Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari – Social Media Trap- Dangers and Harms

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari
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The transcript discusses the impact of major revolutions on society, including the rise of technology and social media, which can lead to problems in family relationships and mental health. Prioritizing technology and social media usage is crucial to avoiding negative consequences and managing time prioritizing social media usage. The speakers emphasize the importance of protecting children from harm and setting boundaries for parents to stay ahead. The challenges of parenting children and the importance of verifying progress are also highlighted.

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			For salatu salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa Jumari
		
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			that.
		
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			Especially brothers and sisters for salam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakato
		
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			hamdulillah it's a privilege and honor to be here at having Foundation, elementary hyrecar Once
again,
		
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			I've been here before, three times as far as meaningful, but three I can remember.
		
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			So this might be the fourth and the fifth time, maybe the fifth time.
		
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			But it's been a while since the last time I think I visited. I just was talking to brother Faisal
here. And he said it's it's been over two years, because previously I was on the other
		
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			location. So which means that it must be over two years,
		
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			we have a very important topic that I want to discuss. And a lot of these things are actually very
important. And I've actually put them into points
		
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			that I want to share with you. I wanted to talk about this.
		
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			In one lecture one program, I've talked about this, these topics of points.
		
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			Separately, but never together. So just today, I thought I'd put these put these points down as a
reminder for myself and everyone else in Shanghai, China.
		
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			This whole issue of social media chap, that's the topic heading
		
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			we Subhanallah live,
		
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			we are all we are living in an era in a time that will
		
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			come across two revolutions.
		
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			Normally, people if they saw one revolution in their life, that's something big.
		
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			Majority of us except the very young majority of us, we've experienced two revolutions in our life.
What is what's a revolution revolution is like a major change in the world. Two revolutions. The
first one is the actual advent of the internet online.
		
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			I'm sure people are old enough to remember the time when we had no internet,
		
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			the 80s and even the 90s. I mean, it started around the 80s. But property daily usage everyday in
people's homes. It was probably in the mid 90s. I remember correctly.
		
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			I remember the first time I actually knew what an email was, was in 2002. I made my first email
account was studying in Syria. I was studying in Syria in 2002. It's 18 years ago.
		
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			Before that
		
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			we saw is this call home or write a letter. Before that I was studying Pakistan nice to you know,
write a letter home. And then my father used to write a letter back
		
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			in Syria. I remember the sister was in the UK, she made an email and then she told me over the phone
that we can email. So if there's anything just write sent an email or send an email, and then we'll
pass the message on to the rest of the family members. So maybe we should go to an internet cafe and
make my first email and this is at what's this x like normally X was
		
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			at four o'clock or at five o'clock. This is the first time using an X something.com.
		
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			So this was the first major revolution in our lives.
		
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			And then the second revolution was the second revolution.
		
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			Social media, no, this is what we've got in our hands.
		
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			Smartphones, Android and iPhones these smartphones, because we have the internet on the computer on
the laptop. Now we have the internet on our smartphones, which is basically in our pocket. In our
pocket. We have the Quran we have the Sunnah, we have the Hadith, you have history. You have Sierra,
we have sort of what are the messenger slogans, you have machine we have a solid we have America, UK
politics history.
		
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			geography, biology, *, obscene anti *, everything in one gadget that we hold in our pockets.
This is why this is a major, major challenge. People don't talk about this issue. It's a double
edged sword.
		
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			No Allah said in the Quran about alcohol. What is Mahoma? Alcohol and gambling?
		
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			We'll see him if one curvier woman half year old in us.
		
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			There is harm and there's a lot of benefits in both even in alcoholism benefit. Alcohol sanitizers.
		
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			There's there's benefit in alcohol as well, there are some benefits. That's why for medic medication
use alcohol. It's not absolutely harmful. But Allah said well as a commercial enough, the harm
outweighs the relevant. This mobile phone or this smartphones that we have, it's exactly the same.
It's called benefit. It's called harm.
		
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			Now, I don't know if I could say that the benefit is more than the harm, or the harm is benefit than
more than the benefit. It depends on the individual. What I'm thinking now in the last few years,
but I am thinking more to the point that there's more harm in distant benefit.
		
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			There's more harm, and I will mention some of the points that we need to really think about and
that's why each individual, we must think to ourselves, especially with our family members, with our
children and people in our family. That is it more harmful for me to use the smartphone. And when I
say smartphone, social media, there's Facebook, there's Twitter, there's Instagram, there's
Snapchat, there's even YouTube and WhatsApp. All of this included.
		
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			Is it more harmful for me and my family? Or is it more beneficial?
		
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			If I feel that it is more harmful for me that it is sinful for me to
		
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			own a smartphone,
		
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			I need to abandon it. I need to just use this normal Nokia phone that we used to use. People still
use. I know two people I don't have too much like French I would love to I don't interact with too
many people. But still I know two people there's one students and our mothers and Lester, I was
teasing. He's still trying to download other other week. Like small luck, your phone, just phone and
text messages still until
		
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			and I know a brother who is actually a doctor he lives
		
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			but as a career raises burners who lives in Manchester, until now he doesn't use a smartphone. He's
a doctor GP, practicing GP doctor. If I need to go online, he says I'll go a night on the computer
and online if I need to do something but I don't need know what's up on my phone. So this is an
issue that we really need to think about this ourselves. Is it more beneficial or more harmful for
		
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			now in audit, and because you know if something? Look, there's another benefit. Like I said it's a
double edged sword. There is a lot of benefit. But the principle of Sharia, which is based on the
textbook of Quran and Sunnah is that the front
		
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			door or the front door? Oh lamb in Germany masala
		
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			repelling harm, death Ondara Oh ALLAH is more important is given great significance is given
preference over genuine Musleh
		
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			acquiring benefit. So there is something in which there's benefit, but then there's more harm
anyway. Now we need to look at it. Is it harmful for us or not? There's a few points and I've put
them into like six points. I don't know if I can call these six points. But
		
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			point number one and I want everyone to take these points into consideration and reflect upon them
		
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			and think about them and ponder over them.
		
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			The first point is that one of the greatest issues relating to social media specifically and
generally being online, but social media specifically
		
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			is the issue of addiction.
		
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			There's a massive issue with people being addicted with social media.
		
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			It's great drug. It's like a drug. You know the dopamine in it. People sometimes start going online,
and especially social media. They'll be there until 2am 3am 4am the night goes. People are deprived
from Sleep, sleep deprivation. They're not able to work productively during the day because they
were on the phone. I just I was just hearing the radio on in the car while somebody was saying that.
		
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			They were talking about Coronavirus
		
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			And there was somebody who said that look, you need to just be normal. You know all the normal good
things you need to do in your life do them eat. Well, healthy diet, healthy eating sleep well, which
means charge your phone in another room.
		
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			I just heard that now, do not have your phone in the bedroom
		
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			while sleeping because people were sleeping nobody there. And then before you know it, it's midnight
and 1am and 2am. So this addiction is a big problem. How many hours do we and our children spend on
social media on WhatsApp just scrolling down message after message after message, much of it is
junk.
		
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			Families don't talk to one another. We're sitting at home. Everyone's on the phone. The the young
son is on the phone, the daughters on the phone, the wife's on her phone, the husband on our phone,
everyone's on the phone. This actually creates problems within family relationships.
		
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			Marriages actually break down you know, I've got another talk, where I've talked about reasons for
divorce, why the separation and divorce occurs. And one of the reasons is extreme addiction will
perform
		
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			extreme addiction marriages break down. This is why I personally suggest that every household should
have a gadget free tech free zone.
		
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			Two hours and the first person to have the phone should be the two people parents before telling our
children we need to show them phone is off, not silent off, put over everyone's phone on top
somewhere of every gadget laptop computer, iPads phones, everything should be completely switched
off. Because they live still survive Don't worry. It's not it's not you know, fatal
		
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			maybe just if you have a landline phone just keep that on. So if somebody wants to call for some
reason, and they can call like we used to in the olden days, just completely one and a half, two
hours they shouldn't be technology Feasel
		
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			talk to one another. If not read a book do something.
		
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			Use the brain sometimes Allah has given us brain while we're thinking what people want us to drink
about.
		
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			Sometimes contemplation let our own minds think about things. Whilst on the phone we are forced to
read about things and think about things that people have forced us to think about.
		
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			So
		
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			this addiction, constant chatting spending on WhatsApp, constant chatting, and men women, sometimes
you just need two three hours of chatting a Santa Monica welcome Sam how are you? Good and
hamdulillah what's happening? I think God wasn't watching this while you're cooking Viviani How was
the video Annie? Okay, it's good Have you put something in it this it starts three hours of
conversation
		
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			if we took all of that three hour of conversation
		
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			print it out on a you know just print it out on paper and pick the phone up
		
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			and talk to someone you finish that in 20 minutes that three hour of back and forth conversation if
you speak on the phone you need to speak to people pick the phone up sorry come out in the meantime
it's good conversation from the library now. Sometimes these WhatsApp messages they just continue
groups people are creating groups for no reason.
		
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			No reason whatsoever absolute wastage of time. This addiction is also going against the Islamic
principle of preserving one's time
		
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			constant chatting chatting sometimes. Like there's groups and someone's phone beeps beep So can see
you at five o'clock
		
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			the person telling I'll see whoever the other person I see you at five o'clock. It's not used.
There's two people talking I remember when somebody's phone in the family beep see a farmer progress
and were you going to tell him he's telling someone else? So why do you need to know among the
groups Why are you why if the group is something where someone puts a message that is that is
relevant for every single person at every single message will be relevant.
		
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			I'll see you at five o'clock is not relevant for you at all. So why are you in Law Group
		
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			wastage of time every time you have to think look okay, we who's talking what they say. So this goes
against the basic principle of preserving time and we know the Quran and Sunnah is filled I don't
have time to go into all the IATA my time and value of time when isolation external if you force
Allah subhanaw taala took an oath by time will Latina who only lonely more elude this is all love a
few times. I think I gave a talk here
		
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			Engaging in future activities.
		
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			So we need to really think are we addicted.
		
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			And one thing I will recommend here is that we should
		
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			manage our usage of social media. So set a time.
		
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			Even online, but social media specifically set ourselves a time, I will use
		
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			one hour of my day for social media, which includes WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter, or whatever, one
hour. Think beforehand how long and what you want to do.
		
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			Beforehand, we need to think how long you know, when you plan a journey, we think beforehand, how
long it will take us and where I want to go. You don't go in and sit down with an engineer on stop
thinking now, what should I quit when I go?
		
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			So we go on, and then we think, what should I do? beforehand. This is why the people who are very
particular about their time, what they do is, they will have a fixed time every day, half an hour is
my time where I reply to all the text messages and older WhatsApp messages, the great scholars do
that they'll have like half an hour in a day or half an hour in two days. So exactly at that time,
they'll go through everything what's important, fixed time.
		
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			So this is
		
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			one of the tips that we need to use
		
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			managed time fixed time and, you know, know what we're going to do.
		
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			So addiction is a massive problem. To the point and last issue with this first point is that
sometimes we are working in the workplace, we are using the internet, we are looking at our
messages. This is a question. From an Islamic point of view, I actually have a whole article which
I've written a fatwa, and it's on mine, using surfing the internet during work hours. Is it halal or
haram? If our job is just to sit in a place, just be there, like your job under a cordless cord
assistant, or you know, someone who's just sitting in the office and you just have to pick the
phones up, then it's fine. Because when the phone someone rings cold, you can the phone, you just
		
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			have to sit there. So if if you're not doing anything else, at that time, you can surf the net. But
if you have to actively do some work, and we're not doing that, and we're serving the net, and we
don't have permission from our manager or boss, when it is actually haram. Basically, we will have
to monthly give back from our main wages, the time you've used the minute, the basic rule of Sharia
		
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			because they are paying us for the work we need to do and if we've spent so we should think half an
hour of this month, I've probably reply to messages are great scholars used to be very particular
about that. He used to monthly give back these are scholars you to teach in in the subcontinent and
other places. Give back some of the salary every month, maybe somebody came to talk to me, which was
not relevant to my teaching.
		
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			So I spoke to someone in my time where I was supposed to be doing something else every month needs
to return some wages back. So this has been cautious about time at work as well.
		
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			So this was the first point
		
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			we need to think about, are we really getting addicted or not. And if there is an addiction, then
it's a problem. And we need to ensure that we don't get addicted to this
		
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			usage of social media. Number two second point, like I said, I've got about five six points.
		
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			It's a common issue and problem and everyone knows about this is protection of the hills.
		
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			There was a time where anyone if somebody who wanted to see obscene images, haram images, *,
		
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			they would have to go out of their way to do it.
		
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			They would have to hide and do it. They would have to go somewhere hidden places to buy some video
or CD or something to see *. Now at the click of a button whether you want to see it or not.
Even YouTube, it's just full.
		
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			Sometimes you're typing something in Google and by mistake you type something else and then the else
comes up images,
		
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			*, seeing haram
		
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			and we know this is a massive sin of the eye. Allah subhanaw taala says hola Marina your whole
domain of Saudi him palummo minute you have a little bit I mean of Saudi. We're following a photo
Jonah casting lustful gazes looking at the hour of the body parts of another member of the opposite
gender and last fully looking at
		
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			* is a major haram. It takes away the bottle coffee of Iman and the spirituality and the light
it brings darkness into the heart. It brings darkness in our activities. This is a major major
haram.
		
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			Allah says colorful, maroon Lavina Humphrey Salatin has shown that look the same idea. The first
point was from the Latina who Manila we want to do
		
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			those who stay away from future activities. And then Allah said well Alina Manila we want to do
Lavina homeless Saturday for those who gives a cut well Latina whom LIFO rugi him half elude, those
who protect their private parts Illa Allah as well as you him all my medical team and who find them
later when you mean.
		
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			This indicates because once the eye is accustomed to gets benefit and pleasure from obscene things,
then it results in Haram things. So that's why the Zina of the i i Shouldn't the messages of Allah
Allah, Rita Buhari, he said Xena AMI, another.
		
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			The Zina of the eye is to look at obscene images was Xin
		
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			Yachty and Bosch, Xena of the hand is to touch was in an ozone alley CMR and Zeno of equal Xena have
the ears to hear to obscene things.
		
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			Will Mozilla
		
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			clindamycin machine and the zit on the feet is to walk towards that Hara. Well, if I were to use a
depo you can remove and then the private parts actually at the end we'll finish up the task for may
not finish up the task. That's a simple translation is a different role you can do so people some
people might just restricted the eyes enough but then they will not go all the way and for some
others it will lead them to go for the full Xena. So this is really really important. This is why
some of the scholars have said that if we don't feel that we can protect our eyes then it is sinful
to own a phone, a smartphone. One of my teachers Chefman photographers manual for the hola he says
		
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			this quite a bit. That if it's differs from individual to individual if an individual thinks that I
can't trust myself, Allah says Allah takanobu zina don't even get close to Zina.
		
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			The classical scholars that derive the routing animal for Soluna number hydrophone that were at UCLA
was zero means that anything that leads a person to Zina, you have to drop the means to the Haram
Santos area, we have a principal issue here, blocking the means to an evil. So whatever that means
is that what Allah Allah said, what I took from Xena, Xena is here, then you stay far away, far
away.
		
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			So this could lead to the zenith I an actual Zina. And therefore if someone can't control
themselves, they don't have they don't feel confident about themselves
		
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			from looking at images, which they should not be looking at, then we should avoid using social media
online. Anyway, that's point 2.33. Next few points are really important
		
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			is that, especially with social media,
		
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			people start developing these virtual relationships.
		
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			Virtual relationships, you know what this means? I mean, I've looked at these things before as well.
I've talked about these issues and studied these issues quite quite detail.
		
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			Virtual relationships, we are now seeing young people who are growing up not having the attributes
or the qualities, or basically we're seeing young people now growing, growing up not having the
confidence to talk
		
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			in person with people skills, but the skills to have a
		
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			real in life relationship
		
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			has become timid because they've grown old from 15 1617 Having these virtual relationships. It's a
big issue, social media on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, because people chat, chat, chat
talk and they start building this virtual relationship. There are people who develop friendships
from different parts of the world. There's people who've become husband wives, virtually. People
have become boyfriend, girlfriends, virtually people, they cuddle virtually they sleep virtually,
they eat virtually.
		
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			I don't even know all of this is people live a life in a virtual dream world.
		
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			They will send you know emojis virtually. So when they see an emoji that's more attractive to them
than the real smile of a person. The fourth point is actually connected.
		
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			The other day I went on to Google, just social media causes
		
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			just to see depression, anxiety, stress, mental health. And it is not just Google, but it's really
many articles have been written on this topic. Social media causes all of these problems and worse,
loneliness. sleeplessness, as I said, Because of addiction, but causes mental health issues. You
know, one of the biggest problems right now one of more than Coronavirus button sisters.
		
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			An epidemic or pandemic, whatever you want to call it is mental health issues, for the last many
years
		
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			already deliver talks on mental health issues. Previously, I remember once I went to Dublin, two
years ago,
		
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			at the university, the Royal College of Surgeons still students from all over the world, but a lot
of them come from different countries. And they wanted me to deliver a lecture on Islam and mental
health. And the reason was, they said on campus here, the university we have a massive issue. So
many Muslim brothers and sisters, they feel depressed.
		
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			These are people like 2122 23, depression, the rate of depression and anxiety within people. It's
huge. There's many reasons for that. And then even after the talk, I mentioned a lot of points. And
after the talk, a lot of people came and you know, talking one to one asking different issues and
someone's got this issue or that issue. And I really think this is one of the most common illnesses
that we find. Mental health is a big issue. One of the main reasons for mental health is the usage
of the internet and social media specifically. Because I mentioned the third point, because you've
become mind in your life has become virtual. So it's all in the mind. And then when we are on social
		
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			media, people are comparing lives.
		
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			images, pictures, videos.
		
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			Why isn't my life like that person's life? That's why it's not good to upload pictures of you, your
family, the food? Why do people have obsession with uploading pictures of food? I seriously don't
understand that. A small baby a child is born before you know even Alana EComm is given in the ear
the on social media.
		
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			Last accommodate Sundays earn your karma bathe the baby, you know, like coming to the world before
even that snap selfie?
		
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			Actually, it's a question if that's even allowed or not, I'm not saying it's not on? Oh, it is. I
don't know. You need to ask and look into this issue to take a picture of someone without their
permission and they can't give permission because they're not invited. But do they really want to be
in front of the whole world?
		
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			You know, few hours a month, baby few hours old baby young children their pictures, I don't know if
it's allowed.
		
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			Because they don't they do not have the capacity to give permission. So all these pictures people
are comparing lives they'll see, you know, a couple eating you know, me and my wife, we went and you
know, we're having a real nice meal and everyone say Oh, mashallah, Oh, amazing. Such a cute couple
everyone. And then someone's got jealousy and someone's got. And then, but they're putting that
picture after that they went home and they had a big fight and the husband punched the wife. They
didn't put that picture up. Nobody knows.
		
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			Nobody knows what's going on. Everyone's life is different.
		
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			never it never come to know guys.
		
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			Never compare our life with anyone else's life. Never compare your marriage to anyone else's
marriage. Never compare your house to anyone else's house. Do not compare your wife to anyone else's
wife. Do not compare your husband to anyone else's a husband and never compare your children to
anyone else's children. Every human, every child, every husband, every wife is different.
		
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			Allah has made us want to differently in democracy, Yusra, at the end of the day, this is a Taksim
of Allah, in some areas, you have good some areas, you have difficulty in those areas. They have
difficulty it's in Taksim, okay. So this causes mental health issues because people are just tape
talking about and taking snaps off only the good bits of their life and not the negative bits. So
you think that, you know, then the wife comes to the husband says, look, look and my friend has
nothing to hide. You never take me to holiday. But what happened you know, in Dubai that is, you
know, big problem and then after that he hasn't taken off for five years.
		
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			So these issues comparing lives with people, you know,
		
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			This is taken from the Hadith the Messenger of Allah what He said and said in a hadith, since a
Muslim but overall the love and relates
		
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			the messenger SallAllahu sallam said,
		
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			he said,
		
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			although in our men who are a *
		
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			in the world, look at people who are below you, when done, do 11 who have overcome those who have
been given more wealth etc. Don't look at their lives
		
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			for who urged them, and that is the winner Matoba
		
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			you will more likely be thankful and grateful for my local people below you in life. Look at people
who have not been given
		
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			the wealth or the health or the neshamah and the bounties. Well, this homeless people sometimes go
with the children and just go and talk and sit down with homeless people just walk past and you see
homeless people if you've got young children, take them there. I've done that in my children and you
know, once or twice, sit down and say, Look, sleeping on the floor and that's it. What, what did
they do? They took risk. So sitting with
		
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			home homeless people thinking about people in the prisons, people, this is what makes us thankful to
Allah subhanaw taala. So remember what my son once asked. We went and sat with a homeless person
just outside. And in the middle of the night, it was raining one of the nights. So he started
thinking he asked me said, you know that person, that old man we saw, is he still sleeping there?
Were you when you met him? I said yes, he's still sleeping, but he was somewhere in the streets.
This makes us thankful to Allah subhanaw taala This is a Hadith in Sahih Muslim. And actually
there's another another Hadith in the same chapter so he wasn't where the messenger SallAllahu
		
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			Sallam sees that.
		
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			He says that
		
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			because in the first heavy, he said,
		
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			look at people below you do not look at people above you.
		
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			But sometimes it's not possible. We just without us wanting to.
		
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			Without us wanting to look at people above us. They just come in front of us. Suddenly, we're just
driving and you see a Ferrari,
		
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			Porsche.
		
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			We didn't go to look at them. We didn't go to go and see who's got a Ferrari. And then you know,
just keep on being sad about it. The Ferrari came to us. So the next Howdy, the messiness of Allah
or Islam in such a Muslim. He said, If you happen to see someone
		
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			if you happen to see someone who has been given more women, for better earning even money will help.
		
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			If you happen to see someone who's been blessed more than you involve and in health, fall younger,
then go and seek out straightaway go and look at someone else whom you've been blessed over.
		
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			For a younger element who asked for element, this is instantly Muslim. So this is why social media
and online it makes us ungrateful to Allah because we are comparing our lives we are comparing that
in the lives of other people. We are comparing our marriages and with the marriages of other people.
We are looking at look happiness is the topic and so on but happiness and tranquility and peace is
not in what we have materialistically
		
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			I'll end with this point with this. There's two things one is Raha Ababa Raha Raha means happiness
peace, comfort, comfort, allow the degree learn ultimately Nakuru tranquility, this is Russia.
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala has made certain us verbal Raha means of happiness
		
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			means so if you have money, it's a means of a bit of fun quality and comfortable life. If you have
family you have health these are means but these are two separate things. You might have the means
but not tranquility and happiness. You might have the means but not you might have means and the
tranquility, you might have both, or you might have the means not tranquility, or you might have
tranquility, another means three situations. You could have both or four situations you could not
have none of them.
		
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			How many situations are we understanding this? You have the means of happiness and happiness? Okay,
you have the means of happiness but no happiness. You don't have the means of happiness, but you
have happiness. And the worst is you don't have the means of happiness and either happiness
		
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			for her the solo larva for situations.
		
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			You know, once we were I was in Denmark.
		
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			The brothers one was eating and one brother said that there's a survey that's been published that
the happiest people in the whole of Europe live in Denmark is the happiest people live in Denmark.
This is a survey research I didn't send
		
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			The people are very happy and people are very
		
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			tranquil and prosperous, etc.
		
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			And as the brothers in the same at the same time, what's your eating is? This actually I just read
another report that the rate of suicide risk is in Denmark and Norway, the most suicide is in those
countries.
		
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			So, one second happiest people and then suicide. This was many years ago, I was there with one of my
team teachers.
		
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			with Allah, he was there as well. So you're telling him and all of us, so I asked him, I said, Do
you think that there's some explanation for this? What do you think? So he said, could be you know,
I don't know. But if both reports and surveys are correct, then what comes to mind Allah annum is
that one report is talking about the means of happiness. And one survey is talking about actual
happiness. When there was a report saying that the people in Denmark and Scandinavia, whatever are
the most happy and prosperous, they looked at jobs, cars, houses, properties, they looked at all of
that.
		
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			And the suicide one is telling you real happiness, that people are not happy. So they've got all the
cars and everything, but they're not happy, they're still committing suicide, they're still getting
depressed, and anxiety, and stress and all these issues.
		
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			So this is really, really important.
		
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			Point number four, that social media has a direct impact on our mental health. Especially you know
how women, it's so difficult for them, people have body image issues.
		
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			Society, media, generally, and social media specifically has put so much pressure, you have to look
this way your eye has to be that way, your nose has to be three inches, this way, your lip has to be
that way your, your body has to be this way, you have to be this skinny, or this slim, or this
figure or this size.
		
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			This is all artificial, that's not real beauty.
		
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			And men make it difficult for them as well. Because they're looking at other things, and they want
their wives to be like that as well.
		
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			Real Beauty is in the soul of the person, how they talk, how they converse, how they are as a human
being, that's the real beauty. Not,
		
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			you know, when you get older, your wife will have wrinkles, and your husband will have wrinkles as
well. And we're going to think about people that are old. The real beauty is that that's why in
marriage, we need to attract ourselves to the real beauty of our spouses. If we do that, we'll still
be in love when were 75 and 80, and 90. But if we attract ourselves to the external beauty, then the
love will go away because you're not really attracted to the being of the person, the soul, the
character of your spouse. So a lot of the women have these body image issues comparing you know,
they don't look at it this way. And that's why there's so much pressure on selfies.
		
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			And you know, the selfie is, it's crazy. I didn't know about this. But then I found out that there's
all this
		
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			feature filter. Filters, like this is why I want to look like so I'm not happy. So many filters that
those the
		
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			the light of the color of the picture. I don't know what the filters are, but so this is like, I
wish I looked like this.
		
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			So I can't, I'm not a happy how I look in real life. But I'm just living in this imaginary world.
Again, back to the same point, the second or the third one. virtual life virtual relationship,
virtual image. It's just a crazy place to be in. Okay, point number five that was for
		
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			this is a really important point. One of the most important aspects of our deen that we will be
questioned about on Yamo criado is the issue of how we use our tongue. We all know Sins of the
tongue. The Koran says myofilament bolding the letter daily ropey when it every letter Minko
literary every statement, every word that we accept that
		
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			there's angels recording it, they are recorded we will be questionable on your piano regarding
everything we say
		
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			this
		
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			and there's lots of verses of the Quran and many of us don't need to go into them. But remember,
this statement is not just a verbal statement.
		
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			This is not just referring to what we say. Moment Buhari says in the last chapter of you know the
Sahara Buhari Baba Ali later on was you know, missed the Omen term or
		
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			any other will call on Tuesday and just like our actions will be weighed on your piano our speech
will be weighed as well.
		
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			We'll be questioned about speech on the denominator Hola, hola. Hola. Hola, golance and either every
home. Now this code, this statement is not just what we say it's even when we write. And actually
writing is more dangerous because when we say something, we said it, it's gone. Disappeared. It's
gone it, but you can't keep on hearing it. You swear that someone said harangue verbally, but it is
I mean, you're still sweating, sweating, sweating, sweating, sweating, sweating, sweating, when you
write that sweat, until that thing is written and remains written, the scene continues.
		
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			If it's something good, the opposite is also true. You write something good, until that's written
there's a hadith of the messenger salAllahu alayhi salam mentioned that whoever sends blessings only
in writing and not to show off the authenticity of the chain but it's mentioned in the bible since
Okay.
		
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			it in a book wherever sends blessings on me in a book.
		
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			Allah's mercy will be on that person continuously mirdamad Mokuba as long as it's written.
		
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			That's why when we write we should write some Allahu alayhi wa sallam fully not SJW like so what?
		
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			It doesn't matter take time out. For right the translation May the peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him. How long does it take?
		
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			Right the full. I've never used this as a W S. Right? Allah subhanho wa Taala right it fully, even
As salam o alaikum we should try to write it fully. A Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Every word we're writing very received, that's a positive way of using using WhatsApp and you know,
text messaging, wherever every time you write the Salam o alaikum, Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh so
much reward because it's written it says that, that's the positive usage.
		
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			So write it fully before I used to copy and paste in organizer write articles and boxes. So every
time you know, because in one paragraph, you mentioning the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
three four times. So I've got love may Allah bless him and grant him peace, paste, you know, copy
and paste.
		
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			But then I realized that I had someone one of the who has more than that how much reward you get,
etc, for looking at every time I just type it now. It takes a bit longer, but I will copy and paste
it, even if it's in the same paragraph, or the Allahu Allah, may Allah be pleased with him while
hugging me Allah have mercy on him. So every time the full typing, that's a positive way you take a
bit of time, but this is a way of receiving reward for something that's written. So
		
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			we will be questioned about what we write a massive issue on social media. The biggest problem is
people swear slander us obscene language, hurt people's feelings
		
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			more than they do in real life.
		
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			You know, basically, you know, what social media and online is what we used to think once in the
olden days when we used to think
		
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			we now right, listen to this cliff in the 1980s and the 1990s If you were alive, what used to think
so you're standing in a queue
		
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			and somebody's came and pushed in
		
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			your mind is thinking what kind of you know you swore in the mind but you never said it
		
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			control
		
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			someone you are driving and somebody drove in a real you know, bad way and you know, nearly had an
accident or overtook you and it was driving more carefully.
		
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			You might swim because you buy stuff in the car. But a
		
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			lot of the things we used to think
		
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			now because you're sitting you're with people but you're not with people it's a weird world during
		
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			you're virtually with people but you're not physically with people. So people now when because if
you said that to someone on the face, you got a punch to be consequences. Here there's no one your
house you do close the phone. Still in the room yet. There's always the brother here No, people will
swear slander. They'll just pull you know gossip and garbage. Even in Islamic discussions, swearing
slandering the shareholders and this group is not one this and every letter we will be every word
will be questioned about and
		
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			one of the scholars used to say that before any letter word statement sentence you say with your
mouth or you write, think to yourself, but I will have to prove this on your will piano in the court
of Allah
		
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			Oh, you may have to prove it in this world.
		
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			Do I have the evidence what I said, we're able to prove this. This is why you want to share it with
your loved one who, when someone needs to come and speak to him, he's to look down
		
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			and then respond after a while somebody asked him Shafi Why do you do that? He said had alpha male
hydrophillic Konami OfficeSuite I contemplate and think Is it better for me to talk and respond to
is better for me to stay quiet?
		
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			So all the sins of the tongue lying in here no swearing slandering.
		
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			And it's easier when people make anonymous accounts this is not when the wider even within the
normal slips. Some people have multiple Facebook accounts multiple Twitter accounts, multiple
accounts with fake names
		
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			they call this trolley trolley troll someone committed suicide or something there was a woman or
somewhere I heard in the news that's just one or somebody else I read that he committed suicide
because why
		
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			people are racist online there was a whole discussion once that there's racism I said I was thinking
to myself and I was such as some of the students that this because people have internally they
always racist
		
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			but these are just think about it in when there was no online the racism was in the mind. He looked
at someone even the best person will try to just pretend not to be racist
		
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			still in the mind is racist. Now when you have a phone and no one knows who you are, then you will
write it.
		
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			So people swear slander things, so many different things online which
		
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			are very, very difficult, very problematic.
		
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			So these are all sins of the Tunc
		
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			point five sins of the tongue and never really coming to an end or another major issue to deal with
sins of the time still point five. Okay, so we mentioned point five A slandering swearing you know,
hurting people's feelings, saying bad things about them fighting arguing.
		
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			But there's one big issue in social media in terms of a single sin of the tongue.
		
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			Messenger SallAllahu sallam said in one Hadith Gotha been Margie Caliban, a you had difficulty
Colima Samia
		
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			Katha will not equal ribbon. Then you had data between Lima Samia, it is enough for a person to be
called a liar, that he relates everything that he or she needs
		
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			any news we hear, we forwarded on the messenger Allah it was sent to me saying that basically you
will hear truth and falsehood but your habit is to just put everything forward everything forward.
This is a big issue WhatsApp Forward, forward forward.
		
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			You will be considered You are a liar. Basically it's a sin of lying in forwarding everything
without verification. There's another Hadith Bitsa and Mateja.
		
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			Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said best bait so multiyear to Rachel's Xang the worst.
Like thing up for multiyear means like my coop, like your thing that you have to take a journey on.
But what the messenger SallAllahu Sallam is trying to refer to these that some people rely on. The
worst thing people rely on is they say XAML people have said, so people they don't want to lie, but
they think okay, let me just say people are saying people are saying so I've taken the
responsibility. This is backdoor line. They think that you know, if I just put it on the shoulder of
someone else, people have said that such and such person committed fraud.
		
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			People talk about the whole world he committed fraud and he was cheating and he was deceiving. And
this person did this and this person did that on your own AR when that person comes to us and says
to Allah, he called me a fraud and he said I cheated. And I you know, eight money up from the
company or whatever. He this is what we do. We will have to bring evidence on your piano to prove in
the court of Allah. The excuse that Oh, I heard someone sent it to me on WhatsApp, so I just said
no, it's my responsibility. Quran says in general Converse on betta infertile the young. One of the
greatest responsibilities of a Muslim is whenever we find news, we have to verify the authenticity.
		
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			That's why honestly I urge when we receive all these messages on WhatsApp. Do not follow the money
until you do your research. You know people everything about even these viruses and about someone
puts a video and it just goes viral and Oh, there's one person in Kaabah there's no one there and
everyone's
		
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			majority of the time it's all falsehood.
		
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			Forwarding these things on sometimes we do it in the right spirit because we think Islamic instead
of haram, we are committing the sin of life. We are lying,
		
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			spreading rumors.
		
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			The Quran also mentioned about this
		
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			last part of dialysis with a jam Omro minute Omni I will hope the other Ruby
		
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			whatever a doula Massoud where he that wouldn't normally be normally it is comforting to know
		
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			that you know you know what used to happen in the time of the messenger so a lot when you send them
to wish you can have mocha reused to try to scare monger
		
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			the enemies of Islam is to try to scare monger so we used to call them QR codes the simple Muslims
and tell them the you know your enemies to go for Bucha key they've got so much
		
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			energy and power and might and they've got this and they've got this many souls and this much some
simple ways to get scale so these to go into another one to call this so suddenly one to another to
another room as you spread I'm not sure how to reveal this verse. Whether Jerome Amina Amina when
something about a month a piece or a will hope or fear comes to them aloud at our OB they just start
spreading it don't spread it over says you don't want your responsibility in this situation is we're
not gonna do who you love or sooner you're holding on No, go and get it checked by the messenger
Salallahu Alaihe Salam was your leader or people who didn't honor other companions who are close to
		
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			him. If someone receives a news the basic messages go to the people expert someone sends you
something medicine eat this and this will happen I'll check with a professional doctor not Google
dot
		
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			don't forward
		
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			on YouTube people everyone likes to make money. This is already making industry
		
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			I personally dislike I don't know if you guys do that if you do
		
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			forgiveness, to have adverts on YouTube videos completely dislike it I'm not saying it's haram
especially Islamic videos, people making money out of Islam. You want to go and listen to a Quran
machine or lecture and the lecture the chef was talking and saying yeah, you will love the
		
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			music comes up straight away like what's going on? Halfway through the surah I have the Quran is a
half naked woman dancing.
		
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			This is one brother sent to me I went online to listen to a lecture about Hello income and suddenly
the ad came out about gambling
		
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			the brother told me this
		
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			you know we have Islamically those people who have Islamic channels it's basically you have a right
you don't have to have ads. I'm sure you don't have to have ads we don't have a direct channel. You
don't have to if you want to make money then yes. So people use Islam you know get clips on famous
scholars etc make a channel and then make fancy titles and then put an ad so they want to make money
if you want to make money make it in a long way in a good way.
		
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			This online YouTube adverts specially in Islamic channels I think the money you're making if you're
if the adverts consist of gambling or obscene images, or advertising alcohol or anything and then
that money is haram basically, it's filthy haram many which must be given away. So anyway
		
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			I will say about this I have the Quran wager on Romania. I mean, go to the experts and verify. So
this is one of the most important issues with the usage of social media when we find any message, do
not follow them on until we do not verify its authenticity. Bertha Buddle wo Edith and Buddle.
		
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			Another form of misuse of the tongue and another form of lying exaggeration
		
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			it can happen verbally especially online because people spread rumors things spread like wildfire
online exaggeration does something small and someone added a bit of masala to it and you know this
not
		
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			again one of my future seem to talk to Dr. Money once was mentioning and once he was very he was ill
said I was no no not just at home ill
		
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			so somebody found out that he was ill. So he put a message out on WhatsApp that
		
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			somebody added very so then this message started going very ill then somebody said extremely
		
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			so the only extremely that he said somebody thought himself is extremely hill that he must be in
hospital so then the message started going on that he shared was in hospital may go out for you may
go
		
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			are people doing the right spirit. But again, we need to know what's halal and haram. It's not just
being with the right spirit. You don't you can't steal with the intention of giving it to the poor.
So this is the right spirit, it's good intention that I want everyone to make dua, everyone on
Facebook, Twitter, you know, Chinese, you know, is extremely critically ill. He said I had an old
flu and people were sending him messages critically ill. And then there were messages on Facebook,
Twitter that the share has passed away.
		
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			The sheriff has passed away, which is the geneticists.
		
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			Now this happens because people are not taught. They're not very funny. If someone said is Ill do
not forward that message anywhere. You know, the reason behind this is that people have the
spiritual disease to be unique and be the first one is a spiritual disease. Yeah, look, I'm the
first person I found out that there's no one going formula. I'm the first person with this video
unique. This is a spiritual disease. We want unique names for our children. We don't want nice
names. We want fanciful names, even if we mean by meetings, if it's fanciful and good meaning fine,
but you know, I'm beyond names of Prophets, names of Sahaba. You know, we want we want to be unique,
		
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			no one should, no one should have the same name that I give my daughter to just say, no one should
be human anymore, because he's human.
		
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			You know what, I want to be unique, nobody should be like me, I should stand up. So this prompts
people to start spreading, exaggerating and you know, spreading news and things like that. And then
Backbiting is also a sin of the tongue. Which is a major haram backbiting without a barbecue
America. We know the messengers of Allah when he said it's a false accusation is a haram, which will
have to prove in a court of Allah. But even if something is true, and we're talking about someone,
because I have asked the messengers of Allah, you send us
		
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			what is read when he said, some Allah what He said and he said, rule number LIBOR. Do you know what
Backbiting is? They said, Allahu wa rasuluh Harlan, Allah, His Messenger know best than the
messengers of Allah who and who said, I'm sending Vic Ruka a haka. democra. You mentioned anything
about your brother or sister what he or she dislikes. So the companions and almost near of Allah,
what if that person has that bad quality that I talked about? He said, If he has that bad quality,
then that is what's Riba? Because if he doesn't have that bad quality puppet button, then you've
false falsely accused them this is false allegation. So Riba is when you talk truth about someone,
		
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			not in their presence, they will dislike you to say that how many messages on Whatsapp and Facebook
and Twitter we are talking about the world even a coffin generally you call me Reba, you have to be
very careful with every word letter. So anyway, this was point number five and come to a company
then a few more minutes. Usage of the tongue which means how we write what we write swearing
slandering, so we need to make sure when we are online on social media or the Facebook or Twitter or
WhatsApp or whatever we are on a show we don't swear we don't slander we don't hurt people's
feelings. And we verify us we don't exaggerate, we don't forward anything on without finding out the
		
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			authenticity of it.
		
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			Point six the last one or maybe seven I might have mentioned just one minute. Point six is
inconvenience to others.
		
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			This is a big issue, as well.
		
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			We have WhatsApp I've talked about this before.
		
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			People add you to groups on WhatsApp without asking permission. I don't know if that's allowed or
not. I don't think it would be allowed.
		
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			You know, I wasn't on WhatsApp for a long time. Everyone had WhatsApp and then people saying Why
don't you be on WhatsApp? Why don't you need it then finally, I gave in you know, I had to be on
WhatsApp you have to sometimes get on the was moving forward. You have to you can't say that. But
I've got a baby.
		
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			When you call that state's status, please do not and not in capital letters n o t do not add me to
any groups without permission. Anyone who does was brought letters
		
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			and unhandled I'm just part of one group, not two groups.
		
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			And then it's inactive groups mostly it's only really important ones all the teachers in the middle
assign one is another group has two groups just don't want to be in groups because it's just
garbage. Sometimes it just you have to scroll and scroll how much can your mind take information?
		
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			You know some people unlike 10 groups, I just can't get help some people can be on 10 WhatsApp
groups
		
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			is that more people are more like 1015 2030 4050
		
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			I'm crazy. It's like constant connection
		
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			with peace in life you know just relax we have found a way to spend time with your children with
your spouse at home you know, mine needs to get to rest. Why why do you need to know all of this
what's going on and you know this this just forget it. It's just give your mind I've got a piece,
simple life peaceful life, the movement no less you have consequent people than better life and
quality you have. So this adding people on groups without seeking the permission is not allowed.
People should ask permission first. And the other way of inconveniencing is to broadcast broadcast
messages. You know, people, people just every two, three days they send now I think you can only
		
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			send to five people in one go or something or WhatsApp, but
		
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			a message broadcasted to everybody it's like every two three days.
		
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			It's not relevant to me. Have you asked my permission? If you haven't? It's simple. This one person
who was sending so many messages, okay. Tomorrow this is happening living in another city talking
about things happening. Okay, now Metro so this is happening in our school this is happening. I'm
not part of the school. Like I have to keep on looking at my phone to know that you've called the
students at 10am What am I going to do from less than to come and then sometimes some people always
Thursday to noon OSI satellite, I noticed that some
		
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			messages this hadith that have been sometimes half the time sometimes a hadith is not checked, who
knows what's true? Whether it's you know, something that statement is true or not. So that's
verification, but constantly broadcasting messages and sending it to people if we want to we should
as commissions look okay, and send a message first Islam welcome. Do you mind every two, three days?
I'll be sending, you know, messages to?
		
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			If you okay, then send if not, we need to seek permission because people use sometimes WhatsApp as a
phone like text message. So you want to just receive messages which are relevant to you, from
friends from family, not just this is not like, that's why I never use whatsapp generally to you
know, send these kinds of messages.
		
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			You for that you can have an official, like a Twitter account or a Facebook account where people
		
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			themselves have subscribe to it. They've joined they want to get notifications. In the olden times
the emails are in now there's a law as well. That
		
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			yeah, that people just send you people sending emails you have to you have to unsubscribe, No, you
shouldn't be subscribing not you have to unscrewed subscribe. This is Islamic principles as well. So
this is a very important issue related to social media in terms of causing inconvenience and harm to
people that was point six. And lastly, counseling is a topic on its own. But just briefly, we have
to be very careful on social media there are specific special accounts created by the enemies of
Islam by non Muslims to groom young Muslim children and eventually make them atheists and leave
Islam. There in the name of Islam, the in the name of you know, Quran in the name of sunnah many
		
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			accounts, they will start presenting Islam in the beginning they will you know,
		
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			say that, you know, first they will say things like, you know, they'll say good things about Islam,
but they will try to prove in light of science, the brainwashed the young Muslim into thinking that
anything that is proven by science is correct. So they will say look, the Quran is also this is what
the Quran says but also proven by science. The Quran and Sunnah says this as well also proven by
science look, so the mind is now made to believe that anything which logic and science
		
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			confirms is correct, which means that if something is not confirmed by science and by technology and
by modern research, which is also made of man made, because brain intellect is automatically but if
it's in the Quran and Sunnah then like it could be wrong now. That's how the mind so then they go on
to the next step. How is it possible you know all those issues that create doubt in the mind of
Muslim bringing about the job bringing about the descent of Raisa peace be upon him talking about
and then the age of artificial Avila when her talking about polygamy took all these controversial
rights of women. Slowly, slowly, slowly before you know your child who started you gave them this
		
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			nice very good smartphone has become a very non smartphone now, because this phone has taken your
child out of the fold of Islam. There are young people I've met him come across who have become
atheists by using this form that we've made this this makes people hate Islam. This is why it's
really important to do never I mean, I personally feel it's not a ruling anything but it's just a
personal preference. But until our children on at least 1819 We should not
		
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			on their own smartphones at night, I think 19 is when they should have their own smartphone. Before
that they should not have a phone. I personally feel that seriously, there are many harms associated
with this. People get involved in relationships that can bully there's abuse, this *, there's
addiction, there's virtual relationships, we don't know what they're doing in their bedroom in the
fall in the middle of the night, they're chatting for four hours with somebody. It could be anyone
you might have a daughter who's 13 year old talking to a 45 year old man who's presenting himself to
be like, a 15 year old boy, no one knows who's who.
		
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			So they have this phone and chatting to people online. And like I said, they could even leave Islam
and May Allah protects our children.
		
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			But no, this is low hanging fruit Allah said Allah was hermit like he was yourself
		
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			if you want to buy leads, it doesn't just does anyone have any questions?
		
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			If you want about the health of the iPhone is just
		
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			just questions. Just
		
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			just any questions? Okay, comment.
		
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			Questions, any questions?
		
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			Maybe afterwards, comment? Okay.
		
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			She wants to add something to Okay. If you're making briefings
		
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			about swearing inside us when somebody why plus us or somebody in the
		
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			queue
		
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			you know, it should be even inside we should not dissuade Yeah, of course. So this is another level
and this is called Emotional Intelligence. Even if some way the face me block my car, angry about
with me, I try to be very peaceful with him. And why definitely change?
		
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			That's very good comment. No, this is a point of course. I mean, I wasn't saying that. You should
swear in the mic. No, we shouldn't definitely we should try it ourselves. So just for that addition.
		
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			If you remember the six points again, point one addiction point to Zina of the eyes.
		
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			Let me ask point three.
		
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			The virtual relationship with Allah for
		
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			the time being, that was the first one time addiction number one,
		
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			protecting the eyes to number three virtual online relationships, three, four
		
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			sets, he was making notes and he was writing for
		
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			mental health issues. Five was the long one.
		
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			Sins of Tongan writing all the different parts of that swearing. Right. Liba writing about
slandering, spreading rumors and avoiding stuff. That was number five, number six.
		
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			Last time,
		
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			and creating these convenience to others. And last one,
		
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			children. Yeah. Children being groomed into leaving Islam. So these are seven points that we have a
question from, from YouTube. I think we got referred to us.
		
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			And the families children get attracted towards the social media tricks. What way can we adapt to
that our children understand the severity of these issues. They don't take it seriously. Children
don't take anything seriously. Children won't take studies seriously. Children won't take, you know,
studying working hard, nothing seriously, their children, children and children, their brains know
that we don't expect a child to take something seriously. So the point is that the parents have to
take into the history. We are the guardians, we have to be you have to be strong. Even if our
children, you know, cry, or if they you know, we have to be nice and gentle and polite in in the way
		
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			we do therapy. But we still have to be strong and firm. If it means no, it means no time for you to
use phone or your gadget or whatever to play games. Saturday, at this time, you get two hours, they
look forward to it as well. Sending this many hours, you know, be disciplined at home with children.
It's already becoming hard to say look, I didn't understand so that's why your parents allows me the
reason the reason allow me to service parents comes responsibility and you have to take time out to
look after them and protect them shall make lots of love from them as well.
		
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			How cautious should we be?
		
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			When we're forwarding?
		
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			Messages, which we think are beneficial, if we see a message returned to Jose Hades, which you've
heard of AIT, and
		
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			you've heard of before in their talk, for example,
		
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			but then you're not sure if the wording is exactly correct. And if the quotation like the Vasari,
and which I said, we're not sure if that's completely correct, should we be can we be forwarding
those? Or
		
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			how far should we check? It's good to check. But some things you can tell that look, it's, you know,
it's a common Hadith that you've heard many times, and everyone knows about it, and the word is
there. And if you look at it, then it's properly is getting reference and things like that, then you
show what should be okay, there's just the island clock on the youth and things like that at all.
And you can easily know, you know, but if if he doesn't mind that if this slight doubt, there is
best to check. This is just
		
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			to where we have to be more careful when it's other things like someone just know some information
about something else, something happening in the world and someone saying this, things happen with
that. In those issues, we really have to be careful before forwarding is you really need to verify
the authenticity of what's being sent. And there's no need to vote, save us to hustle time and save
anyone else the time was.
		
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			So you mentioned about giving fallen to the pupils when they're 18 or 19 years old. issues
		
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			we have in general guy walking to school. Normally that students 1314 12 even even the songs when
the Prime Minister they have already have a smartphone. So if you have a child, and you want to
delay the phone, this is sound notice school, everyone else around him Vodafone is in like really
difficult.
		
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			And I heard from another person as well like the people the delay the phone for too long. And the
person already had it from and he's hiding from the patterns. So the time they figured out they they
just said basically they admitted that it's their fault, because everyone around this person already
had a phone. And the girl was hiding from the pattern. And so it's not like creating
		
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			a phone, they bought it themselves. Yes, they tended to know how the girls got the phone. So she was
hiding from the patent for a long time. When she's 16. Somehow I think she went out somewhere they
figured out the phone at home. But before that she had the phone for lunch this one two years, maybe
the Taliban know to come because the parents are too strict thinking okay, I wouldn't give my phone
to my daughter or son. But she comes from some from somewhere so in that scenario not gonna happen
every time but bras specifically like how to deal in the how delay we should delay in this is when
everything peer pressure, not just the phone. But generally when everyone has something and you stop
		
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			your children from having it they you know, we want I remember when I was growing old, we've never
had TV in my house. My father's very old.
		
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			Old school, never know TV until today. We've known in his house has never been to Ireland seen a TV
screen what's in a TV until I was like 1314 I used to hide and try to go to my friend's house and
sports games used to happen. And you know, I got caught once in a while got angry enough to just
watch a bit of football in this was in the 80s late 80s When I was growing up never like TV was
haram. That was a fatwa given by the scholars in the olden times now, tz TVs have admitted haram.
But it classically all our scholars in the Arab world and everywhere, they said keep having a TV
screen at home is absolutely wrong because there's more harm in it. So it's it's a challenge. No one
		
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			can be perfect. I think we need to do is sort of
		
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			balance it with the way they look, give them alternatives. So maybe at home, have games, maybe you
have a phone that you can use, here's the phone, this is not your own phone. This is a phone,
whatever you want to be like in our presence. This game is on a play whatever may let them play
certain things. But then you have to give the phone back use it for this many hours. So that it's
not something that never seen. Because if they're not seen then and some heavy hammer money I'm like
the human being is eager to see that which is prevented when there's a barrier barrier then they
want to see it. So give them a phone but not their own phone. Not that they sleep on the phone and
		
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			the father and the parents mother and father both. We have to leave. We have to be tactful and we
have to be clever. We have to be one step ahead of our children.
		
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			You know children are very clever, even online they will do
		
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			We'll see things that have passwords to the, there'll be a folder there and say technology folder in
there, they'll have some passwords. It'll be other technology, the way they hide things and stuff.
So that's why
		
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			parenting in itself is a challenge. It's a challenge, Muslim responsibility. And parents have to be
always one step ahead,
		
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			then the children,
		
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			before they even they know what the children trying to do you and you already know you, you've,
you're ahead of them. It's a game, you have to be ahead of them in that game, you have to be smarter
than them. The problem is when children are more smarter than the parents, that's when problems
occur. That's the norm. That is the norm. I mean, if we think that we are smarter than IQ, then
we're fooling ourselves.
		
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			Kids nowadays,
		
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			specifically due to technology, clever, because from a young age, they can use what you know, I
mean, my youngest son, if there was, like a year ago, when I used to be showing, you know, because
dad, you know, you don't what you're doing, give me that for me show you how to do.
		
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			That happens, that is a norm. So I think the challenge of dealing with addiction is I don't think we
have a clear, easy answer. And I don't we don't we do. And I think this thing about delaying it, you
know, I've tried that myself, and then it brings all sorts of issues into the family. We really need
proper guidance on this. Now, I don't see an easy solution to this. I think we should never
seriously need to get together on this because I don't think any one of us here as a parent, we're
sincere. No way of dealing with this. There's no clear it's definitely it's not like one solution,
which we work completely differently. I think what else with this is that parents themselves have to
		
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			set an example. That's very important. You know, if our children grow old, when they're young, and
the seven, eight, and let's see us always on home, they come to talk to you, and you just message
		
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			them they'll see her pulling my daughter barely from the phone. Talk to me like what phone's gonna
kill you can't talk to me. When she comes on say I'm pulling the phone off, give full attention if
they grow older and keep on seeing the parents always engaged on the phone.
		
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			So that's why the Quran says one more alchemy sloty was temporary. If you want to encourage your
children to pray you have to play yourself.
		
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			The greatest form of upbringing is like self so I think we have to be very careful as well. And then
also maybe I think addition to that habit when they grow older but have this conversation.
		
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			No reason with them, explain to them why it's bad. Like we're not you know what, when I tell my
children something they're not supposed to do I sit down I'm not your enemy. I'm not hating you. I'm
not doing this because I hate you and I don't want you to you know, enjoy yourself.
		
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			I could just go away and leave it to his family. I'm not getting any benefit from it. I tell my son
he's 11 years old. I said look, you are making you pray and sit down for this. You need to do
homework. I could just go to sleep I'd be more enjoyable it'd be more enjoyable for me to go to
sleep I am making do this before you're good.
		
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			You remember me later anything since
		
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			then? So sometimes having a conversation reasoning with them telling them look this is not because
we want to stop you from something good
		
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			you know suicide rates are going on I mean to the level of what age they are of course you know you
can't explain all the details to attend so based on the age level explaining things to them
		
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			see that
		
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			along the cellular setting although you can as Ian and Mohammed said he was he was telling about the
dunya herself and all throughout the house out there
		
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			Robin
		
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			Robin I Nick Jr. on NASA your middle labor fee and a lot of people
		
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			may notice LUCA in my mafia
		
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			but it's called Marcia Schieffer
		
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			along with machine I wish we would have been mostly we allow machine our washing
		
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			machine or washing mobiles in LogMeIn industrial community myself Luckily in my article interview
because you know, Mohammed was
		
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			when I was a commercial investor, I have to call it a vehicle safe no Harlequin still alive always
says
		
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			that our holy books
		
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			have been
		
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			inducted into seminary, but nobody knows more.
		
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			Nana in Netherlands he was on a wall who was
		
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			he he was he was sending I mean what