Mufti Menk – Children’s Series – Be Kind to Your Parents or Guardians

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. My beloved children, I am so blessed, because I have both
my parents, they're alive and they are living together, and I get a chance to see them every other
day. Alhamdulillah that's a very big blessing. There are so many others out there, maybe some of you
don't have any parents. Well, that's not a bad thing, because the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon
him. When he was born, his father had already passed away. And a few years later, about six years
later, his mother passed away. So he grew up from childhood without both parents Subhan Allah, so
it's not a bad thing. It does not mean that Allah doesn't like you, he loves you. The one he loved
		

			the most was Muhammad peace be upon him. If Muhammad peace be upon him didn't have his parents at a
young age, then it's not a sign that Allah doesn't love you. It's a sign that Allah loves you, in
fact, but we're so fortunate that we have our parents in most cases, they're there to guide us,
they're there to help us. And they're there to be there for us and to show us the way and the path.
Now, I know that in some cases, you might not have both parents, you might be living with a step
mom, or stepdad. That's also your parent, technically, you can call them mum or dad, there's no
problem. For as long as you know, this is my step mom and my stepdad. That's okay. They're not bad
		

			people, it doesn't make them evil. I know many cases where one parent has passed away. So you're
either living with a single parent, which is quite difficult. So you need to be even more kind when
you're living with a single parent. Or sometimes they end up marrying. And when they marry, it's not
wrong at all. The person they married becomes a guardian of yours to a certain extent, you have to
respect them, you have to be kind to them, you have to listen to a certain extent, to what they have
to say, and they will look after you to the best of their abilities. It doesn't mean that
		

			the person is a bad person. No. Sometimes your folks might have gone through divorce.
		

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			divorce is not a bad thing. Sometimes it's the best thing because maybe mom and dad didn't get
along. Maybe they were fighting all the time. Maybe it wasn't healthy. So when they separated, it
was good because I as a child, I started living a life of peace. I don't hear fighting and screaming
every day. So Wasn't it a good thing? I might not see both of my parents together at the same time.
But that's okay. At least I have one at any given time and handling that. So thank Allah. And you
know what, if your mum and dad have divorced, it does not mean that any one of them is bad, they're
not bad. It's simply they didn't get along. You belong to both of them, you need to be kind to both
		

			of them, you need to get along with both of them. You need to know that if one of them told you bad
things about the other, tell them Mum, please don't talk to me bad things about that. He's my dad.
Or you say dad don't say nasty things about mum because she's my mum. That's how it should be tell
them. Please keep me as a child out of your mess. SubhanAllah it's normal. Sometimes they're human
beings as well. They might say things and do things you've got to remind them of, you know, you
know, the Prophet Ibrahim alayhis salam, when his father was a stray, and he now knew at a certain
point that what my father is doing is wrong. He told his father in a very nice way. Oh, Dad, what
		

			you're doing is not right, it's actually wrong. It's gonna earn the anger of Allah. So that that's
how he dealt with it. He spoke very nicely to his father, but he corrected his father. So my beloved
children, when you need to correct your parents do it in a nice way, beautiful way. But remember to
respect them and be kind to them. Always, always be kind to both parents, if they've been through a
divorce. Like I said, it doesn't make any one of them bad. Yes, if one of them did really nasty
things to the other, you might want to just keep a small distance because they might end up doing it
to you possibly. So just be a little bit careful. But be nice, be kind to them. And try and have a
		

			big heart. Don't hold a grudge. Don't hold things in your heart. Let it go talk about it sometimes
to your parents or to your siblings, meaning your brothers or sisters. So Hannah, it will help you.
Now, remember one thing
		

			if you are living with a person you need to understand without you listening or obeying the rules of
the house listening to the people of who owned the house and who are in charge. You're not going to
succeed if you don't listen or follow the rules. You go to school, you follow the rules. You go to
the wherever else you follow the rules. You go to the store nowadays with COVID you follow the
rules. You were
		

			mosque or social distancing, whatever else it's called, okay, and all the other rules that are
coming up. But when it comes to your house, you follow the rules as well. You need to be
disciplined, you need, you know, don't scream and shout, unless it's, it's time to scream, no, I'm
playing outside. And so what's going on? That's, that's not what I mean, when I say Don't scream and
shout that's playing, playing, we're playing games, you know. But we don't yell at each other. We
don't swear to each other, we have rules to follow, and we need to sleep at a certain time, give the
phone back at a certain time. In fact, children shouldn't really be having phones of their own.
		

			Perhaps you can share the phone of your mum or your dad or your sibling, your whoever else, it may
be, if you have a phone of your own, it's pretty dangerous. Sometimes, you know, some people on that
phone, they might, they might have a program that's not fit for your age group. So that's not going
to be a good thing. Because sometimes it can mess your mind up. Don't let that happen. In sha Allah,
you can play and enjoy your games, enjoy your fun, and at the same time you work hard for school
with with the madrasa with Allah subhanho wa Taala the Quran and whatever else, you learn, and
inshallah we grow in a beautiful way, but we follow the rules at home, if mom says 10 o'clock,
		

			everything must be turned off 10 o'clock, turn it off. If you're supposed to go bed at a certain
time, go to bed at that time, you're supposed to get up at a certain time, get up at that time, and
inshallah in that way, you become a beautiful person. Really, you become loved by all those around
you and you grow in a disciplined way. One day, when you have a job or you have a big factory that
belongs to you. You go there on time you have people working there, they're all happy. everyone
follows the rules and regulations. But if you don't follow rules from now, you when you grow older,
you're not going to follow any rules, there's going to be nothing that you're going to follow and
		

			then will you succeed. The answer is you can't succeed that we look at the children who don't follow
any rules. They wear any clothes they want. They don't even wear clothes and they go out. Allah
protect us. That's not. That's not right. You're supposed to wear good clothes that your parents
have told you to wear. If they say don't wear this, don't wear it. It's okay. They adults, they
know, even if your friends are wearing those type of clothes, when your parents say, don't wear
this, don't wear it. It's okay. It's fine. Allah will bless you because you're listening to your
parents, and they won't tell you to do something nasty. SubhanAllah especially as a child, you're
		

			growing up, you need to know that your parents will tell you good things, you know, and this is what
I wanted to communicate to you today. I wanted to tell this to you to say, Please, let's respect
those we live with no matter who they are. If you have both parents, you're very lucky. If you have
one parent, you're still absolutely lucky. If you have a step parent, you're still very, very
fortunate. And you know what, even if you have guardians taking care of you, I'm sure there are
lovely people follow the rules. Sometimes, for some reason, your parents might not be able to bring
you up maybe you were given to foster care, no problem. I'm sure there are good people, they will
		

			love you just follow the rules in Sharla be a good child, be a nice person. And if you've made a
mistake, you can say Look, I'm sorry, don't be Don't be too proud to say I'm sorry. Say I'm sorry.
I'm sorry. Please forgive me. I made a mistake. There goes. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala bless you
all. I've really enjoyed myself speaking to you and giving you a few good words of advice so that
you can develop into a lovely, lovely adult one day and inshallah I pray that you can leave a
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leave a little comment and I'll try to acknowledge it until we meet again, as salaam aleikum wa
		

			rahmatullah wa barakato.