Mufti Menk – A New Mindset

Mufti Menk

From the Light Upon Light Conference in Birmingham.

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The speaker discusses the power of Islam to make people feel loving and forgiving, emphasizing the importance of not overthinking words in Arabic language to make it the most loving and forgiving they can be. They stress the need for everyone to be strong and dedicated to their intentions, rather than just praying for their past. The importance of finding the right answer to a question and finding the right answer to a question is emphasized, along with the need for strong conviction to avoid suffering from negative consequences. The segment also emphasizes the importance of finding a partner who is loving one and offers advice on how to manage challenges, as well as developing a relationship with the most loving one.

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			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		
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			In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala was gracious, most merciful. And
		
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			All praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala
		
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			wa Salatu was Salam ala
		
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			nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sahbihi wa
		
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			ala Medina
		
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			blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all his
companions, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless them all and to bless every single one of you,
and to bless your offspring to breast to bless the oma at large. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala
to have mercy on us. I mean,
		
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			my beloved brothers and sisters, we all know that Allah subhanho wa Taala is most loving, nobody can
love as much as Allah subhanho wa Taala. This is why one of his names is the most loving, and what
you do, and will do the most loving. So if you think about that name, for a moment, you will realize
the power of a lot the greatness of Allah, the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala, and how much he
actually loves you. And for the season, when we say the name in the Arabic language, and when Allah
subhanho wa Taala says to us,
		
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			Indeed, Allah has beautiful names, so call him in supplicate to him using those names. When I say
oh, you who loves me Have mercy on me. Wow. The problem with us is when we say these names in the
Arabic language, we sometimes do not think of what exactly they mean. And this is why it's important
for us to say these names sometimes in the language that we understand for us to ponder over the
deeper meanings of that particular name. So if I were to say,
		
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			for example,
		
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			yes, it is the name of Allah, I will use that name to call out to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Together
with that, I can remind myself about the meaning of it.
		
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			And I will remind myself that dude, in actual fact, means the most loving the one who loves the
most. And when I say a few times, the most loving, and then I can start thinking about the love of
other people towards me be if my parents, my children, whoever else may be siblings, spouse,
whoever. And then I need to tell myself again, however, there is one who is most loving over and
above all of those, wouldn't it make a smile? keep on thinking about this, my brothers and sisters,
he loves you. Now one might say, well, if he loves me so much, why the challenges in my life? Why is
it that I have so many difficulties? Well, you then don't understand why he made you why He created
		
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			you why you are in this world. Somehow. Everyone on earth will go through challenges. Allah says
those challenges are part of your tests, didn't he tell you?
		
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			I have not created mankind or humankind, except for them to worship me for them to be tested by
being created, I will release for them everything that there is they need to do the right thing.
It's like a multiple choice A is the answer B is another wrong answer. C is very close to what is
right but it is still wrong. D is the right answer and B is another What do you think you need to
take D knowing that you may be allowed to take a b c or d but if you do that you will fail your
examination. Similarly, when it comes to Allah subhanho wa Taala it gives you options. It gives you
a choice and you have the freedom to utilize the choice knowing that you are going to be responsible
		
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			for the holster that you take off.
		
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			So I need to make sure every time I take off the right answer. The good thing is for as long as you
have not handed in your paper, you can always erase the wrong hands and take off the right one. If
I've done that, which is wrong in my life so much but I am at the point where I realize what the
right answer is. I can actually turn to the most loving the most forgiving the most wise
		
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			I can tell you all my makeup. I know you love me. I love you too. Please forgive me what I've done
in the past. I know I'm going to do the right thing I've never prayed before. I've never thought
about praying before. I'm going to start somewhere. I've never thought about dressing appropriately,
until it's become so difficult for me to dress appropriately. But Oh Allah, I promise you, I love
you so much. And I know you love me. I don't want your displeasure at all. So I'm going to start
trying from today, I'm going to do the right thing. I have brothers and sisters who asked me
sometimes saying you know what? I don't pray.
		
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			So
		
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			you're telling me you don't pray. You don't pray? Well, I want to pray. What what's stopping you? I
think I'm too bad. No, the most loving has made you feel that you need to pray. So that's why you
must start somewhere. Some say, the courage to start with all five, when you need to admit that your
duty is all five. But you started with one you then went on to do you then went on to three until
you continued in such a way that you develop every day, you were walking closer and closer to heaven
to paradise in the same way you were getting closer to your grave, you also became closer to DOS,
you also became closer to the paradise to Panama. So you are heading in the right direction and the
		
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			Most Merciful, the most loving the most wise. He says to us through the blessing of the messenger
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			equilibrium manawan. Every action will be judged by its intention and for every person will be that
which he or she has intended. your intentions need to be strong, they need to be powerful, they need
to be focused they need to understand or you need to understand that these intentions need to be
dedicated to the Almighty. I may not be a perfect being I'm never going to be perfect in this world.
But I'm going to try my best to get as close to Allah as I can. Every day. I'm improving. And this
is why when you love someone, you don't want to harm them. You don't want to disrespect them. But
more than that, you don't want to displease them.
		
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			So when you love Allah Cooney, you will not want to displease
		
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			Allah, and sometimes what Allah subhanho wa Taala does, he keeps us in a negative situation so that
we get closer and closer and closer to him. You know, many people, they start praying after they've
had a problem. I said this a little bit earlier in my previous talk, but I'm repeating it, people
start praying when they have a problem. Wasn't that problem, a blessing from Allah, it made him a
better person, it made him get closest to Allah. So don't think it was the punishment of Allah that
you suffered a disease or you went through an economic hardship or you went through a medical
problem or something of that nature. If it brought you closer to Allah, then Allah is the most wise
		
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			he knows why you were inflicted with that he knows it. You are now so close to Allah subhanho wa
Taala that one of the narration speaks about sickness and seeks about how the person who bought
patience over the sickness that he or she had in his or her life later on in the year when they get
to see the reward of that particular patient that they bought, they will say, had I been sick for my
entire life? I would have got an even higher status. Oh Allah, why didn't you seek a little bit
longer? Yes, in this world, you know what we say? We cannot bear one minute of sickness. Even if
your throat is scratchy, and you inside as you swallow, you get irritated. Everyone who wouldn't
		
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			pay, but the patients that you pay that is closest to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So remember one
thing,
		
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			Allah is indeed wise, he is the most wise. And Hakeem is another name of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
He's the most wise he knows why he does what he does, but we don't know because we don't know the
future. That's what it is. For example, if a person was going to be involved in a motor vehicle
accident, and they were always trained to have a Lamborghini very fast car for some reason, they
couldn't afford it, something went wrong, and they only happen to afford a Toyota ronix you know
what's wrong? So panela so when the accident happened, the damage was not that bad. Imagine if you
had the Lamborghini what would have happened? Perhaps next broken, everything else happened. Allah
		
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			blessing he did not give it to you but you were crying and rethink not realizing that you know what
you don't know the future. Sometimes.
		
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			you desperately want to marry someone, desperately. As this is obstacle, I tell you, perhaps maybe
not.
		
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			But maybe a month with the obstacle because he knows that that person might die one year down,
leaving you with two kids or a kid or they would have to be done.
		
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			So it's possible that Allah does not want you to be widowed so soon. So Allah says, I don't want you
to go there, or the person might be affected by something else, or the person might end up divorcing
you. I know of a case 17 years down the line, someone was divorced.
		
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			And they wouldn't have dreamt that that would have happened. And they say, I cried for this guy, I
actually die for him. And now look, what he's done is set me off like nothing. May Allah forgive us.
You didn't need to cry or die had you surrendered to what Allah had wanted. Initially, there were
signs they're showing you don't go ahead. But then again, even the divorce was a blessing from
Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala keeps us through struggle sometimes to humble us to keep us down,
doesn't mean to keep us down to the ground. I don't mean down as is down and out. But I mean,
closest to the ground, become humble. become humble for the sake of Allah. Allah is all wise. He
		
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			knows why he does things. He knows the future. And he only does that which is timidly better for
you. I give you another example. There are some people who are struggling financially from the
beginning of their lives right to the end. Well, if they were patient, the moment they die, they
will see the blessings of that patience, because they were happy with the decree of Allah subhanho
wa Taala. Oh Allah, you've kept me suffering throughout my life, but I love you, and I still love
you. I haven't missed a Salah I've come closer and closer to you all the salons I've missed, I've
sought forgiveness for them all I read them, etc. And now I'm trying to be the best possible person
		
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			to imagine when you die, Allah is waiting for you.
		
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			So Panama is waiting for you. There is a better place. So Panama.
		
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			In New Jersey,
		
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			Allah says, I am the one who really completes them with goodness because of their support their
patience, they are the successful due to that patience, they will patient for the sake of Allah
subhanho wa Taala. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us an understanding. So a person who goes
through struggles throughout many years of their life, it's not the sign of the Wrath of Allah or
the anger of Allah, it's a question for you, which is for you.
		
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			We have for example, examinations of this world.
		
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			The difficult questions are for those examinations that are more important. If it's just a test at
the end of the week, they'll probably ask you one plus one, five plus five plus three, and so on.
But if it is a very complicated, long mathematical question that needs you to think for a long time,
and worse without your certificate, it will be much higher, don't you agree?
		
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			Same applies in our lives. When you have a very difficult situation, your certificate is higher.
This is why the proper setup says even when he
		
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			my community that
		
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			the bigger reward is actually connected to the bigger test. If you're tested with something huge,
your reward will be far greater than someone who's been tested with something small.
		
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			Pamela, you've lost a loved one your child. You lose a child. You had a miscarriage for example,
what about if you bet patients by the rule of law, they will be judged enough for you? paradise
awaits you. The most loving will definitely grant you gentlemen, for your patients.
		
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			Pamela
		
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			it's not easy for Allah, meaning it's not easy even for the angels that Allah subhanho wa Taala
instructs to remove the soul from the bodies to actually do that. But they obey the instruction of
Allah Subhana Allah to Allah
		
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			subhana wa my brothers and my sisters
		
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			worshiper then an artist says, Look, if
		
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			I asked you a question, don't we believe he was the most beloved unto Allah. We
		
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			have to believe that no one will believe he was the best of creation, the most noble of all
prophets, we have to believe that that's what makes us Muslims.
		
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			How many cases Did he go through in his life and why? Allah knows why. He lost all his young boys,
his sons in infancy or childhood. He lost them all one by one.
		
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			He lost all his daughters.
		
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			Later on, they were
		
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			they all passed away before he passed away, except one of them. Big Mohammed Salama.
		
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			Why did that happen? Yes, he was the most beloved unto Allah. To show us all that when Allah loves
you, it does not mean people around you won't die. It does not mean you're not going to lose your
loved ones. That's a test that's part of Allah subhanho wa Taala. to you to be able to get closer to
him Because ultimately, we are all going to return to Allah subhanho wa Taala I just thought of
something else. Muhammad Ali was chosen by Allah subhanho wa Taala to be the best of creation, the
most noble of all prophets, guess what? His father died prior to his death? He was born an orphan.
Why? One might say what if Allah loves me? Why am I COVID? If Allah loves me, Why did my mum and dad
		
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			divorce? If Allah loved me, why did this happen? That's the love of Allah, it all depends on how you
look at it. So change the perception, understand, it is the most loving, who has done this one says
sometimes look at the suffering across the globe. If Allah was most loving, he would not allow them
to suffer. That is why he takes them away beyond a certain point. Allah is so loving, that he does
not allow you will die to taste pain beyond the point, you will probably faint and you won't know
what's happening. Because Allah says I love you enough for you not to feel what's going on. So
panela and after a certain point, you go through what is known as death, because you got to the
		
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			point where beyond that a man doesn't want you to feed you with that body of yours. So a person
passed away when they passed away. What do we say? Don't we say they've gone into the mercy of Allah
insha Allah, Allah Matilda, they have gone into the mercy of Allah because we believe there is a
better place. If you die right now you need to be convinced that you're going to a better place.
That doesn't mean take your life away, because you have problems because if that happens, then
you're challenging Allah subhanho wa Taala. Suicide is prohibited in Islam, it's Haram. The warnings
have been issued in the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the prohibition is
		
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			manifest in the
		
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			womb.
		
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			Don't kill yourself. Because Allah is indeed very merciful upon you. Allah is merciful. If you are
having a tough day today, a day will come when you will smile.
		
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			If you are having a challenge today, trust me that will pass it will come to pass.
		
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			But you need to be convinced that conviction is very important. And you need to persevere sticking
there, holding for a while. You need to understand, I'm convinced that allows you to take me out of
this mess. If not today, tomorrow, every one of us without exception, we have certain situations
that we would like to get out of every one of us, says some things, don't worry, be patient, but
there is a secret. What's the secret, develop your relationship with the one who has the solution to
your problems? I want to see solution but
		
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			I want to see solutions to all these issues, but no relationship with the one who's actually the
owner of the solution.
		
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			So I need to make sure that I develop a relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala I need to make
sure that I develop a league with Allah so that I know that whatever is happening to me, definitely,
it's just part of the rocklahoma it's not part of the anger of Allah subhanho wa Taala and I'm
trying my best, Allah knows me personally, you know why?
		
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			And I'm saying this on behalf of every one of us. Allah knows me personally. That's what everyone
can say. Because I say Subhana Allah Alhamdulillah Praise be to Allah Glory be to Allah. I read his
book every day. I pray, I put my head on the ground for him. He knows me personally. He definitely
knows you personally. He knows what you're going through. Don't ever doubted that. Acaba Maya poodle
Abdulahi was
		
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			the closest that a slave or a worshiper can be
		
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			To Allah subhanho wa Jalla is when he's physically in prostration. When you go down on the 70 bones,
what are the seven bones, you have your toes, you have your knees, you have your hands and you have
your forehead are
		
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			connected to your nose.
		
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			When you're on the ground for Allah Subhana
		
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			Allah, I'm declaring the praise of the one who is the highest guest. I put myself physically into
the lowest possible position that a human being can get into respectfully for the sake of Allah. I
have no allies. Hi. Allah says that's the closest you can ever get to me. But a lot of us when it
comes to frustration, let's be honest, we cannot wait to get our head off the ground again. Come on,
come on. Allah loves you. Put it on the ground. Say that somehow. Allah two more times. Say two more
times. I promise you you will see a change in your life. You will see a difference when you go into
such depth. Don't pick on the ground. It's okay my sisters, it's fine. Forget the makeup for a
		
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			while. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy. Put your head on the ground for the sake of Allah.
If the makeup comes in the way it's okay. It's fine. We can source that out later. For now. I'm
sourcing my relationship with Allah.
		
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			I'm just being honest. Because I've had questions that have been weird to say. And I'm not joking.
sisters have asked me Are we allowed to offer our heads
		
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			above the ground when we go into juice because we spent more than 16 pounds
		
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			on the mini computer function
		
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			it's not up to me. It's a reality. Well, it's a question I've been asked. It's not up to me. My
sister's Oh 60 pounds
		
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			I'm so sorry to tell you there is no
		
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			no that means you cannot show up in your salon because you've got makeup no Can you join your salon
because you've got makeup that only happens when you're
		
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			when you have a journey or whenever it is stipulated in the model sooner, but there's no way that it
speaks about makeup. So if that is coming between you and your relationship with Allah Who is the
most loving? What else do you think you're doing? That could have been your last opportunity to
engage with Allah subhanho wa Taala I hope I said enough.
		
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			always laugh when we say just joking, but they're equally guilty without makeup without an excuse.
		
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			That's even worse.
		
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			The one is saying I spent 60 pounds on my brother What can you say that you're aware
		
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			of You forgive us? May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. Let's think about our relationship with
the most wise when he has stipulated Salah he knows why we may not know why.
		
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			Sala itself will keep you away from immorality and evil. If you're bothered about Salah look at this
function we've had today we made over here we made solid Alaska here we made a lot of money. And
some of us have made a lot in Asia already doing a little bit nature.
		
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			Why? Why did we have to break so many times? There was a reason because we always to Allah subhanho
wa Taala could have been our last opportunity to do that. Imagine if you get to the hereafter and
you're so happy because the last opportunity you had you seized it. So kind of luck. I'd rather be
from among those than to be one who's regretted mela center us my brothers and sisters. The words
I'm saying are only made to be strengthening us to bring us closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala he is
the wise he's the most loving. He knows why he does things. And he knows that everyone is going
through challenges difficulties. He has put them in your life for a reason. But with our brains, we
		
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			don't understand the reason we don't have a lot of the times we don't know.
		
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			Imagine Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			I've taught to follow his example. This example is so complete, that he teaches me how to go through
challenges and difficulties because he has faced every hardship that I can think of. So when I face
similar hardships, at least I know how to manage
		
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			Faster, become the Big
		
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			Buddha.
		
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			The amazing the last few verses of Egypt, where Allah subhanho wa Taala says
		
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			we know that the statements they are throwing about you being a rumor been a false statements
feeding that which is hurtful, we know that your chest is being tightened. Because of that it's
hurting you. You know, when people say bad things about us, it hurts us. We're human beings. How do
you react to it?
		
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			How do you How will you react to it today? Someone says a nasty thing about you on Instagram, you
say any nasty things about them? on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Google Plus telegram, Snapchat?
And then you say, Have you ever do that again?
		
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			Right.
		
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			Because we know it's a bad thing. When someone says something bad about us. So we want to retaliate.
But Allah says,
		
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			return the Euro believe
		
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			you the best of creation. Allah says,
		
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			we have declared a phrase of
		
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			declare the praise of your minister God and being from among those who frustrate often.
		
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			So that's how you solve your problem. Thank Allah and hamdulillah a lot of the times people say
nasty things about us, because they judge us, even as something that he has not given them. So don't
bother to respond. Don't become long with them. If they say bad things, you say good things, they
will be surprised. They will be able to learn something if they have a heart. So Allah says suspect
number one, declare the phrase of Allah Glorified Allah.
		
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			And let the sector be from among those who is in frustration starting off with your obligatory
prayers, and then that which is voluntary Subhanallah and what if it persists? What if the problem
continues? What do I do? Allah says,
		
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			key for worship in your house, until death comes to you. Keep on worshiping.
		
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			Because ultimately, what's the worst that will happen? Well, if I'm sick terminally and I've been
making dua to Allah have mercy on me and mercy on me, Miss mercy made the case that I passed away
and I get into heaven
		
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			and rely on my brothers and sisters don't ever belittle an axe because you don't know which act is
going to take you to dinner is in
		
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			a glass of water that you gave someone? Is it a smile, that your smile on someone's face isn't hope
that you instilled in someone else's life is just a little prayer that you might engage in? Is it
for example, a good deed an act of clarity, perhaps you reach out into your pocket again, you don't
know which literally will be the tipping of that scale to get you into gentlemen. So do not
underestimate the smallest of these. Keep on doing them until well.
		
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			Don't lose focus until you die. When you die, your test is over. Your examination results you awaken
for a moment and you will get them on a day. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease May Allah
subhanho wa Taala open our doors. I encourage you My beloved brothers and sisters to develop a
beautiful relationship with the most loving with the most wise with the one who loves you the most.
And I promise you if you use the names of Allah called out to him he will indeed open your doors one
after the other because he tells you to do that in the bar. So the next time you are sick or ill
instead of saying Oh Allah cure me which is perfectly fine. Try owner of cure cure me. So Panama, it
		
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			brings about a totally different angle. It brings about confirmation that you are convinced that the
owner of cure is Allah. Yeah, Shafi is finished.
		
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			So para la when you need sustenance, it's perfectly fine to save me sustenance but try out older of
sustenance. Give me some
		
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			money. That's what it is. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless her soul, and May Allah subhanho wa
Taala grant the sweetness in this world and the next brothers and sisters, I hope the little talk
that I've had, has been a means of my own.
		
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			development of the code Allah and yours as well. And I hope it is still giving you a lot of hope,
and a lot of love for Allah for indeed he loves you. I know we're all facing challenges, including
myself. And we will continue facing challenges. If you think that you're not going to be facing
challenges. I think you're talking about a life beyond this world. Because in this world, we all
face challenges. That's what life is all about. But we ask Allah have mercy on us. Abu lupone Hala
salatu salam ala nabina, Muhammad
		
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			Allah, Allah, Allah