Mufti Menk – When did Mufti get Married
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The speaker discusses how people are still looking for wealthier lifestyles than they actually have, and how it's difficult to relied on someone's father. They also mention that people are showing their true selves and that it's toxic for anyone to feel like they are just playing games with them. The speaker also talks about how people are still looking for wealthier lifestyles than they actually have, and how it's difficult to feel like they are just playing games with them.
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What age did you get married?
1919 Mashallah, so I have grandchildren, I have 10 children and three grandchildren, direct grandchildren and perhaps another one very soon. And like I say, four of my children are married and the others are still to get married. I even one day, in one of my lectures I said, guys, I have a daughters and two sons. So all the boys better be in good behavior because we're watching you.
Mashallah, mashallah, can I send him if ever there was one? Can I say something? Because, of course, you've
Spoken like a true man. He practices what he preaches.
Exactly.
19 You know, I, I think today 19 We consider it people are still children. So So So what happens is, a lot of the times people say, Well, you know what I'm looking for someone who's, who's who's got a good salary, a lovely house, a beautiful car. When I married I had nothing I relied fully and totally on my father. And there was nothing wrong. And it was amazing. I want to encourage the parents who are here. You know what, it's not bad to rely on someone's father, for as long as that father is not going to be interfering in your life, you will have a decent marriage. It's okay. The same parents who are now saying we need a wealthy son in law, have had
issues in their own lives when they started up, and they didn't really have much. So we need to go easy on that. It's not wrong to rely on folks. I know people who have relied on their in laws like Musa alayhis salam, he relied on his in laws. He was marrying a man who employed them and said, You're going to work for me for so many years. You can take my daughter, he says, well, there goes, I'll do it. So it's not wrong today, because we're living on you know, social media. We're comparing our lives to the lives of people we think exists, but they're just showing you a life that they're not actually living. So it becomes very toxic. And because of that people are looking for someone
who's so wealthy that anything I want, I can have anywhere I want to go and eat out. I never ever ate out throughout my childhood. And even when I got married initially for years on end, we didn't ever visit a restaurant. We couldn't afford it. So alhamdulillah it happened a bit later and Allah opened the doors. We thank Allah The reason I'm saying this is just to let people think, you know, food for thought to each other.