Mufti Menk – Ramadan 2015 – Day 8

Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala l mursaleen. Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa bien momento BMB San elijo Medina. We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household and all his companions May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless every single one of them. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless every single one of us to I mean, my brothers and sisters, it is so beautiful to be going back to the time of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam living in the midst of the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu. Listening to the occasions and incidents that occurred and

learning the verses that were actually revealed. In order to give guidance and instruction regarding these incidents. This is something that is amazing, and it's a gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala. This evening, we are going to commence still with sola camisa verse number 128. We all know that in marriage, we have disputes, it's impossible to have two people getting along 100% thinking the same.

Understanding the same, liking the same things disliking the same things that is impossible. So it is obvious that part of our duty is to make sure that we reach out to our spouse to make sure that we adjust in order to be able to live together to make sure that we try and accommodate them. This is part of our duty. And this is why even with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam, we have learned that he has indeed been so kind to his spouses, he has gone out to resolve matters, and he has also encouraged every single one of us to resolve. And from this, we understand the verses of the Quran have instructed us regarding the stages of resolving marital Discord. The first thing, when you have

a problem, you need to get together and the two of you need to discuss the issue. There needs to be communication, you need to talk to one another. Do not be afraid to address matters, do not be too shy to talk about what is hurting you and affecting you say it but in a beautiful way, choose the best words to talk. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us resolve our marital disputes, those who may be going through issues, if you still cannot get to a solution, then you will have to involve external people, the best thing to do is to involve one person from either side, a person from her family, a person from his family, and these two who will be respected. The Quran teaches us that you

need to tell them to find the solution. So there is no point in going back and digging history and trying to see who was right and who was wrong because then you're going to go into a battle. If both of you want to solve the problem. And you both have understood and declared that we want a resolution we want to resolve. In that case, Nothing will go wrong, you now have to chart the way forward, you now have to think of how I want to move forward. But if each one wants to go into a battle to decide who is right and wrong, that's not going to bring a solution. It might come up with a conclusion, but not a solution. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us understand the difference. To

know who's right and wrong is no big deal sometimes, but to be able to move forward is the bigger deal. In fact, that is the deal. We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to give us an understanding and this is why Allah says

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La Habana Houma. If there is fear of discord between the two, then they should be appointed one person from her side, one person from his side. And if both of them The intention is to find a solution, you will definitely find a solution Allah will grant you the acceptance. But if one party is thinking that you know what, I need to prove a point, this is why my brothers and sisters when a problem is resolved, and people say okay, from now on, we are going to move forward. Let's forget about the past and continue. As soon as we start living again, she or he happens to say but you know what, you are wrong. And the whole problem starts again. The whole problem starts again. So we don't

want to do that. Don't go back and say if you are wrong, and you The problem is solved, wasn't it? Well now forget about what happened in the past. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala help us because like I said, There is not a single marriage that doesn't have issues. The magnitude of issues differs from marriage to marriage. Sometimes it goes beyond the magnitude of being able to solve so guess what Allah says? What a fun rapa you need

it if as a last solution.

You are going to separate a lower grant both of you goodness by his will.

Allah subhanho wa Taala is indeed great. It doesn't mean that marriage was broken so the parties are bad people, Allah can give the the ex wife, a good husband and Allah can give the ex husband, a good wife, and they can get along.

So this is the gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala for us. This verse, Hadith Mata fatale, reported by Ayesha della Han

where Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

Obviously at his time revelation was coming down. There was a men who did not want his wife. She had children from him, or she may have had children from him. And he was not interested in her anymore because of some reason. And Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed versus to encourage her to find a solution. And that solution might be to try and

offer some form of compensation in order to remain in the marriage because let's face facts, it's much more difficult for a woman to be divorced than a man. It's much more difficult for a woman who has children to be divorced than a man although sometimes that is the best way forward because of the disaster that was happening in the marriage. But it is much more difficult so it can only be a lasts and lasts solution a final resort. Nothing should be left no stone unturned. So Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed versus what any Moroccan have at Benihana shows an Arab fella Jonah haleema Habana whom else will have was sold

for sushi. These verses Allah says if a woman is fearing from her husband, you know

that he is going to turn away from her or contempt, then it is better for her to find the solution it is better for the two of them to come to a resolution for example, and we are taking the example mentioned in the Hadith and Sunnah to MIDI by bus or Viola Han when he speaks of Soderbergh, dishonor the Aloha, wife of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, he says she was the oldest and I shall have the Allahu Allah was the youngest. And what she did is because she feared that perhaps Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam may divorce her. This was not on the cards, but she felt it in her heart because she was old. And she needed a lot of care. The prophets Allah wa salam used to look

after her.

And so she gave her night to eyeshadow de la Mancha. She told the prophets Allah wa salam, look, this is my right. But I want to give my right up the right of spending the night with me, certain nights you can give them to a shadow of the law. This was a way of increasing respect, and perhaps even the resolving a matter she felt may have occurred. This is for sightedness on her part. Although like I said, it was never the intention of Rasulullah saw Salaam to do so. But perhaps the lesson was meant to come to us. For example, in the other narration, which is de la also by eyeshadow de la and her. The woman then chose she said, Look, you don't need to owe me you don't

have to look after me. To a certain extent you won't have to spend X amount on me. So it becomes easier for the man to say okay, you will remain my wife, I will have your children, I will still fulfill your rights but you have dropped certain rights of yours to make it easy for me. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us I think the prime point we take home is that make sure you have left no stone unturned in resolving your dispute. Do not just think of divorce. I remember a couple that split over the salad on the table and where it should be. And voila, he that was so embarrassing. And today, you and I know that people get married. The question that is being asked is are they

still married? May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us.

Then another incident reported in the Sierra Club very, very wire is known as rewired to study. Those who are familiar with Hadith would know that some of these narrations some of these scholars have spoken about their correctness and accurate accuracy, but inshallah we will make mention of this because it is on point when it comes to this particular verse, verse number 135 of Surah Nisa,

a poor man had a dispute with a wealthy man,

and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was inclining towards the story of the poor man. Let's stop there for a minute.

When you see two people arguing one man has a big beard and the other one is clean shaven. Naturally, someone might think that, you know, perhaps the guy with a big beard is religious, he wouldn't be lying. How do you know? He could have kept that beard in order to lie in Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us something I know of a man. And this is no joke I know of a man who told me the reason I've kept a beard is because people trust businessmen with beards. If that is the case, it's not the sooner to do that. You are cheating, you are deceiving, You are insulting, do not do that. But this is a lesson for us. When a poor man is arguing with a wealthy man. You do not know who is

right and who is wrong. You do not you have to listen to both sides. You have to make sure you've understood Yes, if you want to give advice to one party, then you may I give you an example. People come to me and say, you know, this person did this and this and this. And this. I may not believe the story. But they asked me what is your advice? I might give them advice without judging. So I didn't say that this person was wrong. But I can say Look, my brother, I suggest you resolve it in this way and this way and this way, perhaps bring them forth. Perhaps Let's come together. Let's sit together. Nothing wrong in giving advice. But to pass a judgement is What is wrong? When you've

passed a declaration? That's it. You didn't even give the other party a chance, no matter how unruly they were. To be honest, if a drunkard has a debate with the person who is sober, it does not necessarily mean that the person who is sober is always right. No, sometimes it could be that he might have taken the right of a drunk man while that person was drunk. May Allah subhanahu wa taala help us understand the justice system in Islam. His sin of his drinking is separate from the matter at hand. So before the Prophet sallallahu Sallam could pass a ruling, Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed versus Yeah, are you a Latina man? Oh, Amina below.

You who believe stand up firm for justice, bearing witness for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. While Allah fusi come

upon Robin, even if it is against yourselves, stand firm, be honest, bear witness against yourself, or your parents or your relatives. It does not mean that because that is your family, they are right. If they are wrong, they are wrong. It's over. The story is closed. You do not take the sides of blood or color or wealth. No, you take the side of what is light that is a Muslim that is a believer. Then Allah says, a combination of Akira Allahu Allah be Hema, whether they are wealthy or poor. Allah comes before they don't think, okay, if I side with the wealthy man, perhaps you might just give me 20,000 when we finished with this whole thing, if that's the case, you've lost. What is

right is that Allah comes first. Even if the people are upset with you, they stopped talking to you. It's happened to us. It's happened to me, where sometimes people call me to resolve a matter. When I've gone in, I find that they were wrong. And the party that they called me against was right. And these people say, but we call you to this issue. So that's got nothing to do with who was right who was wrong. You called me here, but you are wrong, then they stopped talking for the rest of their lives or for a long, long time, thinking that you you served their wealth. No, Justice is justice come what may? May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding what a beautiful lesson.

Then we have the next Surah Surah Allah either. Sometimes we get angry with people again, the matter of justice, because I'm upset with you. I just say, look, that man is crazy. Because I've had one problem with you. I start thinking that everything comes from you all the problems come from this man. So one day, you might have driven a little bit recklessly. The next day I see a man driving recklessly or a car flying I think to myself must have been that guy.

May Allah forgive us. But this is the attitude we have that sometimes we just think perhaps you know, because of what happened. Now I'm going to pass a judgement based on that. Allah says no, even if you've had a problem with someone, make sure you adjust even if you dislike someone, make sure you adjust if I don't like you, but you are right regarding something so you are right. It doesn't mean because I don't like you. That means you're definitely wrong. I must say that against you and make sure that I I push your nose into the soil as they say in the Arabic language. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us so in the Sila tabari reported by him not behind him. According to the

narration of zedi Muslim Avi Allahu Allah. He says the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was in Philadelphia with the companions. And you know, they went for hombre and the mushrikeen blocked them. They stopped him and told him go back, you come back next year, so they were quite upset. So while they were in a BIA, a group of machinery came from elsewhere happened to come for O'Meara and they were sailing through. So these people, the Muslims of Makkah stopped us and told us you're not allowed in. But when they are the Muslims who are going in, they are allowing them in saying Okay, you guys can come in. So some of the

companions at no later stop them and block them the same way that we were blocked. So Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed versus while I a journeyman commission an omen Dooku manual masjidul haami

law says, Do not let the fact that you hate these people

because they have blocked you from the harm they have blocked you from making a camera that you must now go and block someone else from making karma.

Now Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us It reminds me of walking through the customs when you arrive. And you know, your friend has got some items that he needs to declare the custom stopped you and he's searching everything and that friend is sailing through. It would be unfair for you to say hey, search that guy.

Why? Why do you want to pick on him? Let him sing through Marshall. They stopped you it's between you and them know let them open your bags and search May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us it's just an example that came to my mind right now. But it fits in here because the mushrikeen it stopped the Muslim and the Muslim in some of them thought why was they not? Why? Why are they allowing those guys through let them also be stopped? May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us look at the beautiful wisdom. Allah says Don't do that. Don't stop others. You are blocked nevermind let them carry on. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us and may we learn to love one another for his sake. I mean,

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this he has a beautiful story. Do you know when we're making Lulu we need water. When there is no water? What do we do? We are taught as a gift to do to your mom, which means you take some dust and your hands and your face are white. And you would arrive at the same level of purity as Voodoo would make you arrive upon. So basically how did this come about? And what is the story behind it and where's the verse? Very interesting verse number six of Surah Al Merida and verse number 43 of Surah Nisa, they are quite similar these two verses. So Hadith Mata fatale according to Ayesha law, she says, we were coming back with the army once with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and I was

with him and I lost a necklace. She lost a necklace more than once, but this was once and she says, I wanted to look for it. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam stopped the whole army. And my camel sat down. And I jumped off. And Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam and his companions began to look for the necklace. And they look for it and the companions were still looking for it and Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam was tired. So he decided to lie or put his head onto my lap and go to sleep. So he put his head on the lap of I shall have the LaWanda and he went to sleep. Stop for a moment. Subhana Allah, look at that. Sleeping on the lap of his wife, may Allah subhanho wa Taala help us fulfill this

sooner and it's a month of Ramadan. May Allah subhanho wa Taala multiply our reward. My brothers and sisters A lot of us think that Oh, learning romance perhaps, perhaps if you're a good Muslim, you should be a dry person. Go and read the history of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam himself, you will be so so surprised by what you see how he ate, how he drank, how he made his wives blush, how he kissed them what he did, how he slept with them how he slept on their lap, how even his father in law saw that this man is sleeping on the lap of my own daughters who had Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us my brothers and sisters. People are quick to think of different types of romance when it

comes to Haram. But with your own spouse, people don't think of anything. May Allah forgive us Really? Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us upliftment. So Allah subhanho wa Taala. This incident had to occur because we were meant to be speaking about him. He was sleeping in Abu Bakr Siddiq, who's the father of the law, the father in law of Rasulullah saw Salaam the best friend and at the same time, the greatest of companions, he comes there and he sees the prophets Allah salons head on. I shall the Allah has lap and he had heard some of the companions say, look, I shall allow Anna, she stopped us to look for her necklace. This we don't have Voodoo and there is no water to make

although now what are we going to do? So he poked his daughter he had to do it carefully because he didn't want to disturb the prophet SAW Selim. He says, How can you stop us here? The people don't have to do and there is no water to make Hulu and you want to look for your necklace here. Anyway, she said I didn't move because if I moved a bit and I tried to retaliate, I would have disturbed the process. But I kept quiet and the prophet SAW Selim slept and he got up in the morning so pan Allah Subhana Allah imagine what dedication of a wife sitting there. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us. Now we need to say something about the whys. Perhaps they wouldn't have such patience with us. May

Allah subhana wa Taala help them bear a little bit of patience. I mean,

they probably tell us Hey, you sleep that way.

I'm going to sleep.

so amazingly something very unique happened. The prophets of Salaam caught up and he was looking forward to because he had to. He needed the water for ablution and he found there was no water and verses were revealed. What was the verse? Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the long verse, verse number six of Surat Al Merida as well as with number 43 of Salatu Nisa filamentary Duma Fatima Masai Eva from Sahaba como de come, and in Surah, Allah it's windy come in amazing. If you do not find water to make the ablution of the hosel then you use the dust to make to move you will wipe your hands and your face with it and you arrive at the same level of purity. So panela now the companion

said, Oh abubaker your family has brought a lot of Baraka to us. This is not the first one. So much goodness has come to us through the blessings of what you and your family have done. Look at how these beautiful blessings came in. today. We learnt a moment and every one of us should know it. Although it doesn't happen often. It may never happened in some of our lives. We are fortunate to be living in midrand Masha Allah.

So Allah has blessed us in 1,000,001 ways. Now Guess how the story ends in the most beautiful way. You wouldn't imagine what I'm about to say

when everything had was over, and their Salah was fulfilled, and now they did not find the necklace and they decided to go and the camel that had sat down, they got it up, the necklace was under there. So Han Allah Subhana Allah, that means this whole incident only happened for us to learn about the mo Look at the beautiful verses of the Quran. Let's move on with number 11 of the same sort of sort of EDA.

It is narrated in the syllabary from a crema, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam had come out with some of his companions abubaker Omar with man Alia Viola and when palha. And Abdullah when they went to cabinet, Ashraf, who was a Jewish man who really hated Muhammad Sallallahu sallam.

But they had a discussion because there was some blood money that they had to talk about. And there was a meeting they had to have. So they went to Berlin, London, the Jewish tribe, and they sat with or they went into the gathering of cabinet I should have and he welcomed them. And he told him sit down, sit down Wi Fi deal with something. And there was one of the other leaders, his name was he even he was also one of the leaders. He looked at the prophets of Salaam, they made sure the Prophet peace be upon him set at a specific place. And he told his people hate this is the best you'll ever get. Go up to the top and throw a rock straight on this man and destroy.

So they went up, and they got this rock, and they were they wanted to release it. But Allah held their hands back so Han Allah, Allah held their hands back and gibreel Allah Islam came to me and informed me to stand up and move and he said that he stood up and he moved and the rock came down.

So he was saved. So Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling us, verse number 11 of Soma, either, oh you who believe with Corona, Mata La, la come remember the favor of Allah upon you, Allah has favored you, is

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come when the people intended to stretch their hands to harm you and Allah held their hands back. Remember that was a gift of Allah.

Now I want to draw a lesson, every one of us there are so many times in our lives when Allah saves us. We use the term close shave, not to refer to Gillette, but to refer to incidents that have occurred in our lives. close shave, we were about to be perhaps even killed according to us. But Allah saved us. nama says, Hey, we're giving you a chance. How many people are alive and the doctors have given them 24 hours 24 years later, they are still running the marathon.

It's a fact. That's Allah, Allah say we favored you, man. How many who have had terminal diseases have come back and the diseases are no longer terminal. They gone out of the equation, Allahu Akbar. So let us think about it. It might just be a simple verse. But the lesson is so great that Allah has protected all of us from so much. And sometimes Allah prevents us from achieving what we want to achieve when he knows is bad for us. He knows this is not good. You desperately want something but Allah keeps on keeping it away from you. Sometimes it's just his gift. He knows luck. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us. I remember a person who missed the flight completely and that flight was

involved in the crash. That was Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah subhanho wa Taala save

Goddess and protect us. Let's move further. Verse number 33 of pseudotumor ada

story narrated in sin and Abby Donaldson and Anissa emotionality. Mama Ahmed of nscp Malik love your long run, he says, there was a group of people from Argentina or known as the tribe. They were known as Adani. When they came to Madina, munawwara they entered the company, the company of Mohammed salatu salam, and they fell very, very sick, they fell ill, and there was no cure for them, obviously, but in what they were just not getting better. And the prophet SAW Selim told him that the cure has been sent down for you, what is it, go to a certain place, you will find a farmer, you will find a shepherd and he has a herd of camera

and go to that farmer and ask him for the urine of the camel and the milk of the camel and drink them both. So there was some cure in uric acid for them with milk.

And this Hadith, the prophet SAW Selim, then after having instructed them, release them, they went, when they got to the farmer, they saw this man is alone, he's got a beautiful camera. So their intention changed. They became evil once again, when they saw we're going to get the cameras that are the most expensive you could ever have. They killed off the man and took the camels and message got to Mohammed salatu salam, and verses were revealed. What were the verses the punishment for armed robbery in Islam. Now obviously there are different levels. One is the maximum punishment you know, whenever there is a court case and the judge find someone guilty, they serve them either the

maximum punishment so that's why they say if this person is found guilty, they can face up to 15 years, then they get away with one year I think it was May Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, you know, don't you Mashallah.

So, people get away, but the maximum sentence was supposed to have been 15 years but they got away with something. So, in the Sherry are also the issue of cutting hands is a maximum sentence. It doesn't mean you have to all the time if the judge feels that there is evidence that would perhaps downsize downgrade that they can issue what is known as dazeem something lesser than the maximum punishment So, but what is the maximum punishment? Allah Subhana Allah Allah said in verse number 33,

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Manali, indeed the recompense of the one who has engaged in Hara Hara includes armed robbery, and you know, the highwayman people who waylay people and murder them and steal their property and so on. Those who fight Allah and His assume those who engage in that which is extremely detrimental to humanity, nowadays, some of the countries have drug trafficking on the list as well of this particular punishment. So, either they are executed or they are crucified or their hands or their feet will be amputated, either cross or one or they will be told to leave this land that they committed the crime in and go to another land for a specific period of time, literally exiled. So

all these punishments are included. It is up to the judge to find which punishment is most defeating the particular crime that was committed. In this instance, the prophets, Allah Salam penalized them with the maximum punishment. So they were executed and crucified. And they were penalized in a similar way. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us the reason I made mention of the story here today. And there is another one perhaps coming up we might see tomorrow

is because many people think the Sharia is barbaric. But to be honest, the sherie laws, yes, the maximum punishment is very, very harsh, because it is a deterrent. To be honest, any country that has a high rate of crime. One of the prime reasons is because the punishment is so light that people weigh the Act and the punishment, then they tell themselves, look, I'm going to achieve 500 kilos of gold, and I'm only going to get five years in prison, and I might get away five months on good behavior. So I think it's worth it. Let me go, I'll do this and I'll do that and I'll commit murder and whatever. And you know what, a year down the line I'll walk three. So what do they do they weigh

the two and common logic will tell them it's cheaper for us to engage in the crime and go to jail. May Allah forgive us. The countries are guilty of having leniency so much

leniency that they put the whole public at risk of these criminals of being attacked. So the Sherry as is no make an example an example of the one who's a criminal, and you find the rest of them think he cannot gonna steal because I don't want it to go. I don't want it to go May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us Oh, there are pros and cons take a look at the rates, the crime rates on the globe, the United States of America boasts the highest crime rate on earth. And yet they claim to be the country that has the most freedom. It's a pity we've got to mention it, but it's fact and not creating to go and see, may Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us their statistics are by the minute in

terms of * and murder by the minute, now look, protect us all and then take other countries that are harsher in punishment, and go and see how they are failing. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us all. I come from a country known as Zimbabwe and Mashallah. The law, to be honest with you is quite strict.

May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us however, nothing compares with the beauty of this Sharia that Allah subhanho wa Taala has revealed, it is indeed a beautiful deterrent. Tomorrow inshallah, we will go through some of the other verses I had prepared a few more, but I see that the time is up. And I don't want to rush through these verses. They are very, very interesting. And we take a lot home my brothers and sisters before I end for today, I want to say something very important. Whenever we are hearing these verses and the reasons of Revelation, please take a moment to make sure you think about how it fits into your life. That is when you will

be able to learn the lesson. If you are not going to think of how it fits in your life, you are actually wasting your time. So you need to ask yourself have I had this issue? How can you fit in? Have I seen it happening? And Subhanallah thank Allah and ask Allah goodness and perhaps a lot of these verses you will find they will boost you in your life. May Allah forgive us all until we meet again with sallallahu wasallam robotic Allah and Amina Mohammed Subhan Allah Subhana Allah homovanillic Masha Allah Allah hi Lance Anastasio Luca wanted to Hoylake