Muhammad Al Durrah – How to Treat Your Parents Isha Khatira
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The speakers discuss various ways to handle parenting, including reciting in the first and second raka'ah from the book of Allah before I take you to the Galatians, not using harsh language, honoring your parents with your words, and not being grateful to your parents. They stress the importance of being grateful to your parents and your sister's words to avoid being criticized. The speakers also emphasize the importance of forgiveness and respecting old deeds, and mention a story about a woman who was disconnected from her mother for 3 years and eventually found her in another country.
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I decided
to recite in this
in the first and the second raka'ah from
Surat Al Isra.
They said
that
taking care of our parents,
it's a deen,
and
deen.
Deen will lead us to Jannah insha'allah. Say
insha'allah.
And
Deen,
we will receive it back from our kids.
So however we treat our parents,
we will receive the same treatment from our
kids.
This is 1
+oneequal2.
There is no way for someone who was
harsh
and kind to his parents to receive the
goodness in his life.
And they said,
there is no way for the righteous person
who was good toward his parents
to have the bad ending in his life.
For the person who was so nice and
good to his parents.
The
proof from the book of Allah
Before I take you to Surat Al Akhaf,
in Surat Al Isra, there are 5 orders.
When I was thinking about
the I found something, I wanna share it
with you.
They said about the tongue,
taste
your words
before you say them.
Before you say the words to anybody,
make sure that they're sweet
and put yourself in the other side.
Now imagine when you're talking to your own
parents.
If you're harsh,
if you disrespect
them with your words,
this could lead someone to jahannam. Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala told us when they are
old, our parents, one of them or both,
don't say the word.
So look at the connection between treating our
parents and our tongues and our words.
The first order,
don't
say.
If your parents are old and they keep
saying and repeating something to you,
don't say.
If your parents are requesting and asking you
to do something and you don't like this,
don't say.
Don't be harsh and break their hearts.
The old men and women,
their feeling is different than the young person.
So and they expect from us a lot
of good things.
Make sure when you talk to them
to avoid any harsh word which could break
their hearts.
So don't say off.
Don't scream and talk to them in harsh
way. So this is also related to the
tongue. And the third one, I need your
help.
Say to them,
honor them with your words.
How can I, you know, honor my parents
with my words?
You are the best mother. You are the
best father in the world.
These words means a lot to our parents,
especially when they are old.
When they see us as spouses,
dealing with each other with full of love.
When they see their kids
loving their grandfather their their grandsons,
showing them so much of love,
they expect from us the same thing.
I feel that there is no barakah
in a house
where is no respect and honor for the
old man or woman there.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala put the Barakah
in our homes.
Humble yourself
when you deal with your parents.
Don't say to them you're old fashioned.
You don't know what's going on.
You don't know how to deal with this
or that.
And remember that your brain,
your flesh, your bones, your body came through
them.
So they are the mean for us to
be in this dunya.
Ibn Abbas, radiya Allahu An, he said, there
are 3 ayaats in Quran.
They're combined with, you know, 2 words.
Obay Allah and his messenger.
If someone says I believe in Quran and
I don't believe in sunnah, this person is
not a believer.
Zakah. You know, perfect your salah and pay
the zakah. If someone says I will pray
the 5 salah, but I don't care about
the zakah, this person, may Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala guide us all. And the third
one,
be grateful to Allah and to your parents.
Ibn Abbas said, if you're grateful to Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala,
you cannot
be,
you know, you cannot be grateful to Allah
unless if you're grateful to to your parents.
That's why
Our relationship with Allah
cannot be perfect
until we fix our relationship with the creation
of Allah
with the people around us, especially our parents.
How can I come to pray with the
in in the masjid with jama'ah?
And I let my father crying at home,
or I disrespect my mother. And my advice
for the sisters and for the brothers,
try to help each other to be good
to your parents.
Try to show your love and your respect
for your parents, Allah.
The the media made a lot of minds
to disrespect the Quran and the teaching of
through something is not true.
Your
parents in law, they should be in your
life like your own parents.
It should be done this way. And every
brother here should help his wife to be
kind and to be connected to her family.
Before I moved to here,
a sister
was talking to
the imam. She said, it's been about 3
years.
My husband is not allowing me to call
my parents.
Not in aid, not in Ramadan, not in
Jum'ah, not even a phone call, not to
visit. May Allah
protect us all.
And the 4th
the 4th order I mean, the 5th order
from the ayah of the Quran,
So it's related to
our tongues.
Make dua for your parents. And my
always I remind myself and all of you,
in our sujood,
let's make it habit in our life.
After we say the tasbih,
we could
say it's a beautiful dua to ask Allah
to keep our hearts in his way.
And Can you say it after me,
That's a beautiful dua. So let me take
you to Surah Al Akhaf, and I will
finish inshallah.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala told us and
the
of treating
our parents or the parents in general, it's
not only for the believers.
It's for every human.
Even the non Muslims, they should respect their
parents. What about us as believers?
We should try our best because they are
they are our keys to Jannah.
So Allah
is reminding us especially when we reach the
age of 40.
You know, at the beginning
of our life when we came to the
dunya, when we were in the wombs of
our mothers, we don't remember anything.
When we came to this life, it was
a moment of death for our our mothers.
We don't remember that. So Allah is telling
us, Then Allah is telling us,
Why 40 years old?
Most of the brothers and the sisters who
reach the age of 40,
they have kids. May Allah bless all of
our kids. May Allah protect their iman and
their deen.
So as
when you go home and you feel so
happy
receiving your kids,
you know, hugging them, enjoying your time with
them,
don't forget that old mother who is waiting
for you in her room.
Don't forget your father who is waiting for
you in his, you know,
place.
Don't
let your parents to end their lives
outside of your home if you have the
ability to keep them in your home.
Listen to this shayrabab.
When
you go to visit the elder homes
and you see the tears
and the wishes of the brothers over there
and the sisters, I wish to see my
grandsons.
I wish to spend some time with my
kids, but
they don't have that
in in in their life. But I wish
that nobody
from this gathering
will treat his parents this way insha Allahu
Ta'ala. Then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala told us
about the beautiful dua.
InshaAllah Ta'ala, we all memorize this ayah. Try
to add it to your dua.
Ayah number 15 in Surat Al Akaf. What
is the result of that?
Imagine yourself
standing in front of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
and Wa'udhi Al Kitab as Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala described that the book will be, you
know, put in front of Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala.
The disbelievers will will be shocked
and the believers,
Allah said, Allah will accept from us
Allah will accept from us the best of
our good deeds.
What about the the bad deeds?
We will forgive them their sins.
And they will be from the people of
Jannah.
This is the promise of who?
Allah
And I would like to end with this
story.
Anybody
here does not have his mother
in his life,
may Allah
have his mercy on her
and also your father. May Allah
have mercy on them.
A person
had a problem with his mother.
Then
he decided to disconnect himself from her. She
was back home in another country, and he
was in another country.
So he decided not to visit or to
call for 3 years.
After 3 years,
maybe he attended something like this, and he
heard about the right of parents,
so he decided to surprise his mother.
He get the ticket,
traveled all the way home.
As soon as he, you know, was next
to the house,
his neighbors came to him
and they said, brother,
we're sorry.
Your mother already passed away.
Imagine the heart of the mother who is
disconnected from her son for 3 years, the
hope,
the wishes of that mother to see her
son coming to visit her, to see her
son sit next to her. Then he said,
I entered the house, and I looked my
mother and stuff. You know, the sijada of
the old mothers. May Allah bless them and
protect them. You know, the,
misbeha
and, you know, some other stuff they you
know, we used to see whenever we see
our mothers. He said, I entered the room,
then I I went to my room and
I saw my stuff organized as if my
mother was waiting for me to come,
And she left a piece of paper.
She said, my son,
I was waiting for you.
I wish for you the best.
And I want you to know that I
am pleased on you.
At the end,
please
forgive me.
May Allah forgive us and our parents.