Mufti Menk – Big Weddings
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Speaker 1 discusses the importance of keeping things simple and not overly negative in order to avoid causing confusion. He emphasizes the need to avoid confusion and avoid causing distraction during marriage. He also mentions a specific example of a man named Abdulhamani Hanif Nawaf who was considered the richest of the prophet's companions.
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Problem we have across the globe. I'm not
going to say Kano. I'm not going to
say Nigeria.
I'm not going to say the country throughout
the globe.
We want to compete with each other regarding
the size of our marriages and weddings.
Not the marriage, but the wedding. The size,
how many people? 20,000 people in that wedding.
Look, my brothers and sisters,
not everyone is wealthy.
Live exactly according to your means and set
a trend where people can follow a good
trend. Keep it simple down to earth.
There is greater blessing in that which is
simple simplicity.
If you can afford something
huge, no problem, but still keep it simple.
And remember, there are people who are coming
after you, who are going to want to
be like you. I know of a case
where a simple family, young girl, she was
very good looking. When the proposal came, her
father made a condition to the the groom
to be that we need to have a
wedding with x number of people at such
and such a place and we need to
do this this this, and the boy is
thinking, gosh, I haven't even I haven't even
moved forward and you're already talking about what
exactly you want. What is the whole purpose
of this marriage? Are you selling your daughter?
Or what is it that you're trying to
do here?
That should never be a point of discussion.
Subhanallah.
Keep it simple. Abdulhamani ibn Nawaf radiAllahu anhu,
he was the richest of the companions of
the prophet at one stage.
Do you know that?
In his early life,
he didn't even let the prophet
know that he was getting married. Not that
he didn't want to say it, but when
the nikah is ready, you don't delay it.
So he got the marriage done. When the
mark of perfume or there was a yellow
mark on his clothes, it was seen by
the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam. The prophet
salallahu alaihi wa sallam says, what is this
yellow mark? He says,
I got married, oh messenger. How many of
us, we would never speak to our friends
if they didn't invite us to their marriages?
Because we have lost
focus from the sunnah of the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam. We have lost focus, subhanallah.