Mufti Menk – Advice to Sisters

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil
alameen wa Salatu was Salam O Allah, MBA you will move selling Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa
sahbihi wa sahbihi normanby BSN in La ahmedinejad. We praise Allah subhanho wa Jalla we thank him
for everything he has given us. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to bless us in every single way.
My beloved sisters and daughters I am really honored to be a part of this beautiful annual get
together of the graduates who are working not only in the field, but those who have graduated
working in whatever way you are working. May Allah bless you. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala
		

			protect you may he continue to use you to serve the deen granting us success in this world and the
next when we say this world, obviously, your work, your sustenance, your families, your spouses and
each other your children those who do have those who don't have inshallah you will have and those
who are not married inshallah, we ask Allah to bless you with spouses, spouses, who will be the
coolness of your eyes, I mean,
		

			my beloved
		

			sisters and daughters, something we need to know is as Muslim in the first thing we need is
sincerity of intention. I'm sure you've been hearing about it for quite a few days. So or should I
say for the sessions that you've had so far, sincerity of intention is one of the first and prime
qualities we need to have, what we do we do for the sake of Allah, everything you do bear in mind,
you have a grave that you are going to be lowered into. And that is, if you are lucky, unlucky,
sometimes people disappear without a sight. And I'm sure you know that. Sometimes people you know,
they their families know that they have died, but they have no remains of this because either it was
		

			a huge explosion or something else had happened. We asked a lot to grant us at least a good death. I
mean, so sincerity of intention, there are many ways of looking at it. And I'm sure we've already
studied so many different ways, but I want to mention one way of looking at it and that is what ever
you do in life. Bear in mind, you have a grave that you are going to be lowered into. That's it.
Once you bear in mind you have a grave you are going to be lowered into your contact with Allah
becomes powerful, you know, your maker, Allah, the one whom you are going to return to Allah, his
hands, has the mercy that you and I are searching for and looking for. So my beloved sisters and
		

			daughters, let me tell you, it is important everything we do. Let's tell ourselves I am only here in
the world for a certain period of time. I have a slot, you know, what is the meaning of a slot? A
little timeframe like now they've asked me to speak seven o'clock to 730 I have a slot of 30
minutes, I will walk in at seven I will walk out at 730 SubhanAllah. In these 30 minutes what do I
need to do as much as I can without wasting your time and without you wasting my time it is an Amana
it is from Allah. Gone are the days when we were children we used to play games and waste our time
and so on no room for wasting time. The reason is while law he I do not know if I'm going to live
		

			this evening. No Do you
		

			none of you know if you are going to return home after the seminar not even one will lie. We might
hear of some who have disappeared, you might hear of myself who disappeared. It's possible. So there
is no room to be wasted no time. You know, when people play football, they play cricket, they have a
specific time or a specific number of overs, what is their job, their job is to try their best to
score as much as they can in the specified time. If they are just wasting standing with the ball
talking to each other sitting doing something looking at the crowd, that's a pretty woman or that's
a decent guy. All that would waste your time your aim and your focus is supposed to be to score one
		

			goal after another as much as you can. Even people who already have a score of two zero in football
for example, they will try to make it higher 345 am I right? So this is why remember life is not a
game it is a reality. We are only drawing an example of this game so that it can be brought to us in
the interim. Allah says he has brought us into existence in order to test us You might have heard so
many interpretations of that. Let me give you one of the different interpretations today. When Allah
says I have created you to test you will love it. It is so accurate I tell you why. Every one of us
we have problems we have difficulties we have financial struggle, we have sickness we have a problem
		

			at home we have a problem for example, sometimes with our children with our neighbors with something
else a problem at work a problem here a problem that nobody has a life free of problems, nobody.
That means those issues are placed planned by Allah in order for us to live a few years to pass the
		

			One by one test after test after test after test and the Hadith says in the law either a hubbub
Allah when Allah loves someone he puts tests in the life if he does not love someone there is no
test for them. The reason is, they have not sometimes yet entered the arena of the tests. Do you
know what the arena of the testes? Let me give you an example you see Kufa Allah says La Jolla. naka
de la dee da capo Filipina de Mata Oh, Connie.
		

			Mama.
		

			Do not let the the luxury lives of the kafar deceive you. It is just a pleasure for a little period
of time after that, they will be serving their sentence and they will have their punishment. So
don't look at the kuffaar and say, How come these are disbelievers. They are enjoying their life.
They are having every luxury that they can think of yet you don't understand. They have not yet
entered the game. They are not in the school. We are in the school. So we will be writing exams
every year, our liahona and
		

			Omar watain from Allah to boon Allah.
		

			Allah says quite clearly, do they not see that we test them every year, once or twice major tests,
then they still do not repent to us they are still not from amongst those who take heed. That is
Allah. So it shows us quite clearly that once you enter the school, you have examinations, those who
are not at the school, do they have exams? The answer is no. They can enjoy they will have sleeping
up to 12 o'clock no further novel when I say I mean, I have to read fudge factor for some is a
problem. But for others they know it's part of my Eman May Allah make us from those who realize and
who cherish the value of fragile, and who enjoy getting up Allah He my sisters, my daughters, it is
		

			something that will pay back completely, the minute your eyes close in depth, it will pay you back
completely. And this is why we see people who've died in this world, they've passed away those who
are better looking than us those who are more powerful than us, those who had much more in authority
than us those who had much more in wealth than us, those who had more children and much more
happiness in the world. When they died. Where did they go? Did they take their children? Did they
take their looks? Did they take their wealth? Did they take anything? Absolutely nothing they went
down what helped them
		

			whatever they were given whilst they were alive, if they converted it into a currency that is valid
in the Hereafter, it would have helped them if they did not do the conversion, then you can bring
your coolers they are not going to work here. They will ask you for US dollars. Am I right? You
enter some of the businesses and the you want to give them a Russian ruble or you want to give them
one of those Chinese RMB as they call them, they will not accept them. They will reject them. They
say no, we want us dollars, or we want rands sometimes, am I right? Otherwise they won't accept it.
So you are foolish if you have a whole pile of something that people don't know but it's a value
		

			valuable item according to you, the people don't know its value. Similarly in the US, Iran, your
health, your wealth, everything was wasted completely. It's not going to come, but how you use it
when you had it converts it into a currency known as deeds. D double e d s deed. A deed is a
currency that is valid when you die. A deed is a currency you need to amass whilst you're alive in
order to be able to use it when you fly overseas. Meaning when you die, so to speak, may Allah
subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding. So this is why when you have time, any minute that
you have wasted voila, you've wasted your currency. Because Allah says through the blessing glyphs
		

			of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam five things, you need to seize them quickly before they are overtaken
by another five. Your time you have Allah will take it away you will become occupied one day then
you can sit back say I had the time Why didn't I do this and why didn't I do that? Whose fault is
it? You were there you heard the Hadith you knew the time is not to be wasted. I want to achieve let
me go I will do this course I will engage in this dialogue. I will do that school qualification. I
will do that business. I will go to this Madras I will go to that Masjid, I will meet with that
person. Don't say okay tomorrow, okay, the next day, never leave today's work for tomorrow. You can
		

			do it now get up and do it here and now. That is Islam. Those are Muslims. These are the qualities
of the true believers will lie loving, no wastage of time. Number two, your young age we are young
Alhamdulillah young meaning we have the energy we have the capacity use it a day will come when I
might not be able to walk whilst I can let me do what I can. Whilst I am able let me continue to do
things whilst I'm young. I will do things that I will not be able to do if Allah gives me age to see
an old age Subhana Allah so that is got to do with what with your youth. Similarly
		

			Your health today I am healthy tomorrow I am not. It's part of the test of Allah, it is a guarantee
that Allah brought you into the world to test you. Because if there was no test, why would we get
sick? Why would we have problems? Why would we have difficulty? These are challenges and the winner
is the one who knows how to answer the challenge. For example, when you go to school, it's a
beautiful school, you want a high qualification, when you sit for the examination, they will ask you
very, very difficult questions. Why not? Because they want to make your life difficult, but they
want to see you have learned everything you've covered the syllabus, you know absolutely everything.
		

			What is it that we can ask you in order to prove that you now know and you appreciate what you've
learned. So this is the same with Islam. When you have been given something, do not waste your time,
make sure that you you understand what I have here is going to go it's definitely going to go Allah
gave me the health tomorrow, my knees might ache May Allah grant Shiva and cure to all those who are
sick and Ill in any way. I mean, so my sister's my daughter's Let me tell you, your health, it is
going to go Don't say oh, you know, she's dooming us. I'm not doing anyone I'm saying it is going to
go it has to go your mother's my own mother every day health is no longer how it used to be before
		

			am I right? So now why should we just sit now and wait when we have the health and say okay, now
when I'm older, when I was young, I should have done this. And I could have done this and this is
what I should have done? No, you are hearing it now Do not waste your time. Well, if you waste your
time, you need to know one thing. There are millions of others just like you and even in a more
difficult situation than you who are making good use of their health and their time and their youth
and so on. So I spoke about your free time use it correctly, you have free time use it correctly,
you have health use it correctly, you have been given young age use it correctly. Allah has given
		

			you for example wealth, if you have some money, use it in the in the correct way learn to budget
that is a problem we have not only in this country, but now across the globe. Many countries do you
know that in our country, we actually have an advantage over some of the powerful countries. The
reason is, if you take a look at the USA, or Britain or some of these first world countries, you
find a lot of people they are living in a beautiful house, they have a lovely car, but guess what,
they have not paid for anything yet. Nothing Do you know that
		

			it's all on loans Subhanallah and they earn for example, $1,000 2000 5000 whatever they earn, and
90% of that, if not more goes in payment for the payment for the house payment for the car payment
for this they are living far higher than their actual capacity. But the system has enslaved them in
such a way that it makes it fair seeming to them that this is the way things should be done. Whereas
in this country, if someone has a phone it is this truly paid up for. If someone for example has a
car, it is theirs, it is paid up for it is their own motor vehicle, they owe the bank zero. If
someone has a little house, no matter what type of a house It is, it is theirs in a lot of cases.
		

			And if they are paying rent, they at least know look I'm paying rental for this home, but they owe
nobody any money at all. Nothing there. It's their own SubhanAllah. So and if we do owe people a few
things here and there, it is not as big. It is not as large as what others Oh, do you know when they
lost their jobs a few years back in one of the countries so many people committed suicide? Do you
know why?
		

			because
		

			what happened was something strange when they lost their jobs. They could not pay for their houses,
their cars, they could not pay for their furniture in the house, the televisions and everything
else. So the first month came they got warnings second month came they were kicked out of the house
because the man of the house wanted the money and because it didn't come they then said okay we will
now sell the house and get our money back and the same thing happened to everything else including
the house and sorry the car and the furniture and everything they were left on the street without
anything what could they do yet they were leading a life just the previous day driving beautiful
		

			cars doing so many things showing and flashing. My sister's my daughter's never ever be tempted to
flesh things that you have been given, even if they are your own in Islam. Did you hear that? That
is the difference between us and the kuffar out there who like to flesh and show things every day a
new pair of shoes every day, a new top every day a new scarf. I'm talking of some people who want to
show their things every day something different every day a new scent, a new this a new watch a new
that is the trend. They are struggling, they are suffering, they have no happiness, they have no
contentment, their husbands they are changing them like they change clothes. It is sad but it is a
		

			reality. Why because they really are people who are after the world in such a way that they are
enslaved by it. Is that a Muslim woman? No. You are happy with the same thing you have. You can wear
yours your clothing your clock you just wait
		

			neatly put it on be happy with the four pairs of clothes you have the neighbor who has 400 pairs of
clothes, which were perhaps from wherever we don't even know let them live their own life, we do not
need to lose our sleep by following them in the same way that they have lost their own sleep. What
this means is when we compare our lives with others thinking that their lives are rosier and
sweeter, we don't understand the fact that they are not sleeping at night will also come to us. The
fact that their marriage is about to break will also come to us. So it comes with a price you want
to lead a simple life you will have simplicity happiness, contentment, look after your children
		

			correctly, to fulfill whatever duty you have, if you're going to work go and come back responsibly.
And so on the minute our eyes 10 and the minute we have role models besides those who are good
Muslim and Muslim and what will happen, we will have to we might end up getting what they got. But
the baggage comes with what is the baggage there are problems we will also have the same problems.
Up to now we have not faced those problems because we know and we understand our last plan. So
remember something when Allah has blessed you with wealth, use it wisely. Learn to budget Do not
waste Do not be extravagant, you do not need what your neighbor has never You do not need what
		

			another sister or brother has no all you need is what you precisely need for yourself and your
children and whatever else is there. You know your budget you know how to slice your piece of cake.
You do not need to have a B cake when you have not afforded it Allahu Akbar, may Allah subhanho wa
Taala help us I am being honest. And I'm speaking of real current problems. My sisters, my
daughters, let me inform you. The last thing that is mentioned in a hadith of Rasulullah salam, when
he says sees five things before they are overtaken by five situations is the issue of life. We are
living. Let's seize it. Engage in Toba ask Allah for forgiveness, you know we are human beings.
		

			There are two ways of sinning. Two major ways of sending one is to sin in defiance of Allah. And the
other is to sin out of human weakness. If a person defies Allah, they cannot call themselves
meaning. What is the meaning of defiance? When someone says okay?
		

			Allah said it is haram to do this. I'm going to do it and let me see what Allah does. stuff with
Allah that is defiance. None of us would do that because we are believers, am I right? We are
believers, we believe in Allah and he's assumed none of us would do that because we believe in Allah
and His or soon, but something we need to know is out of human weakness. If someone says, Allah has
did this, Allah has said this is haram, for example, but you know, I was weak and I fell into it. In
that case, there is hope. Allah subhanho wa Taala will have mercy on you. You ask Allah forgiveness,
you regret what you have done, you turn to Allah, you promise him not to do it again, and you try
		

			your best to stay on that straight path once again. While I tell you every sin comes with baggage,
what is the baggage? It comes with some heavy baggage it brings about depression and stress and
problems and issues and loss of sustenance and so on, you know, the idea of Rasulullah salam, he
actually says in Guadalajara RVs COVID mbu Cebu, according to the Hadith of the Prophet, a person
loses his sustenance, the Baraka in his wealth, because of the sins that he or she is committing, so
we should not do that the owner of risk is Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, in a la hora Zaku.
		

			It is Allah who is the given the Sustainer he is,
		

			he is the all powerful, the strong, the mighty, who is He is Allah. So we worship Allah and Allah
alone, my beloved sisters and daughters, another very important quality that we need to instill in
ourselves, the quality of patience, forbearance, what is known as suffer, suffer is something you
need no matter what you are doing in your life, you are married, you need support, you are not
married, you need supper, you are teaching you need support, you are not teaching you need support,
you are employed, you need software, you are not employed, you need everything you need support,
what is the meaning of suffering, you restrain yourself from that which is around you enjoy when it
		

			comes to that which is
		

			obligatory upon you, and at the same time, you will have to bear patience or you will have to
surrender to the decree of Allah when something you do not like has happened, but it's a last
choice. So you know, I'm sure a lot of you have had family members who have passed away what could
you do you could say in an interview in a in a Rajon? We are we belong to Allah and to him is our
ultimate return. And we can perhaps read the dua or say something in Allah Allah Houma. Baku Lucia,
in in there will be a jelly masama that you know for Allah belongs that which he has taken that
which he gave in the first place and everything according to Allah is with comes with a specific
		

			time. It comes with an expiry date, I have an expiry date, and so does everything else including the
battery in this torch right now. SubhanAllah but when it comes to Allah subhanho wa Taala his decree
is final. I cannot have a say
		

			The date of my death May Allah subhanahu Allah grant us forgiveness the day he takes us away. So
bear patience before bed, do not want to break a marriage just because of one problem. You have two
problems you have five problems you have. So what others are suffering 50 problems, they are still
working on their marriages. Remember this, your marriage will not be rosy why it's a test from
Allah. Marriage is not just a honeymoon, I need to go and start saying right that's my man. And this
is what it is. And I'm walking around in town everyone must see me smell me Look at me. And my hair
needs to be different every other day. That's not muslimeen Well, it's a fact people are wasting $35
		

			a week on their hair yet they cannot even afford to buy food for their own families. This is what's
going on in this country. We're live. People are ready to buy nails to add on top of these nails of
this. But when it comes to the evening, they will say there is no food in this house. This is what
is happening well lights effect. And this is the issue we are people who are content, consider it a
test from Allah, things will flesh on the side, things will flesh on the side.
		

			Never ever turned to what is flashing? lead your real life though that's all fake. Let me tell you.
Sometimes people ask well, why is it that Allah subhanho wa Taala puts on the sides of what I have
so many different temptations. And he says this is a temptation. That's a temptation. Stay away from
it. When if he wanted me to stay away from it, why did he put it in the first place? That's what
some people ask. Well, I can tell you, when you know the answer in mathematics still they give you
multiple choice. You know what is multiple choice? They glare the wrong answers in your face in
order to test you you know the right answer. Put a tick on the right answer. For example, if I were
		

			to tell you 10 multiplied by 10 a one b 10. c 100. d 1000. What would you say Subhanallah?
		

			These are wrong ones you can say if you wanted me to answer it, right? Why did you give me three
other wrong options? You can say that? Because I am testing you. I know you know what is right. So
now I'm showing you everything that is wrong. You are supposed to be a believer. powerful enough to
be able to say I'm putting my tick on the right answer. Here it is it is answer number c t. There
you are now you have one. So don't say oh what about all these other people forget about them, they
are taking D they are taking a they are taking B at the end of the day when they collect all those
papers and this the Kitab comes Allah says For
		

			those who are given their results in the right hand, the book in the right hand, they will be so
happy, so proud, they will say oh here read my book, see see my results. Look at it beautiful.
		

			Those who are given in the wrong hand, the left hand, they will say we wish we will not even here
today we wish we were dead. Those are the ones who are taking on the wrong answers. But it is our
duty to try and reach out to them. To correct them to remind them to tell them to tap them to say
you know my sister, this is what Islam is all about. Do not spread Islam in an embarrassing way or
in a way that is not befitting a Muslim spreading the goodness of the deen. We want to spread Islam
but in a good way live as a Muslim they will see your happiness they will see your contentment, your
concentration on matters that is that are supposed to be within your concentration. So concentrate
		

			on these things be patient, everything you do in life, one day, it will go wrong besides your link
with Allah every day you do in life one day, it has to go wrong Allah will test you you know you
come to work every day at eight o'clock okay for example, there will come a time there will come a
time when something happened to the company something happened to the transport Something happened
here you will late It's and how people deal with it is all your test. You will not leave because you
want it to be late because Allah is now testing you Hey, today you will be late nothing of your
choice when you go to work they will shout you they will scold you they might cut your salary they
		

			let's see what you do. It's part of your test. That's life that's the challenge so when you come if
you start swearing, shouting hating you have lost the test you ticked on the beat instead of the
right answer. Now if you come back you apologize you say look I'm very sorry to say we're going to
cut your salary try to explain to them in a nice way and try to say something in a in a good way
still they don't agree and say okay, no problem. What can I do? You know I inshallah, next time it
won't happen then you ask Allah Oh Allah guide these people, they are cutting my salary, nothing of
me, but you did not cause a commotion. One day they will realize and understand, ah, this person
		

			here. You know what they are honest. One day after 10 years, 15 years, you may get a promotion,
something may happen. You might not get it. But when you go down into your grave, Allah knows what
happened. That is your agenda. Allah knows what happened. So it was never between us and them. It is
between us and Allah all the time. Remember this. These are the qualities of God. These are the
people who will enter gender with ease, and I haven't even spoken of many more quotes.
		

			But this quality of software is something very, very interesting. Another very important quality my
sisters, my daughters, read and educate yourself, listen to things today, there are CDs that are
readily available DVDs, there are so many different formats of
		

			being able to learn the knowledge, please try and do something. Try and continue learning until the
point of death. Learn and learn and learn more learn from the source, try and get what is right
continue going ABC, let's get right up to Zed and even beyond SubhanAllah. And we need to constantly
learn never ever think I know enough. And this is it. Now I'm a big chef, I'm a big shaker or I'm a
great Imam or whatever else it is. And that's it. I just need to stand up and issue decrees and
decisions for everybody else. No, continue become humble in your knowledge. You know, sometimes
people have wealth,
		

			the best of those who have wealth or those who are humble, you agree.
		

			Sometimes people have knowledge, knowledge comes with exactly the same arrogance as well. Same 100%
knowledge and wealth are two things that are gifts of Allah, both on either side, they can either
come with humbleness or with arrogance. The best person with knowledge is he or she who is humble
humble humble. You mix with people you interact you talk to them like they are your boss's finished
they don't need to know you are some big shot they don't need to know that. When you when it comes
to delivering the goods you deliver them But otherwise, you're an ordinary human being like
everybody else, because knowledge is actually an Amana just like wealth is an Amana how you used it,
		

			how you achieved it. How did you disseminate it? How did you give it to others? How did you benefit
others with it? All that test from Allah subhanho wa Taala remember this it is something powerful,
seek knowledge and continue seeking knowledge do not think I have graduated it's fine. Now I go back
to my home area and I do things no keep on learning your phones that you have with you. A lot of you
have internet access and that internet access you have on it different pages, find out what are the
good pages, where can I read how can I improve my knowledge? How can I increase so tomorrow you can
spread the deal. Be kind to your neighbors and to everyone else they will see the goodness in you.
		

			They will be inclined towards the deen purify your own knowledge. Today we read Quran Okay, so
sometimes our Quran we need to understand no matter how well you read your Quran, it is like flying
in an aircraft. The minute you stop in midair, your plane will drop. You need to continue flying in
order to move on that altitude. You need to continue flying the engine needs to be on constantly in
order to be able to move forward the minute you turn off the engines do you come dropping? The same
applies with your Koran with your armor, your deeds, your Quran, you need to improve it every time
don't think I know I was first in class. No, no, no the standards however they were even if they
		

			were the best without that constant improvement, there are certain things I have learned and
continue learning now. And and I'm so happy to Allah subhanho wa Taala that Allah has blessed us
with this. So this is why I continue learning every time wherever there are seminars wherever there
is something to be done. Make sure that you try and take part as much as you can. And make sure that
Allah Subhana horn that you ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to continue using you an eye for this deal.
Because remember one thing, if you are going to turn away and you are not going to save the deen,
Allah does not need you and I, Allah can replace you with someone else. So sometimes we have this
		

			feeling army, I'm going to leave me I'm going to do this army, I'm not going to go there and God we
have this feeling. It is also one of those wrong answers that keep flashing to us. Don't take the
wrong letter, not at all. Make sure you understand. If I am not in the picture, Allah will replace
me with someone else. One day after 10 years I'm going to see someone else doing a better job than
me and I'm going to regret in my heart to say I was here one day Why didn't I continue working and
doing good and so on and improving and whatever voluntary whatever deeds they are May Allah Subhana
Allah Allah bless us all. I have spoken for exactly 29 minutes and I will cut the We ask Allah to
		

			bless you all and to bless us all. Come along Clara masala Allahu wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina
Muhammad Subhana Allah Subhana Colombo beheading the shadow Allah Allah elantas Asuka, I wanted to
break