Mufti Menk – Marriage – Give your children a chance – Listen to them

			Assalamu alaikum if your child is interested in marrying someone, please make sure that you take
that interest seriously. Don't just block it and stop it. The world has changed. Your children
interact with others, they notice amazing people at times better than you would ever come across.
And they come and tell you, dad or Mum, I have come across someone amazing. Please, can you look
into this, I'm interested in this particular person. It might not be the way we and our forefathers
did it. But it's not a wrong way of doing things. Many people are not considering what their
children have come up with. And as a result, causing a lot of pain and suffering, also contributing
		

			towards divorce because later on, they get married to people they did not want to marry. It's a
dangerous thing. Please make sure you take seriously what your children have come to you with. They
are also intelligent people. And if they have come up with something that you can prove is not
reasonable, then let's talk about it convinced them that for these reasons, this is not going to
happen or it's not going to work out. Or at least this is my opinion. And let those reasons be valid
reasons that are enshrined in Islam, taught by Allah and His rasuna let your whims and fancies not
overtake you. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless every one of us. It is a huge responsibility and
		

			many people are making some big mistakes. May Allah guide us all and grant us all contentment a
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah