Mufti Menk – The Duty Of Divorced Parents

			My brothers and sisters you need to understand if you've been divorced and you feel it was unfair or
you feel you could have made it work, but your ex spouse is just not interested. You need to know
something. Allah says in the Quran, giving you a lot of comfort.
		

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			it he wacana law, who was he and Hakeem verse number 130 of Surah An Nisa. If the two separate in
divorce, the two have divorced, Allah will bless both of them with his virtue, because he definitely
is the owner of great virtue, and he is very wise. Allah has broad virtue Subhana Allah. So
remember, divorce is not the end of your life, it could be the beginning of a much happier life. And
usually, if you have faith and you keep trying, it is the beginning of a much happier life. How many
times have we heard of people who've been divorced more than once, and then they marry for the third
or fourth time and they are so happy, they forget all the hardship that they went through the first
		

			time, the second time, etc. So my brothers and sisters, it is not the end of the world. So Allah
says, when you separate, be respectful, you don't need to engage in mudslinging speaking bad about
the other, you need to worry about yourself to the degree that you ask Allah for goodness, not just
for you, but even for your ex spouse, more so if that ex spouse is a parent to some of the children
that you have in common together. So you need to make sure the children grow up respecting the
person you disagreed with, for as long as that is possible. Yes, if they have very bad habits, for
example, if they are abusers, and if they have engaged in huge crimes, you may want to save and
		

			protect your children to a certain degree, but be very fair and just about it. And that's why Allah
subhanho wa Taala tells us in the same surah O you who believe, be fair stand upon justice, bear
witness for the sake of Allah, even if it is against yourselves, your parents or your relatives,
whether they are wealthy or poor, Allah comes before all of them. That is verse number 135 of surah,
Nisa be just be fair, even if it's against yourself, don't say things or do things or pass judgment
that is very unfair. May Allah subhanahu wa to Allah grant us protection. So that type of a crisis,
where we have discord where we have so much of turbulence in the home, let's learn to be fair, let's
		

			learn to give people a chance. Let's learn to try our best and ultimately, if it does end in
divorce, it's not the end of the world. We should concentrate on building ourselves and we should
concentrate on trying again by the will of Allah and wishing well for our ex partners. May Allah
subhanahu Allah grant us goodness