Mufti Menk – Social Conduct – Part 4

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah.
Allah, Allah He was happy he woman who Allah, wa
		

			dearest listeners, inshallah, we will be looking at the duties of the children towards their
parents, we should understand every single one of us are children of someone. We were all born to
parents, and we have duties towards our parents the same way that our parents have duties to us.
		

			As children, not only when we are young, should we be obeying our parents and being good to our
parents, and ensuring that we do not harm our parents in any way. But even when we grow older, even
when we are married, even after our parents have passed away, we should ensure that we fulfill what
Allah subhanho wa Taala requires from us. The first most important duty that a child must fulfill
towards his or her parents is that they should please their parents. A child should please his
parents in what is permissible, the obedience of a parent and the parents is actually a duty that
Allah subhanho wa Taala has mentioned in the Quran. Allah subhanho wa Taala says workato rabuka
		

			Allah Tabu Yahoo will bill Allah Dini Sana indeed Yoruba has declared that you shall worship none
besides Him, and you shall be good to your parents. Now this includes being obedient to them, and
not hurting their feelings. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has said, the happiness of Allah
subhanho wa Taala lies in the happiness of the Father. And in one generation, the pleasing of Allah
subhanho wa Taala lies in the pleasing of parents. So Allah subhanho wa Taala has chosen the parents
of each person and made them a means of bringing him or her into existence. Parents, especially
mothers, go through so much sacrifice and difficulty for the child. The sacrifice can never be
		

			overlooked. And this is why we need to make sure that we please our parents, obedience to parents,
results in the blessings and happiness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we in turn will be granted
good offspring. So if you are good to your parents, Allah insha Allah will grant you good offspring
who will be good to you as well in sha Allah,
		

			and our offspring, then will please us as well. And they will be obedient to us as well. Remember,
it is a sacrifice to be obedient to your parents. Even if one happens to have parents who are non
Muslims, he or she should be good to them, and should please them and obey them in all that does not
contradict the Sharia. And regarding the female child, after marriage, obedience to her husband
comes before that of her parents. So one might say, Oh, is it that the Sharia has differentiated
between a male child and a female child? The answer is yes. The Sharia has differentiated between
the male child and the female child after marriage. When it comes to a male child. The order is the
		

			parents come first and then the others and when it comes to the wife, firstly, it is the husband.
And then the parents may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to understand this. Remember,
within a marriage, we should not actually you know, make it a big issue, that oh my parents this and
my husband this we should try and live in a harmonious home and we should try as far as possible to
understand one another. And we should try to work out a system that you know will result in the
pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the happiness of both of us at the same time.
		

			May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to understand now remember one thing to please
parents one of the most important things is when we speak to our parents, we should speak to them in
a polite manner. Never use abusive language, because that is a major sin. It is one of the most
serious sins, which is actually termed as a crime by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he
spoke about associating partners with Allah subhanho wa Taala when he spoke about murder, before he
even spoke about murder, he spoke about being disobedient and you know being bad to your own
parents. This he has termed as mean America from the most major of the major sense. And for this
		

			reason, many of us take it for granted. whether our parents are old and we are old as well, or
whether we are young and you know, we are addressing our parents
		

			The same rule applies at all times, we should understand that it is a requirement of Allah subhanho
wa Taala. That we speak very, very respectfully, with a respectable tone with words that are chosen
carefully chosen words, so that we don't hurt their feelings, even if we disagree, for example, with
the advice of our parents or what they may have said, because we should understand they too are
human beings, they can make a mistake or two, but Allah subhanho wa Taala is testing you to see how
are you going to speak to them in return? Are you going to, you know, swear them, abused them in
front of your own children, sometimes in the case of those who are married and have children? Or are
		

			you going to respect them? Are you going to come out of your way to make sure that they they smile,
you know, to put a smile on the face of your own mother, or your own father is actually a very great
act of worship? May Allah grant us the understanding. So the first and most important method of
pleasing your parents is actually by speaking in a good tone with them, avoiding language that will
hurt them, spending a little bit of time with them. You know, as we always say, when we become old
and we become, you know, of age, we get married, we have our own children, we tend to sideline our
parents sometimes without realizing that one day when it happens to us, it will be too late and we
		

			will have to cry. May Allah subhanho wa Taala save us from that. What we need to do is understand
that our own parents need time, every single day, every few days, depending on where you are staying
how far you are, you can either give them a phone call, just to ask them, How are you doing today?
How did you spend the day today? This is what they want. Or when it comes to our mothers, if we have
time, go and sit with them for five or 10 minutes in the day. And you know, ask them how the day
was. let them speak to you let them release whatever is in their heart. You don't have to take it
too seriously sometimes if they blabber or go on because sometimes when they become of age, they
		

			don't have anyone to talk to whom do you expect them to release all the the tensions they have in
their hearts and all the feelings they have in their heart? Whom do you want them to release all
this to? Should they go on to the streets and release it to someone who is strange to the home? Or
should they actually speak to you? May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability nowadays,
unfortunately, the old age homes are full of Muslim parents. We wonder how will Allah subhanho wa
Taala treat us on the day of piano. If we treat our own parents like that, and we kick them straight
out of the house, throw them into the old age home just because they could not get on with my wife
		

			or my family members, my children etc. We need to understand Yes, it might not be the duty of one's
wife to look after her in laws, but it is a virtuous deed. It is something through which you will
earn respect you will earn a status that the other daughters in law do not have. So it might not be
your Sheree duty, but definitely if you are going to engage in it as a practice that is a voluntary
practice which will draw you firstly closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala going through the
difficulties of putting up with your in laws is actually a Jihad and it will result in your
spiritual upliftment. You will be doing something over and above you know, your own duties. Remember
		

			being good to the Muslim Ummah, those who are not even related to you is an Islamic requirement. So
what about those who are related to your own husband? Some of us unfortunately, meaning some women
unfortunately walk into the home that day they walk into the home they say Listen, you either get
rid of this old lady, or I'm not going to come
		

			we should understand the son has a duty towards his parents. And yes, if we have a problem, we
should not put it so bluntly and we should not hurt feelings. But we should understand let us try
Firstly, to put up with a situation so that we earn the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala and it
is as I always mentioned, one is the right you have a right to a separate quarters you have a right
that they don't interfere at all and the other is a virtuous deed something that you will earn
respect with and people will look up to you and the doors will come out for you from the hearts of
these people and inshallah your children soon they will have families which will really be very,
		

			very happy homes because of the doors that you earned by looking after someone that you did not
really have to look after. So this is something we should understand. Don't always look at what you
deserve and what and you know just the basics a few days
		

			ago, I was actually mentioning to a person who was speaking about their rights in the marital home.
And I said, Look, if you are going to be very hard and fast about the rights, yes, you have the
right to do that. But it is also, you know, if we had to ponder for a moment, if the husband walked
into the home and said, Listen, I am providing you that corner as accommodation, I'm putting a bed
into there, and I will throw you one piece of bread with a little bit of, you know, what have you
every single day, and I'll give you a pair of clothes every year. That is my duty. That is my strict
responsibility. And that's it. I've provided you with food, clothing and accommodation, and I'm not
		

			going to give you anything else. How would a woman like that? She would not like it? Because she
would say no, I'm being oppressed. While the same applies when when the women get up and begin to
say, look, I only want to do this and this and that, and I'm not going to do this and this and that
she should ask herself. Am I being reasonable? In what I'm actually asking? Am I you know, is this
what Allah subhanho wa Taala will be happy with? And am I only sticking too far out? Or do I want to
also fulfill the sooner and the Nuffield and and go further and further up the spiritual ladder? May
Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the understanding, yes, there are cases where we do have in laws
		

			who might be difficult and who might be causing a split within the home in that particular case
husband and wife should actually decide, discuss it and decide what can be done in order to combat
the problem and to solve it. In brief, we are speaking about being good to parents and the reason
why the in laws came into the picture here is because after marriage, still we should understand
that our parents, you know we need to be good to them, we need to please them we need to speak to
them in a beautiful manner. And we need to realize that if we are good to them inshallah, tomorrow
when our in law when our daughters in law and sons in law come into the picture, and our
		

			grandchildren come into the picture, our children will get married, Allah will grant him all
happiness because of a few difficulties that we might have gone through. May Allah subhanho wa Taala
grant us the ability to understand imagine, even if a person's parents are non Muslims, the Koran
makes it very, very clear that we should be good to them and obey them. So long as they do not order
us to do something that contradicts the Sharia. The minute they order us to do something that
contradicts the Sharia, we should understand Allah subhanho wa Taala comes first and everything else
comes after Allah subhanho wa Taala. Let us move on the second right that we are actually going to
		

			look at now is the fact that it is the duty of the children to look after the aged parents. We've
mentioned this in brief, in the same way that we were looked after by our parents when we were
young, we should also look after them when they are old. So Allah subhanho wa Taala has placed such
a, you know, fair, such a fair deal on our shoulders. And Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling us
look, when you were young, they looked after you had they not looked after you, you probably may
have even lost your life. Think of a little child who is crying, the mother immediately attends to
that child. If the mother does not attend to a child that is crying for how long can that last, it
		

			can't last for more than a few hours. If it lasts for more than a few hours, most probably the
child's health will deteriorate and the child may lose its life. So because the mothers have
actually been running behind us, and the parents have been looking after us. Therefore we also need
to look after them when they become old. And Allah subhanho wa Taala wants to see from us that look
they did you a favor? Are you going to do them a favor as well. Now some of us who might have had
parents who didn't look after us, well, we might be sitting there and thinking you know what my
father didn't look after me. My mother didn't look after me. Well, even if they didn't look after
		

			you, Allah subhanho wa Taala wants to see what you do in return. Are you going to be good to them
the fact that they are your legitimate parents? Are you going to be good to them? And are you going
to expect inshallah, that from your progeny also, they will be those who are good to their parents
as well because of your deeds? Or are you going to be bad to them and wait for the day when those
who are your offspring are bad to you? May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us the ability to
understand, remember how you treat others that is how you shall be treated also.
		

			So Allah subhanho wa Taala has asked us as well to make dua for parents and we should understand
that they do and that will then come out of such parents is so highly regarded in the eyes of Allah
subhanho wa Taala that one can enter Paradise through this drop in one generation. Rasulullah
sallallahu
		

			He was lm has actually said woe be to the one who has one or both of his parents to look after
during his lifetime and they do not result in him or her entering gender. What that means is the
sacrifice that is behind looking after parents is so great that if we are to understand it and to
engage in this sacrifice, then inshallah, that to us will get us straight through to gentlemen, who
does not want that.
		

			And remember, as I said, after children are married, it is the duty of the male children to look
after the parents. If a person has only been given daughters, then it is regarded as very virtuous
for the son in law to look after his parents in law, though it is not a duty, but he should consider
the fact that look, I am married to this woman, my wife does not have any brothers to look after her
parents, and therefore though it is not my Islamic duty to look after her parents, if I do, then
inshallah it will be something very virtuous as it is. I'm supposed to be good to Muslims that I'm
not even connected to in any way besides La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
		

			sallam. So if I'm going to be good to my closest relatives, definitely it is a more virtuous act. So
May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to understand this. The third point we would like
to mention is the fact that serving one's parents is preferred over jihad in the battlefield at
times, one of the companions of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once volunteered to go out in
the path of Allah. And he, it was actually one of the battles where the Muslims were needed to fight
off the enemy. And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam asked him, Are your parents alive? He said
yes. And the Prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told him then strive in their service for
		

			that is your jihad. So sometimes if we are the only ones whom our parents rely upon after Allah
subhanho wa Taala then we should understand that they come first we must first put in everything
meaning we must put in a workable mechanism in place so that whilst we are away, their lives will
not be made difficult. They will still be at ease and what will happen they will tell us look you
want to go out? Yes, you can go out I will be fine. I will be okay. And they will give us their to
us. So we rather go out with the two of our parents than to go out whilst everyone is cursing us.
And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Suna is being disregarded. May Allah subhanho wa Taala
		

			grant us the ability to understand this means that whenever one would like to leave the home for any
purpose, even a religious purpose, he should seek the permission of his parents, because servicing
and being obedient to them is one of the greatest sacrifices in Islam. The Quran has mentioned the
duty to the parents in several places immediately after mentioning the duty to Allah subhanho wa
Taala himself. And this shows the greatness of their rank and the importance of serving them. So
remember one thing, no matter what you are coming out for, ask your parents, I am going to I'm going
to do this I'm going to do that do you allow me to leave and inshallah they will allow you to leave
		

			if they do not allow you to leave it is a duty that you do not leave you obey their instruction and
you do not leave if you really have to sit with them, talk to them nicely, try and convince them
where you want to go, why you want to go and inshallah remember one thing finally and ultimately
Baraka lies in obeying what they have said on condition that it is not something Haram. The next
point is the mother's claim is actually greater regarding the kind treatment, but the father's claim
is greater regarding obedience. Many people do not understand this. When it comes to kind treatment
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually asked a person man happened NASA because NASA Betty
		

			In fact, he was asked the Prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked that whose claim is
greater regarding my kind of treatment. And he said, your mother, your mother, your mother, and then
your father. Many people think that this means you must obey your mother and disobey your father.
No. Remember one thing that Mother of yours also falls under the obedience of that Father of yours.
So this is something you should understand. But when it comes to kind treatment, your mother has
been through much more than your father. She's the one who gave birth to you. You need to be very
kind to her. But when it comes to obedience, you need to understand you as well as your mother need
		

			to obey your father. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to understand this. The next
point we are going to mention is the fact that the parents guidance and advice
		

			should be sought on important matters, such as marriage, when you are going to work somewhere when
you want to further your education, what to do, how to do. Parents guidance and advice should be
sought on important matters. Sometimes we might have parents who don't have any idea of how to give
advice, but we can just sit with them and ask them for the sake of asking just so that they feel
good. May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us the ability to understand, but when we have parents who
have sound knowledge, when we have parents who have who are successful in the dunya as well as in
terms of Deen, we need to ask them guidance and we need to try and obey as far as possible client
		

			understand what they are saying, especially in the case of marriage. We obviously asked the parents
a few days ago we mentioned that it is the parents duty not to hinder the marriage of their child,
your child wants to marry someone, if they have brought up a reasonable reasonable proposal, then
inshallah, we should not reject it for no valid reason. At the same time, as a child, we should
understand that when we become of married of age that we can actually marry and we would like to
marry. Firstly, speak to your parents and get the guidance of your parents don't hurt the feelings
of your parents regarding marriage. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to always look
		

			at what our parents want as well. And in the case of marriage, it is very strongly detested to go
ahead without the consent of parents. In fact, according to some of the other mother Heba the
marriage of a girl is not even done, if the father of that child has for a valid reason, you know,
rejected according to the Hanafi madhhab, obviously, we are fortunate enough, if I can put it that
way, that inshallah the marriage is correct, and it will be done. But we should understand it is
strongly detested to go ahead without the consent of the parents, you can actually delay that
marriage for a while, so that you can sit with your parents and convince them that what you want to
		

			do is actually good and correct. And then the next point is a very valid point. And we will end with
this point, that even after the death of your parents, it is your duty, and the duty of the
surviving children to pray for their forgiveness. Care should be taken that this is done according
to the teachings of Islam. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked regarding the duty of a
person after the death of his parents and he said, to pray for mercy and forgiveness for them to
fulfill the promises that they have made to anyone and to maintain the family links from their side
and to be respectful to their friends. So even the Friends of your parents to respect them after
		

			your parents have gone Subhana Allah is a duty upon your shoulders. And remember one thing a pious
child the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has mentioned, the pious child is the one who will
make dua of forgiveness for his or her parents. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from amongst
those children who are obedient.
		

			And remember, if children fulfill their duties, the bond of the family the bond of the family unit
will be strengthened and Allah subhanho wa Taala will become pleased and he will grant them also
offspring who will be obedient to them and who will gain inshallah, happiness of both worlds. May
Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from amongst those who understand May he make us from amongst those
who are obedient. And remember one thing we have just mentioned a few of the duties of the children,
there are still so many more issues that we could discuss. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the
ability to be the best of children or sallallahu wasallam albaraka Lana Bina Muhammad was Salam
		

			aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu, was Salam ala
rasulillah, Allah Allah, he was happy he nominated me Buddha horribad welcome to the program, social
conduct of a Muslim. Today inshallah, we will be looking at something that many people might not
have actually believed was a duty upon ourselves, the duties and the rights that one owes himself or
herself as Muslims. This is what we are going to look into today. Allah subhanho wa Taala has
created us in a superb manner and he has placed our souls in bodies that he has chosen for them. It
is important that we realize that the body is just a temporary holder of this soul which is going to
		

			leave it upon death. And Allah subhanho wa Taala has sent prophets to teach men how to live and
conduct themselves from this manner of living. We learn that we have been made responsible for the
upkeep of our own
		

			bodies. It is in fact an Islamic duty to look after these bodies of ours, they have been entrusted
to us as an Amana from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we will be questioned on the day of the AMA,
regarding the manner in which we looked after our bodies, and from the teachings of Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we learn that maintaining the health of the body requires a few points.
The first is the food and the nourishment that the body requires. This is fulfilled obviously, by
making sure that one eats pure and halal food at fixed times, in a healthy quantity. What this means
is, it is our duty to make sure that what goes in our bodies is only halal. If we are to feed this
		

			body with something that is haram. We will be questioned on the day of the AMA, and the body will
hold it against us to say Allah, this person has actually fed me that which is haram May Allah
subhanho wa Taala protect us. So intentionally overeating on one hand, and starving, on the other
hand, are both extremes, which are prohibited, and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has said,
the best of courses is the middle course, what this means is, whenever we are doing something,
neither overdo it, No, leave it undone, we need to actually choose the middle path. Sometimes we
overeat when we see good food, and after that, what happens we begin to feel sick, it is our Islamic
		

			duty, and we will actually be rewarded if we eat in the right quantity, and we abstain from
overeating. And this is something that is very important. That is on one hand. And on the other
hand, sometimes we starve ourselves without a valid reason. And sometimes it is just you know the
excuses I am dieting. Now we should remember one thing when we are dieting as Muslims, obviously,
firstly, we shouldn't allow our bodies to be fed in such a manner that we have to then later on go
on a diet, we should have a balanced meal. And we should be eating in the right quantities and the
right type of food. Let me give you an example if we have like in the month of Ramadan. So Moses on
		

			the table, it is not islamically correct to go in and have 12 or 20 some muscles and then suddenly
you feel sick. It is your Islamic duty to make sure that you have a balanced meal. You have one two
semesters, maybe three, four maximum, and thereafter you go on to something else and you balance
your meal so that you actually you know this body of yours does not get sick. This is an Islamic
duty. And sometimes some people might say you know what, this is bad. That is bad, to be honest with
you anything that is halal. And Allah subhanho wa Taala has decided and declared that it is halal.
that food is not bad, but the way we eat it can become bad. Let me give you an example of red meat,
		

			red meat our bodies according to Islam, obviously, the the the red meat once the animal is
sacrificed and slaughtered Allah subhanho wa Taala has said in the Quran that there is nothing wrong
in eating that. And in fact, there is a question in the Quran wama Allah, Allah Taku memasuki Rosman
La, la What is it? And why is it that you don't want to eat that which has been sacrificed and
slaughtered in the correct manner with the mention of Allah subhanho wa Taala his name. Now, if we
are to eat red meat, let's say a few grams in the week, no one will tell you that that is bad for
you. And if someone does, then they do not know what they are speaking about. But in the past, if
		

			we've been eating so much red meat that now our cholesterol levels are going high and we are
suffering a heart problem. Now we might have to abstain from it because we need to cure ourselves
from an illness that we fell into. So from the very beginning if you are to control how much red
meat you put into your mouth, inshallah, you will not have to, you know, go on such a diet but you
have to stay away from it totally. So yes, I do agree there might be some people whom the doctors
might have told please stay away from it totally. But that is because in the past, they did not
balance their diets. And the same applies to other foods. If someone is to eat eggs and they are to
		

			have five or 10 eggs a day. Obviously they are going to be sick and islamically it is incorrect. In
fact, a person
		

			And who does that intentionally will actually be sinful for, you know, overfeeding their bodies,
which are an Amana from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we need to understand this, that which Allah
subhanho wa Taala has made halal is good for us, but how much we eat it and when we eat it, that is
where we are failing. And that is where we are going wrong. This is such a great point that many
people don't even know that Islam has taught us what to eat, when to eat, and how much to eat
Subhana Allah. Now, let us remember something, the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
he has advised us he says, when you eat, you should fill one third of your capacity with food and
		

			one third, with liquid or water and one third be left empty with a and obviously this is a very,
very important Hadith, because what happens is, people begin to eat and forget what their capacity
is. Now, some of the great scholars have actually said we as Muslims are people who do not eat until
we are hungry. And when we eat, we do not fool ourselves in such a manner that there is no place for
a and water.
		

			So these are important words, important points, important pieces of advice that we need to
understand and fulfill. From this, obviously, we understand that it is inappropriate to be eating
throughout the day. You know, some people they have a habit, they are putting something in their
mouth 24 hours of the day, sometimes even next to the bed, you know you have something and every few
hours when your eye opens, you actually put it into your mouth, you know something to choose
something to eat, that is a very bad habit. If we are going to eat junk, remember something it will
result in the deterioration of our health and to maintain a healthy body is a requirement that Allah
		

			subhanho wa Taala has placed on your shoulders. So today we are actually discussing how you should
live with your own self Subhanallah what this body deserves from you, and continuing with speaking
about junk food, you know, rather than doing that, one should set aside a fixed time and fixed times
for meals and should stick to those times as far as possible. Then upon eating, one should remember
to balance the food, the air and the liquid content. And it is also important as much as possible to
ensure variety when eating, giving preference to health rather than taste and desire. You know, it
reminds me sometimes we have broccoli and some people say you know what, I don't want that and it
		

			doesn't taste nice. Yes, if it doesn't taste nice, there might be some, you know, point of health in
that particular thing. So the message here is when you are eating try to look at what is healthy,
not necessarily what is tasty. And remember another thing we are so fortunate, even something that
is healthy and not so tasty. Depending on how it is cooked. It might actually become tasty and
healthy at the same time. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to eat that which is
beneficial for our bodies and to abstain from that which is harmful. Allah subhanho wa Taala has
gifted us with all sorts of vegetables with fruits with meats etc. and partaking of each is part of
		

			gratitude and thankfulness to Allah subhanho wa Taala imagine look at the variety when you walk into
a supermarket of the vegetables the fruits now to try everything and to test it and to thank Allah
subhanho wa Taala obviously so long as it's halal when it comes to fruit and vegetable inshallah
there is nothing that is haram but if we are going to eat from all the different types of fruits and
veggies that Allah has provided us and thank him, surely that is a sign of gratitude to Allah
subhanho wa Taala so we will be able to engage in other event that may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant
us the ability to understand the greatness of this Deen which religion has actually taught us what
		

			to eat, when to eat, how to eat Subhana Allah, a point to bear in mind is that it is against the
teachings of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to label any halal food as bad as we just
mentioned. And if one does not desire to eat certain types of food, for example, he or she may
abstain from it without denying the fact that it is a gift from Allah subhanho wa Taala sometimes we
have certain veggies or certain fruits, you know, certain foodstuffs which we don't like to eat, you
know, it does not suit our taste buds. So we should be careful of passing comments like you know,
this is rubbish. Oh Billa it's not rubbish. It is Allah subhanho wa Taala who has provided that as a
		

			gift. If you don't like it, you know, you don't have to eat it, but don't
		

			Past an adverse comment about what Allah subhanho wa Taala has provided for mankind, that is as far
as food goes. Now, the second duty that we are going to speak about today is the fact that every
single body is owed rest, we owe our bodies rest. That is the second duty that you owe your body it
is important that our bodies are given enough rest to continue fulfilling their tasks and orders.
Each person requires a certain amount of sleep and rest. Now keeping oneself at work and denying the
body any rest or sleep has been termed as volume and oppression. Subhana Allah in the famous hadith
of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he has clarified that the acts of voluntary worship must
		

			not be allowed to affect the necessary rest of the body. I'm going to repeat that. In a hadith of
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he has clarified that the act of voluntary worship must not
be allowed to affect the necessary rest of the body. What this means is, if the act of worship are
necessary, then obviously you have to fulfill them. But if they are voluntary acts of worship, you
must not let those voluntary acts of worship disallow the necessary sleep of the body. In fact,
during strenuous times, such as sickness and travel, even certain compulsory acts of worship have
been made lighter upon us, in order to ensure that we do not overburden ourselves take a look at
		

			suffer, when we are on journey. If you are traveling more than a certain distance, then Allah
subhanho wa Taala has actually cut down the forest Salah for you. Why so that you do not overburden
this gift and this Amarna that Allah subhanho wa Taala has granted you and given you a Buddha on the
Allahu anhu was ordered to refrain from performing voluntary Salah at night until he had rested
enough to fulfill the rights of his body and that is a very, very famous Hadith. Then upon the last
hour of the night, he was permitted to get up for Salah tahajjud and this is mentioned in Sahih al
Bukhari, the strict sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, which he abided throughout his
		

			entire life was that he would not waste time in going to bed after Isha Salah. And this is something
very important we owe this to our bodies. Allah Subhana Allah to Allah says in several places in the
Quran, that the night has been created for rest, and it has been proven that the rest at night is
much more beneficial than that of the day. Also the first hours of the night are much more
beneficial than the later hours. This is actually very, very amazing. And this, these teachings of
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam are so pure. Usually when we speak to the youth and we try to
explain to them to abstain from going to haram and bad places. You know, they don't seem to see the
		

			light in what we say sometimes but if we are to tell them look, it is the Sunnah of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to sleep after salata Alicia, if you don't have something constructive
to do, you should go to bed, and the parents of children who may be teenage, if you would like your
child to be saved from a lot of sin, then you should ask the child to do one thing and that is to be
home. At nightfall. To be home at nightfall and tell your child look I don't expect too much. But
all I want you to do is in the evenings I need you to be at home that's it, you will not be allowed
to go out after you know six o'clock or seven o'clock or what have you. And you will find insha
		

			Allah by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala that this child will be protected from 99% of the evil
that goes on at that particular time. You know drug abuse, drinking, Zina, etc all these things
happen after salado Asia mainly. So if we are to protect ourselves and you know, follow the Sunnah
of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam and ask our children to do the same inshallah, we will find
great benefit not only for our bodies, but also for you know, our spiritual well being. May Allah
subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to fulfill that. Now just pausing for a moment here. If we
take a look at the rest Subhanallah a person who's going to rest must understand when they are going
		

			to rest that is in the evening, and how much they are going to rest. And that is obviously depending
on your body and how old you are between six to 10 hours, seven to 10 hours I would say if you are
going to rest less than that. You are not fulfilling the duty that
		

			You owe your body and if you are going to sleep more than that you are making that body lazy.
Obviously, if a person is sick, then they are exempt from this particular requirement. But a normal
person should sleep between seven and 10 hours during the day. If we are going to sleep more than
that, we will definitely become people who are lazy people who are lovers of the bed, and they just
want to go into bed at all times. And sleep May Allah subhanahu wa taala save us and may He make us
from amongst those who are not lazy.
		

			The third write that you owe your body his medication. Whenever we are taken ill we must seek a cure
for that illness. Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa sallam has said seek cures for your illness and do
not resort to that which is haram. We see that he has ordered us to seek medication. And he has
reminded us that to partake of that which is haram, or to follow the trends of those who engage in
superstitious deeds is prohibited. Not every time that you are sick, is it jadu? Or is it magic? Or
is it something you know, superstitious, but we should firstly go and seek medication. And we should
try and look after our bodies as far as possible. Similarly, when we are eating, and when we are
		

			sleeping, we should be conscious of the fact that these bodies of ours need to be healthy. So let's
say for example, you have an air conditioner, or a fan, if you are going to turn it on and sleep
directly under the fan, it might result in your body deteriorating the health of your body
deteriorating. So therefore you need to understand, you know, put on the temperature on something
that is reasonable, not too cold, not too hot. If it is a fan, you don't have to place it, you know,
facing you directly, you can place it facing the side. And you need to understand that similarly
when you are eating, don't eat and drink that which is too cold or too chilly, or something that is
		

			going to result in a stomach disorder. These are all duties that Allah subhanho wa Taala has placed
upon you may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the understanding. So we must only seek cure by means
that are within the limits of the Sharia. And obviously prevention is better than cure. medication
is the right of one's body, which should not be denied. And it should be administered in accordance
with one's means. It doesn't mean you know some people might afford a medication that is more
expensive, whilst others might afford that which is slightly cheaper. Now regarding maintaining
one's health and strength or pseudo loss, Allahu alayhi wa sallam has actually commented and he
		

			says, a mineral kawi you higher on what I have been Illallah he means if we're physically in higher,
a healthy and a strong believer is more loved by Allah subhanho wa Taala than a weak believer,
though, there is goodness in both of them. Now, we have just discussed three issues and three of the
rights over oneself in Charlotte what I wish to say before we actually come to the end of this
particular program is well ah here we need to thank Allah subhanho wa Taala that we are Muslims,
which religion teaches this and which religion will actually tell you about food and about rest and
about medication and the other rights over your own body Subhana Allah and let us bear in mind, what
		

			is said is actually from the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire lifetime is
an example for us. If we are to follow the teachings of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam we
will never regret and let us not misunderstand what has been said. For indeed, if we are to
misunderstand what has been said it will result in even further confusion and difficulty. We should
always consult the Lama and ask them and find out from them about the life of Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wasallam How did he eat? How did he rest? When did he rest? How much did he rest. Obviously
Allah had granted him much more Baraka and Allah had granted him a lot. But we as human beings who
		

			are his followers, and we are so fortunate to be his followers, we should try our best to follow
that particular path that was shown to us by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam even when it
comes to medication, and rest and food, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to be
steadfast at all times are sallallahu wasallam Allah Baraka and Amina Mohammed Subhana Allah He will
be handy Subhana Allah morbihan the Ganesha to Allah Illa illa Anta Mr. Furukawa to a boy