Mufti Menk – Can you forgive your spouse

			Who is the person who is most deserving? Or the people who are most deserving of your forgiveness?
		

			Who do you think they are?
		

			Who do you think they are?
		

			Your family members and those who are the closest in relation to you. They are the ones who deserve
your forgiveness first.
		

			They were placed close to you.
		

			To test you, that's all. Allah chose them as your relatives.
		

			Today, your husband does one mistake. The marriage is over. Forget about everything else. Your car
has a small dent. The car is gone. It's not a write off. That's not what you do. You send it to the
panel beaters, you repair the car, you bring it back to the Old Faithful, you know, your wife made
one mistake. What happened? Divorce? What was the reason why there are 20,000 other girls running
behind me?
		

			That's not the right way of doing things. They're probably running behind your money. The minute the
rupee drops, they also drop
		

			possible.
		

			May Allah forgive us?
		

			You need to work on the relationships you have someone commits a mistake. Forgive them. Today's
advice to married people is when the spouse makes a mistake.
		

			Leave him go away. Divorce filed for divorce. What happened? Oh, something minor, something major.
So what?
		

			But as a believing female or believing male when your spouse has done something wrong. You need to
sit and seek Allah's forgiveness to begin with both of you.
		

			Ask Allah's forgiveness when he forgives you and your slate is clean, you will be able to think
properly.
		

			When you yourself have committed so many sins, and you're not with a clean slate between you and
Allah subhanho wa Taala How do you expect to think in the correct manner? Can you the answer is no
you cannot.
		

			So if you seek Allah's forgiveness to start off with before you even retaliate and respond,
		

			you will be guided by Allah.
		

			Calm down, it's a very big matter. Come down
		

			and then see what they are saying. If they show a speck of remorse, you need to extend your hand,
the hand of mercy. Yes, if there's no remorse whatsoever, you might want to deal with it
differently.
		

			But if there is a speck of remorse, who from amongst us does not make mistakes.
		

			If that was the case, every one of us without exception would be divorced.
		

			May Allah subhanahu wa taala help us to save your marriage. Help your children by forgiving your
spouse