Mufti Menk – How To Handle Challenges with Cultural Sensitivity

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The importance of avoiding negative behavior when one finds a loss of their job is discussed. People can develop a sense of hopelessness and fear when they hear stories about job loss. The speaker advises people to quit their job and use their experience as an excuse, as they may be trying to get their hands around their appearance. They also suggest practicing faith and not just praying for someone. The woman describes her sister's outdated hair and fashion statement clothing.

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			Amazing. May Allah make it easy for you,
		
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			number 1. Number 2 is
		
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			in anyone's situation
		
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			and you know your situation, it's it's it's
		
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			quite quite simple for me to say, you
		
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			know what? Just quit your job and go
		
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			and get something else, but there's no jobs
		
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			out there. I need to survive and so
		
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			on. So what do I do? What really?
		
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			What do I do? I have found a
		
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			few a few things number 1 is regarding
		
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			the diet, you know what's halal and what
		
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			you can eat and what you can't eat,
		
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			sometimes you if you say this is halal
		
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			then
		
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			people might
		
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			be a little bit hostile towards the term,
		
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			but if you use another word within which
		
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			there is more halal
		
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			than something there,
		
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			they are more receptive of it, like I'm
		
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			vegan,
		
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			or I'm vegetarian,
		
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			it's it's different, I'll give you an example,
		
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			we were on a flight one day
		
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			and
		
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			there was a beauty pageant that had happened
		
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			in the country, and myself and a few
		
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			of the sheikhs were sitting in the front
		
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			of the flight, and these girls walked in
		
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			semi, you know, dressed.
		
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			And, we were just talking to each other
		
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			a little while later.
		
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			One of them developed the courage to come
		
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			up to us and say, we'd like to
		
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			take a big job.
		
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			Now we were the only guys with these
		
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			big bids, you know,
		
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			so the rest of the men on the
		
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			flight, it was quite a big plane.
		
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			The rest of the men on the flight,
		
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			I don't know what made them pick us
		
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			out from everybody else.
		
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			So immediately,
		
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			a colleague of mine, a friend of mine
		
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			says, you know
		
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			what, my wife will kill
		
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			me. My wife will what? Will kill me.
		
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			Oh no no no no, it's okay, It's
		
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			fine. Don't worry. That's why we understand that
		
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			she went away.
		
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			Wow. I was busy thinking about using the
		
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			religious card and telling him haram, I'm a
		
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			Muslim, you know, in Islam it's not
		
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			Allah, he just showed me, listen, you can
		
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			say something that they can receive with far
		
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			greater ease. By the way, my wife is
		
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			sitting right in your midst this evening, mashallah.
		
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			So Alhamdulillah, it's a good thing,
		
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			I just said you know what, my wife
		
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			would be so unhappy, it's going to create
		
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			a problem for me at home, you know,
		
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			they would say okay fine. Thank you what
		
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			you achieved something you wanted to achieve
		
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			Without saying why you wanted to achieve it
		
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			but that is also true.
		
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			So many times my wife tells me, you
		
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			see this, you shouldn't have done this, you
		
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			see that. She's the only one qualified to
		
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			actually tell that to me, you know. You
		
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			shouldn't have done this, you shouldn't have done
		
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			this, and sometimes it's basic things and I'm
		
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			like okay okay fine, that's fine, masha'Allah, masha'Allah,
		
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			alhamdulillah,
		
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			but it's okay, alhamdulillah,
		
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			So in your case, perhaps regarding the diet
		
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			part of it, you can you can look
		
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			for a worldly thing that's palatable to them
		
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			to
		
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			literally to use an as an excuse, but
		
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			it's acceptable because here comes a person saying,
		
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			I'm vegetarian. They facilitate it for that person.
		
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			The minute you say, I only eat halal,
		
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			at times you can sense the vibe based
		
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			on depending on where you're working you're working
		
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			in an environment like you say that's very
		
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			very
		
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			you know not connected
		
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			to Muslims
		
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			secondly
		
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			my sister carry yourself in a way that
		
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			you know you've done better
		
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			or the best you could do given the
		
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			circumstance
		
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			and pray to Allah to make it easier
		
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			and ask Allah to give you an opening
		
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			with
		
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			and Allah will grant you that open so
		
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			these are some of the steps that I
		
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			would advise to say do your best given
		
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			your circumstances I met a sister who's an
		
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			air hostess
		
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			in an air on an aircraft and she
		
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			tells me, what do I do? Well, when
		
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			you applied for the job, I wasn't involved,
		
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			number 1. Number 2 is,
		
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			now that you're in it, I can't tell
		
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			you, quit it
		
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			unless you have an alternative. If you have
		
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			an alternative, please quit
		
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			it
		
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			because there's an alternative.
		
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			But if not, and this is your means
		
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			of survival,
		
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			and this is the way that you are
		
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			you know,
		
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			basically, you know we need to pay rent.
		
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			Nobody's gonna come up in the Masjid and
		
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			say, right, guys. Everybody who's got a job
		
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			where there's a little bit of around, come
		
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			here and collect 5,000 quid from us every
		
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			month, and that's it. Doesn't happen. It's never
		
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			gonna happen. It's a fairy tale. So those
		
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			people who say, no. Do this. Don't worry.
		
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			Allah will provide. Allah will it's true. Allah
		
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			definitely will provide, but Allah has given you
		
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			common logic.
		
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			When you I give you a true story,
		
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			a very true story. A brother in America,
		
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			this was very recent.
		
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			A brother told me that
		
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			he visited he was from Nigeria. Right? He
		
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			visited
		
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			the states and he stays at a certain
		
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			place and he says every time I go
		
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			there there's there's there's a girl
		
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			and this is an elderly man, and he's
		
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			a very religious responsible person, dignitary.
		
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			He says whenever I go there, there's a
		
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			girl and she's very polite, and we get
		
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			talking and discussing religion and faith and so
		
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			on whatever whatever
		
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			and what happened is
		
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			she at one of his visits she said
		
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			guess what I'm a mustn
		
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			she had declared a shahada
		
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			what had lit it the guy
		
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			this dignity who kept coming he lit the
		
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			flame of
		
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			asking, finding out, and she was so convinced
		
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			with Islam. She's this girl, American, and she
		
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			decided I'm becoming a Muslim. When this guy
		
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			came and visited one of the times she
		
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			says I'm a Muslim
		
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			and part of her struggles were
		
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			salah
		
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			because she's in an environment where she has
		
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			no place to pray,
		
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			so she decided
		
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			what she did,
		
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			like I say, make the most of whatever
		
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			your circumstances are, do your best.
		
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			In her break,
		
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			she would go
		
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			under the flight of stairs in a dark
		
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			corner
		
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			and quickly dress and
		
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			and pray
		
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			as quickly as she can
		
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			and come out
		
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			and back at the reception where she works.
		
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			Every time she prayed, she hoped and and
		
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			prayed that no one saw her because it
		
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			would be trouble.
		
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			Anyway, this guy came back a third time
		
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			and she says, guess what? Something amazing happened.
		
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			What happened? She
		
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			says, one day my boss
		
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			actually came
		
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			at that time when I was praying,
		
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			and I was saying to Allah, I forgot
		
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			what I was trying to read in salah,
		
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			and saying, oh Allah, help me so he
		
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			can't see me. He doesn't see me. He
		
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			doesn't see me, you know, protect me from
		
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			him in whatever way you can because she'll
		
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			lose a job, right?
		
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			And
		
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			to her surprise
		
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			the boss
		
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			after
		
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			the girl finishes says what were you doing,
		
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			I was praying, I want to see you
		
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			in my office.
		
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			Come on. You can imagine what happened, her
		
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			heart sank, everything, whatever. Wallahi, she went to
		
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			the office
		
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			and she sat down quietly
		
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			he says what were you doing there he
		
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			says I was praying he says what are
		
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			you praying for she says you know,
		
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			I I'm now a Muslim,
		
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			and so
		
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			we pray 5 times a day, and I
		
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			was doing my prayers and so on.
		
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			The boss said I'm a Muslim too from
		
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			today on you don't pray in that corner
		
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			you come to my office and you pray
		
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			here
		
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			and this is a true story
		
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			and when I heard this, you know, like
		
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			my hair,
		
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			like, stood on end, and I'm thinking to
		
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			myself, imagine how
		
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			Allah saved her,
		
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			but that doesn't happen with everyone. Some people
		
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			have lost their jobs because of whatever.
		
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			So what you could do is do the
		
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			best given your circumstances with the the the
		
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			alcohol and so on. People would know that
		
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			you're non nonalcoholic.
		
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			I know of a lot of non Muslims
		
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			who are nonalcoholic.
		
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			They don't drink
		
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			alcohol, and and the interactions would be less.
		
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			The food, for example, if you're if you
		
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			have to go to a place where there
		
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			the food is not halal, you can opt
		
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			for something that you would definitely not be,
		
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			you know, contaminated in that way, inshallah, slowly
		
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			but surely,
		
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			and ask Allah to alleviate that for you
		
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			ask Allah to grant you an alternative
		
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			keep praying to him every day 6 months
		
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			will pass a year will pass something will
		
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			happen that will be a miracle and Allah
		
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			will give you that opening by His will
		
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			and His mercy by the word of Allah
		
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			again these are the real struggles of people
		
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			who want to practice not just reverts
		
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			anyone who wants to practice there and they
		
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			tell you, you know what? I became practicing
		
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			and I really have a major problem because
		
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			of so and so and so and so
		
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			and this. I know of a sister who
		
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			told me
		
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			I wear my hijab, but I just have
		
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			to make it into a bit of a
		
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			fashion statement so that it looks like, it's
		
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			not actually the hijab. What's your comment? I
		
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			said, I have no comment. You know what's
		
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			right and wrong. Your circumstances, I don't know
		
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			them. And if you're doing the best according
		
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			to you, and inshallah, you're gonna do better
		
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			and better and better. I pray that inshallah,
		
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			it will get to the ideal. Everyone knows
		
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			this is not ideal.
		
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			I mean hijab is not worn for fashion,
		
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			but it's worn in a decent way. It
		
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			should look nice. It should look, you know,
		
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			something that's presentable, something that's,
		
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			that doesn't make you feel inferior or something
		
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			no you're you're just a lovely human being
		
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			who's trying to practice their faith by the
		
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			will of Allah May Allah make it easy
		
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			for you, my sister. I hope these few
		
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			words
		
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			can help you, and I wish I had
		
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			a job better than the one you're in
		
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			right now that I could say, sister, from
		
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			tomorrow, come and work for us, but, unfortunately,
		
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			I don't.
		
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			May Allah bless you.