do it live everyone just try making
this door. Yeah, Allah lit our kids, my wife, my children in my family, be the coolest may they be
good in this dunya and after basic this will be asked, is thicker also in this corner of the iron.
One of the Deaf seeds of this
		

			means those The eyes are fixed on the coolness of the eyes also means that they not only bring me
happiness, it means I'm always watching over them, let me always be in their life with me always be
present in their life. And if Allah says He rewards them for the suffering, why suffer? What does
this got to do with suffer? Meaning it's a constant, a job of a dad and a mom. There's no live
public holidays, no sick days, even vanilla, especially for the moms that no sick days. When you're
sick, you still on the job. It requires patience, you have a delivery time you can set a switch off
as a dad, you know, I just needed time, not to think not to worry not to be involved. Allah says
		

			that's why he wants you to be patient, because you're constantly involved in the upbringing of these
children. So make dua before you have kids make dua for those of you who are not married. Those of
you who are you know looking to have kids make dua already now, Allah blessed me with pious kids
when you have kids of course we have to and of course continue as they grow up no matter how old
they are. They do have the pain is always Mr. Jeff monessen gave examples of very excellent example.
There are six today's manohara How did you become the amount of hero So should I became the Imam
because I was a very naughty child. What do you mean? Very, very naughty and every time I'm
		

			would be frustrated with me she would say, You're so naughty, I'll make you the amount of harm one
day. And she used to make dua for every time he was naughty hurt you, if we will be the amount of
money you'll be the means on YouTube, you can check it Subhanallah if if a child is very naughty,
make a good dog every time they do something naughty. That is the reason why we said and this comes
we know it goes without saying lead by example, kids will follow in our footsteps. If we want our
kids, we look at our kids and we're not happy with who they are. From a dean perspective, from a
dunya perspective, they're not reading enough. They're not, you know, in the masjid enough, it
		

			begins with us, begins with us everything we want in our kids, we need to start doing it and maybe
Subhanallah it's out of our comfort zone. We want that. So we need to lead we want them to be
involved in certain things, we need to get involved the opinions behind a lot of opportunity, for
example,
		

			but they want their kids to recite Quran and admire those dads who themselves they will come with
the kids and say, just as you started reciting Quran, Allah what I'm also going to decide with the
manquillo head, we will learn together.
		

			There was a dead from in Australia from Pakistan. He his kids were not in like, you know, the, you
know, being in a vicious cycle moving away from Islam. So he said, Let us learn. It's pointless me
telling you learn, listen to all these bayanzurkh lectures, let us read and study the Quran together
and discuss it together. And he said, at the end of the journey, yes, he's benefited. But then they
also obviously Alhamdulillah came back towards him. He said, make a deal with me, I will support you
in whatever you want. But let us go through this journey together. You realize it's not something as
a parent, I can tell you do this, and I don't fulfill that. Announcements, okay.
		

			Right, so we're talking about leading by example. And lead with affection and love. Allah describes
this to the ambia. He tells the MBR that when you look after you guide guide with love first, your
kids need to know you love them. And you know what's amazing about love. Now we understand this with
other relationships. You know, you can tell your wife that you get and obviously when you get
married, you say this,
		

			sweetie, I love you. And I'm not going to say this again, when this if it changes I will let you
know for now that's the default. I don't need to tell you every day as I'm going to work. In fact,
even Allah subhanaw taala we cannot tell Allah, that we we worship you, we love you. And when that
changes, I will let you know No, we have to express that love daily five times a day. express that a
man because y'all I believe in you. And that's it. No, you need to express that continuously you
need to show it continuously. And this vinyl is a vital requirement. We have scientific studies that
prove this now. Now in the past, you might have dads that never said I love you to anyone but not
		

			even to maybe to the mom, I love you mommy, but never to the wife, the kids, they would never hear
these things because that's the dad you know, later and that's a dad that's pleasing the dads that
have never even they but today we know that it is vital for the success of an individual to feel to
know to be shown the love of the parents and the professor's alum showed the so many times kissing
his his grandkids his own kids, you know that are be so solemn, a few months before he died. Now
he's in his 60s, Fatima, his baby his daughter, she's in such a big girl big lady, and I should say
is the province of social agencies. Fatima comes into the house and the professor gets up from his
		

			chair and he says come my duty like a blanket younger. Can you sit here? Is that
		

			the kind of way he expresses his love to his kids will the law Hadeeth so many hobbies than a
businessman was making scheduled for so long. Once a hobby says I got up and look at what's going
on. Why is the vision taking so long to shoot and I saw Hassan is back riding him riding and I was
like oh, this is fun. sada is one of it that my sunblock got on my back panel, I don't know, I throw
him off and you get upset with me. We are with vanilla. And when he said to the Sahaba I didn't want
to disturb Hudson's play Hudson was playing on my back and I wanted him to finish playing and then I
gotta shut up for now showing that level of love. Do we do that we don't do it enough. Now, again,
		

			you we're gonna have to give our kids bad news. Sometimes we're going to tell him the other things
that they can't do. They don't want things that are not nice. As leaders, as teachers, as managers,
as whatever we are. We obviously lead this is our understanding of leadership. You lead with love, I
care about you, I want what's best for you. And then when I tell you the things you don't want to
hear, you know, it's coming from a place of love. It will not work. Allah says to the promises of
them.
		

			It is by the mercy of Allah, that you are affectionate to them. But if you were fundamentally if you
were stern apart, they would have left you ever Buckaroo would have left you they wouldn't have
listened to what you said. It must come from a place of love. And they kids our kids should be safe
and secure in that I should say is when all when Allah wills good for the members of a household
when Allah wants good for the family. He instills in them affection that they are good to one
another and again, he
		

			begins with the debts begins with the debts. So we're talking about the super debt of the Quran. And
the super debt of the Quran is the man that you hear so many times the Father, the children of
Israel, in the children of Israel in Israel in the country in the Middle East, Israel is nebbia
hooba. Nabil Abu salam, the grandson of Nabil Brahim, father in abuse of
		

			the MBR. When Allah speaks about them, he speaks about the challenges with the people. He speaks
about the teaching Tao NaVi Ebrahim Avenue. When Allah speaks about NaVi Yaqoob, you almost don't
see an abbey, you see a father, you just see a dead speaking to his kids. And Allah subhanho wa
Taala is showing from this man, what it means to be a great debt, and so much so that all the ambia
they didn't say the children of Ibrahim, the offspring of his heart, this is the offspring of all of
them. bunnies are ill, we are the sons of Israel of Yaqoob because he's a super dead and we don't
you know, Allah subhanaw taala doesn't tell us a list of lessons, you need to extract it yet and
		

			they and we look at his dialogue with his sons. So of the things that mean we said last week, we add
on to those lessons. Number one, be present. The first thing we have no idea who is talking to his
son use of young boy and abusive says, Call the use of flee or be here at all, my dear father now as
a young boy, I saw in my dream I saw in my sleep 10 Ashura, coca 11 stars and the moon and I saw the
making to do to me, you can see it's the dialogue of a child, I showed him making sure I saw them,
you know, he's almost stumbling over his words. And now he will be sitting and listening. He's got
12 other sons, we don't know if he's got 12 sons in total, with nominee daughters. How many wives is
		

			an abbey of Allah is teaching, he's got all these. He's a busy man busier than you and me, well, ah,
he's busier than you and me. But he's listening to his young, six, seven year old child, and this
child is telling my dreams. Now the fact that this child felt so open and confident to speak about
his dreams to his father.
		

			And he felt so in the first person want to tell his daddy, it's something special? Because do our
kids do that with us? Do they feel open to speak about the dreams? The fears, the hopes, the
desires? The problems? Do they feel confident enough? You see, the first thing that comes he's a bit
disturbed by the dream, he goes to his dad's. So do we have regular conversations that study that
Britain did the longest study? They said, Of the six factors, make, you know conversation time
everyday with your kids, every child have like 15 minutes, have a chat with him. But telling them
what to do what not to do not shouting at them. Just what you hear what's on their mind. Make time
		

			for them to read and make time to have a conversation with them. So have regular conversations. And
if you can't answer these questions, what are your kids interested in? What are they watching? Who
are the Friends of into sports? Are they into games? What is the interest? What are the goals? He's
talking about goals and dreams? Like this is an actual dream? What about the dreams in the future?
If we don't know that we don't have a relationship with our kids. You see nebbia who is present. He
knows all of his kids. And you will come in to say something to abusive about your brothers. Don't
say this to your brothers, because he knew them as well. He had an intimate relationship with all of
		

			them. When the vehicle makes you feel very special, and every parent needs to make every child and
here's some handler you have some kids that do well, naturally. You have kids that vanilla at 30
years old gonna be worried Are they still gonna be at home playing games, it's reality, but each one
needs to be made made to feel special. That's your job as a parent, if we give up on our kids as
parents, then the world is going to be a much more harsher place to them. Yes, we can't also
sugarcoat reality, just as much as we give the medicine we need to also advise and make them feel
special. abeokuta is basically the system that we use, that this is how Allah has chosen you have
		

			the seat of this is that we are saying it that Allah has chosen you is made us special meaning
you'll be an AVI and through you Allah is going to favor you and also entire family.
		

			As he had favored NaVi Brahim before you are a special young boy. At seven years old. Now we will be
saying you will grow up to be a great man. And we know besides being an Abbe number, you will grow
up to save millions of lives, becomes an accountant basically finance the finance minister of Egypt
and through his policies. He has the confidence to say he's the king of Egypt while he's in jail. He
says I can do the job better than anyone else. Without praising me I can I know what I'm doing and
he saves an entire civilization. He had that confidence from his dad his dad told him as a young boy
you will grow up to be someone great. And you will be in great honor to this family with many great
		

			people like your grandfather Ibrahim, you will be like him. Now Subhanallah nothing wrong to say
these things to our kids. Nothing wrong with them. We do this and you would give them make it every
Sahabi felt I was the special Sahabi we know that famous had eaten last would you love the most must
be me, because everyone felt number one. So every child should
		

			I am, I am daddy's favorite. And I am the special one, everyone should feel that way. And they
should work towards it. Then, of course, it's not just about love, and he needs to be sound advice.
There needs to be some guidance. You know, we've been in life, we've had 3040 years of experience
over them, we've seen it, we know what life is like. And therefore our job is to impart that wisdom
as the NBA, we're only doing the work of the NBA with our kids, we impart that guidance. So here we
see an example of this in abeokuta.
		

			Now, we are coupe sons, 11 of them who 10 of them, they are going to Egypt. And they need to and
they going to be in a sort of a different difficulty. Now, these are big guys, they are like in the
30s 40s. They are big men, they've already they have children. And he already has a father, he tells
them, oh my sons don't enter the city from one gate, but in different different gates. Why I don't
want you a gang of 10 young men walking into a city might attract negative attention, they might
already the police might ask you what's happening, you know, so he says, Don't make a spectacle of
yourself go from different Gates is really is giving them even as old as they are. He's already
		

			giving them wisdom. He's advising them always, you know, sometimes we should listen to the advice of
our grandmothers, our fathers, you know, they might not know what it is in a corporate world or, you
know, they never work in these kind of environments, but swallow these wisdom in that advice. Now to
the kids of Yahoo, they thought that is madness. 10 of us we all know each go to the front gate,
this means nothing. And Allah says in the next ayah nebbia Cooper's given great wisdom, he knew what
he understood things that you don't understand. You understood people. So As parents, we give advice
doesn't mean they can take that they will always take the advice but we always give them look at
		

			this hadith the Prophet says this is the base blessing or the base gift a father can give his
children is to teach them good manners.
		

			You take away one half of this whole lecture, take this Heidi,
		

			you cannot give your kids good manners. If you don't have it. You cannot ask your kids to speak
nicely to their friends. When you're shouting at the mother.
		

			You can't ask your kids to be punctual on salah and you neglect to be honest and you dishonest in
your business can't happen to be diligent in class. When you don't work properly at work. Respect
your teachers when you don't respect the people around you. They will learn from what they see.
Think this Heidi, our kids are for the most part a reflection of us.
		

			Number seven, Nana via coops kids, they missed up time and time again. Many, many times. In fact,
there's you know, they through an abusive Noel. Last time he trusted him to do something, he gave
them the call, they catch the call that he gave him the night out, they messed up. Now, they said
we've changed, you want to be better. And we may see leaders go once again, give us another
opportunity now via coop fields. I'm not I'm not comfortable. But they insisted. And so he says
Fine, I'll trust you. But he said, Never what I send with you, your brother, your younger brother
until you give me a suape says sumava Allah swear by Allah, that you will bring him back to me,
		

			promise me you'll be in by 10 o'clock. Promise me if I give you the car, you're not going to speed
promised me if you go to your friend's house, you'll be the we have to give, we have to give a bit
of leeway. Also, we have to give them a chance to grow up. And if they say so even though I said
these kids, they lost one brother already who gave him use, they lost him. Now they say give me the
next brother years have passed by 20 years or so. We are not we promised we're going to be good this
time. And he trusted him. He gave him a second chance. Part of the training. Some parents are overly
controlling. And so behind Allah, even when they get married, you want to control those sons. Tell
		

			them how they should be a part of you know, you raise them up to let them go. Let them go prepare
them to the best of your ability, then you need to give them the trust to go. Some of you have young
kids, some of you have teenage kids. I see some people say like nodding yes. Because, you know,
obviously if it's a five year old child, don't give them that, you know, you know your kids where
they are in life, not all kids. So this applies for different kids, these kids were old now this
will be children or maybe they messed up. But are they coming to the dead give us an opportunity.
Part of us is part of that Navy. So saddam had this ability in terms of leadership, he would appoint
		

			young leaders, young Sahaba give them very, very, very complicated thoughts because he believed in
them. And yes, they will mess up. But how are they going to learn? How are they going to learn
otherwise? And when they mess up? Because again, these kids so they had one brother, they must lost
him a second brother, they lost him again. So they've messed up. And now they come to the dead and
they say our father is still feeling lubaina ask Allah to forgive us and have mercy on us. Indeed we
have we were wrong. We committed sin. And so he said, I will ask Allah for you from my lord
forgiveness, in ease of forgiving, Most Merciful.
		

			Now many of you I don't know your relationship with your dad or your kids. When you do something
wrong. Perhaps the last person you want to inform you that
		

			you would rather tell everyone, anyone, the police even
		

			Let your dad know, when your kids might be the same spatola they would be in the biggest crisis of
their life. dangerous stuff. But this is so long as my parents don't know, they might be in an over
the head, be in a situation they can't control, but they won't pick up the phone and call the
parents, voila. They're our kids, you know, and they will mess up, you will mess up, I will mess up
every personal lease up, they must know that at the end of the day, mom and dad have our backs. Yes,
they, they will fix it, we might get it, you might get some same thing afterwards. But they're going
to first save us from the situation when I'm drowning. I can go to them said I know people very
		

			close that close to me. But I mean, people that take the lives commit suicide because life became
too much. They'd never courage to speak to their own parents.
		

			That relationship is built up from years, where they can pick up the phone and say relationships,
something's wrong, job, there's something wrong. Whatever big problems in life date, I have a
problem. I can pick up the phone and speak to my my parents, if you don't have that is a big, big
loss in life. And throughout your life. Many of you are older than me, you know, having a parent
even if it's 60 7080, to pick up the phone and just speak to them, even though they can't do much.
Besides, it just helps knowing that they're the I've got your back now via cube as I said, these
kids were not. I mean, none of you kids are blessed to have the siblings have none of your kids did
		

			that. They lost two of the brothers and this the two brothers, these kids lost two of the brothers
and yet they still go to the via coop and say daddy make dua for us. We made we made a mistake. They
hurt him the most. And he said I will make dua for you. I'll be there for you. I will stand between
you and Allah being allowed to forgive you. They knew the dead was on the side. And when things are
down and bad, your parents should always be there and we should always give hope. So when things
were so bad for them, now be consistent. Oh my sons. Even though you've lost two brothers go out and
look for them. Ask about Yousuf and his brother and don't ever display in relief from Allah. Don't
		

			ever lose hope in Allah subhana wa tada when life is bad, he's telling his kids when you are down
you hit rock bottom. The dad tells his sons never lose hope in Allah. It is only Larry assuming
rohilla elanco McAfee only to be only a person who has no Eman losers hoping Allah is telling them
don't ever give up and be who is the one hurting the most because his sons and he's telling them
Don't lose hope keep going in life. But how bad things are, your parents will always be there for
you. And they lost sleep. And this is the point no matter how
		

			frustrating it is how tiring it is. I know sometimes we just want some those of us who have young
kids, just you know get into the toilet is like a break from from the kids. You know, you can never
we can never stop worrying and showing our key and concern for them on his deathbed. On his deathbed
a lot of text maybe a coupe right towards the end he's dying he's about to eat a lot.
		

			When you die all you can think about this and I've seen I've seen myself at is this bit Allah says
Will you they will never be who was about to die. And what did he say? Ask his sons What are you
going to worship off to me? When I go Who will you worship and they said we will worship your Lord
the one load the load of our forefathers Ibrahim in his mind and his heart right until he's in these
are worried about molecule note. He's not worried about who's worried about these things, gentlemen
to meet Allah, but he's worried more my kids what's gonna happen to you after I'm gone? there'll be
people one of them is gonna be a VMB of Allah and he still sees them as small children. Tell me my
		

			boys What are you gonna worship after me? We cannot stop caring and showing okay and concern. Even
if they don't listen, even if they don't. We can only give advice when the younger years we can have
more control. We may get older we can just give advice, give love, give support eviction. Give a
good example and just keep making dos I asked Allah to bless you and me, our kids, your kids, my
kids melago grow them up to be the coolness of our eyes, and to be in the key and the love of Allah.
May Allah grant our youth all the youth of this country to be people that are special that will lead
this country in this world forward. When we go we live long and see our kids become truly leaders of
		

			goodness, that we can be proud that parental it's good that the good parent parental pride. Our kids
have something special because they are special. Allah help us all of us. I mean, quick notices
birthday. As you Fatima, her food wife of letter G has sent her food we'll be celebrating her 96
birthday Mashallah. On the 23rd of June, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to to grant * Fatima over
strengthen good health. May Allah grant many many more years and Allah subhanaw taala accepted to us
and bless her and her family I mean, then I must apologize to my class two weeks in a row I've
missed my class both
		

			I didn't realize that we had we had there was a traffic issue. So but inshallah Monday six o'clock
our class will resume in sha Allah and we've sold work on the back to basics when the WhatsApp goes
out to go out inshallah chicken so much salaam aleikum rural America.