Mufti Menk – Bad Behaviour in Divorce

			I want to end up by telling you one thing interesting. Many of us go through Divorce, Divorce is not
a bad thing. If it is the last resort, it happens. People have been through it the Sahaba, the
Allahumma has been through it. What is bad,
		

			is what you're going to do after that, if it is negative.
		

			So divorce, you've been through it, it's a test from Allah. Are you going to stoop so low, that
after that you're going to speak bad about your ex spouse, or you're going to let it go, because
that was the whole problem. And you're going to proceed and progress today. People don't realize
that we have made lives more difficult after divorce than it was when they were in the marriage that
didn't work simply because we've got a problem. These kids are mine and not yours, my brother, my
sister, they are ours, not yours, not mine. They belong to Allah entrusted to the two of us, Allah
chose we are going to have kids, and it's no way what you say. Or I say it's what Allah says, if
		

			you're ready to do that you're a true Muslim. If not, you fail your test, you're still going to go
to the Day of Judgment. And when you go there, only Allah knows what's going to happen to you don't
ever get into a habit of saying, I'm going to sort this out on the Day of Judgment, because the
wisest of people sorts it out here in this world before the Hereafter, because when you get on that
day, you don't know you might just be the one who was wrong.
		

			May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for us. So divorce is something that happens in order to
open doors of new ibadah that you would have never been able to fulfill had you not gone through
that divorce. So Allah is just testing you, okay, you went through this? What are you going to do?
You either pass it or you fail it say good things about your ex spouse. I want to tell you what to
say. You can say, you know what, I believe I was a good person. I believe she was a good person or
reasonable person. We didn't get along. We had our differences. We may have done a few things wrong
to each other. May Allah forgive us. I'm not prepared to go beyond that. That's a wise man. You pray
		

			you saved your tongue for the Day of Judgment. Man, can I you know Billa he will do me a favor.
Nicole. Hi, Ron Alia Smith. Whoever believes in Allah in the last day say good words or remain
silent because you know, whatever you say is going to be held against you. May Allah subhanho wa
Taala grant us goodness and forgiveness. And may Allah make us such that we don't utter bad words
about others. And we, when someone says something bad about us, we take it in our stride. We thank
Allah and we bear suffer and we deal with it in a positive way so that we can prove them wrong.