Muhammad West – What you should know about your parents

			How are they gonna shoot on the road? James Miller man Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa
Salatu was Salam ala COVID Mursaleen. So you know Muhammad and while Ernie he was a big main, my
beloved brothers and sisters Sadat, Malik and rahmatullahi wa barakato
		

			Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen always it will begin with the praise of Allah and the shadow Allah
Allah Allah Allah we testify that there is none worthy of worship besides Allah subhana data, and we
send our love greetings, salutations and beloved Debbie Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, to his
pious, his pure family to his companions and all those who follow his sunnah until the end of time.
May Allah subhanaw taala bless us to be amongst them. I mean, I mean when hamdulillah Al
Hamdulillah. Last week, we spoke about parenting. And we said that many times, we find that the
relationship between the parent and the child has broken down to such an extent Allah mentions the
		

			either way the parents are making dua to Allah, Allah use the term is the author that as if though
they are dying of desperation making dua Allah helped me with my child, I don't know what to do. I
don't know what to do with my son or my daughter, who is this person? And they say to their child, I
mean, like, well, to you, Daniel, why don't you believe in Allah? Why won't you listen to what we're
saying that this is good for you. And so last week, we spoke about before we talked to the kids
today, Inshallah, we're going to talk to our kids, we talk to the parents, because we are the
adults, we need to be mature, how best do we parent our kids when they become adults. And that's a
		

			difficult thing. When they were young, and they were babies, they did whatever we said, you know,
now when they become become older, and they are individuals, and they have their own minds, we have
to pay them as we have to educate them, like we talk to adults. And we spoke about that last week
when Hamdulillah. But at the same time, a relationship goes both ways. As the parent must and the
parent always is the one that extends the first hand, we are always the more mature ones, the
children will also have to bring the pot. When I say children, whether you're a teenager, whether
you are in your part in primary school, whether you are your 80s, you will always be a child to your
		

			parents, and your spatula when I go when I do my research, I like to look at, you know, not only
Islamic sources, I go to like TED Talks and all those things. And you will find very, very little
information in the western world about being loving your parents, being respectful to your parents.
You know, when I search these things, the first thing you get how your parents have messed you up,
how your parents who change for you, you very seldomly find how you should love your parents. And
this is a very this something is one of the foundations of Islam,
		

			you will find some things are what I want us to know about our parents. Number one, your parents
will never, ever stop caring about you worrying about you. And they there is no person on earth that
will love you unconditionally, as your mother and your father, your the your romantic partner,
eventually, she or he will get fed up with you if you have certain character and they will leave
you, your children will leave you but your parents will never abandon you. It's very, very sad. You
know, we have Imams who go to the prisons. And they'll say after the gangsters and the friends all
abandon the colleague that is in jail, you'd find that old mummy coming every week to kick up on her
		

			son. Now when everybody left that child, only the mother is still the holding on, holding on. So you
will not find anyone on this earth that will love you and care for you. And will cry for you like
your parents will. And the shows in the Quran. Allah speaks about a moment I'm calling to Shuhada
it's harder Jacoba law to Allah says you are not there at the moment when there be yaku when he was
dying, he's dying. Subhanallah he's going to meet Allah, the most difficult moment in your life. And
look what he says. He says it called the Liberty he metabolome embody. He's not worried about
himself. He says my sons that were Yusuf and his other sons of Asus, my boys, what are you going to
		

			worship after I'm gone? He's still worried about his kids. When I'm here, I could still guide you
now I'm going to go, my biggest worry isn't Kiama and Allah my biggest worry is you guys. What are
you going to worship after me called who they said, We're going to worship your Lord. And the Lord
of your father Ibrahim and his Merino is hockey law and Wahida the one true Lord, we're not going to
know who Muslim and we are Muslims. And that gave him comfort when hamdulillah and really as
parents, yes, we want the best for our kids. We want them to be the best academically, we want them
to be healthy. We want them to excel in everything, but ultimately, so long as they are Muslims
		

			while Hamdulillah we will take that Alhamdulillah so long as they live on Islam and they die on Eman
Al Hamdulillah. It doesn't matter what happened in the dunya that is what happened. That is what
counts that is what counts. So up until parents this the sad news is up until the moment we die. We
will not we will not stop worrying about our kids no matter how old they are, no matter what they
you know have in the Life will always worry it's a burden way a love which Allah has placed in our
hearts until the day until the day we pass away until piano and that is why Allah subhanaw taala
		

			He says to us, when He commands us about instruct us. He says Wirkkala rabuka. Allah says the things
I have made compulsory, Allah taboo. Illa er, number one that you worship Me alone will be rewarded
at Asana. And for your parents, you give them a son the best. When you talk to them, you only speak
to them in the best way. When you disagree with him. You can't agree all the time you disagree in
the best possible way. Anything you give to your parents is the best. Why?
		

			Why is Allah put paid and second only to him, because Allah is the one that loves you the most the
case for you the most. And so you first your first allegiances to him, and then to your parents.
There's nobody that will love you and care for you as much as your parents of Allah subhanaw taala
and what's beautiful in this ayah Allah is not saying your Muslim parents, Allah is saying any
parents if you are evil, for example, even a Christian mother or father, even that mother and father
that's not loving, aquatic life, that period humans give the best possible treatment. And then Allah
goes into detail in this ayah and he says he may have novena indica if one of them or both of them
		

			becomes old. Now why does Allah mentioned this? Because it's just human nature. When our parents
when people become 6070, in that retirement age, they become difficult. It's normal, they become
brittle, they become moody they they become demanding. So Allah says if your parents you are gifted
with parents in old age, Allah says if you are blessed with that, but as often so don't say a word
of off don't show any displeasure to them. What are 10 her humor and don't repel them? Don't make
them feel like you are pushing them away. Now Allah specifically mentions when they're old, they're
not thinking right? They see me senile, maybe 100% See now at that point, you must disobey them or
		

			disrespect them. Now what about when they are in their prime and they are guiding you and giving you
good advice? How they must you treat them? But cool, but if you speak to us since we're Kula Houma,
colon Karima whenever you speak to them, speak to them with honor, speak to them with dignity, that
Manzi that Allah has given them that status Allah has given them over you must always be maintained,
you will always be a baby compared to them. And subhanAllah it's so beautiful that you find people
hamdulillah they are, wherever they are CEOs, very sophisticated, wealthy people, but when they come
to speak to their mom or their dad, they still lower themselves, out of humility for the parents.
		

			It's a beautiful, beautiful thing. And yet, Allah says, Wofford Lahoma Jana has dually and lower
your wings lower down the wings of Rama and humility. So Allah says, Whenever you are in front of
them, you be the small one. Even if mommy's talking a lot of things which you don't want to hear,
even if she's nagging and going on and on and on and saying the same thing that you've heard for the
last 50 years. You lower down that wing of respect and humility will call and say to Allah make dua
for them. Or Robin ham, Huma Kamara Bayani Sahira, oh Allah have mercy on them, because surely that
they were merciful to me when I was young, when I cried and screamed and weighed myself and dirty
		

			myself. They swore to me without any complaint. And so now this is my opportunity or Allah, to also
show my humility towards them. And so remember, and many times you know, it's not an eat some people
that handle if you're blessed with an easy relationship with your parents, it's a blessing when
hamdulillah it's not the case in every household, some households, the friction between parent and
child, the personality clashes. It's just how Allah created the parent and the child. Sometimes the
parents are difficult. Sometimes the parents are irrational. And you can always disagree on a
principle, but with respect and with love, with respect with love and dignity, your parents should
		

			never feel like you are disrespecting them. And that is what Allah requires of us. And this is the
one relationship you know, we it's not a two way street. Unfortunately, Allah requires of us to
always give respect to our parents, even if they don't give us respect in return, not for only the
sake but for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala.
		

			Now dermatomes demean many times the problems that we find in our life, the problems that we find in
our business, in our health, in other areas of our life is because of a problem in one of our
relationships. The Prophet SAW Salem says fun loving, scary Hadith, he says to sins, which Allah
does not hesitate which ALLAH is quick to punish in the dunya. Allah causes you misfortune in the
dunya is a transgressor a tyrant, someone who causes corruption in the dunya and someone who
disrespects his parents. This may be span like thinking, why am I not getting that promotion? why
things are going right in my life. Why are things not moving in the positive direction? It's because
		

			your mom is crying because of your treatment of your dad is lying up at work, lying up at night said
because of you span Allah, how then can you do as we answered, how then can Allah put Rama and
Baraka in your life when your parents are miserable because of you and Subhan Allah as we know, all
of us who have kids
		

			Well, no, there is no pain. There is no pain that is more painful than knowing our children and are
not leading a life that we are happy with. That brings us the stress, we can take any pain, but not
something which is wrong with our kids. There'll be so Selim says, Should I not inform you of a
cupboard cupboard? So you have minuses, and you have major sins. Then he says the biggest of the
major sins, the biggest of the big, the worst of the worst. He says, number one to come achieve what
Allah that's the worst of the worst. And then second, to disrespect your parents, to insult your
parents to disobey your parents plan. Allah is worse in the sight of Allah, when many, many sins
		

			that we take is worse than hammer worse than those kinds of things which we take as I wouldn't be
law, but to say to hurt our parents, is something great in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala
		

			that these are Salam says in a hadith, he is doomed he's doomed. He's doomed three times. May such a
person be doomed to Janam maybe Doom to Jana may Doom to jahannam is harvested which person and then
he says the man the person that son the daughter, who gets one or both of his parents in old age
during his lifetime, but he can't enter Jannah he doesn't get the opportunity Jana. So what that
means was telling you, if you have a mum or dad, who is now retired, you are in your prime and they
now towards you know, the letter age of their life. You have a golden ticket from ALLAH SubhanA wa
Tada, you have a Golden Pass to intergender through them. Just make them happy. And Allah the
		

			parents, the happiness is through your happiness, if you're doing well, and things are going good in
your life, that's enough for them to be happy. Your promotion makes them happier than you. Your
happiness in your marriage makes them happier. And the difficulties in your life makes them unhappy.
So we're going to be some says if you get your parents in old age, that is a gift Allah has given
you that you can attain your Janay easily go Jana is lying the Just don't hurt them. And so the one
who is unable to get Allah's mercy through them, that really he's doomed. It doesn't matter how much
the hatchet you're going to make. Now, it doesn't matter how much faster your charity you're going
		

			to make. That was your Jana. So Subhan Allah may Allah grant us, our parents to be in, get them in
the old age, and grant us to have the patience and to take this opportunity to get Allah's
blessings. I mean, as Paula just asked anyone here, who doesn't have the parents in old age who lost
both his parents are happy and it's a blessing that can never come back. Now there are many
blessings that go and Allah brings you back you lose money today, Allah gives you tomorrow health,
what even children's Parliament you know, Allah quantity will only depress it the same one, but you
can get more children, which will never get a second mother or second father. If that blessing is
		

			gone, it's gone forever. And so any one of us who still has one or two of our parents, and
hamdullah, what a blessing that is from Allah subhanaw taala. And for those whose parents have
passed away, remember, you can still continue to show your honor to them and your love to them by
doing good deeds in the dunya and will reach them and what a wonderful gift you in the cupboard. And
you realize my son, my daughter is thinking of me, they've made some football and they've given some
charity and it reaches them What joy it will bring them in the cupboard. Subhanallah
		

			many of us we look for success in our life, in our businesses in our in our kids, we don't realize
the power of the dua of our parents. The success that we need, what is usually required is that
extra to offer all payments, then at least one says there are three to us that Allah never ever
rejects, that Allah never turns away, the dua of adjust leader for his people, the dua of the
oppressed against the oppressor, and the dua of a parent for his or her child's panela. Whatever
success we have undoubtably whatever exams we pass whatever it is, we know that there was a mum or
grandmother or father, that would make dua for us, that would make dua for wellbeing, and we see the
		

			fruits in our life SubhanAllah. And so, yes, as we get older, you know, we move from kids to
teenagers, we want to assert our independence, we want to have our own points of view, we want to be
respected, it's normal, it's part of human life, and you have sort of a leeway in your teenage
years, you're not thinking straight. Once you've moved from the teenage years, and you're an adult
now, you need to realize you need to realize who your parents are, and the power that they have,
that Allah has given them, the authority and the respect that you need to give them span Allah, and
how much they do us and they happiness impacts you. If you're not even doing it for your parents,
		

			for the sake of Allah, do it for your own sake, bring that Baraka in your own life through the
happiness.
		

			Then avviso salaam sees this hadith, the pleasure of Allah lies in the pleasure of your parents, and
the anger of Allah lies in the displeasure of your parents. panela.
		

			He didn't say that if your parents are right and wrong, he made it basic. Make your mom and dad
happy. And don't make them angry, doesn't mean you have to accept everything they say. Especially if
they make a mistake. No parent is perfect. But do your best to make them happy and Allah will give
you His pleasure. And if you are hurting your parents or
		

			There are many parents that are hurting because of the kids. They know that Allah subhanaw taala is
not pleased with his partner, may Allah protect us. A man comes to the visa Salam. And he says Ya
rasool Allah, I have lived my parents I came all the way from Yemen, the old I've lived them so that
I can fight with you in Jihad and I want to die as a shaheed. And then he even thought that to show
his zeal and his love for Allah. He said, I even lifted while they were crying for me to stay, but I
left him for you sake. So there'll be so seldom said,
		

			why go back to them, go back to them and make them laugh, like you've made him cry, bring joy to
them as you've made Pozzato to them. That is your Jihad that is better for you than coming all the
way here and fighting with me with Rasulullah saw Salem go and spend time with him. It's better than
to spend time with an abuser Salem now ask you, if we knew that the Narcissus Allah you know he was
alive and he was living in Medina how many of us will say we leave Cape Town when Makhija to Medina
and then I'll be some tells you why you coming here. The Baraka isn't here with me. It's with your
mom the Buka go back to her Subhan Allah, Allahu Akbar.
		

			Save yourself from Jahannam Subhan Allah we know of this hadith which gives us great hope.
		

			All of us have committed sin. Some of us committed major sins. We have a lifetime that is so
problematic. And it becomes like a date upon us that you think how can I get out of this? Out of
this misery? A man comes to even Abbas Raja lOn. And he said that I have in one Hadith he says I
have fornicating I've drank wine, another Hadith Pinilla within the Hadith. He says that I had a
fiance while I proposed to a lady and she rejected my proposal. So I murdered her. And I feel bad. I
killed her. What can I do? To get ECFR? What must I do? Give me a dua give me some how much donation
must make for Allah to forgive me. And so he asked him even above syptoms Hobbes's are your parents
		

			still alive? So he said yes, my mother is still alive. And so he then said to the man, go and serve
her because Allah he I don't know of any deed beta that cleanses a man of sin than serving his
parents. panela that while you are having a conversation, sending a message giving your mom a phone
call, Allah is removing your sins, because you're bringing happiness to art happiness to his heart.
		

			Your Subhanallah sin like murder is forgiven through bringing joy to your parents life. That is why
that you can get Jana through them so easily. So easily. We can get Jana through them. We end up
with the story of voice recording. Voice will cognate Rahimullah was amongst the tapir in the debate
is the generation of the sahaba. The dabbler in or those who follow the Sahaba they never got to
meet them visa Salam. Now we know from the Sahaba the greatest Sahabi is Abu Bakr the Alana right we
know he's the best of the best amongst the tabby and even the best of them is this man, always on
cottony who was he? What was he? He was not amongst the scholars like there are many Sahaba Hasan
		

			Basri great scholar. He wasn't a great scholar. We don't know of him making an excessive amount of
Ibadah like some of the other greats great tambourine. Yet we know that in the lifetime of an
abyssal Salem than at least some say to say number. One day you will meet a man called aways, from
Yemen from a town of Quran. He has a mother when he comes to meet you when you see him. Ask him to
make dua for you. Or you ask him to make ECFR for you. Because when he makes to, Allah always
answers his dua. So say Mohammed was so surprised. And I'm Amara Dylon and this man is going to come
in I must ask him to make dua for me. But of course, the humanity of St. Norman, whenever a group of
		

			hajis came from Yemen, you would ask them, Is there any Buddha always here in the Jamar
		

			inimitable ways and said he's not always here. And in the years would go by eventually a year came
when he said, Yeah, that's this Buddha always sitting there always so currently doesn't know
anything of this. And so he says, Your name always Are you from Quran? Did you have leprosy some
time in your life? And you said yes, yes, yes. Did you have a mother who was blind? And he said,
Yes, I had a mother that was blind. And you took care of her serious? So then he said, Brother
always please make dua for me and it's difficult for me, because then at least some set of you that
whenever you make dua, Allah is immediate to answer your DUA and if you take a vow says wala is
		

			something Allah gives it immediately. Now, what did this man do Subhanallah scholars mentioned, what
he did was, was he heard of the Nabil Salaam in Medina, and he embraced Islam, and he wanted to go
to Medina to be a Sahabi. And his mother said, No, stay here. I'm blind. If you go away, who's going
to help me? So he said, I will leave being a Sahabi for your sake, Mommy, I will take care of you.
And he took care of her until she passed away. And because of that Subhan Allah than resources, a
woman who you ask him to make dua for you. At least this is a Muslim, but fairytales that you can
get the status of that for the same mother and father, like always accordingly.
		

			More than a piece of cinema enables Hadith. He says the biggest door of Jannah and the middle door
of Jana is your parents meaning the easiest route to Jana is through your mom and dad. Don't try to
make. I mean it's fun that we have to make jihad and make dodge all those are important. But those
are the difficult paths that if you want to get to Jana directly, the easiest route is through your
parents, make them happy, make them smile, spoil them. When you disagree with him, you lower
yourself if they are wrong, be respectful towards them, honor them the best you can be they are
unnecessary and they are unnecessary. Be patient with them. And if Allah has given you parents in
		

			their old age and the more difficult they are Alhamdulillah the bigger and sweeter the Jana will be.
May Allah grant us to intergender through our parents. May Allah grant our parents Jana, if Allah
has grown our parents to be alive and Allah keep them alive for many, many years. Grant in good
health and if any of our parents have passed away my legati Mo Farah, Allah grande coverage via
garden from the gardens of Jana, and may Allah grant us all to be united in general Philadelphia as
a family. I mean, I mean Alhamdulillah just a few announcements Alhamdulillah jaakkola for the two
hours with the Kasim is with us. hamdulillah has been discharged from the most from the hospital. I
		

			know Auntie Kia is also not feeling too well on the corner Malaga Rhonda dickeya. Shiva Amala grant
all our old people a strength and a long life. I mean,
		

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