Mufti Menk – Not just the Mother in law! Divorce!

			Salam Alaikum, we get married. And then we have problems. And these problems are attributed to the
mother in law. If it's not the mother in law, it's the daughter in law, if it's not the daughter in
law, it's the husband. If it's not the husband, it's the wife. If it's not the wife, it is the
father in law. If it's not the father in law, it's the sister in law. If it's not the sister in law,
it's the brother in law. If it's not them, then it's the interference of someone somewhere, somehow,
can we not just live and let live? Let's let people be. Let's not burden them with things they
didn't have to do in the past. Although each one of us needs to make sure that we assume
		

			responsibility and help as best as we can, as much as we can, and make sure that we contribute
towards the house. Let's not raise expectations, to the degree that we begin to have major disaster
and problems. I mean, a girl being raised in a home where it was just her, perhaps one sibling, or
parents, and suddenly she goes into a home where she has to serve 10 people and morning to evening
she's just become a maid. Is that fair? That's not fair at all. My brothers and sisters be
compassionate. Think about things then on the other hand, you have someone who comes into a home and
expects everything to be done for them without lifting a spoon, as they were to say that to is the
		

			other extreme. We need to learn to contribute proportionately, and we must make sure that we
sacrifice we must make sure that we fulfill our duty and everyone should be making sure the same.
Each one of us thinks about how we've made the lives of others easier, and how we've given them
reason to smile, how we've given them reason to be happy. We would definitely be in happier homes.
It's quite sad what's going on now. It's become a game. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala guidance to
respect one another. Remember, respect is key. JazakAllah him a salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah.