Mufti Menk – Losing a Loved One

			Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
		

			Smilla he will hamdu Lillahi wa Salatu was Salam ala Abdullah he was truly here Muhammad wa ala
alihi wa sahbihi. Germaine,
		

			my brothers and sisters, losing a loved one is not easy. You suddenly lose your parent or you might
lose, for example, a child or a brother, especially when it is unexpected.
		

			Well, one might ask what is meant by expected and unexpected? A very simple response is, if, for
example, a person was terminally ill they will not well for a while people might expect that this
person may pass away. So the preparation for it would have been a little bit more although people
like that can live for years. So many times the doctors say you don't have much time and then you
end up living for longer than the doctor SubhanAllah. And sometimes what happens is a person arrives
at old age, and then they begin to prepare for death. Remember, if you have clocked 60
		

			You definitely need to understand the Prophet SAW Salem statement when he says amaro Motema baina.
Sitting in a submarine, the average lifespan of the members of my OMA is between 60 and 70 years.
That would mean if you've clocked 60 You already on the lower end of that average, you would be
fortunate to get to 70 Mashallah, you need to make peace with Allah, you need to constantly seek
forgiveness and have hope in the Mercy of Allah. Because seeking forgiveness alone, when you
doubting that forgiveness is not good enough, don't doubt forgiveness, you sought the forgiveness of
Allah, you must make sure within your heart you firmly believe that Allah has forgiven me. And then
		

			if you clock 70, you need to know you're at the top end of that particular average. And therefore
you are fortunate Allah has given you a lot more time, you can bid farewell to your children and
your family members in a better way, you can leave them in a good position. But when we say
unexpected, someone suddenly goes, they're ill. And a few days later, a week later, two weeks later,
they're gone. They did not have enough time to say goodbye to their family members or to even
prepare or to even let them know some of the details of their lives. What this means is recently
during the Coronavirus, many people have lost their lives, and many of them have not even told their
		

			family members or their loved ones, how they earn a living who they owe money and who owes them
money. So sometimes their family members struggle as a result of them not knowing anything about the
income, many families have actually gone to zero after the breadwinner was lost. May Allah grant us
goodness. The point here is, number one, make sure you realize anyone can die at any time
Subhanallah we've said this in the past, we're repeating it here, perhaps from a different angle,
the angle is have you and I prepared our loved ones for the day, we're going to depart? Have you
given them some important information? Have you left some important information about your living
		

			your life about the details they may need to know if you've passed away? Have you left it? If not do
it today. Start doing it now you don't know how long you're going to live. I don't know either. They
need to know a few of your passwords. Sorry to say that. But they need to know this. Some of your
passwords, it might be a little embarrassment in some cases. But as a believer, it shouldn't be we
shouldn't be leading a life where we're embarrassed of something. May Allah grant us goodness and
ease. So from this member today, I'd like to remind myself and yourselves and everyone out there to
say, please leave your loved ones with some details that will be necessary for them to know, if you
		

			were to suddenly die. May Allah subhanho wa Taala give us a good death. I mean,
		

			and then you need to also realize that if you are a person who lost a loved one, number one, don't
ever question Allah in a way that denies his authority. What this means is, if you're a person
saying, why did this happen to me, and you're asking in order to know in order to increase your
knowledge in order to become a better person, you're just a human being. Sometimes that question
arises when I suffer a loss and another loss and a third loss. And I say why is this happening to
me? Why is Allah doing this to me? If I am asking that question because I would like to improve
myself or change something or realize what I'm doing wrong? Or maybe Allah is not pleased with me,
		

			etc, then there's no harm in asking that question. But if you are saying why is Allah doing this to
me, which means who is Allah to do this to me? Now the biller, you're not allowed to ask that
question? We believe well, Kadri Haley, he will share Rahim in Allah heeta
		

			Welcome to the whole we have one more Rahim Allah Allah, good and bad faith is from Allah sweet and
sour fate is from Allah. I'm a believer I surrender
		

			the kala Sun Allah ma Fatah Kumala flock aubema.com Allah says we have decreed and predestined
everything, primarily so that you don't become haughty when we give you things and you don't become
too sad when you lose something. When Allah has given you a lot to say, this is from Allah. And when
Allah took something away from you say, this is from Allah Subhana Allah so you're not too sad and
you're not too excited in the sense that you don't become Horti May Allah grant us goodness and
happiness and May Allah help us in every single way. My brothers, my sisters, it is natural and
normal to miss a loved one. When you've lost a loved one natural, you can cry, no problem. In fact,
		

			the prophets of salaam shed a tear as well. When he lost Ibrahim and various other occasions in his
blessed life. When he shed a tear the Sahaba of the Allahu Anhu were quite surprised they asked him
what is this so messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, In nama here Ramadan. Jalla Hala
houfy body heal Rahama
		

			he says look, I'm just shedding a tear because it's a mercy that Allah put in the hearts of those
who are merciful. And then he said his famous words he says, Oh Ibrahim, we will miss you. We are
saddened by the fact that you have separated from us in this life but we will not utter any words
except that which please Allah in Manila Hema wala Houma, Appa workqueue Lucia in India who will be
utterly Muslim indeed to Allah belongs that which he has taken away And to Allah belong that which
he gave in the first place, and we are Subhanallah happy with the decree of Allah subhanho wa taala.
		

			Everything that Allah has created, he's put a time tag on it. When nowadays, when you purchase
something a perishable, it says the expiry date or it says Best before, after that date, Subhan
Allah, if it is best before, it does not mean you cannot use it, but it means tread with caution, be
careful, but if it is an expiry date, then perhaps you want to discard of it or you want to check it
a little bit further. Man comes with an expiry date when you are born, Allah Almighty has already
put a tag on you before you were born. And this is why when you think of the ideal world, and we're
not living in an ideal world, but naturally when you're young, you think, Oh, I'm young, my parents
		

			are old, I'm gonna grow old, they're gonna pass away. And then after I'm gonna have my wife and
children and thereafter, I will pass away and then then you will be surprised perhaps your children
might pre deceased you it can happen. Are you ready for that? Have you thought of it? It's natural
and normal to be concerned. You know, I might lose my son, my daughter before myself, I might lose
my brother, etc. Before myself. It's normal to think of it once in a while. But it's not normal to
become depressed about it. We belong to Allah, we are going to go back to a beautiful place. The
most amazing place ever is not this world. It is genital for those. I'm going there. And we're all
		

			coming with the prophets, Allah, sunnah. We seek His intercession. And that is something we look
forward to. Is it not enough that we try our best to please Allah and we seek forgiveness and we've
believed in the messenger, but that's good enough, my brothers, my sisters, just seek forgiveness
and continue doing that. Try to be a good person, one of the obstacles that would actually
		

			create a disaster for a human being is when you have wronged one another. You see, when you commit a
sin against Allah, Allah is for Rahim, most forgiving, Most Merciful, He will forgive you. The
minute you say, oh, Allah forgive me. He says, Don't worry, you're forgiven, because He is the Most
Merciful, the Most Compassionate, the most kind, etc, the most forgiving, whatever so many good
qualities, all his qualities are good. But when you've wronged a fellow human being, you swore at
someone or you cheated them, you deceive them, you back, you were backbiting about them, you slammed
them. Be careful, that person might not be forgiving, they may never forgive you. You might have to
		

			have a case on the day of judgment against you. That would be disastrous. So therefore, lead your
life in a beautiful way. Don't harm creatures speak with respect. Do you know the Prophet sallallahu
Sallam once said
		

			unluckily Sonic two more added new job a lot of the Allah one. He said what your tongue watch how
you speak to anyone and everyone. Why didn't he jabber looks at him and says our inner mojado Nabi
Mara, Superman, Apulia rasool Allah, our inner Maha Maha Donna be Manoj Khun are we going to be held
accountable for what we utter? When we haven't done something?
		

			The Prophet SAW Selim says thank you, let's go mukaiyama What are you talking about?
		

			Omar Mahalia Kubo, NASA, Allah Manaphy him Finetti Illa Hassan II to unseen at him.
		

			Is there any other reason that people will be cast on their faces into hellfire, besides the way
they use their tongues.
		

			That's quite a deep Hadith. It means you will enter Jannah because of the use of your tongue and you
will enter Hellfire because of the use of your tongue. If it's good, it's the right and if it's bad,
it's the evil the left.
		

			So be careful. If the Prophet SAW Salem gave advice for the good use of the tongue in this way, then
surely we should remind each other everyday my brother, just speak nicely. Just speak with respect,
just be kind no matter who it is, especially those below you because those above you, you will
always greet them, you will always smile at them. Those below you those who you have greater
authority over, do not belittle others, my brothers and sisters, that would be one of the best ways
to prepare for a sudden death, you might just go
		

			earlier I said if you've lost a loved one, it's normal to feel sad. But you need to rise above that
at some point and you need to continue with your life because life carries on. It doesn't mean one
person was last around you from the ones you love the most that your life must now come to a
standstill. Train your knifes to believe in Allah. Train your soul to realize the gift of Allah and
understand I'm still alive, I can pray for them. I can seek forgiveness for them. I can perhaps give
out a charity on their behalf. I can do a limited amount of deeds on their behalf. So do good and
pray for them and life must continue because a day will come when you are going to be reunited with
		

			your loved ones don't doubt that you will be reunited with your loved ones completely. Allah
promises that while loving a man Oh A tab at home Dornier to be a man in her corner beam. Very
beautiful verse Alma. And at nine min Imani
		

			shady. Allah says those who believe and their families followed through with similar belief in
goodness, we will reunite them in the hereafter we will bring them together, we will allow them to
be together may Allah grant us goodness. So my brothers and sisters, it's not all lost when someone
passes away. It's just a phase when you will have to endure the separation. And thereafter you will
join them so do good deeds. If you've lost a loved one, the best thing you could do improve yourself
your connection with Allah. Sometimes the death of a loved one is the point of turning of the life
of a person who may have led their lives in a bad way prior to that they become the best of people.
		

			That was your blessing. It was not something bad, it was your blessing you woke up basically
Alhamdulillah if you woke up as a result of a person passing away, you need to realize thank Allah
that Allah allowed you that one day he will reunite you with them. May Allah Almighty grant His
goodness. So my brothers, my sisters, we ask Allah to help us to prepare for the day we may die. As
I said, it could happen to anyone at any time. Have you spoken to your family, your loved ones,
those close to you? Have you left something where they would know what to do in the case of your
sudden death. It's important. Secondly, if you've lost a loved one, it's normal to grieve, but it's
		

			not normal to become depressed and to allow it to go to a point where your life has come to a
standstill. May Allah Almighty have mercy on all of us. And may Allah make us from among those who
realize let's talk good to one another. Remember at the back of your mind, always death is a whisker
away, really? May Allah subhanho wa Taala be pleased with us. May He take us away at an age when he
knows it's the best. May he take us away at a time when he knows that this relationship between us
and Him is at its peak and may He be pleased with us and ultimately may we be gathered in general
for those in the companionship of Nabina Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I mean your have been
		

			Alameen wa sallahu wa salam ala Baraka ala Nabina Muhammad Al Hamdulillah Hello Bill Adam.