Mufti Menk – Communicating with the Opposite Gender

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah my brothers and sisters, you will have to at some stage interact with
the opposite * and even those who are not related to you, you will have to at some point as a
human being, when you walk, when you perhaps might go to a public place, in public transport, maybe
at a place of the marketplace, or wherever else it may be maybe at the doctor's, at the pharmacies,
at school, at university, wherever it may be, you will have to interact at some point with the
opposite * those who are not related to you, and not Muharram How should you interact with them? I
tell you, there is one word very respectfully, you might say those are two words. Well, very is only
		

			descriptive but when it comes to respectfully you need to understand that's the word be very
respectful, treat them as though they are you know, the the the favor of Allah upon you the
opportunity Allah has given you to address the opposite *, it should be absolutely respectful.
It's an act of worship, to respect others. And don't ever address a person in a very cheap way, in a
very derogatory way, vulgar, abusive, etc. Or just without having any shame, you know, shameless way
people just address others as though they have no scruples May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us an
understanding. So I am here today to tell you please respect the opposite * and even the same
		

			gender, respect all human beings, make sure when you address them, you bear in mind all the rules
and regulations, you know, the rule of controlling your gaze and lowering it the rule of speaking in
a good tone, choosing good words, getting to the point you know, not saying that which is
unnecessary irrelevant, going into perhaps details that are embarrassing and so on that which is
unnecessary, putting people into a spot in, you know, in a corner and so on. Remember that let's
speak to others respectfully, we will have to interact, I interact, you interact, we all have to
interact. I don't know of anyone who says I've never had to in my life or will never have to
		

			interact with the opposite *. You will. You're a human being and you need to do so respectfully.
You need to understand the regulations, the rules, to the best of your ability and capacity, you
will address them and inshallah use the best way is because Allah is watching, and whatever you've
said is recorded and it will be held for you or against you, wouldn't you like on the Day of
Judgment, beautiful book to come out? And this is the way you address the opposite *. Every word
you said is held for you and not against you. May Allah subhanho wa Taala let that happen for us.
Aku Kohli hada sallallahu wasallam Allah Baraka Allah Nabina Muhammad wa salam aleikum wa
		

			rahmatullah