Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari – Protecting Our Future Generations

			It's my first time here in Australia. We live in these western lands, whether it's Europe, whether
it's Australia, New Zealand, America, North America, Canada,
		

			one of the greatest test and one of the greatest challenges that we face in all these western non
Muslim countries
		

			is the issue and the challenge and the question of our children and our progeny. And our next
generation is a really, really important challenge, a really important issue that faces all of us,
whether we are older parents, whether we are younger parents, and even if we are not yet married,
then sooner or later, hopefully Inshallah, I mean, nowadays, some people don't want to get married
as well. So but that's why I have to say, hopefully, Inshallah, you will get married and you will
get some children within Allahu taala. But this is a great test. And the test is getting greater and
becoming greater and it is becoming more of a challenge.
		

			We have been commanded by Allah subhanho data in the Quran, not just to protect ourselves
		

			and protect our own Islamic identity, rather protect the Islamic identity of our progeny, our
offspring and our children. The Quran says here you have Medina, Manu, Aleykum and full circle. I
adore Rocco manga les data data and another verse, Allah says, Yeah, you're Latina, Armand, who and
		

			you know, there's an amazing thing between these two verses. Allah says, Yeah, you will Latina, I
know Aleykum and full circle, oh, you believe. Don't worry about everybody else. Don't concern
yourself about the whole world, this person has become bad and that person's become bad. And this
government is corrupt and that government is corrupt. And the Muslims have become bad in Sydney or
in Melbourne or people have become corrupt or politicians are bad or that you know, community is
bad. And there's so much you know, these people doing this and people doing that. Don't worry about
everybody else, how they come and boost goon worry about your own self. And this is where self
		

			reformation is where it starts from Islam. Sadly, what happens in today's climate is that especially
on you know, in the internet world, and social media, etc. People are always criticizing others.
Everyone else is bad in the world. Everyone else on planet Earth is bad or there's a corruption or
the sin or evil or there's something wrong, except my own self. Every single person thinks about how
other people should be reformed, how other people should become better Muslims, but they never worry
about themselves.
		

			And this is what this verse of the Quran is telling us here you have Lavina Amano la command for
circle, O you who believe take care of your own self and full circle and full circle, which means
the same Infocom is coming in the second verse. I they come and full circle, Lionel Roca mandala
data data. If you are guided if you come into the right path, if you correct your own self, if you
become a good person, if you become a good Muslim, then the deviation of Allah the strangeness or
the deviation of those who are deviated one will not harm you. Don't worry, you won't be questioned
about ABCD everyone else on planet Earth, why they were doing wrong. This is the basic meaning of
		

			the verse of course, there's more commentary to it as well. And there is this concept in Islam of
Hammermill maruf. Now here in one car, there's details. But the first step is alikoum and possible
if we are worrying about the whole world,
		

			and we are worrying about
		

			the rest of the people except our own selves, then that is a great crime and a calamity.
		

			That's a great crime and a calamity. That's why there's a hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam where he said, Men are the harlequin nurse, but who's the one who says everyone else is
destroyed for her logo. He's the most destroyed amongst them.
		

			And this will happen sometimes we just keep on worrying about other people. Poor volume and sugar
and who are you who and are you bidness How admirable is the person who is busy with his own false,
engaged with looking at his own false has no time to look at the faults of other people. So this
verse is telling us Aleykum and full circle look after your own self. The other verse, yeah, you're
Latina Manu, oh and Fusa comb. Ehrlich, Allah added Alikum here.
		

			Oh, you who believe who who is from the word you know, we acquire, protect yourself protect and
fossa gum, same thing yourself. Protect your own self. But then Allah said, We're Alico here he
added to Alico because you
		

			and your family, Earl means your family, and specifically your progeny. Because that's part of you.
		

			There's a hadith in Bukhari where the messenger sallallahu alayhi salam said to a companion, it was
a long story, but he said, and we're maluca Arabic, you belong to your dad and your work belongs to
you that you're one. This is why, you know the federal ruling. You can't give the car to your
children. Why? Because you want you share everything. You can't give a cut to your parents. So this
verse is saying boo and Kusa comb, Polycom protect yourself and your family your progeny, your
children, your daughters your son's from nah Ron, punishment of the Hellfire May Allah protect us
all. The responsibility is not to just first of all, it's ourselves but then it doesn't stop there.
		

			That's half of the responsibility. If we are coming for Salah if the parents are coming for Salah if
they're offering prayers, if they are on the right path, if they are, you know, on the correct path,
but the children have gone off track. The children have maybe even left Islam, maybe have left Islam
altogether. Who knows some, you know, some of the, in some of the communities that are examples
where the parents, the father, the mother, the parents are practicing Muslims, they're in the verse,
The Father is in the first half of the masjid and really heavily involved with
		

			the masjid and Islamic
		

			issues and the child has or the son or the daughter has left Islam altogether. May Allah protect us.
So this is saying go and full circle, Lee calm now protect yourself and your children. The
responsibility is to make sure that we protect the IMA, we protect the identity, the Islamic
identity of our children. And that is a really massive, great challenge of this time. It starts from
a young age. This is why you know when a child is born Hamdulillah we get so happy and we get Glad
Tidings Baraka Hola, hola, como, hooba and Hamdulillah. And we have massive banquets which we should
have not a problem hamdulillah in Robben Island. But then what do we do straight away we give the
		

			other than under a comma in the ear of the newborn. What does that mean that is instilling in to the
mind and the heart of this newborn child as soon as they are born? Iman shahada Tohei, the result?
That's the concept, before we come into this world, we've already done a struggle a bit of
		

			Allah said, Well, you know, he asked us before we even though we don't remember,
		

			am I not sure Lord Calobra Shahina. And then as soon as we come into this world, than and if karma,
why instilling into the heart and into the mind of the child, the newborn from a young age,
		

			Iman and don't lead and shahada and facade, etc.
		

			From then on, it starts the responsibility of protecting the Islamic identity protecting the emaan
that we tried to instill at birth.
		

			At birth, we said shahada, we said the Alon, I should do Allah, hi, Lola, I should run them into the
ears. And then we leave them
		

			and they leave the path of Islam. It doesn't make sense. It's that's what we did in the beginning,
then we need to we need to give them time.
		

			And we need to protect the identity and the good proper Islamic therapy and upbringing. So this is
one of the greatest challenges,
		

			especially in these western lands and in Western countries and non Muslim countries. And this is why
many of our early scholars and even currently scholars have said that in order for Muslims to live
in these countries, it's permissible, some said it's not but the main opinion, it is permissible,
but there is a strong condition provided provided provided
		

			the Schult the condition is that a person is sure uncertain and confident that he or she will able
to protect their own EMA and Islamic identity and Iman and the Islamic identity of their own
children. That's the condition. If someone is not confident on that, then they need to move on to
your courage member at him or her and he'll Allah who are solely from the youth recoil note. Whoever
leaves the home Mahajan, making Hijra this there's no Hegira from a place to another but Illa who
are solely to towards Allah and His Messenger meaning leaving a place or a life of sin, where they
are not able to protect their basic Iman and identity being a good Muslim being a good human being.
		

			And this starts with First of all, I'm just hungry about this
		

			starts with being a good role model ourselves as parents. A lot of the times parents are really
worried and concerned about the children. Sometimes they are only worried and concerned about
obedience. That's being selfish. We have this in the UK sometimes, you know, the parents come to the
teachers, Islamic teachers, and they're just trembling at home. They're just beating you know,
they're swearing at their mother and swearing at the Father. And
		

			what about the Fajr Salah? They don't worry about Fudger they're not worried about that five part
and praise. Just make sure that this son of mine does not swear and chat back and be disrespectful
to the mother and father. That's the only Islamic aspect for some people. And then when their
children are being disobedient when they are disrespectful. They know all the verses were called out
on books that are
		

			available at Axanar YOLO decrees worship none except Him and be righteous to your parents or
midwifery. They know Hassan Hassan parents only know the verses of the Quran and Hadith that talk
about the rights of mother and father whom mark your mother will remind you homework, homework
homework, some about your mother, your mother, your mother, these are all there, of course. But
there are also there are also many verses and there are also many Hadith that talk about the rights
of children. It's not one way street, like husband, wife, it's not only husband, it's not only wife,
every relationship in Islam is a two way street. And if parents don't do their role and job when
		

			they, you know, decided to get married when they decided to have children. And then they decided to
say the shahada not decided they had to say the shahada, and this was the guidance given to them,
the sorry the Adana Niihama but then after that they neglected
		

			there was no time for the children
		

			or they were not good role models themselves.
		

			Then there's no one to blame except our own selves if the children leave the path of Islam
		

			that's why the Quran says so many places. Like Allah said, what more halacha be Salah It was started
Alia, command your children to have a Salah by you yourself Be steadfast.
		

			And I was saying in a talk yesterday in Sydney, that one of the most effective ways of tarbiyah is
basically being a good role model 80% of tarbiyah job is done by being a good role model 80% You
don't really have to do much. If a child sees in his home, parents, time of Salah they don't perform
well do they pray, they are making dua to Allah, they are begging Allah they are performing jodel
reciting the book of Allah, they are reading Sera, they do Tao of the Quran recitation constantly at
home, they see how they converse. They see how they talk how their relationship is with their family
members. They see the Father Mother how their friendship relationship is with the neighbors with
		

			their own brothers and sisters and siblings. If they see their parents fighting overtime, then they
think that's the norm fighting is no offense to that. So that's that's what we do. We fight. We
always argue we swim. Now the Father is saying Don't swear swearing is bad. But then they the child,
he is a father swearing and it's being hypocritical. That's what the child they might not say
anything, but that's what they think.
		

			You know, the Father is saying don't he's got a massive cigar in his mouth. Don't smoke is bad in
those moments.
		

			So what's the child going to think you're smoking? Well, I can do it, you can't do it.
		

			So this, you know, the daily look at all these things. If we for example, at we are at home, and
someone comes to our house, and we don't want to meet them,
		

			can you go 12 That is not at home.
		

			So the sun will go and open the door. Somebody just told me he's not at home
		

			they will see that this is line and then we only if we if they are lying. And then we say to them
lying is bad for you. Then they've got a role model which lies
		

			even though we might take it lightly, but it's not likely. So these kinds of things, being a good
role model and also giving them time. I know time is short and time is limited and we are very busy.
And we have commercial activities and we have a lot of things to do. But honestly, for the sake of
Allah, we must we must we must give quality time to our children to our family, even in these busy
times that we have at least one meal a day. The family should have one meal a day together, where
the husband and the wife and the children are eating and talking and conversing and everyone's
gadget smartphone not so smartphone. Mobile phone should be put away switched off
		

			No gadget, they should at least be a gadget free zone at home. Two hours, at least minimum. This is
a gadget free zone, where the father is the first role model my phone switched off on top of the
table. Mother normal what's happening with all your says, you know everyone else? Yes, when you cook
your food, keep on talking to all your friends. But now put it away full attention. Give each other
attention. Talk to one another Converse like we used to do back in the day, some of our, you know,
elder brothers will tell us how back in the day people used to actually talk and now no one taught
at home everyone. I don't know why people love the people in the phone more than the people that are
		

			in front of them. What's happened to the humanity? Why do we like and find people in this phone more
interesting than physical people in front of us? There is a reason there is a constant. There is a
reason why that's another topic. It's sad.
		

			Because we find the people in front of us more challenging, more irritating these people. You know
how some people they like animals more than human beings. They like dogs more than children because
it's easy to deal with dogs that listen to you. It's very easy. There's no challenge. Likewise,
people in the phone, there's no challenge. You know, if you don't like what they say, switch off, go
and finish this person is in front of you dealing with people on a day to day basis. It's difficult.
And this is the whole more Arusha situation. So having conversation, giving them time, being
involved in their therapy or being involved in what they do in the day to day life, share quality
		

			time with them. This is really important. This is even I'm not even talking about you know, teaching
them about Islam and all of that that comes afterwards. This is right in the beginning. Even if you
share time with them going playing sports with them, not not a problem. This is parents go and have
a game with them go to the park and sit another I don't know if you'd say football or soccer here we
say football, but play whatever you want to play, play games at home. This is a family game Mother
Father, Son, Daughter, everyone today's a game time everyone plays together this is also if you do
it with the right intention inshallah you get rewarded.
		

			If you make the right intention, this rewarding this as well. And then making sure finally,
		

			to give them good Islamic knowledge and Islamic if as much as we can not everyone can memorize the
Quran or not everyone can, you know, learn advanced Islamic knowledge but basic Quran recitation, we
ourselves should know how to recite the book of Allah subhanaw taala. But our children basic
recitation of the book of Allah, basic Hadith, basic fact basic Islamic teaching, education, and
also ensuring that if they are acquired, they are acquiring secular education, then secular
education must be in an Islamic environment. And that is a whole chapter on topic on its own, which
we don't have time to talk for in a job, where we have massive challenges. People have left people
		

			have they've lost, they've lost their children in those environments, lost them completely, from all
angles, and you can understand what I'm talking about it religiously and from all angles.
		

			We have these examples of children are Muslim from Muslim families, children coming home and someone
is a boy has become a girl and someone's girl thinks is a boy. And then someone who thinks is a
kangaroo and, and all sorts you had in the UK just in the news that week that there was a
		

			boy who came to the school dressed as a cat. And the teacher was asking questions, and he was saying
meow meow. The teacher said why says look, I feel you just we were told yesterday you know how you
feel you are I feel I'm a cat. And that's it. I'm a cat. And if you say that I can't say me out I'm
going to report you to you know, this is harassment or this is you know, discrimination.
		

			This is where this the world is going to. It's all sorts. Just basic, protecting the basic humanity
basics common sense which used to be common, which is not no longer common anymore. It used to be
common sense. This is a challenge these challenges were not there for our forefathers and our
grandparents and our great grandparents, they had challenges but not these challenges. These are
huge challenges. And if we do not make sure that we are on top of this, then we will lose our next
generation. May Allah protect us. So this is just a message to make sure that we are involved with
our next generation and with our children and we are you know active in preserving the Imam and
		

			Islam and good upbringing and tarbiyah May Allah Subhana Allah grant is the ability to view and make
our children the coolness of our eyes we should always recite just to end there's a dua in the
Quran.
		

			Rabbana have Lerner mean as Virgina was the real Tina, are you watching? Bina Imam? It's a beautiful
dua. Oh Allah grantors from our spouses,
		

			make our spouses and our children the coolness of our eyes, and make us the leaders of God fearing
people meaning make our children God fearing after every Salah if you can or whenever you can as
much as you can. It's a beautiful dua. May Allah make us practice according to those rules.