Mufti Menk – Ramadan 2021 Suhoor Boost – Justice for Women

			Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
		

			Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah, he was
happy at mine. My brothers and sisters this evening we read Surah Nisa, which is obviously dedicated
to the women. One thing that is clear in the surah. Allah has repeated the issue of justice several
times in the surah. Now, it is never a coincidence for Allah subhanho wa Taala. Many of us are
guilty for not being just when it comes to our women folk, be it our wives, be it our mothers, our
sisters, sometimes our daughters, and even our in laws and so on. We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to
grant us a sense of justice. I want to remind you that when you came onto the earth, you came
		

			without any clothing, you were born with nothing, you owned, nothing, you had nothing, you brought
nothing, and you came with nothing. And when you will leave, you will leave in fact, with two pieces
of cloth, which is a bonus from what you actually came with. When you go into your grave, they will
give you an honorary two pieces of cloth Subhan Allah or three, perhaps, may Allah subhanho wa Taala
grant us an understanding that when we came, we brought nothing, when we are going to leave, we will
leave with nothing besides our deeds. So this whole world is actually there for us to do as many
good deeds as we can allow, will throw into your examination, women, wives, children, parents,
		

			siblings, in law's business partners, whoever else, Allah throws them into your test, in order to
see what do you do. We know what's going to happen in your life. But we want to see how you react,
how you retaliate, what you do, how you are how you develop. And this is why when it comes to laws
of money, there is no other act of worship that Allah has mentioned in such great detail, then that
of the wealth that you leave behind, when you die Subhan Allah, the detail is so so fine, that you
cannot go wrong. There are very few minor differences of opinion when it comes to inheritance. So I
call on you, my brothers and sisters, to learn the rules of inheritance, to learn that the money is
		

			not yours and malamala the wealth that you found on earth belongs to Allah, you will leave in the
wealth will continue. But you might lose sometimes people say, I have got five sons one was not so
nice to me. So when I leave, I want to block him. Now that's a very interesting statement because
you feel perhaps that this one son was not so nice to me. Or maybe his wife wasn't a choice of mine,
La ilaha illa Allah, when did Allah say a wife of your son should be your choice? Once someone told
me Well, at the time of Ibrahim Alayhi, salam, he came to the door, and he told that woman tell your
husband to change the doorstep. And that meant that the father was instructing his son to divorce
		

			the wife, therefore, fathers are allowed to instruct their sons to divorce their wives. I said, No
way. You are not Ibrahim alayhis salam, and that instruction was not revelation from Allah Subhana
Allah, the day someone claiming to be well, you know, you and I know Prophethood is over. But when
the Prophet said Ibrahim alayhis salam, it was something different today, for some petty reasons
your father could tell you divorce your wife. What is right for you to do? You need to ask yourself
is my father right? Or is my wife right? Yeah, I you
		

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			amazing verse. Allah says, all you who believe stand steadfast for justice, for the sake of Allah,
whether it be against your own parents, or your relatives, your children, whoever it may be the rich
or the poor. Sometimes people side with the rich Have you noticed that? The rich man is always
right, because you know, if I say he's wrong, I'm going to have a problem here. Allah says in yakun,
honey and opha, Kira for love hula being eema. Allah comes before both of them that wealth, what is
it? Allah says rich or poor? you side with who is right, your father, your mother? Recently, I
released a little lecture where I said who is right, your mother or your wife? The answer is or who
		

			do you love more? The answer is when it comes to who is right. You've got to look at what the issue
is. If your mother is wrong, respectfully very kindly. You can actually call
		

			Rector or you can move away in order to portray your dissatisfaction. Ibrahim alayhis salam
beautifully told his father, yeah, Bertie in de cada Nieminen me, mala Mia tick for me dicalcium
		

			Oh my father, I have some knowledge that did not come to you follow me, I will guide you to the
right path. SubhanAllah if we were to tell that to our fathers, we'd be kicked out of our house.
Right? That's what happened to Ibrahim alayhis salam, he was kicked out of the whole community. They
threatened him. But he said it's so beautifully. You know what he says? Yeah, but it in me. I
		

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			oh, my father, I fear that perhaps the punishment of the Most Merciful will get to you. Look at the
look at the contrast. On one hand he's describing Allah is Allah man, the Most Merciful, right? And
on the other hand, he's saying the punishment of the Most Merciful, it goes to show that Allah won't
punish you in a rush. You have a chance to turn that's what it means. You have a chance you and I
have millions of chances to turn to Allah, you did something wrong, make amends. So this is what we
mean when we say you look at who is right who is wrong, be it your father or your mother. Here is
the verse of the Quran. We read it tonight in Surah Nisa, where Allah subhanho wa Taala addressing
		

			the matter says that Oh, you who believe stand firm for what is right for justice, even if it's
against your own parents, who are a lowly Dane, mother and father. Some people mix up the Hadith of
the prophets of Salaam wherein he says, Who is the question was asked, obviously, who is more
deserving of my good companionship? What was the answer? My mother, your mother, basically? Who next
your mother who next your mother, we've even heard some songs made in that regard, right? It's true.
Is that talking of obedience? No. Is that talking of when she is wrong? No. It's talking of your
kindness, man. How can NASA be whose name is Betty, who is the most deserving of my goodness, my
		

			kindness, my good companionship, your mother and your mother and your mother and then your father,
your father will probably slap you Subhanallah if you are mischievious, I don't think in this
generation that would work because the son would come up and roll his sleeves and show his dad, the
result of all the protein has been pushing Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us protection. By the way,
it may not be so healthy.
		

			But the point being raised is you need to know that what is right is right, be it your mom or your
dad or whoever it is. This is sure to Nisa. Many people have a problem between their wives and their
mothers because they don't know how to.
		

			I was about to say play the politics, but they don't know how exactly to manage it. It's something
to manage, your love of your mother will never change, it will increase. It's a different type of
love. You can never say I don't love my mother, or you are not allowed to be unkind to her, even if
she is unkind or even if she is wrong, you can respectfully let her know that. But your love for
your wife is very different. And you need to understand this, you need to know it. And you need to
be able to juggle the two in a beautiful way. Sometimes you might have to protect your wife from the
harm of your own mother. And sometimes you might have to protect your mother from the harm of your
		

			own wife. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness. So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us
beautifully regarding the wealth that we leave when we pass away to be just to be fair, especially
to the women and the orphans. The widows are cheated. A lot of the times, the orphans are cheated. A
lot of the times people want to change the wealth. People want to shortchange them. People want to
say no, no, no, you don't have a share anymore. Because you know what dad gave you when he was
alive? Subhanallah that's a statement that you need to throw out of the window. Because Allah tells
you, whatever you gave when you were alive, you gave what was yours. The minute you close your eyes,
		

			it's ours. We decide what's going to happen with this.
		

			May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us an understanding? And there's no question. There's no doubt
what's the point of me failing in the last moments when I'm about to meet with Allah subhanho wa
Taala. And my will is totally upside down completely an Islamic totally in the opposite direction of
the instruction of Allah. And that's the last thing I needed to do as I left, you're not going to
take your wealth with you. Let's go back to those five sons. Imagine you didn't block any of them
and you followed what Allah told you. And it so happens that 20 years later
		

			There's only one son who always makes two out for you. Who is he? He's the one who regretted that he
was a bad son when you were alive, the other four they forgot you Subhan Allah, that was a good man.
That was a good man is not going to get him into Jana. Oh ALLAH forgive my father. That's what's
going to get him into Jana Subhana Allah so don't underestimate who's going to be closer to you
later on, you don't know, be fair, be just you passed your test in the eyes of Allah, whether you
got along or didn't get along with that particular child, it is your child. Some people want to
block their brothers and sisters in the case where they don't have children or they don't have male
		

			children sometimes. My brother, my sister, you cannot do that. It's not up to you. This is Allah
telling you it's justice. This money was ours. This wealth was ours. You came onto the earth zero,
you're gonna go back zero. Don't worry about what's gonna happen. Do it the way we told you and
that's it, you will succeed with Gen natural filters. That is Allah. So these are the verses that
Allah has repeated. There are other verses that I want to report to you about. In what we read
tonight in Surah, Nisa, Allah speaks about marital Discord. It's normal and natural that you might
have a few misunderstandings in marriage, because you are two totally different people. It doesn't
		

			mean I want a divorce. I want out, I want to get out and you were only married, you need to make an
effort sacrifice, adjust and change on both sides, not just on one. You can't say you're a woman,
you need to adjust Well, if you are wrong, you also need to adjust. You need to correct your bad
ways and habits, all the * all the bad friends you have all the drugs that you've been
taking, even if it is weed. Some people think it's okay, it's just we just weed. The only weed we
know that's permissible is Tajweed. I'm sure you know that right? Otherwise, you can't say just weed
weed is weed come what may?
		

			Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us? Yes, some people speak of the medicinal properties of it, of the
cannabis and so on. We're talking of the social smoking of it is totally prohibited in Islam. You
need to remember this.
		

			Oh, I see people looking at me as though I'm saying something wrong here. May Allah subhanho wa
Taala. Forgive us, it is so common today that we become wrong to talk about it in the eyes of some,
but we will still say it because we have to. So if you have these bad habits, you need to change
them. You cannot think to yourself that I don't need to change, you must change. You're the woman
who are you to say that when the bad habits are yours. You have all relations with all women in the
earth on the earth and you tell her to turn a blind eye? Imagine if she were to do that with males,
it would be unforgivable. Why the double standards? you correct yourself and you will see what will
		

			happen this side as well. May Allah subhanho wa Taala strengthen us what I've said is fair, and it
is just because Allah speaks about justice. So Allah says, when you have marital discord, do you
know what you need to make sure both of you want to solve the problem? Listen to what Allah says,
		

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			when there is a problem and the two parties get together, both of them want a solution. If they both
want to solve the problem, Allah will grant them the acceptance to solve the problem. Why? Because
both of them want to solve it. I am ready to say I'm sorry. She is ready to say I'm sorry. No one is
here to try and prove who was right and who was wrong. This is the reality. Let's apologize to each
other. Let's never repeat this again. And let's move forward. Those are champions Mashallah. But if
you are here to prove who was right and wrong, you're not going to solve the problem.
		

			Allah says if both of you want to solve it, you will solve it. But if one wants to prove who's right
and wrong, you're not going to solve the problem here. Remember this, that's Allah solution in the
Quran. So my brothers and sisters, if you think that you just should get out of a marriage, because
of a small issue you've had, then you may get into another marriage with worse issues. And you might
get into our third marriage with disaster, and you might get into our fourth marriage with even
bigger disaster. But who knows, the fifth one might just come right? May Allah subhanho wa Taala,
grant us ease. It's not wrong to be married again and again. But the point I'm raising is don't just
		

			give up out of a small matter if it is a major matter. You're being abused and there is something
serious that's happening in all meaning with all honesty, and by all means you have the right to
seek help to get out of that abusive situation that is unbearable, or something that you feel is
really beyond the line. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all happiness, goodness. May Allah
grant us bliss, contentment solution to our problems, the ability to
		

			Listen, the ability to say I'm sorry, truthfully,
		

			and the ability to solve our matters and problems may Allah subhanho wa Taala use us as a role model
for others when they see us they will actually be able to learn a lesson such that we get a free
reward for it. May Allah grant us origin nettle Fidelis akula Kohli was Allah Allah who was a llama
Baraka ala nabina Muhammad wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.