Muhammad West – Gender Series #4 – How to make him love you

			The hours below which Thorazine is below men are human and the layer of light. I mean, also that was
cinema shopping was an insane I'm having one early he was a marine. My beloved brothers and sisters
in Sonoma Sonoma Lake Mark la he was going to go to Alhamdulilah blood, I mean, always We will begin
with the praise of Allah subhanaw taala and the Chateau La ilaha illa Allah, we will witness and
testify that man has the right to worship because the last panel data and we send our love and
greetings and salutations. So we left with every Mohammed solorio, sell them despise and your family
to Sahaba. And to all those who follow you soon until the end of time. My last panel data list has
		

			to be on the tsunami Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam in this life and in his companionship in the
asherah. Meanwhile, hamdulillah Alhamdulillah we begin with very good news, very happy to announce
that insha Allah today, the 11th of September 2020 will be the reopening of mercy Burano Islam
Alhamdulillah. It's been so long that we've been away from the masjid. And it is with great joy that
we can give this announcement of course, it will be limited due to the restrictions still being way
only 50 people are allowed to attend. And there is a register that one would have to fill out to
ensure that you can secure your place. Also there will be limitations in terms of those who are of a
		

			certain age or those who are ill
		

			advised of course not within the masjid. And for those who are going to attend the mostly just be in
mind that it is going to be a very short procedure because we want to limit the amount of time that
we're in them in the machine because of it's a confined space and having too many people in there is
a risk. And so we will have a very short preju moi talk from around quarter to 112 45 waiting for
the walk of joy to come in. We'll have the Adobe hooked by at about one o'clock and hope to conclude
the gemasolar by quarter past one so the entire program should not be more than half an hour. For
those who will be attending, of course, you will have to register online and you would be required
		

			to come to the masjid with a mosque to have with you to have socks on and bring your own masala with
bring a bag as well for your shoes to be kept. And insha Allah we pray that Allah subhanaw taala
grants that things that the mercy will be fully open very soon, and that all the mosques of the
world will be open. I mean, when hamdulillah we continue with our series, and we've been doing a
series on the Rights of Women and Gender related matters for the past month or so. And last week, we
spoke about how husbands should aspire to be similar to the Navy so Salaam to aspire to be like that
prophetic husband to try to be the perfect husband to make his wife, the happiest woman in the
		

			world. And when I gave that lecture, I actually received a lot of feedback from from the brothers.
Usually I don't get too many comments from the brothers of the lecture. Most of the times it's the
sisters who either agree or disagree with something or voiced their concerns, but also quite
surprised and pleasantly surprised that, you know, many other bloggers responded. And they said,
when do we ever get to hear a good bit about how the wind should treat their husbands and how much
more effort they should also put in, in making the marriage better. And Alhamdulillah. You know, if
you look at the verses of the Quran, when Allah subhanaw taala speaks to the husbands in the same IR
		

			on the IR often Allah Subhana Allah speaks to the wives. And this is the way in which the Sharia is
always balanced. Allah subhanaw taala advises both men and women, Allah subhanaw taala gives the
rights and duties to both men and women and husband and wife. It's not just one side, it is both
sides that make a marriage work and both sides need to be addressed. And so while this focus was of
course, on the rights of the sisters in sha Allah will just balance loss rich with, with something
for the wives and something that they can aspire to be, and how can she make her husband love her
more? And how can she make her husband, the happiest husband in the world and this really be
		

			something that we aspire, we begin with the idea last week when we set a last part that I mentioned,
Angelica, when Mona Lisa, Allah says that mean, your manliness, or what is required of you is to
make a woman of your women to care for them, to look after them, to safeguard them, to maintain them
all those wonderful things. Allah says a true man, that is how he treats a woman. Now in that same
eye, Allah continues analysis for solly had to call it out in half with all too little labor in my
heart for the law that Allah says a good man case for his women. And then Allah Spangler says, and
similarly, a righteous woman, a good woman, she is one who is on Eternity is devoutly obedient, she
		

			is very, very devoted, both to Allah subhanaw taala and her husband and her marriage, so she is
devoted to obeying almost panatela and devoted to her marriage into her husband. And she predicts
that which Allah has commanded her to protect in the absence of her husband, that she gods that
which is required of her to be predicted when a husband is not there, since we're a mess up in
Surah, Baqarah, Allah span dialysis, and due to two wives is similar, what is expected of them. So
Allah says that there are certain expectations upon wives that there are certain things she needs to
provoke. But there are also certain things that she is entitled to, according to what is reasonable.
		

			And this behind Allah is how a lot of other black balances, rights and duties and it's
		

			The important point to note here, very important for us to understand that mccahon Islam has two
sides to it, it is a legal contract. And it's a sacrament. What does this mean? That nicca is a
contract, where you have obligations and you have rights and your responsibilities, the same like
your contract with your with your work, your employment contract, the mechanic that fixes your car
is a contract, you need to give him something and he gives you something in return. So there is a
legal contract that is in place. Of course, the car is not just a barter transaction, it is not just
a legal document. Rather, it is something a, a spiritual and emotional union of two people. And so a
		

			higher level purpose of nikka is the coming together of two individuals. But at the very basic
level, it is a contract, and neither party should break that contract. So when you enter into any
car, it is important for you to understand when I sign up to be a wife, I sign up to be a husband,
what is required of me to do in this contract, and what should I fulfill and what do I get out of
the deal. Now many times when a marriage is falling apart, the first thing they do is they run to
the Imam and they say, Imam, what are my rights as a wife, Chef, what is my heart as a husband, and
no one here is concerned about the Sharia. And when he wants to have a Sharia Listen, rather,
		

			they're basically trying to get the views of what is owed to them in the nikka. And if the marriage
caters to the level, where it is purely my rights as a wife, my rights as a husband, then we don't
have a marriage anymore, we have a transaction. So as long as the basics of the Nika contract is not
violated, then this marriage, the no one is sinful. But of course, you're not achieving the higher
levels of nicaea. So Allah says here, that to the lives you have similar rights, as is expected of
you have rights, as you have certain rights, that you are owed Yasmin, according to what is
reasonable with my roof, Allah uses the word metamodel. What is within limits, when someone says to
		

			the husband, like your obligation in marriage, Hume, when you get married to a woman, you take on
the burden of financial maintenance, you have to maintain her financially and physically and
emotionally? What is it within the reasons within limits within what is acceptable? And then Allah
says further, but the main have a degree over them, the main have up whenever the God that I hit
Allah Hinata, Allah says, but as as women have rights and obligations may have a greater degree of
responsibility. And Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise, Allah says, and I'm all knowing and all
powerful, I know what is right. And I know what is just and I know what is free. So Allah subhanaw
		

			taala, in this verse shows that both sides husbands and wives have a role to play. Both husbands and
wives have rights, and they have duties. And we're not going to talk about the rights and duties of
wives and husbands. This is for a, a marriage, a clause, but certain, certain points to put into,
how do I aspire to be the best wife. So last week, we spoke about a husband aspiring to be the best
husband, not just giving the basics much as giving what is the absolute minimum, we don't want to do
that. We don't want to be that kind of husband. We want to be the best husband and Subhanallah you
know, we live in a time where you are told you know when you work, be the best employee when you
		

			are, you know, in the gym, work out to the best of your ability, you know, fulfill your dreams chase
off the really be ambitious when it comes to our marriages. No one tells you be the best wife or the
best husband, that devote yourself to your partner devote yourself to marriage is almost
		

			backwards. When people speak like that. Or another Shetty I say everything you need to be perfect in
everything that you do. So of all of the things that are the most important after the after being
perfect as a worshiper to Allah subhanaw taala make your effort to be the best husband and the best
wife. And so last week we spoke about husbands we compared what the Nagisa Salam was as a husband,
and so that we can emulate you sooner. Similarly, sisters, they are advices they'll be some gifts to
you how to be the best wife, not only for the sake of your husband, this is not just to please Him,
or all it is to please Allah subhanaw taala like we said, in Islam, you every one of us have to be
		

			submissive, obedient, devoted, not to our partners, but to Allah subhanho wa Taala the prophets of
Solomon says, Would you like me to tell you about the best treasure a man could have? What is the
best thing a man could have in this dunya and so the Prophet says, the best treasure the best nehama
the greatest blessing a person can have is a woman that is a righteous a good woman, a pious woman
doesn't mean that she makes the 100 and she fasts every Monday, Thursday only doesn't righteousness
is not only about the ritualistic evader, she has good character, she's caring, she has good
manners, she she is a good person. So the process is the best thing you can have is a righteous
		

			woman who and he explains further now what this woman is like she pleases him when he looks at her.
She is physically pleasing.
		

			To him, when he is in contact with her, she makes him happy. So So Panama systems just from this one
piece of advice within a resource I love. He says a good wife is one that makes her husband happy
whenever he comes in contact with that, no matter how difficult things are at work, no matter how
hectic things are in his life, he just needs to look at you. He doesn't even need to speak to you.
He just looks at you. And you make him happy, you put a smile on his face. If he and when he does
interact with you, you take away his problems. He stresses this out. Of course, sometimes this won't
come naturally. This is the effort that we put into please our partner. And so profit associates the
		

			best wife is the one. When you look at her she makes you happy. She preserves his honor. When he's
away. She's loyal to him even in his absence, and acts in accordance to what he asks of her that he
also covers for something if he needs her assistance, she's very compliant to assist him. In another
Hadith. The Prophet Allah says the best benefit a believer has off the taqwa of Allah. Of course,
taqwa is the best thing that you can have off the taqwa. The next best thing one can have is a pious
wife, who mines what he bids, that she fulfills whatever obligations within reason that he puts upon
him. And he she is pleasing to Him when He looks at her, and she helps him fulfill his oath and
		

			protects his charity and his property. In his absence of a similar idea. Again, very simple things,
not simple things. But the comprehensive advice that I always say that whenever he needs her to help
him, she's there to help him. She supports him, and she makes him happy, he takes away he stresses.
This is the basis of women, the best teacher, a man can have. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam the prophets of Salaam also says and he's asked about Abu hurayrah, or messenger of Allah,
what type of wife is best if I need to get married? What kind of girl should I marry? What kind of
woman should I marry? So the NaVi system again, he says, the one who makes him happy when he looks
		

			at her. So this is also a physical thing that you marry someone where you find attractive and marry
someone that no matter. You know, as time goes by, when you look at her, she makes you happy that
there is compatibility between you that there is genuine happiness in one another. And she obeys him
if he instructs her to do something, again, within limits. And this word obey Him is a very
difficult word. And, you know, I'm very cautious when I use this word. today. It's very unpopular to
say that a wife needs to obey her husband. What does this mean? SubhanAllah. In Islam, there are
many levels of obedience, this absolute obedience to Allah subhanaw taala without any without any
		

			limits, not any questions and obedience to the sooner then is obedience to rulers, you leaders, you
obedience to those who have authority over you. You need to obey your boss, for example, you need to
obey the government, you need to obey your parents, you need to obey. Here your landlord if you're
renting some way, husband rasma needs to obey the wife in things which she is in control of. And the
wife needs to obey your husband as well in things which he is, which he is in charge of. And so the
Sharia, as a Sharia is wise in this way that it puts little levels of, of commitment that you have
to one another. So remember, as we see that as you entered in a Nika contract, there are certain
		

			obligations upon you as a wife, and in those things, that if there is a certain requirement of you,
a wife, the prophets will say that she fulfills these obligations as a wife, and she does not do
anything that Heidi continues to remember abou rhinoceros hula, what is the best type of wife that I
could have. And so he says the best wife is the one who is pleasing to look at. When the husband
sees her he makes she makes him happy than when he asked her to do something she's very quick in in
assisting him, that she does not do anything with regards to herself, or his or his wealth in a
manner which he does not approve of. And she doesn't do anything to upset him with regard to
		

			herself, her own person, or he all his wealth in his in his or his wealth, his family. In his
absence. Those apana lovers, Heidi degenerated enamored, again, some of these Hadeeth some of these
verses might feel out of step in our modern day. And similarly, as we said last week, we are if they
are Hadith, which are for our benefit, we as Muslims, we say even though what we learn from, you
know, 20,002 1021 is being preached in certain parts of the world. This is not what we take our Deen
from the guidance we take is from Allah subhanaw taala. And also, and this is for our own benefit in
the dunya and the Africa, there are certain verses that might not be popular when it comes to mean,
		

			why should I provide for her even if she's wealthier than me? Why should she be able to take from my
bank account without my permission, but this is what's panela the problem, some advisors and so we
have some unauthorized we're here and we obey we this is what they're also solemn has has advised
and what Allah has given her in terms of her rights, then we accept that this is for our own
benefit. And similarly, there are certain advices to our sisters that is not popular that we see in
western Western ideology, but this is we take our Deen from the Quran and the Sunnah. And so yeah,
the
		

			properties, giving our sisters a very, very good advice. If you want to be the best woman, remember,
you don't, you know, it's an aspirational thing. But yes, last week we spoke about the husband
trying to aspire to be like the lava lamp, if you don't achieve that level, at least to the basics
as a husband, similarly, our sisters, if you cannot live up to this level of of what the Navy some
is advising, then at least to not be short in any of the obligations.
		

			The promise of Solomon says in another Hadith, shall I not tell you about the women who have earned
agenda, the agenda, it is the women of the dunya, who earn What did she do to earn the agenda, and
it's very, it's a very beautiful way he put it forward, whatever you do, to please your husband.
Think of it not as a sense of I'm obeying or submitting to him, I am submitting to Allah subhanaw
taala I'm doing this for the pleasure of Allah so that I might attain my agenda. In the end, just as
Allah commands us to do certain things, which are maybe not so easy wake up, you know, you know,
before before sunrise in the morning to make
		

			to make fudger Salah, not the easiest things to do to foster a month in the year, not the easiest
things to do, but we do it because Allah has commanded us from us. And we know that this is why our
own benefit in the long term. And so the Prophet is saying to our sisters, do you want to know which
women which wives have attained gender? So they say yes, Yasser Allah, the Prophet says, she is a
woman that is loving and intimate with her husband, she's very loving and affectionate with her
husband. If she gets angry, she gets upset, whether he was hurt, he is very beautiful. Meaning if
she could, she got upset with it because of him or from some other reason, but she's in a bad mood.
		

			Or she is mistreated, meaning the husband did something wrong to upset her. Or even less than that.
The husband he is angry, something she didn't do he but he's in a bad mood. So If ever a woman you
know, prophecy, a the women of Gemini are those who are loving, they are intimate, they're
affectionate to the husbands. We even when she gets angry, or when he is angry, or if he did
something to mistreat her. Then she goes to him, what does she do? How does she respond to this? She
says, Here is my hand in your hand, she takes his hand and she places her hand in his hand and she
says, I will not sleep until you are you are pleased until this issue of ours is resolved. Now
		

			again, this Heidi's in a tub Ronnie, the problem is advising that this is a quality, which will
endear her to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Allah will love her for this, that she is the first one to
give in to say, let's let's have some kind of surah between us. Now we understand this concept
outside of marriage. When two brothers fight, we understand that the best of them is the one who
apologizes first, even if he was right, when they are two employees that have an issue, the best of
them is the one who makes peace. Why do we not understand the same when it comes to marriage that
even osis that we say is saying if you are angry, if you are mistreated, you are wrong. You will be
		

			the better one if you go and you be affectionate and loving. And of course it is natural for a man
when his wife was affectionate to him and she's loving to him and she gives him that sweet smile.
You know, all the resistance melts away in her laughs He gives him very his becomes very, very
compliant. And so the province is saying this is the best. These are the kind of women that have
that have earned Jana now, we we want to highlight a few Heidi's the number of Hadeeth that are
problematic or awkward to discussing each one to Pamela has great wisdom in them. I've taken to a
Hadeeth for the sisters, that when they use Heidi they become very apprehensive. But for us to
		

			understand the ethos and the way in which Islam frames husband and wife relations. This is Heidi
with a profitable says that if a man calls his wife to his bed, right for intimacy, and she refuses,
and he is angry with her and he stays angry with her throughout the night in the angels will curse
her until the morning now. So we'll give us an audio, you know, Akhmad calls sumaiya for intimacy is
in the mood to be intimate with her. She's either upset with him, she is maybe not in the mood.
She's tired for us whatever it might be. And she says No, I'm not. I'm not in the mood for that. And
she rejects him. And so he's frustrated and he's angry. While she's doing that she is sinful until
		

			the morning. Now many women look at this as for HANA law, why must I be punished for something that
if I'm male intimacy should be something I'm in the mood for? And if I'm not in the mood for them,
how does Why must I be punished for something I'm not in the mood for and so understand this Hadeeth
and understand the beyond the Hadeeth the the methodology of marriage in the Sharia, as we said at
the beginning of his lecture, that when you sign up for any car, when you sign up to be a wife, as a
husband, you sign up for search, you commit to certain things, and you are required to perform those
obligations, whether you like it or not.
		

			Like let's think of it like your job contract. Maybe today you and your boss had some argument and
you really really don't want to see your boss. You know you
		

			are completely upset with him, it does not give you a reason not to come to work tomorrow, you have
to fulfill that duty, whether you're happy, or you're not happy, because you have a contract and you
are committed to that contract, so long as you're able to fulfill the contract, if you're sick, if
you're unable to, that's a different story. But for you not to be happy with it, for you not to be
in the best frame of mind is not an excuse not to comply. Similarly, this applies to the husband as
well. Many times husbands come to the Imam. And he says, I've moved out of the house. Why? Because I
had some issue with the wife, we argued, and I'm not happy with her. So I've moved out, and I've
		

			stopped paying maintenance, I've stopped paying the rent, she's nice to survive on our own. When do
we say to him, we say, brother, this is how long that you need to maintain your wife, so long as
she's your wife with it. So long as she hasn't done something like cheating on you, she hasn't gone
beyond the limits of the nikka. If she is your wife, then your duty as a husband remains whether
you're happy or not happy with it, that does not absolve you of your duty. And similarly, the Sharia
is saying that here that you as a wife, you have a responsibility when you sign up, have intimacy
with your husband. And also also, when you sign up as a wife, you have the you have the right of
		

			intimacy, meaning this Hadeeth goes both ways. In a very strange scenario, maybe with a wife calls
the husband to be intimate, and he says I'm tired, I'm frustrated, I have a bad day at work, I'm not
in the mood, and he rejects her. And she is upset when he's sinful as well as panela. This goes both
ways, and some handle as an Imam, which is very strangely, I have experienced many times, in fact,
more so will you find the wife being physically unsatisfied with her husband, and we save into the
husband? Yes, we sympathize with you that you are tired, you have some issues, you are under stress,
but you have a duty to do what you signed up to be a husband. And so you need to fulfill your
		

			obligations as well. So what this hadith is telling us that whether you are happy or not happy, it's
not just about the intimacy of the heart, it is saying whether you are happy with your spouse, or
not happy with your spouse, your duties as a wife, as a husband, any means because your husband has
done something to you, and he might be at fault does not give you the right to withhold your duty
your responsibilities as a wife, and similarly vice versa to the husband. Also a side note here,
there is this issue of marital Eric, where husbands forced themselves upon the wives, even though
she says no, he insists and he forces, the Hadeeth says if she rejects you, then you go to bed. If
		

			you're angry with her, then she is sinful by does not give you the right to force yourself upon her.
You just leave us who had a lot. And also there is some great wisdom in this hadith. Remember that
we live in a time full of fitna all around you is fitna all around you is temptations and
invitations to be haram to do to enter into a haram relationship. Allah subhanho wa Taala has drawn
a circle around you and your wife, you and your husband say the two of you might do whatever you
please, so long as within the circle only with each other, you have this unique relationship that
this aspect of intimacy may only be fulfilled by your husband or your wife. And so if you are not
		

			fulfilling the needs of your wife, or you're not fulfilling the needs of your husband, and these all
this temptation around you, it's a recipe for disaster. And so the promises alum is advising wives,
but of course it also applies to the husband. And even if you are upset with one another, do not let
that translate to you not doing your duties as a wife, or as a husband. Another very awkward Hadeeth
another honey just as much as we speak to the husbands and we say to them things that might be what
they like to hear, but they need to hear it. This is also a hadith to our sisters might not be
something that you want to hear. But it is from the words of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam.
		

			And so there is only obedience in that the we know the very, very famous hadith of why they do the
job and why there will be a lot one of the great Sahaba he comes from Syria. And he so he's been
away from that of Islam for some time. He was traveling in Syria. And now he comes back to Medina
and of course he listed Ibiza Salam so much. And so when he comes to the levee system to greet him
after returning from from from Syria, he falls down in suju. He makes you do it before the Beatles
on them. He falls down in surgery. So the postal alarm system Oh my god, what is this? What are you
doing? We don't make you do to one another? Why are you making this to do to me and some other
		

			nuances. When I was in Syria, I saw the the the the disciple the people they made to do to the
priests, the the worshipers the Christians were made to do today, they bow down to the priests and
you are more befitting to receive this and so I wanted to honor you in this manner. So the sujood
wasn't sujood of love of honor of admiration. I want you know if the priests get to be bowed before
the use of all people should be bowed before and so look at the advice of the enemies of Solomon
this shows you that he the Prophet sallallahu Sallam the shows you his objectives was not to
himself, but for the
		

			the worship of Allah subhanaw taala. And he also gives a very great advice to husbands and wives,
then obviously, they insist wives do not do that. Don't ever do this again. And had it been if I
were able to command If ever I commanded one person to prostrate to another person, then I would
have commanded wives do prostrate to their husbands. And he continues the process by Allah I
swaybar, the one in whose hand is my soul, I swear by Allah, that no woman can fulfill her duty
towards Allah until she fulfills her duty towards Hi, her husband, as this how do you think in very
big holidays, explain what's going on here. So I've comes he makes to do that. I mean, some of the
		

			businesses don't do this don't make suggests to me, no one should be prostrated before, besides
Allah, not even the resources, a lamp should be bowed before only Allah has the right of sujood. But
then he goes further. And he says all of them, that if anyone have had the honor, and would be loved
and admired and be devoted, so much, we should ever be a relationship between two human beings,
where one admires and loves and is so devoted to another unit human being, I would want this to be
wives making sure do to the husbands, but of course, then obviously not come on that. And so,
somehow a lot, the point of this is say, look at was his emotional state when he made suits that he
		

			loves and admires, and is so devoted to the reason I want to bow before him than me something he
said, he say, I wish the wives or wives had that level of devotion towards the husbands. And they
felt that if we could, we'd want to make sure you'd be for our husbands. Of course, we do not make
sudo to one another. But this is the level of admiration and devotion that Visa Services, I wish we
had that if you were to command one person, it will be a wife to her husband. Now again, if we
return this Hadith, many times I say that if this hadith was the prophecies, if even one person were
to bow to another, I would command a child to bow to with his mother or her mother, they no one
		

			would have a problem with the Hadith. But the minute is a wife to my husband. There's some kind of
awkwardness in it. But this is the relationship than a reason once between husbands and wives, the
Navy's awesome once our women to be that devoted, that loving to have that level of admiration for
husband. That is what the reason is instructing our wives. At the same time, our husbands, many
women when they hear this, how do you feel so we have no problem honoring our husbands to put him on
that level? If he's deserving of it, that I would I don't mind you being the soupon, you can be the
king of the house, you can be all those things you can lead, and I will be by your side. But you
		

			need to be deserving of that. And how many women as you're listening to this, you are nodding your
head. Yes, is indeed. And that is really the crux of the husband wife dynamic in the Sharia. The
Sharia focuses a lot on the wife and focus a lot on the husband. But ultimately, if you look at it,
the back into the husband, then abuse of the Quran, it says to the husband, ultimately, you are the
one that needs to show that leadership, you are the one that comes first in terms of doing your
duty, being that good husband, and automatically is expected a wife, she would then fulfill her side
of the bargain. But first steps comes from you. And if you do that Subhanallah if you are that
		

			husband, that is loving kind for falls your duties, you will find your wife with reciprocate as
well. And so the promises are missing to our sisters as well. That part of your obligation to your
duty to Allah, your obedience to unlock is fulfilling your duty towards your husband.
		

			All of this, some of these things, you know, we can accept and some of these reject all of it. Some
of these things are easy to understand. I was we you know, for our sisters maybe is something I need
to make the extra effort like last week, husbands we don't we know we gave you that advice. And we
all try to be better husbands better wives. Ultimately, we put this effort in not just for our
marriage to be successful, not just for our spouse to love us, not just for happiness in the dunya.
The ultimate objective is, is gender. And so that's why the prophets Allah says
		

			to the sisters, when you do this, a lady came to us hobbyhorse ain't even watching. He says he's on
Antti camp with an abuse alum. And she asked him some questions. And when she was done, then abusers
have said to her, do you have a husband? she asked the resources lady, do you have a husband? And
she said, Yes, I have a husband. And so the resources to ask her how are you with him? how you treat
him? What kind of wife are you? So she says, I do what He tells me except what is beyond me. I try
to fulfill my obligations to him to the best of my ability. And so the prophets also responded to
her saying, Look at how you always mean Be very careful in your duties as a wife towards Him,
		

			because He is your agenda and your janam on the day of kiama A wives just as much as our husbands
will be asked by Allah. What kind of husband Were you always going to ask our sisters? What kind of
wife were you? Were you did you
		

			Do the bare minimum as a wife, did you do less than was required? Did you do more Did you give extra
than what was required of you were you a, the best possible wife You couldn't be, and in that you
can attain your agenda. And similarly to the wife that is negligent of her duties and
responsibilities as a wife, it could be also her jahannam and this is the words of the Rasul
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on salema, the wife of the nasal sanlam, she says that the Prophet says,
a woman who dies, while her husband is pleased with her, she will intergender that if a woman passes
away, you know, and the husband remains and he's pleased with, again, he's not pleased that she's
		

			not happy that she died. But he's pleased that, you know, when she passes away, and at her janazah,
he said, and he says, that was a very good wife, that she gets all this and he so when he thinks of
his marriage and his time with her, of course, not all of them were perfect. It wasn't you know,
every moment in those 2030 years, what ozy but overall, he knows in his heart that Allah blessed him
with a good wife, if a woman passes away and she died in a state when we Jasmine was pleased with
her. The Prophet says, she is guaranteed gender Subhana Allah. So sisters, is a means of which you
can intergender to make the extra effort for the happiness of your husband again, not for him, but
		

			for the sake of to attain gender, it is worth it. This beautiful hearty the last advice to our
sisters, the professor's allowances. If a woman performs a five Salas she makes her $5 and she fasts
on the month of Ramadan, and she Gods chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her into
whichever gate of gender you want. There are eight gates of gender, which ever gate of gender you
want to enter, you may enter it Subhan Allah, this is the highest level of success. The other person
which we know had this honor is Abubakar Golan, were the Prophet told him that he would enter any of
the eight gates of Jannah of his choosing for assistance that IBM is giving you very simple advice
		

			to get to that level. perform your solder fast in the month of Ramadan, be chaste, and obey your
husband to the best of your ability, you will get the highest levels of Jannah. And so that is why
so heinola don't do it. As we said for him, do we to please Allah subhanaw taala make that extra
effort to be the best possible wife, even when he is miserable. Even when he is difficult, even when
he's frustrated? You be the best you can be for the sake of attaining your agenda, and Subhanallah
as we as we said earlier in this lecture, in our day, in the world we live in, we are instructed to
be the best employee, we are instructed to give you know 110%, to our jobs, and then 10%, to our
		

			bosses and then 10% to our dreams and the things that we want to do, you know our passions, but no
one tells you give 110% to your husband, give 110% to pleasing your husband Subhana Allah if you're
going to devote yourself to anyone that says if you're really going to devote yourself to that level
to any person on this earth, then Devote yourself devoted to your spouse, the one which you have
taken a covenant with Allah subhanaw taala in Mecca, the idea is, we know in our Sharia, there is no
such thing as till death do us part, we hope that our marriages are successful in the dunya so that
we can be perpetual partners in general feel those melograno all of us to achieve that happily ever
		

			after with our husbands and wives Mullah. subhanaw taala God has the understanding that we fulfill
our obligations in our nikka now all of us find happiness in the dunya and then we are held on
malice panalytical give us the anyone was unhappy with what was it that insha Allah, Allah you know,
grant is understanding and that allows us to be the best possible spouses we can be mean Zach
lajitas en la signum, Hammond while only also happy with that, it will happen later on I mean, so
that while he can work with light wabarakatuh