Mufti Menk – Boost #08 Intense – Emotions High During Ramadan

			Salam aleikum. My brothers and sisters in Ramadan, one of the things we are supposed to be achieving
is to be able to develop great character and conduct. And one of the things of that is to control
your temper to watch your mouth, to be careful what you say to be careful how you vent your
frustrations. Now the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him was approached by a young lad ones who
asked him give me some advice. He said, Don't get angry. He said, Give me more advice. He said,
Don't get angry. He said, Give me more advice. He said Do not get angry, and he kept repeating it.
Now, obviously, on different occasions, he gave different advice. But some of us need help because
		

			we have a temper. We regret the temper, we will definitely regret what we say or do when we're
angry. So calm down, without making a very big effort on your temper, you are not going to be able
to control it, seek the help of Allah, calm down, think about why you need to be kind and good to
other people, the tables can turn tomorrow. Others from among those whom you love will face
something similar by other people. So you need to control your temper. A few days ago, I was in
Masjid Nabawi. And a young lad passed me and he uttered some really bad things to me. And I smiled
at him and I kept on going, Allah gave me the opportunity to see the same guy two days down. And I
		

			happen to engage with him and tell him my brother, why did you have to say that to me, I'm only
telling it to you, because you don't go around saying such things to people. You may disagree. You
may have, for example, not understood something I might have said or I might have done. It doesn't
mean you need to get angry about it to the degree that you insult someone in masjid and never we in
such a blessed place where the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him is lying. SubhanAllah. But anyway,
I hope that what I said helped the brother he looked like a decent brother. It's just that I like to
see the goodness in people. So I thought to myself, let me work on this guy. If I see him
		

			and make him understand, perhaps five years from now, 10 years from now he may realize that you know
what, I might differ with this person, but I had no right to insult the man, you know. And he
definitely from what he told me has a totally different picture of me painted by whatever. But
that's besides the point you don't need to like people. You don't need to like everyone, but at the
same time you're not allowed to get angry to the degree that you insult them and you abused them
that's wrong, you will pay for that. So when you vent your frustration remember the Prophet Muhammad
peace be upon him. In fact, let's talk about the Quran Allah Almighty speaks about when Calvin Meena
		

			Leyva will Fein and in us, those who forgive people and those who swallow their anger, extinguish
their anger. Allah says they are the successful ones, they are the ones who will earn paradise, they
are the ones who will earn the forgiveness of Allah. Now you must be patient because patience and
dealing with anger go hand in hand. You have to look at people with the eye of love. You have to be
tolerant, you have to be patient. Sometimes it's your own children. Sometimes it's your parents,
your siblings, your sisters, your brothers, don't get angry to the degree
		

			that you do things or say things that you will regret. Many people divorce their spouses in anger,
and then say, well, is that divorce valid? And I usually say, Well, you know what we were you
expecting to be very happy and divorcing each other over a cup of tea. So it is valid. If you're
angry, it's still valid Subhanallah it's only when a person is crazy. And they don't even know what
they're saying. And perhaps they have a mental condition, or they're challenged in one way or
another. Then you need to speak to the scholars or visit the the courts in order to find out what's
going on in an Islamic country. But my brothers, my sisters, the point being raised is that of
		

			Ramadan. Notice how in Ramadan, people get angry in the last 10 People get angry in the last hours
of the fast, people get angry so the fast gets wasted. The Ramadan gets wasted the reward of it is
not as it should be. You know, I traveled today, across the continent, across continents actually.
And to be honest, I noticed how people sometimes are calm and cool and others are so impatient. Take
it easy we're living on in times where the world has changed. You need to take things easy, do not
be impatient. Wait
		

			I'm down, your bags may come out, they may not come out, they must, they might be a queue, they
might not be acute, you might make it to the front, you might not make it so quickly to the front,
we know you're fasting, everyone else probably may be fasting or the bulk. I say probably because
you have those who are traveling who make use of the discount given to them by Allah Almighty. Don't
get upset, don't get angry at something you must work on, you have to work on it. If you do not work
on your temper, your tongue the way you speak to people, you will regret it at some point. So
Ramadan comes in order for us to develop holistic control, holistic development, holistic
		

			improvement, all aspects of our living, the spiritual aspect, the health aspect, the social aspect,
you know, developing your conduct, and so on. So may Allah Almighty make us more conscious of this,
I thought perhaps I'd give you this beautiful reminder in this beautiful moment where it's so calm
and so peaceful, the 25th night in most places, but my brothers and sisters, we must search for a
little pattern. Quick Tip. Another quick tip, searching for Laylatul Qadr is done by increasing acts
of worship, increasing the seeking of forgiveness, and doing good deeds. And that night, whether
it's charities,
		

			recitation of the Quran, the remembrance of Allah or the meanings of the Quran, listening to
lectures, trying to do some form of Salah or prayer, whatever else it may be, in terms of good
deeds, reflecting also just reflecting over the greatness of the Creator over your weaknesses and
how to improve on them over what goodness you want to introduce into your lives, making promises and
vows to Allah to change in a better way. Whatever it needs changing in your life, may Allah Almighty
make it easy. BarakAllahu li kama Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh