Mufti Menk – Here’s what I said at my own daughters Wedding

			smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah, Allah He was happy
as mine.
		

			Once again, my beloved families, my brothers, my sisters, my elders, it brings me great joy to be
here today officiating the nikka have my own daughter.
		

			This is the third of my daughter's to be getting married. And we ask Allah always to take care of
our children. And I'm sure when they asked me how do you feel that your daughter is getting married?
I said she's going from a good family to a good family. She's growing, going from a home to another
home and inshallah I pray that Allah give them Baraka and blessings and Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Bless everything that's going to come out of this beautiful union and this is the essence of the dua
that we are taught to make, the sooner the biggest gift you can ever give. A couple that get
together is just a supplication. Duan, Baraka, Allah, hula Kuma, or Baraka, la cama ojama binaca
		

			Murphy, may Allah bless you may he bless everything that is going to come out of the result of this
union, and may He bring the two of you together in every goodness. So that is the doula that we
leave the bride and the groom with today. And at the same time, a few words of advice. Number one is
my beloved Son, mother, father,
		

			and my daughter Roseanne
		

			as we officiate your nikka today, we advise you with the advice of Rasulullah seldom only duckula.
to always be conscious of Allah, everything you do in life, ensure that Allah comes first. If that
is the case, nothing can go wrong by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala and if that is the case,
the next most important thing is to respect one another, there should always be utmost respect in
marriage, there may be a difference of opinion here or there. There might be for example, one or two
things we may not see eye to eye on regarding petits it happens in every marriage. But if there is
the focus upon Allah and His command and there is respect of one another, then inshallah it's very
		

			easy to navigate through the rest. Similarly,
		

			part of that respect is to be able to speak to one another with love and kindness. Generally, in my
house, I have a rule not to scream and shout or swear at one another. Although sometimes with the
little kids, I'm also guilty of raising my voice a little bit. But as they grow older, and we
realize when it comes to our spouses and those who are slightly older, even to correct them, even to
say something to them, we don't need to be loud, to be vulgar, to swear to shout, to scream. And
although I know it's not in the nature of either of you, but it's good to just repeat it whether
kill for in the crotch, and five minute. So, at the same time, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to
		

			grant you guys guidance in a way that you make the best decisions. always the best decisions always,
for your dean, your junior, and you are here as parents on both sides. I don't think any of us are
the interfering type, we will probably leave you to navigate a lot of your lives, we will guide you
from time to time, don't take that as interference, we will probably suggest to you things you may
or may not decide to go exactly according to what we've suggested. Because at the end of the day,
it's only a suggestion. Similarly, when it comes to important decisions you may be making for your
future. Fly to consider us perhaps you might want to just get an opinion from us. Seeing that we've
		

			seen a bit more of the world than you may have. You're still young and you have a whole life ahead
of you. We might be able to say a word that you may never have thought of who knows. So consider
what your parents have to say and what your in laws have to say. I've advised my daughter and I've
advised all my children to say when you're getting married, have the best possible opinion of your
in laws. They are your family. That is your mother that is your father. Sometimes you and I know the
world out there has developed a stigma when it comes to your in laws. We don't believe that. We
actually definitely believe that there there is good in everyone and this good begins to shine. If
		

			we know how to live with one another. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all goodness and
protection. You know, I could go on and on but I think advice comes in small doses. So
		

			May Allah grant you goodness Rozanne May Allah help you in your future, as I say
		

			Remember, Salah is something that should never be compromised. Your taqwa your relationship with
Allah never be compromised. Whenever you have any minor or major disagreements, may Allah protect
you from that, but you need to navigate through that with utmost respect. This union is best based
on love, kindness, goodness, honor and it is meant to achieve our the tanwar rahmatan the love and
the mercy, the contentment, the goodness the bliss, so that will only happen inshallah, if we are
conscious of one another. And we, we think the best of intentions whenever anyone has said or done
something may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness. Those are a few words that I thought of,
		

			perhaps
		

			advising our children