Mufti Menk – Don’t Want My Husband in Paradise

			Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, my brothers and sisters, every one of us wants to go to
Paradise, Jen net Will Ferrell those, we will go to Paradise, I know I will go to Paradise, and so
will you, by the mercy of Allah, by his virtue and his grace, we try, but our deeds will never be
good enough for us to earn paradise simply by the deeds, we have to have the mercy of Allah.
However, many people say, Well, you know, if I'm going to go into paradise and such, and such a
person is going to be there, it's really going to make life a struggle in paradise. What's the point
of going there? So sometimes women say it about their husbands. Sometimes people say it about
		

			others. Sometimes men say about their wives, that, you know, well, if she's gonna be there, I just
don't want to be there. And sometimes they say, Well, I don't mind Jenna, but I don't want him as my
husband in general. Well, that's very interesting, because
		

			actually, we're losing focus. That's what it is with, we're fighting about something that we
definitely do not need to fight about. Because the aim is to get paradise to get gentlemen, once
you're there, the Almighty has promised you that you will have whatever you want. Now, that is
something so complicated, because what if I want you and you do not want me, the Almighty is going
to have to deal with it in a unique way, something that I won't understand right now. But I do know
that when we get there, he's going to manage it superbly. For example, if you're with your spouse,
and you or you're with, you know, yeah, let's give the example of a spouse and you want your spouse
		

			to be tall, with a certain type of hair, certain type of skin and so on, you will perceive them that
way. And if they themselves wanted to be short, with a different type of hair, they will at the same
time, be that way for themselves and how Allah is going to manage that I really don't know but I do
know. Fie.
		

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			In it, you will have everything meaning in paradise in general, whatever the soul desires, and
whatever is tasty to the eyes, you will have it Subhana Allah, whatever the soul desires will be,
belong to the soul. And whatever the eye is, whatever is delicious to the eyes, tasty to the eyes,
you will have. So when we Allah has promised us that you will have that in fact, in the Hadith the
prophet SAW Selim says, and it's one of my favorite Hadith, I sit and I wonder about the greatness
of Allah. He says, fie harmala I know Nora to Allah udaan Sammy et voila, para Allah Kelby Basha in
it, meaning in general, there will be that which no eyes have ever seen, no ears have ever heard or
		

			heard of. And at the same time, it hasn't even crossed the heart or like we say it hasn't crossed
the minds of the people. That's what you're going to get. So when I get to paradise, after I get
there, I will then decide what I want. It is too early from now to say I don't want this and I don't
want that. People who cry for their cats and animals and pets, Mashallah, we're all quite close to
our pets. And we're also close to human beings. Some of our loved ones as we would say, sometimes
you desperately want to marry a person in this world. And you say, Well, if I can't marry you here,
then I ask Allah to give you to me in general. Okay, I know what you're trying to say. But when you
		

			get there, will you really think about it, it's like the example I gave of the womb of your mother,
you were there at one stage enjoying some of that fluid that was there. And when you when you came
out, imagine if you were in that room thinking, Oh, I like this. I hope I get a bit of this,
wherever I'm going to go after this. When you came out into the world, if someone had to present to
you that fluid and say, This is what you really liked, you probably going to puke SubhanAllah. So
I'm thinking that when Allah tells you that, you know, it's going to be amazing. Nothing that you've
seen in this world is going to be there. It's out of this world. It's like how if someone were to
		

			explain to you in the wombs of your mothers, that you're going to come out into a world that is
absolutely different from this womb, yet to you. During the time of gestation you had thought that
this room is everything, it's your world. Perhaps it's the end of the world, when you are about to
be born not knowing that you're actually going into the unique supreme meaning the the beauty
		

			beautiful world out there that is totally different from the womb you were in. And it is a life of a
different sort. So Allah tells us that the life of the Hereafter is also amazing. It's different.
You enter it through Sakura, the pangs of death. When you die, you're going to a beautiful, amazing
place that is totally different from this world and you're a believer, you will never be let down by
Allah, His mercy is what we want. We say Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. And we say in the Name of
Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful, the most forgiving, the most kind, the most
compassionate, that's the one we believe in. We worship Him alone, we purify our acts of worship all
		

			the time, to ensure that we worship Allah alone, and to ensure that the Prophet Muhammad peace be
upon him, has preceded us in that act of worship. That's all I need to check. The minute that's
done, I know I'm heading in the right direction, Allah will forgive me, the shortcomings I've
probably had I have, or something I've engaged in that was sinful. But when you say I don't want my
husband there,
		

			you'll be shocked when you go there. Firstly,
		

			he may be the best of the lot, who knows? Or he might not make it there. Allah forgive us. Or, you
know, when you get there, at that point, there will be something that will occupy you to the degree
that you will not even remember things of the world, unless Allah wants you to remember those
things. And where do I get that from? There is a narration the professor send them says, Whoever
drinks alcohol in this world in toxic and meaning the alcohol in this world will not have it in the
hereafter. Those who have authenticated that howdy they say that? How can you go into paradise at a
certain point and you still won't have alcohol? Because Allah says you can have whatever you want?
		

			The simple answer to it is, you won't even think of it, it's not even going to be part of your
thoughts. So you won't have it and you won't miss it either. You know, you won't have it and you
won't miss it either. My son asked me a question a few days ago that if I make it to paradise, and I
remember someone who's in Hellfire, what's going to happen, and I want them with me what will
happen? So I said, Let's leave that to Allah, because you know what? Number one is, you may not
remember them. And number two is, if you remember them, you may not want them to be with you,
because nothing is going to go against what Allah wants. So it's going to be unique and complete.
		

			Let's get there and see. So the whole point of this video is to let you know my brother, my sister,
let us focus on getting to the destination rather than arguing about what there will be at the
destination. We get there and we are promised that you will never be let down. And Allah says Ghana,
Allah Arabic I want them
		

			more than one place in the Quran, when Allah promises certain things, whether it's, you know,
punishment for the evil or whether it's goodness, and so on, as Allah says, Who can there be more
truthful than Allah? Number one, number two is, Allah is promising you a promise that you can hold
him, you know, responsible for Subhana Allah, I know it sounds quite big, because that's Allah. But
Indeed, Allah subhanho wa Taala, saying, you can ask me about my promise, when I promised you
something. When you get to the Hereafter, you can actually say, oh, Allah, you promised me this way,
is it? That's what it is. So when Allah says, we will give you what ever you wish, and you want
		

			people cry about their pets, and I say, let's get there first. And then we can talk to Allah. I
mean, if really, you you remember something there. Then Allah says, I'll give you I promised you, I
give you whatever you want. And so if you don't want something, what about that, then too, you won't
have it. If I really don't want something, there's going to be nothing that's going to irritate me.
Now, I didn't say that your spouse is not going to be with you. But I'm saying if at that point,
they're in the hereafter after you get into the place. When you decide you don't want something,
then you're not going to have it. Let's get there. Now, the shavon makes us shaytan makes us lose
		

			the path by worrying about what's going to be at the destination. Please, my brothers and sisters
concentrate on the road. A few days ago, I've gone to the mountainous region of Zimbabwe in the
east, absolutely amazing, stunning area. And I had a live session on Instagram, where the phone was
literally on a holder. I didn't touch it. And I was speaking to people and I saw some people
commenting, Jay, you're not allowed to touch the phone and you shouldn't do this. And it's a bad
example for the kids and trust me I was concentrating on the road. We have too many potholes here.
We have distractions on the road. We have animals that can cross it anytime. We have other
		

			lot that we need to be concerned about, we've got to keep looking to the sides to the back, and so
on the rearview mirrors, and so I was concentrating on the path, because if I didn't, I probably
wouldn't have made it may Allah grant us ease. Same applies to us. When you're getting to Jenna, if
you don't concentrate on the road, you're probably going to make an accident somewhere in the way.
And who knows you either delay your trip or you don't make it there. So May Allah grant us a
beautiful understanding. You know what? Who knows? It's amazing. I can't tell you, this person is
going to be with you or not going to be with you. I can tell you, when you get to Allah, He will
		

			give you what you want. At that point. It's too early to speak right now. So don't come to me and
say, Who will I be with? You know, if someone's had a wife or a husband they've passed on they had
another one or something? Who are you going to be with? Trust me, Allah will grant you what you wish
at the time. There are narrations that explain a few things. But let's put those aside for a moment
and let me guarantee you, when you get to gender, you will never be let down impossible. There is
nothing at that point that you want, that you will not have and that you don't want that you will be
forced to have. Remember that you will just be basking in your glories May Allah subhanho wa Taala
		

			grant us that day, May He grant us paradise and inshallah when we get there, we meet and when we
meet Subhana Allah we will be talking about the days we were preparing to meet in the hereafter
inshallah, inshallah akula Kohli hava masala Allahu ala nabina Muhammad wa salam aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato.