Mufti Menk – WHAAAT! You Cannot Marry a Black Man

			Salam aleikum, the world has become a global village, we know that the norms are becoming similar
from country to country, the cultures are dissolving to a great degree, with some still taking a bit
of a while. But remember one thing when you're getting married, the profits are Sonam always teaches
us look for someone who is similar to you, similar in certain ways, you know, their habits, perhaps
similar in their financial standing similar in their religious dedication, similar in their lineage
to a great degree, and so on. But my brothers and sisters, that to that is called Khufu or Kapha.
		

			A person would be Khufu or the verb would be Kapha. Remember,
		

			it is important for us to follow that instruction. But some people use that as an excuse to deny a
cross racial cross cultural marriage. Now, that's not Islamic, because for as long as these people
who belong to a different race, so it's cross race, you know, interracial marriage, for as long as
they've been brought up in a similar way. Say you were both brought up in London, you were both born
and raised in New York, for example, both of you were born and raised in Australia. And you went to
the same schools, you went through the same system, you had the same norms. Your parents might not
have had those norms, but you've had them and you've brought up together, my beloved parents, when
		

			someone proposes for your child or your child wants to marry a person of a different race, who's
been brought up within your system, don't use Kapha and Khufu, and the lack of similarity to deny
them that right that Islam has given them that is actually racist. That's what it is. So if it does
happen, that they want to get married, and they happen to have a similar sort of an upbringing,
education, etc. They went to the same schools, they they grew up in a similar fashion, they come
from the same community, they had the same community center, they went to the same Masjid, madrasa
University, whatever else it may be, you know, the norms are quite similar these days. So the
		

			disparity is not that huge, but where you have those people who are strictly cultural, and the
children themselves are also that cultural, then perhaps you may want to tell them this thing is not
going to work. But let's not be racist. And let's understand Allah subhanho wa Taala created all of
us, and He created us equal. Yes, we we are encouraged to look like the professor Selim says, at
some form of similarity, but don't use that as an excuse to deny someone there, right. Similarly,
we're never allowed to impose on a person never allowed to impose on a person marriage. So a groom
cannot be forced, the bride cannot be forced. Don't ever force them no matter what, my brothers and
		

			sisters, people are struggling across the globe, we're in the 21st century and look at how people
are coming to us and telling us, you know, I've been denied this, and this is wrong, and that's
happening. And now I'm being forced to marry and I didn't want to marry and I was compelled, and I
don't love the man and now I'm so and so my heart is elsewhere. These type of things are not
supposed to be listened to your children, talk to them, communicate with them correctly. And at the
end of the day, I'm a person who believes I'd rather let them make a mistake and come back in one
piece, Mashallah to me and say, you know, I made a mistake, you were right. And for them to lose
		

			their minds and become depressed and become, you know, patients of mental health with me being the
cause. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect all of us. I pray that Allah protect us also from racism,
and from various types of
		

			wrongdoings in this regard. akula Kali hada sallallahu wasallam albaraka Lana Vina Mohammed was
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.