Moutasem al-Hameedy – Concepts Of Deception

Moutasem al-Hameedy
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The importance of believing in Islam and the reality of p pressure is discussed, as well as the importance of not giving things, names, or beauty to people and spending money on one's health. The speaker emphasizes the need to be conscious of one's own environment and show a proper self as a good person for children. The speaker also discusses parenting and the importance of being a good person for children.

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			to law, Aquila, avala. TV now. All praise is due to Allah, we praise Him. We seek his aid and we ask
for his forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evils of ourselves and the evil consequences
of our actions. Whomsoever Allah guides, none can lead astray. And whomsoever Allah leaves to go
astray, Nan can guide
		
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			I bear witness, that there is none worthy of worship, non worthy of our ultimate love and devotion.
But Allah the Almighty alone, and I bear witness that Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him is
his servant, and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa when he was
		
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			in a few instances in the Quran, Allah rectifies
		
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			the use of some concepts.
		
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			For example,
		
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			because concept of valuable,
		
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			which is true piety, and belief is that the heart is clean and pure. And that purity reflects in the
shape of external actions. That's what it is.
		
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			So some of the
		
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			people have always some of the non Muslims, so to use this word to show that we actually do acts of
building acts of piety, so we are people of piety. So Allah explained
		
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			that the reality of Bill is not only the external actions, it's something deeper than that. And it's
something that is more profound than this, although it includes the external action. So Allah says,
as well as in Bali says the law and to allude to our country better than machinery well, Mother,
		
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			real piety and righteousness is that not that you turn your face to the right to the east or the
west, which direction you take in terms of Qibla, although this is part of the instructions and the
guidance of Islam,
		
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			but that's not what constitutes the reality of piety, the essence of piety, so you have to hold on
to that.
		
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			And then you're facing the Qibla and seeking to face the true direction for Salah. Now it falls in
place when it's built on that solid foundation. But if you bring only the external manifestation or
the facade, that's an empty shell, it doesn't count. So that's where Allah says, the reality of
piety is not that you turn your face to the East or to the west. Well, I can build Rahman am and
Abdullah
		
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			will your mood will matter to you? But the reality of piety is that you believe in Allah truly, you
believe in, in the Day of Judgment. You believe in the books and the revelations, you believe in the
messengers?
		
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			Well, as a man I hope you either will hold back
		
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			and that you spend from the money the wealth that you will love that belongs to you that Allah has
given you you spend from that. You put it where it's needed. There are poor people, there is a
condition which requires spending what you spend
		
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			You establish the prayer
		
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			and that you are patient of the times of hardship, the times of illness.
		
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			All of those constitute and so when someone has the essence it will reflect itself in these
different shapes and forms and different deeds and manifestations. So Allah subhanaw taala. By this
draws our attention to the reality that some concepts could be hijacked and that's a common practice
of humanity.
		
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			This is one of the most tactful and successful ways of deceiving the masses. You can keep the name
but change the content and thus people won't notice what's going on. The prophets of salaam warned
against this. The Prophet SAW Selim says in an authentic hadith
		
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			say a call to a one went on Matty
		
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			your cell phone at home will you say Munna? Have you heard this?
		
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			There will be people from my nation towards the end of time, who will drink intoxicants alcohol, but
they would give it a name other than its true name, they would name it differently.
		
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			The Arabs, the old Arabs at the time because they were engaged in warring feuds and sometimes
		
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			they faced a roadblock and that would be the sacred months and assure home because you can't fight
you can't find in the in the sacred months. That was a tradition of Prophet Ibrahim and Providence
manatee himself that the Arabs tried to keep
		
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			secret demands you can't fight in them.
		
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			So the Arabs religiously adhere to that the pagan Arabs, but yet because they were almost on the
verge of a victory, and the secret man's man, so right, they had to ceasefire, and I will give an
opportunity to their enemy to pull themselves together and strengthen themselves and
		
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			improve their chances in the war.
		
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			So they wanted to find a way around this to bypass it. So they started deferring the sacred month
pushing them one month or two months later.
		
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			And this was called an A C and Allah and Allah and solat a Toba refers to this, he says in them in
the seat was yelled at infrequently, this kind of month difference is an increase in addition to
their disbelief and their acts of, of cover.
		
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			So humans have this capacity to give things, names that are not real, especially with things that
people hold sacred, and valuable and important.
		
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			So the content would be changed, but the name would remain the same. And that's where most of us
face problems in life. Now, this is not just about a matter of concept that is keeping it intact in
that sit, because concepts concepts in the life of a human being have serious consequences. Let's
take a modern example. She had
		
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			the hijab origins
		
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			of the Muslim woman.
		
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			Now there are revealing clothes now that are very common, or even called hijab, right?
		
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			So a Muslim woman wears this kind of revealing clothing that is very attractive, that gets people to
stare at her and try to
		
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			pray at her beauty.
		
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			And then she feels good, because I'm wearing hijab on the hijab.
		
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			But that doesn't change the fact
		
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			that this is just a title of hijab, but not the reality. So we the law, it does not cut it, it does
not count. What counts is the reality. Just like with Alberta, Alberta is not just you turned to the
Canada, because of the time the Muslims were praying towards Bates and mark this, the Muslims were
praying towards our goods and mistreated outside.
		
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			And the Arab said, we are better than you. We have we take the direction of Canada, the house of
Ibrahim, better than you or Muslims, you attend to the same Qibla as the Christians and the Jews.
		
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			So Allah told them, that bill is not about where you turn.
		
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			That's not what the whole thing is about. It's about worshipping Allah, you forgot about everything,
and you just held on to this small, tiny detail.
		
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			And you thought Albert is about this, the same thing applies to this concept of hijab. Now, this is
not my point. The main point here is that
		
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			culture is probably the most profound way of education and teaching. It has so much authority. And
it has the subtlety about it that it shapes us, molds us, washes all brains without even
understanding. So we have
		
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			Have many concepts from the past that we borrow from the past. We have the same title for them as
the past. But what we have today is completely different from what was then in the past. So we have
issues like and that's my point, parenting.
		
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			Parenting in the past, the father, the mother were heavily involved in the right and the life of the
child in the development of their child and the education of their child.
		
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			Parenting meant preparing your child to be able to cross the terrain of this life, to make it to
Allah, everything that was necessary to help a child make it the agenda was your responsibility, and
you are accountable for that. And you had to be heavily involved. Even if you were extremely busy
		
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			earning a living, building a house, traveling for trade and business, you still have had to
guarantee that your child get the best of education, the best of cultivation, the best of rearing as
a child.
		
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			And now we call it parenting. But it's a completely different thing. Because we live in a different
world.
		
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			Most of the fathers are working full time, sometimes even two jobs. And they're not involved in the
life of a child.
		
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			The mother is busy with so much stuff, either cooking or style and fashion, or some social
endeavors, or any kind of engagement or maybe TV series, stuff online.
		
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			And then for us parenting is sending your kid to school.
		
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			And then when the child comes, you just make sure they do their homework, if there is homework, or
you get them to watch some TV or some YouTube stuff, right, I'll play a little bit.
		
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			And then you make sure you put them to bed. And on the weekend, you make sure that you give them
some fun, you take them out, picnic, take them on a vacation, you take them to play some sports,
right? That's
		
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			the title is the same, or what they had in the past is something that is categorically different
than what we have today. And that's the problem that we say, Oh, I'm parenting my child. Now you're
not doing what they used to do. So that's a different thing. And you better give it another name,
unless you are heavily involved. And somebody might say it's a challenge. How can I get so much
involved in the life of my child, when I'm just so busy? Well, in the past, they were extremely busy
as well, actually, life was much harder.
		
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			But they just made it a point to get involved in the life of their child.
		
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			And that's one of the reasons because what we deal with when it comes to our youth and our growing
generation is is is a very complex matter. There are so many factors
		
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			that are playing a role in this in this very complex picture. But this is one of the most important
things is that we are not doing proper parenting.
		
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			And we can't pull as an excuse that this is how the world functions. This is how everyone in the
world is going about it. That's not an excuse because that doesn't change anything. The input your
child gets from outside sources, external sources that are not verified, that are not trusted, that
do not abide by Islam that do not give your child a healthy world view
		
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			and fill their head with so much stuff.
		
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			Their contribution is far bigger than yours. Yours is just a small fraction.
		
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			Then why do we wonder when our youth are having emotional problems, ideological problems, belief
problems,
		
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			psychological mental issues,
		
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			they can't they can't find peace being a Muslim and being able to relate to the world today. Why?
Because you're not involved in their life.
		
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			You think if you just feed them, clothe them, send them to school, have a house for them to live in,
send them to play some sports, and take them on vacation and buy them some some some gadgets and
some some devices. And you just talk to them, maybe even take them to the Sunday Islamic school
		
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			and you think you've done your parenting, you're just outsourcing everything about your job.
		
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			And the past they used even to make sure that they would tweak their job to be able to have their
child get involved with the minor tasks and the job to train them help them for life.
		
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			And so that they can spend time with their kids. They can educate their kids they can pass on their
experience to their kids. Because the kids learn so much from from their parents. They learn how to
handle calamity, how to handle hardships how to handle self doubt, how to handle criticism, how to
handle downtime
		
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			How to Think for yourself in life. Even how to handle things in the kitchen, how to keep your, your
house or your room tidy and clean.
		
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			The pick that up. That's the most profound way of education is that you spend time with a person.
And we see from our younger children they pick up. So like so amazingly pick up so much stuff. It's
like magic.
		
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			So, and the problem is not when we want to want to teach our kids about truthfulness, about honesty,
it's lip service to your child. It's important to be honest and truthful. But the next time someone
knocks on the door, you tell your child tell them my dad is not here.
		
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			So apparently, the child is gonna swallow. You know, your actions, they're gonna learn from your
actions, because actions have symbolic power. You tell them your religion is the most important
thing in your life, right? But they see you busy just working, making as much money as you as you
could, in order to buy a house, or to buy a car or to buy another house or to buy a farm or to
increase your assets and, and put more money in your bank account. Right? And you're just delaying
your Salah
		
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			you're combining your Salah at the end of the day, and you say you John, the most important thing is
Salah, now they they know you're not serious about it. Cuz your actions speak obviously, louder than
the words that are symbolic power, where you put your attention where you spend your time. Will you
ever go, what's the most important things for you that you stress and emphasize the child knows
these are the most important things, not the things you tell them are important.
		
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			And that's why we're not really religious. And that's why we are struggling in the workplace, our
kids become teenagers, there is respect issues.
		
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			The child, the child does not open up to their parents, they don't tell them what's going on in
their life, they do things in the back behind their parents. And some some of these things are very
serious.
		
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			And then it grows even worse, sometimes when they get to university, you know, there's a complete
disconnect.
		
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			And sometimes it's hard to bring them back. You don't want to lose your child, you don't want your
child to go into drugs to go into clubbing and and all the other other other unhealthy practices
that are very attractive, that are made to be attracted by this kind of educational machine of
society and culture that is just so overwhelming for a child, that they will only see the
consequences of that when they have reached their 40s their 50s when it when it when when it would
be too late.
		
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			But you haven't built the trust with them.
		
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			So that the teacher seriously. So the reason I'm saying this
		
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			is one thing.
		
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			There's nothing specifically what I'm inviting you to do but one thing contemplate, be conscious of
how close you are to your child, how involved you are in their life.
		
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			And are you a true example not by pretending in front of your child to be a good human being, but by
truly being a human being truly being an honest person because you believe in honesty. Now because
you want to give an impression to your child that doesn't work the child is intelligent and they can
see through that.
		
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			That you truly care about Allah Allah and about your relationship with Allah the child will see that
they will feel it and they will follow suit they will be inspired by you.
		
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			But if all they get from you is lecturing, theorizing lip service, you will be the last one that
they will turn to to learn from.
		
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			And it's serious because this is the the future of our children
		
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			is the future of a Muslim.
		
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			And there are people who are struggling, just remaining
		
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			a Muslim among the youth.
		
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			And we are partly responsible.
		
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			So parenting, we have to give it a real
		
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			I would say time of contemplation. A wee bit involved in the life of a child.
		
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			Are we playing a role? Are we being there for them? are we connecting with them? Are we truly a good
example genuine example knowledge show game? Don't be a show for your child.
		
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			Do you truly believe and embrace what you're inviting inviting them to practice? If you don't they
want take anything from you.
		
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			Just give it a thought. That's all it requires. Give it a serious thought. This week or this
weekend, give it just two hours of serious consideration. Go over your journey of parenting. Are you
really a good parent? And don't make your standard what you have today? Because the whole thing of
parenting now is just an image compared to something
		
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			that is more authentic. That's about the past. And humanity is going downhill when it comes to being
so arrogant that we are giving up on so much wisdom that humanity accumulated over centuries and
centuries, we just have this arrogant attitude that we know and everything that is old is outdated
and obsolete.
		
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			And that is setting us up.
		
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			And if circumstances change if the some Allah subhanaw taala pulls away some of the blessings that
He has given us, humanity will suffer greatly, because we are doing away with a lot of the
collective wisdom that humanity has accumulated. And we are living on a very fragile lifestyle, that
if something breaks within that system, we'll be completely out of sorts, disconnected from
everything unable to grow our food, or raise our children or even survive or even live or do
anything for ourselves. We're so dependent on this fragile system of global this global system.
		
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			All Holyhead, that was the frontline even
		
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			handed it at home behind me. So that was synonymous eating in mind at any time hot he was made
available. So it's our responsibility to go beyond the titles and the concepts. Otherwise, they
become concepts of deception, we need to connect to the reality of parenting, we need to connect to
the reality of a hijab, we need to connect to the reality of Taqwa and piety. Because it's easy to
wear a nice facade and have a rotten heart. It's easy, it's easy, because there is so much emphasis
on image. So everyone is motivated because of this influence, external influence to give a good
image, so it's easy, and there are so many ways to do it. And there are so many tools to help us
		
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			perfect this, but no one sees what's in our hearts only Allah and that's where Allah looks. So
that's that should be our focus.
		
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			And we should not be Oh God, we should not get completely caught up in the concepts, the empty
concepts, otherwise they become concepts of deception. We don't want to live a life of deception
because this is extremely painful, the moment a person is to leave this world, the reality of
everything will be revealed to them. And if they see that they have wasted their life, building
empty concepts, it will be extremely painful because that pain is going to be eternal.
		
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			We need to connect to the reality of things or ask Allah subhanaw taala to show us the reality of
these things and to guide us through this these difficult times and help us be good parents, good
spouses, and good children and siblings and good Muslims alone my feeling
		
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			was a lot muffled and over and over and myself and FE MD now with a bit
		
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			on so not only caffeine Loma Linda will be worried enough. What do you mean don't help Dana Yeah. I
mean, a lot of my content most of life and I mean if you could even account along with him lifelong
love almost a lot asked
		
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			me Yeah.
		
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			In a lie
		
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			anyway, he he didn't worry about when he went okay, well, building your aid will come down to that
goal and
		
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			we'll scroll right down. Yeah, I mean, he is also the law. Most of them are very chaotic, awesome.
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