Mufti Menk – Ramadan 2015 – Day 3

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		

			smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala ashrafi nambia even
mousseline Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa bien momento beyond the sun in Isla Yomi Dean.
		

			We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, his entire household all his companions May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless them all, and
may every single one of us be blessed. I mean,
		

			my brothers and sisters in Islam, we are going through reasons of revelations of verses of the
Quran. And this evening I will commence with a beautiful verse of the Quran.
		

			Every one of us has needs every one of us makes do out or supplicate to Allah subhanho wa Taala ask
yourself for a moment. If I were to ask you to pray right now for your needs. What would you say?
What type of dua would you make? Would you say Oh Allah grant me good health grant me prosperity
grant me wealth, grant me a good job, grant me a spouse, grant me a beautiful home and grant me a
lovely motor vehicle and grant me the latest in terms of everything in the beautiful sense and so on
and make me rich and wealthy.
		

			Allah grant me children who will be good in grant me, you know, pretty and handsome kids and make me
from amongst those who look so gorgeous and so on.
		

			I think a lot of us would actually make those to us. Is it wrong? The answer is it's not wrong but
we are forgetting something very big, very, very big. Let's listen to what happens. Allah subhanho
wa Taala makes mention of two categories of people that used to make dua when they went for Hajj
when they made the narration of a bus or their loved one which is made mention of intercede of
poverty. He says there were people from amongst the Bedouin Arabs who used to come for Hajj and they
used to pray robina Tina dunya Allah grant us goodness in this world and it stopped there. So Allah
says
		

			in Surah T min Kala Ko, he achieves nothing when it comes to the Hereafter, absolutely nothing. The
reason is, because he asked only for the dunya so he got only the dunya there is no portion for him
in the hereafter. But the true believers they ask Allah goodness in the dunya and on top of that,
they continue to ask Allah goodness in the hereafter as well. Well, I mean, homie aku
		

			Tina dunya Hashanah, Warfield, de hacer una joaquina
		

			una una Cebu Makka Sabu la who sorry.
		

			They are those those who believe they call out to Allah saying oh la grande has goodness in this
world grandpa's goodness in the hereafter and protect us from the punishment of the Fire.
		

			Allah says those are the ones who will achieve what they've earned, they will have a portion for
what they've earned and Allah is indeed very quick. In taking account May Allah subhanho wa Taala
help us all what I learned from this and what we expect everyone to learn from this is it's good to
ask Allah it's good to ask Allah for goodness of this world. But don't stop there. If you're a
believer what is more important, even if you lost out in this world, even if you did not get what
you wanted in this world for as long as you got the Akira for as long as you got Jenna, trust me,
that is the biggest thing you could ever have. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us all from
		

			Johanna and May He grant us all Jenna amin
		

			a beautiful story of a companion known as sohaib Lucy Nana Rumi he was a Roman he was enslaved
because he was a foreigner. And he was made slave in Makkah to Makkah Rama and so on, and they came
a time when he earned something and Mashallah he was bought off and freed, and then he wanted to
make the hegira to Madina munawwara in order to join Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the
narration made mention of interseeded tabari say diphenyl Messiah speaks about it
		

			for almost a year. And if you look at this narration, he says this man, so hyperbolicity Nana Rumi,
he has saved up quite a bit of money. And when he was going out for the hegira, he decided to leave
all that money in a specific place, hiding it in Makkah, and he went singularly alone taking a
little bit of weaponry in case someone harmed him. As you know, the people of Mecca did not want
people to make history.
		

			They wanted to keep them back and they used to persecute them. So what happened is this man as he
was leaving Mecca in order to get to Madina, munawwara a group of the disbelievers surrounded him,
they wanted to attack him. So he told him Hey, as you know, I have archery, I have weaponry with me.
I am an archer, the best of the archers you can have all the arrows I have, I will ensure that I
squarely get them on every one of you, and you will be punished and penalized and if everything is
over, here is my sword. I'm going to fight you guys. Don't stop me from going to Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam from making the hegira to Madina. munawwara Don't stop me. And if you want, I can
		

			tell you something. He says to them, what is it? I have left my wealth in muckety muck Rama, I will
show you exactly where it is. If you go you can collect all of it but let me go so he was trying to
avoid the fight. And he was trying to avoid the battle in return for what
		

			for them, leaving him to go to Madina, munawwara and him giving them everything he had ever saved.
Think about it in your lives. How much have you saved a few rands while the RAND is dropping as we
speak May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us. What have you saved is being taken away from you in
terms of value. Even though the figures are increasing? Look at how things are turning May Allah
subhanho wa Taala protect this nation. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all goodness, may Allah
subhanho wa Taala improve the economy for one and all. I mean,
		

			so my brothers and sisters, imagine if someone were to tell you, all your belongings, all your
savings, bring them here, and I won't slap you.
		

			I'd rather take that slap. Allah Subhana Allah Allah protect us. May Allah grant us goodness, I
think maybe what I've saved is not that much. Allah subhanho wa Taala help us all and grant us the
savings of the era. So my brothers and sisters something interesting. Allah makes mention of this
verse number 207 of Surat Al Baqarah. Amina Simi shrinivas
		

			from amongst the people is He who has sold himself in order to earn the pleasure and the happiness
of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Allah is indeed very kind to his slaves.
		

			Amazing. He sold himself he sold in what sense? Meaning he gave everything all the dunya wealth, the
wealth, the material items he had in order to earn the pleasure of Allah he desperately wanted to
get to the most Beloved Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for the sake of Allah to protect his
Deen, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us an understanding.
		

			Then we have something else that is very interesting in the Quran. And this is in Surah Al Baqarah.
Allah speaks of divorce, and you and I know that we know very little about divorce and the rules of
divorce. The reason is, when do we get to hear about it? If there is a wedding marriage, they call
some Imam to speak what is he going to speak on? He's going to speak on nica. Have you ever heard a
niqab being officiated and the Imam gets up and speaks about Allah? He speaks about divorce, they
probably pelt him out of the machine. May Allah subhanho wa Taala safeguard us, but I think it is
important when you have a gun to know how to use it. You need to know what the trigger is all about.
		

			Because you might just pull it without knowing what you've done. There is no joking when it comes to
divorce. There is no playing when it comes to divorce. May Allah subhanho wa Taala says goddess you
don't use those words not even by mistake. So at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
according to a narration which appears in soon in a TV media narrated by Ayesha della Juana she says
they were men who used to divorce their wives 100 times and get them back because they knew where
they going to go. So divorce ones go then after a while, okay, I take you back divorce again go
okay, I take you back and so on. 100 times, meaning so many times. So Allah subhanho wa Taala makes
		

			mention of this because there was a man
		

			there was a man who had come to or who had divorced a certain woman, and the complaint of this woman
came to eyeshadow, viola, her and her and she reported it to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam to
say this woman is complaining that look at these men, they are divorcing as they will, and then they
remarrying and we have no option because we've got kids from them and so on to go back and for us,
it was the best option. So Allah subhanho wa Taala said or revealed verse number 229. At pala
tomorrow.
		

			Divorce is only twice that's it. First time you have an option of getting back. Second time you have
an option of getting back third time everything is over. You cannot play a game with a female May
Allah subhanho wa Taala says goddess you issue
		

			One pallet, you have the right to try and reconcile. In fact, you should, and you should try and
make amends and make things work. And that is an act of worship. Allah says, no matter how much you
are disputing, Latta de la la la, de toda la liga more, how do you know you've got no clue perhaps
Allah might create something in terms of solution to the problem after that. Allah can create a
solution. Even though you might have not been seeing eye to eye something can happen that can make
you learn to love one another once again, may Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us love in our own
homes. And may we seize this opportunity to resolve any marital dispute and discord that we may be
		

			suffering within our own homes. I mean,
		

			it's a month of Ramadan, and we speaking about bollock. And I think it's only be fitting that we ask
Allah to help us and we encourage one another go home and make it work. May Allah subhanho wa Taala
help us.
		

			So this is a beautiful verse, divorce is twice after that, for him Sakuma ofin. Three,
		

			you either hold the woman with goodness and with that which is known or you release her in goodness.
And this is why Allah has been made quite easy for the male because Allah wants to protect the
female from physical abuse from emotional abuse from all forms of abuse. If a man was put in a
corner and he was told you cannot divorce this woman, it's difficult, he might end up beating her
up, he might end up perhaps May Allah safeguard us doing something that is not befitting a human
being. Yet she is a human being. She's somebody's daughter. She is a responsible, honorable human
being a worshipper of Allah, a creature of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So Allah says, You honor her, we
		

			make it easy, so that when you are in that rage, perhaps instead of beating her up, and instead of
engaging in that which is unacceptable, you'd rather release her with goodness, with kindness with
beautiful words, send her back to her home, that, in fact, is a great act of worship, if you were to
do it correctly when it had to come.
		

			Then we have another verse that is also connected to one of the issues of divorce and look at how,
although it was revealed at the time of Muhammad, sallallahu alayhi wasallam. It applies to us here
and now Subhan Allah, I'm sure you've heard of cases where people hold back their wives, and they do
not release them, thinking that you know what, neither is this person going to be married to me,
they're not going to enjoy the bliss of the marital home with they're not going to get their
conjugal rites fulfilled, and at the same time, they won't be released so that they do not go to
someone else. I'm sure you've come across this, there is a problem, the marriage is broken, but the
		

			man is not releasing the woman. It happens. So Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of this.
Obviously, the narration here is in the motto of Mr. Malik, and he makes mention of how there was a
man who used to divorce the women. And then before the day is over, he used to get them back. So he
releases them with $1. And after a while he waits for it to extend when she's about to finish the
day. He says okay, I take you back. And after a while, he releases her again. And then when the day
is about to end, he takes it back again in order to prolong the time that she can actually now go
and marry someone else.
		

			And Allah says very clearly verse number 231. While atoms Ico
		

			Nita do, don't hold them back in order to harm them out of spikes. You know, people want to just fix
others up, watch out, Allah can fix you up to Allahu Akbar. You want to fix someone Allah can fix
you remember that? If it is broken beyond repair, and you've tried everything, and you know that now
there is no way forward, the best thing you could do issue one Palak and release her in a way that
perhaps sometimes in the future, you may want to get back, you would still be able to get back
because you have not issued the second or the third. But don't hold them back. Then another issue,
something extremely interesting. If a man has had a problem with a woman and he divorces her what
		

			happens it makes the parents of the girl very angry. I'm sure you know that. It makes them upset
because they thinking to themselves that you know what? I got my daughter married to you. I gave her
to you. I honored you. I trusted you. I put her in your care. And here you are releasing her she's
released completely you threw her back like toilet paper. Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala not make
us from amongst those and May Allah make a woman folk such that this does not even happen in their
lives.
		

			Remember, it takes two hands to clap as they say sometimes one is hitting the other. You can still
clap.
		

			Masha Allah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us protection, but we need to cover our backs by
saying, look, the problem is not just one party, sometimes it's the other party as well. Sometimes
we're equally guilty. So here although we are speaking of how wrong the men can be, but sometimes
the women need to look into their lives as well. Sometimes perhaps we need some rectification. May
Allah subhanahu wa taala help us rectify our bad habits? May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us
goodness on our tongues and goodness in our entire system. I mean, so there is a hadith of
machilipatnam ESR
		

			rhodiola and in Sahih al Bukhari he says, I had a sister or my sister known as jameela bien TSR. We
gave her in marriage to a certain Sahabi he was a man. His name is mentioned in some narrations, and
in some it's not we prefer not to make mention of it. So he says, You know what, he divorced her.
And after he divorced her guess what happened? Obviously, people who are upset you know, it happens.
But you know, we grow out of it very quickly. And the quicker you move on, the better it is for your
paradise. Remember this? When the divorce has occurred? You're not the only person on earth who's
been divorced, perhaps more people are divorced and married. Do you know that? Which means the
		

			amount of people who have been married who are sitting in their marriages? Nowadays there is a new
question that is asked before they would say Oh, Mashallah, these people got married last year.
Nowadays, they say, hey, how long is this marriage going to last? You know that it's a reality,
because people don't know why they're marrying. And don't get upset if divorce occurs. Sometimes it
was the best way out. Sometimes it was the best thing that could have happened. You don't know,
especially when there are children involved, and they're watching you swearing, shouting, being
physical against one another entire day and all night, they will grow up believing that's the norm
		

			and it will repeat itself when they get married. The best thing you could perhaps do is separate go
your own way. And perhaps you might have a spouse who will not do that. And your children will be
brought up with one of the two according to what Allah has instructed in such a way that they would
not have to see the swearing the shouting in the beginning all their lives.
		

			So MacKillop new ESL says, After some time, this man somehow patched up with my sister, and he
wanted to marry her again. He gave her one Palak everything was over. Now he wants to marry her
again. And I said no ways. Not at all. I honored you. I gave you the sister of mine. I actually gave
you some provision when you were getting married. You know, some people asked for all the gifts
back. Do you know that? Well, those were not gifts them. They were just a bribe. May Allah subhanho
wa Taala help us if it was a real gift? You don't take it back? Trust me. You don't. It was a gift.
You gave it to me. Come on. I could have sold it for like a May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us be
		

			genuine and honest. So Mark lithonia sir, says hey, I honored you, then you just divorced. And now
you're coming to me. You have the audacity to tell me I want her back.
		

			Allahu Akbar. Take a look at this. So she wanted to get married to the guy again. And he wanted to
marry her as well. And miracle is the brother being the obstacle. And he's saying no ways already
you were together. The problem happened you think we are going to agree? So Allah subhanho wa Taala
revealed versus beautiful verses. Verse number 232 of Surah Al Baqarah. Allah says,
		

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			when you have divorced the women and the ADA is expired and over and the divorce is now proper, if
they still want to get back to each other because the second or the third divorce was not issued.
And then do not stop them from going back to those spouses of theirs. Those ex spouses of theirs. If
both of them have agreed, don't stop them. When Mark 11 ASR heard this verse from Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says, of Allah Rasul Allah, I immediately agreed to this marriage
yasunaga
		

			imagine how quickly they change their mind for revelation. A lot of us would not be able to do that.
We have our pride, we have our our own, you know, loftiness we have literally the word the correct
word is our pride. We are too proud to allow this to happen. What's going to happen to my name, my
nose will be on the ground. Forget about you and your nose. Forget about your pride, put your tail
between your legs and say if Allah instruction is there, then it is my honor to follow the
instruction of Allah subhanaw taala Why can't we do this? learn a lesson. Like I said earlier, these
verses revealed so many hundreds of years ago and today
		

			They are applicable we are suffering exactly the same problems in our own societies and communities.
		

			There was a Sahabi mark, he lived near Cerro de la and immediately he says I will do that now. And
he happily got married once again. And guess what? nothing was ever mentioned in terms of problem
thereafter. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all in our marriages.
		

			So that's as far as the issues of divorce have been made mention of in some of the verses I recited
this evening. Now we go on to something very interesting. You see Salah when people are standing in
Salah, and every little while a guy scratching What does he do to you standing next to them
scratching, scratching a little bit more? You get upset you get angry? Please don't match the guy
tell him you know, because that's the wrong thing to do. My brothers and sisters we would get
irritated when someone is when someone is fidgety in Salah. Please do not be fidgety. We are
supposed to be standing correctly with silent obedience for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala But
		

			imagine if someone came to you and said Salaam Alaikum you know, I recall there was an uncle who
used to look around and we were young we will mischievious as well is to look around in Salah you
know, and one day yesterday and he did this and then he realized this in Salah, and he he put his
hand his eyes down again. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us but some of us that's how we
operate in Salah we look all around Oh beautiful lights lovely Masjid Mashallah, this is a nice Wow,
it's echoing quite well. Everything's okay. That's what our salads boil down to. There was a time
when the companions were allowed to speak in Salah. Do you know that? There was a time when
		

			initially Salah was prescribed. People were allowed to say certain things to each other in the
Salah. So they would whisper to the to the person next to them respectably for something.
		

			So then there came a verse of the Quran verse number 238 of Surah Al Baqarah. And this is a hadith
mata faculae reported by Isaiah dibner camera 11. He says we used to speak to each other in Salah
until Allah revealed a verse what Gunilla he carnitine stand in prayer for the sake of Allah in
silent obedience, silence, obedient.
		

			When that verse was revealed, speaking became prohibited fidgeting and everything else became
totally prohibited.
		

			Amazing. There is a narration whereby they say one of the companions who was unaware of this
appeared in Madina munawwara during the time of Salah, and when he came in, he greeted some of the
people of Santa Monica when they were in Salah. They did not reply because the verse had already
come down, and he says, What's wrong with you people? I'm greeting you and you're not replying. And
then he realized this seems to be something after the Salah, they informed him of the revelation and
the verse my brothers and sisters, let us make it our business to stand in front of Allah with
utmost humility, dead silence and as far as possible, try not to fidget or to move, look down and
		

			concentrate on the words even if you don't understand the Arabic language.
		

			May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all an understanding another very interesting story. When we
give out sadaqa and we give our charity and Zakat, sometimes we are guilty of doing the following.
Okay, we are guilty of taking that which is not the best from our stock, something that's not
moving, they call it dead stock. Oh, that's the cut. I'll calculate that as the car. But it's dead
stock. No one wants it completely dead. But that's what we do. So what is valuable, it's got value.
I'm going to count the cost price of it and I'm going to get it out the car. Do you think about once
that dirt of yours. Give it out as a charity besides the card, don't calculate it as compulsory
		

			charity calculated as something for the sake of Allah. Okay, this is deadstock people don't really
want it. Let me give it away. Let me just give it to a voluntary someone might make use of it. But
don't calculate it as a cat. Zakat is noble, it is great. Imagine you come for Salah in the dirtiest
of your clothes. That's not correct. You supposed to come dressed appropriately with will do perhaps
put a bit of perfume. It's an act of worship to apply that perfume for the males as they enter the
house of Allah subhanho wa Taala. The same applies you want to give zakah give the decent 12 It
doesn't have to be the best, but it mustn't be the worst either it must be the middle of that
		

			particular wealth and perhaps you will achieve the pleasure of Allah very few would be able to
release the best of their stock, very few would be able to do that. So now, the unsolved you know,
they were known as as habits suffer some of the people some of them are hygiene and some of the poor
people in Madina munawwara they used to sit in a certain spot by the masjid and it was known as a
sofa. So because they were poor people used to come there, and they used to hang some of the
branches with dates and with fruit on it on these branches and some of the
		

			Don't just have beautiful Mashallah dates and some of them had really lousy dates. Really some of
the bad stock like I was mentioning moments ago. So Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of this
the Hadith and Sunnah Timothy, according to Bara, even as about the Allahu Allah, He says, this
verse was revealed for us the answer, he says, some of the men used to come and give good in terms
of they used to hang it there so that the poor could take and some of them used to come with that
which they themselves would not want to consume.
		

			So Allah says,
		

			verse number 267, Wallah maamoul hobbies I mean, who
		

			wants to be a TV
		

			movie, do not make it a point to give the bad stock of yours, the bad wealth of yours yet you
yourself, if you were offered exactly the same, you would not take it unless your eyes were closed.
		

			I wouldn't take that wealth myself, and I want to give it to others. May Allah safeguard us, my
brothers and sisters, you must be thinking, I give my old clothes away, I give my old stock away my
old stuff away. There's no harm in giving it to those who might make use of it. But let that just be
something voluntary, totally voluntary. Something perhaps you might want to send to those who don't
have it at all who would appreciate it. But remember, generally when you are calculating that which
is compulsory, make sure it is not that deadstock May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us an
understanding.
		

			Then there is the issue of love. Every time someone says I love you guess what they mean? They mean
different things, depending on who they are. Some of them, they just mean I'm trying to draw your
attention. That's it. So I say I love you and you don't even know what that means. Some of them.
It's a way of saying hello. That's it. I love you in that. Okay, you do and they think the automatic
response is I love you too. Have you heard that? May Allah protect us?
		

			What is true love?
		

			Once one of the companions came to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		

			and this is narrated by Al Hassan intimacy robbery. He says at the time of Muhammad Sallallahu
sallam, someone came to him and said, What Allah He O Messenger. We love Allah. So much.
		

			Will law he we love our ABA. Okay, we love Allah Who doesn't love Allah we all love Allah He made us
how can we not love him? So verses were revealed?
		

			Verse number 31 of Surah Al Imran cool
		

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			Me. say if you claim to love Allah, if you really love Allah subhanho wa Taala then follow me. Allah
will love you. Follow me which means follow the messenger of Allah. If you follow the instructions
of Allah, it shows you love him. What's the point of saying I love you, I love you and then you do
things against the same person, or the same Supreme Being. I love Allah but where is Salah? I love
Allah, where is my dress code? I love Allah but I cannot give up adultery and gambling and
* but I love Allah.
		

			You know the excuse they use today. Don't judge my heart. Allah knows my heart. Allah knows your
heart, but your actions are proving how distinct you are from Allah subhanho wa Taala you yourself
are making it difficult for people. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us all. May him help us improve
really, it requires dedication. You say you love Allah, you need to change your life in accordance
to that which pleases Allah and to know that you have to go to the instruction of Muhammad
Sallallahu Sallam because he was the messenger who came to you may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us
all and may He strengthen us. So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us if you love Allah, Follow me
		

			Follow Mohammed salatu salam, O, Allah will love you and He will forgive your sins. May Allah
subhanho wa Taala grant us ease. One more point I'd like to make mention before we close for today,
		

			something extremely interesting. The Jews and the Christians at the time had a debate nesara of
Nigerian and the Jews of Medina, then the Christians of Magellan and the Jews of Medina, they were
debating about Ibrahim alayhis salam, the prophet Abraham May peace be upon him. So the Jews said he
was Jewish. And the Christian said no, he was Christian. So Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed versus
saying, hey, he, how can you argue about Ibrahim whether he was Jewish or Christian yet? He came
well before Judaism or Christianity. If you take a look, he was the father of Moses. You
		

			The father of Jesus He came well before so he was neither Jew nor was he Christian. Instead, he was
a person who submitted to the one Lord to Allah, the monotheism. It is known as Abrahamic
monotheism. That was Abraham do not say he was a Jew or a Christian. Allah says it's common logic
that he came well before. So what is this debate all about? Imagine how the problem was solved.
		

			Verse number 65, or surah Allah, Allah says, Yeah, lol kita b O People of the Book, Lima.
		

			Juna v Bara
		

			why is it that you are arguing with one another about Ibrahim Abraham May peace be upon him So Allah
is salatu salam
		

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			you are arguing about him yet? The Torah and the Bible were only revealed well after him Don't you
have since amazing verse May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us all and May He grant us all goodness
Allah says McKenna Ybarra him we are who do Allah Allah salani wala King Ghana hanifa muslimah
wommack and Amina mushy King Abraham May peace be upon him was neither Jewish nor Christian, but
instead he was upon monotheism submitting to Allah subhanho wa Taala and he was not a polytheist May
Allah subhanahu wa taala protect us from polytheism May He grant us the ability to understand what
has been said this evening to put it into implementation in our own lives. And may Allah subhanho wa
		

			Taala bless us all until we meet again for another episode with sallallahu wasallam or Baraka Allah
Bina Mohammed Subhan Allah Subhana Allah Homo behenic the shadow Allah Allah hi land anastasiou
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