Muhammad West – Parenting #01 – Greatest Amaanah

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			12th of February Alhamdulillah, the masajid are open every imaginable Islam. Unfortunately, it is
still limited to a very few number of people, only 50 people allowed to enter the masjid. And so we
ask Allah subhanaw taala to keep us safe and to take the precautions. And for those who are unable
to attend with us in the masjid, we are still releasing these lectures over WhatsApp and my was
panatela except from us these little efforts that we do. Last week, we concluded with our series on
inheritance in the theme of you know, death and preparing for death. We spoke about inheritance. And
we said actually, the best thing that we can leave behind is not a lot of assets, lots of money. The
		

			best things that we can take with us into the archaea are good deeds, and the best things that we
can leave behind on the dunya or perhaps good offspring that would make dua for us and that would be
pious and that will be the greatest legacy of the greatest legacy we could leave behind a good
offspring of Allah grant all of us to have pious offspring Allah protect our children, Allah
subhanaw taala watch over the man cave with him. A better than weekends panel up and the greatest
Amana and we begin a new series in child love the series on parenting. How do we make the most of
our children and how can we fulfill our Amana? Every child that Allah Allah has bestowed upon us is
		

			a gift. It's a blessing, but it's a trust Allah subhanaw taala has linked us these offspring to see
how we would how we would raise them and how we would nurture him. And then we'll be questioned
about that, and that fdmr. And so this is the greatest of all, the greatest of all Amanda's
interests. And of course, the task of parenting is perhaps the most difficult job that you could
possibly do. You could be a doctor, a lawyer, you could, you know, run corporations. But of course,
the title of mommy and daddy is the most difficult and the most daunting task that can be placed
upon you caring for another human being and looking after another human being, and making sure that
		

			you influence and impact that person in the best possible way for this dunion, the athlete have
spent a lot, it is one of the greatest challenges, if not the greatest challenge that is put on one
shoulder. And of course, most of us were not prepared for it. When you become a parent, you didn't
take a course in that Subhanallah in the psychologists say that, if you want to do any profession,
you need to study, you know, 12 years of school and then you need to go perhaps further and study
some tertiary education before you can even be you know, anything in the studio. And even if you
want to, you know, write a call, you need to spend months and months training how to use a car, but
		

			to be appearance, panela, you can only become a parent almost overnight, and you know, helpless
child is in your key. And so it is something that we are hopelessly unprepared for many of us. And
we also live in a times panela way in the last couple of generations. And if you look at our
grandparents, for example, a lot of the dynamics of parenting has changed. At the time, our
grandparents, perhaps, you know, we had a household we mom hardly ever worked almost full time at
home. The kids also they became very independent at a much earlier age, many of them that would only
go to primary school, a very basic education, and then they became sort of independent, and they
		

			will financially on their own. And of course, these have changed over the last few generations. We
both parents are active working, kids are dependent on their parents for many, many, many years.
They go, they study at school, many of them go to university, and still they are dependent only on
the appearance. And it's a new kind of era. And of course, the world is changing continuously. So
competitive out there. The future is so unknown as vanilla, you know, there's so much pressure on
what we should do as a parent and so much pressure on children to be prepared for the for the
future. And even if you were to go into the bookshop, for example, you go into exclusive books,
		

			you'll find, you know, shelves and shelves of books that will speak about parenting theories, how to
be the best parent parenting guides, and some of them contradict one another. Some would say, you
must let your children you know, when the young babies they could sleep with you. Obviously nobody
should sleep on their own something. No, you must let them cry. Others say no, you mustn't make them
cry panela so much contradiction, and there's so much uncertainty. And you know, many of us you
probably especially young parents, you would meet up with other young parents and you'd hear
different philosophies and theories and it makes you feel so insecure. And we're not doing
		

			everything possibly every possible thing that I should be doing for my kids are in the right
schools. Are they in the right aftercare programs? Are they doing the right extra murals? are they
eating the right food? Are they going to bed on the right times panela It is such a daunting and
overwhelming task as panela hopefully in this little bit of a lecture series we can try and make the
parenting process a little easier and take guidance from the dean inshallah, what should we do as
parents and ultimately Subhanallah how best Can we please Allah Subhana Allah in this ask.
		

			Nonetheless, it is a great honor
		

			And it is a massive responsibility because as parents we know, not only from psychology we know from
the dean More importantly, that parents can make or break the kids, we can either influence our kids
for the better, or we can harm our kids. And the professor says this in a beautiful Hadith, that
every child is born on the feet thrust upon Allah, Allah subhanaw taala has given us each and every
one of us children that are that are perfect, Allah has blessed everyone, no matter what your child
is how Allah is printed, I seen that child, they are on the fifth row, they are pure, they are
sinless, they have no evil inside him, they have no racism inside them, they have no animosity
		

			inside, the more hatred inside them. But it is we as parents, and the examples that we set as a
result, either we will make them Yahoo, we Daniel Jonas serani, we will make them into a Jew into a
Christian into a Muslim in whatever it might be, that we are the ones that influenced them and those
ranallo as some of the scholars have said, well, either bad habit you find in your children, they
know that's anila most likely they got it from you, or your or your wife or someone in your
environment that they learned that bad habit from because Allah has seen them, you know, pure, and
they were ready to receive whatever goodness they will receive it or whatever negative they'll also
		

			receive it. And so, being appeared in from an Islamic perspective, as I said, it is an Amana it is a
test and it is a test. It is one of those big tests that will be questioned about on the day of
gamma spinalis is what animal and no animal and wailuku what Allah Allah says that your money and
your children are a fitna fitna. As we said fitna is a trial fitna is a test fitna is something that
is you're going to be questioned about and that fdms Allah says your money and your children is this
tile or anila endo as you don't have him and to Allah belongs a great great reward. Meaning This is
not an easy test, because it's a great reward at the end. This is a very, very difficult test now,
		

			we spoke about money many times the thesis of money sometimes with this money is you have too little
money or you have too much money, how you earn your money, how you spend your money, all this is a
test of money. But spinal the test of children is a far more difficult test that is that money
sometimes I lost Pamela tissue by giving you many children sometimes a lot is you by giving you know
children's Parnell lamella gone those who can't have children and Allah grant them she found me they
have kids sometimes I'll notice you by giving you strong and healthy children and sometimes all the
tissue by giving you sick children or children that are struggling Allah Graceffa to anyone that is
		

			ill Subhanallah whatever Allah has given you, we don't have a say in it. We don't have to say which
child we're going to get, whether it's a boy or girl, how many kids we're going to get. It is a gift
from Allah. And it is a test from Allah. It is up to us to receive this and to receive these gifts
from Allah subhanaw taala and do what we are commanded to do in raising them and nurturing them to
the best of our ability, and then it will be questioned about the day of the AMA, and with Allah
Subhana Allah is a great reward. The prophets of Salaam says every man is a shepherd, every single
person is a shepherd, and he is in charge of the inhabitants of his household as the father of the
		

			household. You are responsible for the well being of your children in particular, you're responsible
for the physical, spiritual needs, the financial needs, you are the custodian that Allah has placed
on this dunya and he's responsible for his flock. A prophet also says and a woman every woman is a
shepherd of her of her charge of the people that she's in charge of, of our husband's household and
the children and she's responsible for them, for every father and every mother. It is an Amana that
almost plant Allah has placed upon us and we will be questioned about that. The prophets of Salaam
then also says there is no servant whom Allah has granted the responsibility the Prophet is saying,
		

			there is no person where Allah has given you a responsibility over other people, you were in charge
of looking after other people either as the ruler, either as the manager or as the you know, the
Father, the mother, so you have been made responsible over other people. And then that person
unfortunately he dies and he dies in a state of not fulfilling his duty he deceives those people he
has not done his responsibility in looking after his family promises is such a person. Allah has
made gender forbidden for him it is haram for him to enter Jannah if you have not fulfilled the
responsibility of leadership, if you have not fulfilled your responsibility as a mother, with
		

			fathers upon lots of this very serious consequences that if we fail in this space as part of law,
you know, it is one of those things that when we think about parenting, it is sometimes we don't
give it the priority. I speak to myself first panel, we spend so much time on our career. We spend
so much time on our financial well being on every other thing and then whatever is left over is
given to our household and even less to our to our children. We come home tired, exhausted, every
last ounce of us was taken from us in the professional world and we come home we just went to we are
emptied and that is what we give to our kids now, supine Allah we should understand that it is not
		

			just this big test from Allah subhanaw taala and we are responsible for it. But also it isn't. It
might be our, you know, look at it with parenting every moment you spend with your child. Every
moment you sit with the homework every day.
		

			sickness that you need to, you need to be there to look after every bedtime story like me that you
have to look after it is an act of evader with Allah subhanaw taala is looking at us How will we
take care of this little child and raise them up to be independent adults, this could be our ticket
to Jannah, Allah subhanaw taala has not asked us to change the world and change governments and
change the big things. Rather Allah subhanaw taala wants us to make sure that we take care of those
small things that are in our power to take care of. And therefore, as great as this test is, along
with it is a great reward. It might be your children, that is your key to gender. And so we learn
		

			that on the one side, we know many times we hear this all the time, that the key to gender is
through your parents. But it might also be through your children, that you get to gender. And we've
mentioned a few Hadeeth in the past series, for example, when it came to inheritance, that the best
thing that you can leave behind, and the best charity that you can give is to invest in your own
family, the profits versus the best charity is the charity one spins on his own family. And the
best, you know, sort of a one that will continue after he dies is a cyclical progeria, where he has
a pious child that continues to make to offer him answers on a lot. You might not have achieved much
		

			you haven't built many massages. You haven't, you know, memorize much of the Quran made a lot of
evader. But the one thing that you did is that when you live this dunya your children will good
children, they were pious children, they were Muslims upright, fulfill the duties to Allah and they
will kind people in this dunya and they remember you in the door. And every single good deed that
they do in their life will be part of your reward in the era. And what a beautiful Hadith is highly
that you find in even imagine with a prophet also says a man status his position will be raised up
in JAMA he'll be elevated by many gadgets you'll be raised up and then he will ask Allah How did I
		

			get this? How did I get to this high level in general and Allah will say to him, it is by the doors
of your sons that Allah has forgiven you it is the good deeds of your children that got you to this
level and so it is your children, it could be your ticket inshallah agenda, you find me people you
think it's panela you know, we see it the way they pass away anything. Well, what did this Auntie
do, she didn't do much, you know, great things in this dunya we don't know of any great sacrifices
that she made. All she was a housewife. She was, you know, Auntie in the house, but spinal light was
through her position as a mother or her position as a grandmother, that she had panela given that
		

			Allah subhanaw taala had blessed her with success through that. And, you know, as one mom sees many
times, what will be our excuse to indigenous on the day of kiyama? Allah subhanaw taala wants us to
enter Jannah and that's why there are multiple doors, there are more doors to intergender than jam,
meaning there are more opportunities to enter jamna and is Allah subhanaw taala as well, that he
wants us to enter Jannah but we need to have a reason and excuse why we enter Jannah and so Subhana
Allah, what a beautiful thing where you can stand before Allah and it is because of your children.
And the way you were as a parent, that will be the reason that we in the gem them Allah grant that
		

			for all of us.
		

			So how do we pass this this? How does Amana if this is a test from Allah, this is a test that Allah
has given us. And we don't have a choice. You know, as finally you don't get to choose the exam that
you're going to get you don't as they say it is, it is how Allah head and delta cards Allah subhanaw
taala had given us, whatever Allah decreed to give us, it is for us now to fulfill our duty. So how
do we pass this exam? What is it that Allah requires from us? And what does it mean to be a
successful parent and will take us a few weeks inshallah? To answer this question, what is a
successful parent and of course, a successful parent is a parent who raises a successful child. And
		

			so what is a successful child look like? Are the children that are financially stable? Have they
achieved certain amount of degrees? Must they get certain A's on the report card? Is that success?
What should they grow up to? And so it's quite a lot, a lot tells us a lot tells us and look at what
we should aspire our kids to be. Some of our kids will be wealthy, some of them won't be wealthy,
some of them as panela will live long lives. Some of them will be taken early sun might be even
taken in our lifetime and that is up Subhan Allah, how would you be with that melon never ever put
you in a test like that? Perhaps those difficulties is to lose a child may Allah protect our
		

			children. Perhaps it's a child that you will continuously struggle with and be patient with Mary's
uterus, perhaps you will be a child that is brilliant, and is for you to fulfill the potential
medicine test as a parent, but ultimately, a very simple thesis a las pantallas is our first
priority. The annual levina manual Oh, you will believe call amphastar como la coonara. Allah says,
save yourselves and your children and your family from the fire Save yourselves and your children
from a fire. This is the ultimate the ultimate priority for us. And we need to make sure that when
we leave this dunya and when our children leave this dunya that they are in the best position to
		

			Avoid Janna to be saved from to be saved from Jana. Nothing is more important and no priority is
more important than ensuring on the day of kiama we are saved from the fire of Jan Nam and we
intergender and any child no matter what, what else they achieve in this dunya so long as that
happens when they will be successful as panela and we'll talk perhaps more about this, you find many
of the ambia when they are on the database, like for example Nabi Yaqoob, when he was on his
deathbed and he speaks now Yousuf and the brothers, and then the only thing he asks them, what will
you worship after me? Will you worship after me and they say, we'll only worship Allah, and then he
		

			feels comfortable, he feels really now I can leave it as a parent, the most important thing we want
to instill in our children, save yourself from jahannam and the only way you can save yourself from
janam is La ilaha illa Allah is an unworthy of worship of Allah to have a relationship with Allah
subhanaw taala and no matter what else you achieve on this dunya if you have that, then you're
successful. And unfortunately, no matter what else you have in the dunya if you don't have that
Kalima and you don't live by that Kadima, then you really failed as a person. And Allah protect us
we failed as, as parents, is another idea. Subhan Allah gives us perhaps a more, a more detailed
		

			example of what a successful child looks like. And once if you can achieve this as a parent, then
you can feel I have done my duty, you can feel contented in your heart and be in love with the grace
of Allah, I fulfilled my duty as a as a parent, in the 46 surah ayah. Number 15. Allah sponsors for
our final insanity while he Asana, Allah says, and we had enjoyed we commanded upon man, that he
needs to be good, he needs to give his parents the base of treatment, how am I that humo that his
mother carried him Quran that she carried him in hardship, when she carried him for those nine
months, it was in a lot of pain and anguish, what what at what could happen, and she also when she
		

			gave birth to him, it was really difficult on her or harmala, who and his gestation he was inside of
his mother of isalo booth. And as soon as that her caring of him and her weaning, her breastfeeding
of him is 3030 months. So this entire period, you are completely dependent on your mother, for the
first basically 30 months of your life, you are completely dependent on your mother. And then Allah
says, and if you continue to be dependent on your parents, and your parents continue to look after
you had either Bella until he reaches or should, he reaches his maturity and the child and the
person grows up, why bother her brain Asana and you reach 40 years old now very interesting. I'll
		

			put the age of 40 in the Quran. And Allah says once you reach the age of 40, it says you fail, you
have reached your full potential. And many other scholars have said at the age of 40, this is really
when you are at the pinnacle of your of your life, I know some of you might feel I was at my
clinical at 20 years old. But really, it's at 40, that your maturity, your intellect is at its full
capacity. And that is why many of the MBA like the prophets also let me became an OB, at the age of
40. It mentions that we moosari salaam at the age of 40, this is also became an IV. So Allah is
saying, when you are at your full maturity, now you are a fully grown adult. So if you look at this,
		

			if Allah is saying that you started off being carried by your mother, and you continue to depend on
your parents, and they look after you until you reach the age of 40. And now you are at your
Pinnacle. And when you at this point in your life, and if you're at 40 and the point is, we as
parents want to get our kids to this destination, a person at that age is is called our ob This is
our lobby My Lord. Oh ziani an ash qurani ematic allottee and I'm Talia, Allah grant, you know,
bless me, enable me to be grateful for the favors You have bestowed upon me. So first thing, a child
that grows up to be a successful adult, what does he say? He he has a connection with Allah The very
		

			first thing is that he speaks to his Lord, this is my Lord. Let me be grateful to the blessings and
the favors you bestowed upon me. He has a relationship with Allah, He is connected to Allah, He is
appreciative for that which Allah has given him of blessings or otherwise the year and grant me also
Yeah, Allah to be appreciative of my parents that he is grateful to his parents, and of course to
those who do good to him, he is grateful to, to his to his family were anomala saleha taraba, who
will absolutely feel the reality and in grant Mia Allah to, to do righteous deeds that you approve
of. So this person, Allah saying, a person that grows up, that has a connection with Allah and is
		

			devoted to Allah and His appreciative of Allah and his parents. And then he says, Yeah, Allah, now
that you've given me all of this, and I'm at my full maturity, allow me to live a life where I do
righteous deeds, I contribute positively to this dunya I am someone that helps society I'm someone
that helps other people I bring about goodness we ever I am. And grant me also Yeah, a lot was
literally fever reethi and grabbed me then to have children that are that are righteous or offspring
that will be
		

			Good, so allow me to raise good offspring, so that we continue the cycle of goodness. And then he
says, in the tube to like an IRA pin to Allah, whatever, since I do none of us are perfect, whatever
false I have, I repeat to you, we're in the middle muslimeen and I am of the Muslim. And this is the
ultimate thing that you love, and you die as a Muslim. So in this ayah, Allah summarizing, again,
one of those, if that summarizes your life, from, from conception from when you're born, even before
you are born, all the way until, until you reach your full potential. And this is what we all aspire
that our kids should be like. So yes, we have dreams, you know, they can achieve great things in the
		

			career, all of us want our kids to be the best at sports, and the best in school and have the best
of grades and to achieve all the wealth and prosperity. I mean, and have nothing wrong to want those
things. But in this is it Allah tells you what are the important things important thing, number one,
they are committed and devoted to a lot and that they worship Him and that they are grateful to him,
and that they are devoted to the parents and that they love the parents, and that they live a life
by doing good deeds, deeds, which Allah is pleased with, with a big or small but they live a life
which is pleasing to Allah, then they continue that cycle by raising also good offspring, and when
		

			they make mistakes, very painful and we return to Allah. But ultimately, no matter what they achieve
in life, the most important thing is are in niemela muslimeen. They are Muslims that they love as
Muslims, they are Muslims in everything in every aspect that they do. In you know, the deen is a
priority. They are Muslim before they are anything else. And this is the priority in their life. And
Subhanallah if you've achieved in this dunya with all its distractions, and its diversions with all
its confusions, if of the you know your kids are completely independent and Swan alarm, as the
psychologists say, The strange thing is, you know, appearance a job, you know, you've done a good
		

			job when your kids are completely free of you, when you can let go completely and they don't need
you anymore. And you spend your entire life nurturing and looking after this, this child so that
they can one day basically leave you not leave you but they no longer need you in that sense. And if
you have let go and they are on their own, and they are practicing Muslims that are hamdulillah you
have fulfilled your Amana you have done your job and met Allah subhanaw taala going on then to be
your our access to Jenna that if we leave offspring, but our Muslims, and that's it Alhamdulillah
Allah that be enough for us to attain Jana. So how do we achieve this? How can we start with
		

			basically a baby that knows nothing? So by the time they reach before maturity, and when we let go
of them, they are pious and practicing Muslims, how can we achieve that? inshallah, in the coming
weeks we'll discuss this in the lab, just one announcement in sha Allah. There is a marriage course
that Islam in conjunction with the MSA will be hosting. It is February and will think about marriage
and love and romance. And so before we talk about parenting, of course, what comes before parenting
is of course makaha and all those things. And so these are marriage course that is starting this
Sunday, on Tuesday evenings and insha. Allah Edward is added with the attachment just like the
		

			height. We hope to see you the sugar and so much as cinematical martial law when it got to