Mufti Menk – Big Weddings

Problem we have across the globe. I'm not

going to say Kano. I'm not going to

say Nigeria.

I'm not going to say the country throughout

the globe.

We want to compete with each other regarding

the size of our marriages and weddings.

Not the marriage, but the wedding. The size,

how many people? 20,000 people in that wedding.

Look, my brothers and sisters,

not everyone is wealthy.

Live exactly according to your means and set

a trend where people can follow a good

trend. Keep it simple down to earth.

There is greater blessing in that which is

simple simplicity.

If you can afford something

huge, no problem, but still keep it simple.

And remember, there are people who are coming

after you, who are going to want to

be like you. I know of a case

where a simple family, young girl, she was

very good looking. When the proposal came, her

father made a condition to the the groom

to be that we need to have a

wedding with x number of people at such

and such a place and we need to

do this this this, and the boy is

thinking, gosh, I haven't even I haven't even

moved forward and you're already talking about what

exactly you want. What is the whole purpose

of this marriage? Are you selling your daughter?

Or what is it that you're trying to

do here?

That should never be a point of discussion.

Subhanallah.

Keep it simple. Abdulhamani ibn Nawaf radiAllahu anhu,

he was the richest of the companions of

the prophet at one stage.

Do you know that?

In his early life,

he didn't even let the prophet

know that he was getting married. Not that

he didn't want to say it, but when

the nikah is ready, you don't delay it.

So he got the marriage done. When the

mark of perfume or there was a yellow

mark on his clothes, it was seen by

the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam. The prophet

salallahu alaihi wa sallam says, what is this

yellow mark? He says,

I got married, oh messenger. How many of

us, we would never speak to our friends

if they didn't invite us to their marriages?

Because we have lost

focus from the sunnah of the prophet sallallahu

alaihi wa sallam. We have lost focus, subhanallah.