Muhammad West – The Women Around the Messenger SAW – Episode 32

			Hey Mohammed Elijah beyond amin, WA Salatu was Salam ala Sayidina Muhammad Radha It was my beloved
brothers and sisters in Islam Salaam Alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh. Thank you so much for
joining us this episode 32 of our series to visit women around the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam. In our last episode, we had completed our discussion around our mother God, yeah. And we
spoke about the prisoners of war, the rules of engagement were hamdulillah and today we begin with
our next mother. And perhaps this is a quick summary. Let us look at how many personalities we've
discussed in the series so far. So we discussed our mother Khadija. We'll discuss a mother so dad,
		

			oh mother, Ayesha mother, hafsa, a mother Xena, bat hoceima. Our mother selama mother zaner Binti
jash, our mother Julia. And now in sha Allah will speak about our mother, a new personality, whom
Habiba Rama been a recipient. So her name is Rama, the daughter of Abu sufian. She is famously known
as Habiba, the mother of Habiba. She had a daughter called hubiera. And from her name, you know, one
name that really stick out for those of us who know a little bit about the Sierra, her father, Abu
sufian salam, another daughter of Abu sufian, who is Abu sufian. Abu finance Pinilla before he
embraced Islam, just before the conquest of Makkah for almost 20 years. Abu sufian was perhaps one
		

			of the the major enemies of Islam and perhaps at some point, he was the arch enemy of Islam, when
Islam just began, I mean, the prophets of Salaam preached in Makkah. He was one of the middle
management, you could say, the junior chieftains a young man who was going to become a very senior
member of the clan, of koresh. And he very much opposed Islam. He was extremely and had great
animosity towards Islam, and persecuted the Muslims, and he was against the prophets of Allah. Then
following the Battle of By the way, many of the senior chiefs the big guys, the big sharks, Abu
Jamal, was killed Maria was killed. Abu lahab also died at that same time when these major leaders
		

			were defeated at the Battle of whether Abu sufian was promoted to basically being overall chief of
the crush, and he was the leader of the coalition against the Muslims. In fact, he was the one that
brought the koresh to Medina at the Battle of boyhood, which resulted in Minnesota dying. He was the
one that conspired with the police or motherhood and the other tribes to invade Medina at the Battle
of trench and came very close to Sinaloa killing the province of Salam came very close to completely
destroying Islam. So Abu sufian was in really he was enemy number one. He was the arch enemy of
Islam, abou Sophia for many, many years. And so he's his daughter, Rama would actually marry the
		

			Prophet salallahu alaihe salam. So how did this union come about? How did the arch enemy of Islam
How did his daughter become the wife of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and our mother and Habiba
Rama, Devi, Sophia. So her story begins, he's about 23 years younger than the Prophet sallallahu
wasallam she was born, and well before the advent of Islam before Islam, and before Allah Subhan had
seen the Prophet Muhammad why she grew up as we see the daughter of a chieftain of pampered
privilege life she was of the if clause of society. She was a well known lady in her time, she had
wonderful qualities which she received from her father, one thing about gustavian, even as an enemy
		

			to Islam, if we compare him to Abu Jamal, Abu lahab, he was not a as we could say,
		

			a vile kinds of enemy. He was an honorable man, even in his animosity, even in his hatred to Islam.
He never degraded himself. And there were certain things that he will not, you know, he didn't hit
below the belt that we could say, he had some sense of honor, some sense of dignity. So even amongst
enemies, even when we all you even when we fight, this is a decorum of dignity that we have. And Abu
sufian, you know, catered to him or hamdulillah. He didn't go to the level of Abu lahab, or the
level of media who tortured the land, or the level of Abu Jamal in the things that they did and the
harm that they gave to Islam, he did not stoop to that level. And perhaps this could be the reason
		

			why some kind of law law had saved him and granted him to embrace Islam. So he was a man of honor
before Islam, and had some good qualities his daughter, Rama, she took from these qualities and she
benefited from these qualities and she had these this capacity of being caring and loving, even
though she wasn't high society as we could say, as a young woman, she married a man by the name of
Lady law, being rejected by the law being that he was the brother of Zane I've been so Zainab, the
wife of the prophets of Salaam which we discussed a few weeks back her brother obey the law, married
Ramallah obey the law, and you know, the family are basically also, you know, aristocrats they're
		

			from high society. So it's a young man from a good family man known for his honor and valor,
marrying a young girl that was from a prominent family.
		

			So this is very to elite people well to do people, as we could say, got married, now obey the law.
He was a man that question when he was inquisitive. And in fact, even before Islam, many, many years
before Islam, he secretly became a Christian. So he shunned the pagan worship of idols, he took on
he saw that in Christianity, this was a better religion than the religion of his people. So he was a
forward thinking kind of guy. And this obviously also influenced his wife Marama. And he kept this
secret, then as Islam appeared when Islam appeared, the two of them were the first to embrace Islam
so that the Christianity, we know that keytab the people are the book, of course, closer to the
		

			believers, then the pagan worshipers and therefore when, you know, when they saw the goodness of
Islam and the appeal of Islam, the two of them embraced Islam, and they were of the first converts.
Now, just imagine this for a second, this woman, this young woman, she's young couple, they come
from families that are extremely, they have an extreme hatred towards Islam, and they are the ones
persecuting Islam. In fact, her dad is one of those at the forefront in the persecuting of Islam,
and his own daughter becomes a Muslim. Now, this was very, very difficult. So the two of them
received much persecution, Rama from half side of the family, and the husband Wally left from his
		

			side of the family, they persecuted them severely, to such an extent that they had no choice but
they left Makkah completely. So they were of those who made the first hegira to EPA senior as we
said before, that the first place of refuge for the Muslims outside of Makkah, was in APA sr, or
today is called Ethiopia. And they love the kingdom of Nigeria. She the king of ever senior was
Najafi, he was a fee just ruler, and he was a Christian man initially. And when they reached in into
this place, and again, we can just imagine anyone who has come as a refugee, anyone who has come
through difficult times, you know, they had to leave everything they had behind coming from the
		

			relative luxury that they grew up in Makkah, they lived everything they family, the social status,
the wealth lifted behind, some people are in a lot. And they went to a senior and they lived in the
strange, very unique places, different continent, Africa altogether. And that's where they lived.
Now, there are conflicting directions as to what happened next. Some reports mentioned and this is
actually the predominant view that the husband Obaidullah, he goes to a senior and because every
senior is a Christian country, he once again becomes Christian, he looks at the Christian lifestyle
and civilization may and he's attracted to it. So he becomes more that as we say, renounces Islam,
		

			and he becomes a Christian. And this is what Heidegger says rather from the books of history, our
mother Rama, she dreams and she sees him, you know, his faces badly disfigured, and he has fallen
into fire. And when she wakes up, she finds that her husband has embraced Christianity once again.
And he started becoming a drinker. He began drinking alcohol again, and all of a sudden this
corruption completely. She leaves him, she divorces him. And he passes away in that time while they
are they never senior. She gives birth to the daughter Habiba. So her name is Omar Habiba the mother
of Habiba. So obey the law and baramulla they had a child in Abba sr, then the father becomes
		

			apostate he becomes a Christian and he dies like that. And this woman is left basically a single mom
in a strange land. She has no option to go home. That's the one nation the organization Hello, Adam,
that, you know, the two of them migrate to epicene, yet they have their daughter Habiba and obey the
law he passes away as a Muslim from natural causes or whatever it might be, and we don't know and
spawn a lump. We leave his message to Allah Subhana Allah He was the first people to embrace Islam
and we pray that in sha Allah, that he died on Islam, nonetheless, our mother on Habiba. She is
alone in a strange country, a single mom, it's difficult to be a single mom in a completely foreign
		

			alien land. She hasn't, you know, she doesn't even have the option to go back to Morocco, you found
some people. Things were difficult than ever seen. He actually went back to Makkah. They found that
they couldn't really go back to Mecca. Another one. However, she obviously has no chance of going
back to Makkah, because her dad is the most, you know, one of the senior people in persecuting
Islam. She knows if she goes back to Makkah, what's going to happen to her. So by her strength of
character, or dependency in a law, she decides to raise her daughter Habiba alone in a strange land
without a husband, and she persevered like this for a number of years. Then comes the Battle of
		

			butter, as we said, and her dad becomes the Senior Chief of the crush of many of the elites are
defeated, and she receives a letter of proposal from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam so she would be
aware that the Muslims went to Medina, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam sent a letter to her
proposing marriage, she may be expected that she was completely unaware. When the servant girl came
to bring her the letter. She was shocked and you should read this again, read it again read again
three times. And immediately she accepted the marriage proposal of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam.
Now this is a long distance marriage. I'm happy based in Africa.
		

			Ever senior, the prophets of Allah is in Medina. What we learn from this is you can actually get
married by proxy, you can get married at a distance. And I'm Habiba selects one of the senior people
of the Muslims to be how Akil as we said, a woman needs a Why do you rather, a woman has to be
married through a valley. And the king of ever senior himself said, I will be the one who will be
the agent of the seller, meaning I will stand in for the prophets of Allah, and he performed any car
and he gave us a dowry on behalf of the prophets of Salaam 400 dinars. So just as a tidbit, some
information, the wife that received the highest dowry, the biggest Muscovy, as we could say in Cape
		

			Town, had been given to him Habiba why, because they have ever seen it himself paid this now he also
as gifts that he remember senior gave her very nice jewelry, expensive clothing and expensive
perfumes. Alma Habiba developed a close relationship with one of the slaves in the court of Najafi
name was Abraham. And she gave the servant goal many, many gifts on the king. I have a senior heard
this he said, Nope, give all of it back. This is for you exclusively. So have you ever said I took
this this chest of gifts, and I didn't use any of it not the perfumes of the clothing. Except for my
her intention was that she was going to use it when she went back to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
		

			so that they married. And one day she believed we'll go and we'll meet one another. And this perfume
is only only for him. Not one, two, but six, seven years we pause before the Muslims ever senior
would be able to leave at the senior and come to Medina for the first time. So the prophets of
Salaam had as we could say he had a six year long distance relationship between him and his wife,
whom Habiba the daughter of Abu Sufyan. And we imagine also Abu sufian, even though he was the arch
enemy of the prophets of salami, you know, he severely disliked the Navy, so he misses a limb. on
his side, there was a degree of pride that his daughter has married one of the major players in
		

			Arabia, but the problem was alum was a political leader. He ran, you know, a city, he had a big
following. So from his side, he felt that you know, his daughter married someone important. And if
we asked ourselves, once again, once again, we see from this message, what is the wisdom behind it?
When you ask why did the professor's alum marry so many women? Was it because of her money? She
doesn't have any money? Was it because physically the desired women because of the beauty? Because
of my last reason? Of course, not. Because she's on the other side of the world. They don't even
physically together. So what was the hikma? The reason behind it? Why did he propose to her? Of
		

			course, his intention here was to soften the hearts of abusive Yeah. And then look at the end of the
day, I'm your son in law, at the end of the day, we and our family that we are united in this
marriage, the same like we mentioned, Julia, that the benefit from one marriage could be the reason
why, you know, 1000s of people embrace Islam. So Abu sufian on his side, while he didn't like Islam,
and he didn't like the problem, he couldn't hide that he admired that his daughter married an
important person. So six years goes by, and I'm Senior. And finally the opportunity arises for her
to return to Arabia. And she gets all her you know, these gifts and she takes these things to her
		

			daughter Habiba is not perhaps 10 years older, or maybe just a little less than that. Her daughter
had not known Arabia at all. She grew up in a senior's Panama, you know, very, very interesting. So
habia and she now is about to return to Medina. And before she leaves the serve and go abre she goes
to him Habiba and she says, You know, I want you to give my Salam convey my greetings to the
prophets of Salaam. And I want you to tell him that I have embraced Islam as part of law. And you
know, Madiba bits this lady farewell never to see her again. She goes to Arabia and she meets her
husband, she has been separated for six years. The prophets, Allah says, when they came to Medina,
		

			this was also at the end, just as one there was a major victory for the Muslims at this time, the
Battle of labor, which we'll talk about in Shaolin coming weeks. So he says, I don't know what's
made me happier. The fact that we won the battle of labor, or that I can see the Muslims that have
returned from Abba Sr. After all these years Jaffa Ohm Habiba that I've seen all of you now many
years have passed by and we are united once again, is really, really happy. It won't be my sister,
the province alum, she wants to inform him about this girl, Abraham, the slave girl that has
embraced Islam and she could convey the Salaam and the prophets and responded. And it was amazing to
		

			think from the prophets perspective, this Deen that began in Makkah is beginning to spread outside
of Arabia that is beginning to spread strange lands no matter what, even though he didn't give the
dour. He didn't call this go but she embraced Islam and hamdulillah This is the power of the deen so
Halima now joins the household of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. She was, as we said, a
strong she was a strong character like her father, and she, you know, takes on personality joins the
members of the believers there was some tension between her Of course
		

			Ayesha and the other wives and she, as she, of course, being a strong woman herself, she also
asserted her independence and Professor lamb, as we said, surrounded himself by very independent
women, to something to show you of her character and her strength of Imam, Abu sufian, as time would
go by, he would enter into a peace agreement with the Muslims would sign an agreement of peace, and
then he would break this agreement. And he would be worried and he was worried now because he broke
the agreement that the Muslims would now invade Makkah because the Muslims will actually became
stronger. So he goes to Makkah, rather, he goes to Medina, trying to get the Prophet Salaam to sign
		

			to re sign the piece trying to overlook the breach of contract in Japan, what they did was they
killed many, many innocent people. This was like a genocide that they had committed. So Abu sufian
is going and saying, you know, forgive us and, and just overlook this matter. And it's not a small
thing. It's not something to easily forgive. And the prophets of Salaam remain silent. The President
doesn't respond to him. So he goes to different people, Abu Sufyan and one of the people he went to
believing that look, he can get some assistance was he when he wants to go to his daughter, Rama,
now his daughter is the wife of the Prophet sallam. He thought maybe if I pressurize her, she can
		

			put in a good word for me were the prophets of Salaam and I can get my way. So he hasn't seen a more
than 10 years behind on my father and daughter. Last time, he basically he chased a wave because of
a dean and she went to a senior. And now you know, the United he comes to the house of Habiba the
house of the prophets on them. And there is nothing in this house of value, absolutely nothing. This
is the greatest of creation. And there's not a single seat, you know, of jewelry, any thing
comfortable in this house. And the only thing there that is comfortable is a cushion a pillow, and
he comes forward and he wants to sit on the pillow. And I'm happy that she pulls it away. And also
		

			looks at Habiba at his daughter and he says he's confused. Are you putting the cushion away? Because
the cushion isn't good enough for me because the cushion wasn't very expensive, or am I not good
enough for the cushion. So of course you're not good enough for the cushion. This is where the
profits are also love himself. This is where he sets and you You are his enemy. I want you know,
even though you're my father, I won't allow you to sit on his his spot. So he realizes now that
there is no way he's going to push it is his daughter to betray the Prophet sallallahu sallam. And
Haman is very, very strong that a lion is that our soul comes first in our heart, even above her
		

			father, but she could continue making dua, Allah guide my father, guide my brother, now we are on
the line. And when hamdulillah she was so pleased, she fell into suit, when she became aware that
her father, the arch enemy of Islam, and her brother had embraced Islam. When she became aware of
this she was so happy to Allah, that Allah had saved them. Once the Prophet Salam was sitting with
her and her brother, Malia rhodiola, and he's a Sahabi, which receives a lot of criticism. As Pamela
someone we should know that he's the brother in law of the abyssal Salaam. So while the Prophet was
sitting with his wife, Ramallah, now he comes forward and he wants to he came to visit and then he
		

			was about to leave, you know, join us Come sit with us, because I hope that one day the three of us
will sit like this together, in general. So it's one of the glad to ask the good do as the professor
lamb made for me, my little thing becomes the halifa in the future, Habiba, she would be known to be
the third most prolific narrator Hadith of the lives of the eye shadow cinema Habiba had narrated
many, many Hadees amongst them, she narrated that whoever plays 12 sooner because Allah will build
you a house in Ghana. Also, we know from her that when Abu sufian passed away, her father had died.
She spent three days in mourning, she dressed in black, she didn't adorn herself. And after three
		

			days, she took out some perfume and she wore it. And she said this, she learned from them that know
that a woman should not mourn the death beyond three days of anyone except her husband, when your
husband dies, you actually spend about four months and painless in in mourning. Just a side note the
question here with regards to this, is it permissible for women to visit the maqbara the cemetery if
someone has passed away, this difference of opinion Yep. And the strongest view in a lot of Allah
knows best that it's permissible for her to visit the cemetery. But it's not advisable and
encouraged. There's a hadith where the prophets of Allah allowed his oma to visit the graves because
		

			he says it reminds you of the afro visit the cemetery it will remind you of death one day, but at
the same time is another Hadith that says that Allah curses the woman that constantly visits, she is
a warlock, she makes it a habit. So a woman should not habitually visit the cemetery, should you not
do it regularly. And also, she perhaps should not go at times where it is very, very emotional. So
on the day of the video, women should not go in those times. Our mother spent about four years with
a prophet sallallahu Sallam as his wife is an interesting Hadith where she, she she says to the
prophets, Allah, please will you marry my sister? Can you marry my sister? So the prophecy is are
		

			you ready? Do you really want me to marry your system in what kind of request is that? Is that
really what you want?
		

			She said yes. Even though she says, You know, I don't have you all to myself, I share you with all
the other wives and I'm not alone. So if I'm going to share you, I would want my sister also to
experience the goodness that I have and Subhanallah what kind of husband he must have been with a
woman says, are one my sister to experience the happiness that I have in being your wife. So Allahu
alayhi wa sallam, she would continue to live another 33 years after the death of the prophet SAW
Selim. So she only stayed with him for years, stayed with him physically for four years. And then 33
years later, she would continue living, she would see her brother Maria become the halifa of the
		

			Muslim Ummah, she would actually visit her brother Maria in Damascus, the only wife to really as you
know, to actually venture that far ahead. And then she passed away in Medina. And one of the things
that she did because of a certain personality, she apologized to Ayesha and Salama, in particular,
for some issues that would arise between them she would say, she says to them on a desperate she
would say, there's come between us what usually happens between co wives that you know this tension
jealousy happens between co wives, mela, forgive me and youth, whatever happened, and I shall who
says May Allah forgive you and pardon you for all of that. And this obviously made them very happy
		

			that on her deathbed she was able to say this to her co wives, and she passed away in the year 44 of
the eternal and she's buried in baki Cemetery in Medina, along with the the other wives of the
Prophet SAW Salem. So we say Salaam to another Rama, the daughter of perhaps enemy number one of
Islam initially, and she maintained Islam through such a difficult tribulations. Malala as we said,
She's the wife of the girls that I'm in the dunya and in the Acura Zack Allah fader for any
questions, concerns or comments with [email protected] Thank you so much. Assalamualaikum labor
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