Mufti Menk – Ramadan 2016 – Save Yourself Series – 22

Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Juana Allah He was happy.

We always praise Allah subhanho wa Taala upon all conditions we thank him we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all of them and all his companions May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless them for indeed, they have sacrificed in such a great way that today we are sitting with the fruits of that particular sacrifice. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless every one of us and make a sacrifice in a way that our children and offspring see the fruits of the beautiful sacrifice right up to the end. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all gentlemen, my brothers and sisters, it's important for us to know that on the Day of Judgment, Allah

subhanho wa Taala will ask us what we've done. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will hold us responsible completely for everything that we have done on Earth, and no one will be able to deny anything he or she has actually done. This is from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says, in fact, we will take out the book of every individual and spread it in front of them and tell them read your own book. It's enough you can bear witness against yourself. We know there are verses in Surah Yaseen verses in other places of the Quran that tell us that on the Day of Judgment, Allah subhanho wa Taala will seal the mouths of those who do not bear witness for or against themselves,

and what will speak, their organs will speak. So basically, the hands will start speaking the feet will speak, the tongues will speak Subhanallah and bear witness against the person who used those organs in the transgression of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So when you use your hand to do something wrong, remember, the hand has registered what you did, one day the hand will speak against you. When you use your legs. When you use any part of your body to do that, which is haram, those organs will bear witness against you, my brothers and sisters, it is quite scary, but there is a way out what is the way out, seek forgiveness, Allah Subhana Allah to Allah will forgive you. Allah says Allah, that

he will forgive all of those who seek forgiveness for as long as they were genuine. In fact, verse number 13 of Surah Surah Surah Surah verse number 13 Allah makes mention of this book that is going to be spread. Allah says 103 Jolla oh man leukemia Mati kita Bay.

On the day of judgment, every soul will find every human being will find that Allah has taken out the book, their own book, the book with all the deeds written in it spread in front of them, you know what they will be told? A Koran kita back, read your own book, read it, these are your deeds, read them Kapha been

sufficient, are you as a witness against yourself, you take account of your own self, here are the deeds. Now, like I said, when we seek forgiveness, Allah subhanho wa Taala makes the angels forget what happened. Your organs forget what happened. The place where you committed the sin, the walls and the other creatures of Allah will bear witness but if you have sought forgiveness, those places are made to forget what happened then. So my brothers and sisters, save yourselves by seeking the forgiveness of Allah, your organs will forget, save yourselves from letting your organs bear witness against you by seeking the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala those are beautiful words. The

love of Allah is so great, so deep, that every time he warns us of something severe that might overtake us, he always tells us, you know what, there's a way out here. If you don't want it, you can save yourself by doing one. Turn back to me turn back to Allah, as simple as that. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to turn to him and May Allah subhanho wa Taala strengthen us all to do the right thing. I mean, now my brothers and sisters yesterday we spoke about Allah Hickman we spoke about wisdom. And I remember seeing the one who was given wisdom or who is given wisdom has been given great goodness from Allah subhanho wa Taala. The term al hikma is used in the

Quran to refer to wisdom number one, primarily linguistically, it means wisdom, but it is also used to refer to the Sunnah of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, the entire sun of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam has been referred to as Al hikma was Corona Luffy Bo G.

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Allah makes mentioned to the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to remember and repeat the verses of Allah subhanho wa Taala remind each other of them and at the same time not to forget al hikma referring to the sooner the lifestyle, the statements and everything to do with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam

why is it that it is called an Hickman because it is the height of wisdom, the height of goodness. So Allah subhanho wa Taala refers to it as Allah Hickman and if we take a look at verse number 39

it comes after so many verses before it, we Allah makes mention of certain things to do. And after that Allah says that he came in.

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that is indeed from that which Allah subhanho wa Taala has revealed to you. Oh Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, from the hikma from the wisdom, from that sound knowledge with a beautiful style that will get you very, very far, obviously, to the height of success. So what is it that Allah spoke about? I need to know. I want to also be able to protect myself. I want to also fulfill al hikma look at the previous verses before verse number 39 of surah. Allah subhanho wa Taala starts them off by making mention of the issue of association of partners with Allah. If you associate partners with Allah subhanho wa Taala in any way whatsoever, you will be a loser. It means you lack

wisdom, you lack understanding. You don't realize you're going to go back to the one who made you worship Him alone. don't worship anyone with him and don't worship anyone besides Him. If I'm going back to my maker when I put my head on the ground, do you know what I say? When I prostrate and when you prostrate we say Subhana Allah bl Allah, we are declaring how high the rub is. And the meaning of rub in the Arabic language

is He Who created nourishes, cherishes, sustains, provides protects yours he who is an absolutely full control of every aspect of the existence of everything and everyone in existence. That's the meaning of the term Robin. So I am saying basically oh you who made me You are the highest oh you who created me You are the highest. Oh you who nourishes me You are the highest. Oh you who cherishes You are the highest. Oh you who kills you are the highest. That's what I'm saying in such depth. That's what I'm saying in frustration. This is why the Hadith says a terrible Maya Kunal Abdullah be

the closest that a slave of Allah could be to Allah is when he is in the position of frustration. My brothers and sisters Take your time in solitude. Take your time in frustration, may Allah subhanho wa Taala help us May he make a strong to fulfill our Salah Allah He it has in it the solutions to your problems, you have issues you have problems, the solutions to those problems are owned by someone that someone is the deity he alone who created you he has the solutions so for prostrate for him and to him and see how he solves your matters. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us then Allah speaks about goodness to your parents kindness to your parents was

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verse number 23. So to the surah, Allah has declared and dictated and decided and chosen, that none shall be worshipped besides Him and that you shall be crying, or he has dictated kindness towards parents, you have to be kind. You have to be kind, even to a sinful parent, you must be kind, be respectful. When you want to correct your father or your mother, you correct them with respect. Allah never ever said that you have to obey your parents completely and totally No, no way did Allah say you have to obey them completely and totally, but everywhere he did say you have to be kind to them, you have to be good to them. Why? The reason is when they instruct you to do something against

the rule of Allah because they are human beings as well. You don't listen to them. But when they tell you to do something within the rules of Allah subhanho wa Taala then you have to listen to them. Now one might ask why is it always Allah subhanho wa Taala connects worshipping Him and goodness to parents. Why are the two connected and how? simple answer who created you? Allah? What means did he choose in order to bring you onto Earth? Your parents? Did you choose your parents? No, who chose them for you Allah. So you are a test for your parents and your parents are a test for you. You need to be kind to your parents knowing that Allah created you your allegiance lies with

Allah but Allah made

them as a means for you to earn your gender as well. You can get gentlemen just by being respectful, dutiful and kind to your parents. On the one hand it says the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was climbing on the member. And he said, I mean thrice. And when they asked him why were you saying that he said the angel came and made three do as I was saying, I mean to them, one of them was what you do lemon Ravana

destruction be or great loss be upon the one who witnesses the month of Ramadan and still did not get forgiveness at the end of it. So he said me.

And then the other one was destruction upon or great loss upon the one who has witnessed one or both of his parents alive at old age and did not result in him entering gender through their service by serving them. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us earn gender. My parents, I want to pause for a moment, every time we speak to the children about how important it is to obey your parents or to be kind to them. Obedience is within the limits of Allah as I explained, but being kind to them, you have no excuse. Even if your father or your mother tells you to do something terrible. You will politely turn it down. You will be polite, it doesn't mean you swear them or you disrespect them.

No, that's your father. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us remember this. But I want to say my beloved parents, your children are a very big test for you. Do you know why they belong to Allah, we say in Allah He was Elijah Raja, we belong to Allah. And indeed We will all return to Him. Allah gave you these children as a test. Did you know that only to see if you will bring them up the way he has instructed, not the way your whims and fancies want. Allahu Akbar, this is a powerful point. And this difficulty arises later on in life, Allah gives you at the beginning full control of your child, full control. So what happens you decide what will go in to the child's mouth, you decide

when you're going to feed the child, you decide what you're going to close, you decide what you're going to name the child, you decide everything, you decide what type of toys you want to buy, you decide absolutely everything Allah says while you have that control, you are responsible, slowly, we are going to take it away from you. So when the child grows a little bit older, the child doesn't want to play with those simple toys, the child says no, Daddy, I want to remote control car. I don't want to play with this. Right at the beginning you chose which school the child must go to, there comes a time when the child would say I no longer want to go to the school, etc. What happened a lot

took away that control and he's showing it to you when the child gets to teenage the control is very literal. When the child gets to the age of marriage, Allah tells you it's the child's decision, who he or she will marry, you cannot force that particular child remember this? It is not according to you who the child will marry. It is the best situation would be that which is done with mutual agreement and understanding. The most favorable children are those who consult their parents to say my father, my mother, I'd like to marry Can you guide me Mashallah, may Allah make all our children like that.

But you never ever tell your daughter, listen, you're getting married next week. And when the daughter says to who you say you will find out next week will lie It's happening on the globe. I receive emails on a daily basis of young women telling me how they are being forced to marry those whom they don't even know just because it's a cousin or a relative or someone whom your father owes money to.

My brothers and sisters, these children are not your belonging. They belong to Allah. Be careful when they would like to marry someone. Ask yourself two questions that Allah has asked you to ask yourself. Is the Dean of this person, okay? religiously? Are they fine? And is their character okay? If the two are okay, Allah instructs you to swallow the pill, as bitter as it may be, and to say it's okay. You have our blessings, my child. That's your channel. That is your agenda. Why do you think the Hadith says when you have female children and you look after them, you will get gender when you get them married off correctly. Why? Because a male is yours. A male carries your name,

etc, etc. The female also will carry your name but in a female's case you are looking after someone bringing them up educating them giving them the deen in order for another person to benefit from them. In order for another person to be able to have more control over them then you have more authority so to speak. I'm a father. I have daughters, but there will come a day when I need to give them away. That is my agenda. That is my paradise. It is not easy to give your daughter away. That's why you can

Janna, so forget about those who think they're going to get paradise when they have hassled their daughters and harass them and trouble them according to their own whims and fancies. And they haven't even bothered about the rule of Allah subhanho wa Taala. You can see how passionate I am. I used to think it doesn't exist, because we were brought up in an environment that we did not see that happening. But we'll learn it's happening on a day to day basis. In countries that are advanced. There are people suffering in silence My beloved parents, be careful, be careful. Your daughter's belong to Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Trotsky's I want to say it

again one more time, my brothers and sisters as parents, the children are a test for you in that you are not allowed to do what you wish and what your whims and fancies dictate to them, but you have to fulfill the dictates of Allah regarding those particular children. That is your genuine.

May Allah subhanho wa Taala open our doors. I hope I've said it quite clearly. And I'm not saying don't respect your parents, but I am saying my parents, as human beings learn to become people who adopt the rule of Allah subhanho wa Taala even when it doesn't suit you, we all have dreams for our children, myself included. Like I told you the ideal scenario, we all have it in our minds. When the children are young. We all think Mashallah my daughter, my son, this will happen that will happen. Brothers and sisters, it is alas plan, that that dream has to be adjusted from time to time as the child is growing older, because of things that will happen in life that were not according to your

plan. It's a last plan that is executed. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a beautiful understanding. So I paused for a moment to speak about parents and children because this is part of Hickman, it is part of wisdom. And at the same time these are problems that communities are facing save yourself from the stress from the tension in your home by allowing your children to marry whom they want for as long as the two conditions are met either a documentary una de novo Luca who has a we do a lot of

the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, and I told you that's the height of wisdom. If a proposal comes to you from someone their Deen is okay. their level of Deen is acceptable, which means their religious level their closeness to Allah is of an acceptable level and their character and conduct is of an acceptable level. Let the marriage happen if you don't, there is going to be chaos and corruption on

thereafter, Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about how we should pray for our parents. You know, those parents who fulfill their own whims and fancies and desires when it comes to their children. While law II their children are making to Allah take my father away, or law, I can't wait for my mother to die. Those are drawers that some children are making, why? Sometimes it's because the parents are behaving in a way that Allah does not allow. If you behave in a proper way that Allah has ordained your children will love you. They will understand that what you are doing is in the best of their interest, but according to the rules of Allah, not according to your rules. Allah can take your

child away. Now, Allah can take your child away anytime and he has taken other people's children before they even reach the age of puberty. May Allah grant us gender to dose? May Allah make it easy for those who've lost their children in this way? And may that be a means of entry into gender. But for us, Allah tells us regarding your parents make a good What is the law of

karma bernisa de la, Oh Allah have mercy on both of them in the same way that they brought me up when I was young. When I was little, my parents looked after me, my parents did it to Panama. So now that they are old, you look after them have mercy on them, I'm going to try my best to look after them. And I'd like you, Oh Allah, to have mercy on them. It brings me to the last point regarding parents that I want to raise today. My brothers and sisters when parents become old, the children get married, who wouldn't want the broader family living close by all together in some instances. But we're lucky if we become very hard and fast and set in our ways and habits such that we are,

it's as though we're running a school or a college rather than living in a home, you won't be able to get along with the spouses of your children never.

When they come home, welcome them. They need to be statements on both sides advice on both sides. We tell the in laws whether you're a son in law or a daughter in law, to be kind to reach out a helping hand assist be a person who actually reaches out to your father in law, mother in law and the family, your in laws, etc. And we also tell the parents in law to do exactly the same. do not consider your daughter in law and unpaid

Made for that is not in the Quran? No Is it in the Sunnah of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam. Many cultures still believe that when the daughter in law comes into the home that's it you sit back relax, she must do the cooking the cleaning, the picking up the dropping the shopping and everything else. And by the way that shopping not work for you love Akbar. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease.

That's not how it should be. There should be mutual understanding, give and take respect each other, make life easy for one another saying good words to one another. Don't pretend like you're a Headmistress in a school because that's how a lot of mother in law's operates. Allah subhanho wa Taala save us from those types of schools.

So my brothers and sisters in sha Allah I hope those few words of motivation can actually protect our homes and save them from becoming little pits of *. A lot of people are depressed in the house because why they just cannot live instruction from here instruction from there no one appreciates anything learn to say Jazakallah Hara thank you very much May Allah bless you reward you learn to appreciate the food was good. This was nice. Thank you so much, Mashallah, the only thing you know, and the only thing we know sometimes to pick on people when something goes wrong low May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. Let's continue with the words of wisdom Allah subhanho wa Taala

says, Wallah, Tibet, Tibet de la in Tibet, de Nakano. Juana shopping, just before that Allah says, We're at Eden Pooh Bah, common Myskina Sabine, give the relatives their do and give the poor that you spend on them, spend on them, and give those in the cause of Allah that you spend on them. But do not be wasteful, because Allah does not like those who are wasteful. Do you know why? He says in verse number 26, of surah to israa. Those who are wasteful and extravagant are the brethren of the devil.

When you have wealth, learn to budget, learn to prioritize, learn to save some for a rainy day. Don't be like those who earn through the week come Friday night they are partying, you know what that means.

That's a that's their life. They are born and thought that you earn in the week you party in the in the weekend, you earn in the month, you party month and you earn in the year, by the time you get back to January, and you get back to work, your money must be finished. And you must be having a loan that you're going to pay back up to December. That's how life is taught to a lot of people as muslimeen. That's not to live within your means you will save yourself a lot of stress, you will save yourself a lot of anger, a lot of difficulty in your life. Allah will grant you peace of mind and good sleep. You don't owe anyone anything Subhana Allah, so learn to budget. Allah says Don't be

wasteful, or indeed those are the brethren of the devil. If you have money doesn't mean you must just blow it on something you don't need. No. You might want to once in a while spoil yourself to here or there something Perhaps that is permissible, you might want to go on a slight holiday, according to your means. You don't have to go where the Joneses have gone. And by the way, now that the economy of the world is crashing, even the Joneses stop going on holiday.

My brothers and sisters, it's absolutely important for us to know I know it sounds like I said it on a lighter note, but it's a proper proper point. It's something to save ourselves from a lot of difficulty and hardship in this world, learn to budget and economize, then Allah subhanho wa Taala says,

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do not kill your children fearing poverty. In fact, the verses here, Allah says minimum level Do not kill them out of poverty. If you're a poor person, and you say, You know what?

Your wife is expecting a child and you say because of because I can't afford it. That's why I want to abort this child or soon as the child is born, dump it, it's still happening in societies and communities dumped children. Do you know that that is a major sin? Allah says, Don't do that. You know, people say

that if I have many children, I'm going to become poor because I'm going to have to afford a lot of school fees and a lot of food and my plate where I was eating one chicken, I'm only going to be eating one piece because the rest of it is going to be shared by four other children. I'd rather not have those children. Allah says, as Muslims, we look at it, totally the opposite. What does that mean? The more children you have, the wealthier you are. It might be a little bit of a struggle initially, but trust me, imagine you've had 10 children Mashallah. And five of them are successful people, the other five perhaps not very successful, what will you have, if you gave them a good

upbringing? They will look after you and the other five. That was a blessing. But if you have only one child, two children, you know the chances of them not being successful nowadays. is greater than

If you had more children, my brothers and sisters, may Allah Subhana Allah forgive us. So in Islam, everyone comes with their own sustenance. Allah provides for every single person Remember that? So have as many children does the word you Allah do that. For me, Mama Hindi como una muy Yama Yama, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam once told his companions that get married to those who bear children and have more children. For indeed, I would like to be that Prophet on the Day of Judgment with the most number in his own mind. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us an understanding.

So Allah subhanho wa Taala thereafter speaks about wisdom. While at Aqaba, Zina in who can aphasia don't even go close to adultery, fornication, and in morality, for Indeed, it is very immoral, it is immoral, it is wrong, don't go there. If you go there, it will result in destruction in this world and the next, a lot of people are suffering why they need to hide their phones. You know, I told you the last time that there was a man who actually had you know, you have the phones that pick up your thumb, right? The thumbprint, this man fearing that his wife might see the harm he's doing on his phone actually had to

imagine how far people go to hide their sin. And when you're sleeping and she sees it and she's not happy with you one day, even if she hasn't seen it and she's just upset or not feeling too well. And maybe the other way around, it might be the he was going through that. And you know what? Suddenly you start doubting, did she see Didn't she she did she maybe she did What's wrong, and she doesn't talk to you she I think I know what's wrong, what is wrong, and so on. All the stress is because of her arm going on in your life. That's what it is. Cut it out. You're such an open person. Your family shares your phone, you don't mind some kind of law, they share it. Today we all have

codes 234 different codes on the phone. Why? What's it for? May Allah subhanho wa Taala safeguard us? I'm not encouraging you to go through the phones of your spouses, etc. No, that is also a very, very bad habit. But I am seeing brothers and sisters, cut immorality for the sake of Allah and see how happy you become as a person. See how happy you are as an individual. Allah subhanho wa Taala thereafter makes mention of murder. And he says wala tokoto Nuff said letting

him know lab in verse number 33 Surah Nisa, do not kill do not commit murder of the one whom Allah subhana wa tada has given life to meaning the souls that Allah has created, the only time life is to be taken is if it is you and it is legal. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding of that.

One very important aspect about Islam, you are not allowed to take the law into your own hands, remember that you are not allowed to take the law in your own hands to become a vigilant that is prohibited in Islam, the only time I can actually attack someone is when I am being attacked myself, then definitely I'm allowed to protect myself I can attack them, unless obviously, there is instruction, if I'm a person, say the executioner etc. And there is instruction from the courts or from the law or from the rulers, etc, then it would be a totally different matter. And this is why we say May Allah subhanho wa Taala give us a deep understanding.

So my brothers and sisters, this is Allah subhanho wa Taala telling us about murder. And after that he speaks about the wealth of the orphans. Whenever Allah speaks about the wealth of the orphans, he is actually referring to distributing inheritance, the estate of the deceased upon death. That's what he's talking about. So Allah says, while atakora boom Allah let me be lady x and do not even approach the wealth of an orphan, except with goodness, except by that which is good that which is the best. Remember this? Why do we say this? My brothers and sisters? The reason is, a lot of people read these verses and think you know what, that's the wealth of an orphan. Who are these orphans?

These are people whom the Father has passed away and they have not yet got to the age of maturity. So those who they've left behind, you set the wealth Usually, we cheat our sisters, we cheat our brothers, we cheat our mothers, we cheat our daughters, we cheat the women around and we cheat those who are young. All of that is included in here. If you want the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala you definitely need to sort out the matters of inheritance. Today, instead of tomorrow. May Allah strengthen us Don't let the love of wealth, increase the love that you have for Allah subhanho wa Jalla wa sallahu wa salam ala nabina, Muhammad Subhan, Allah Subhana Allah, Mohammed Ganesha, do

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