Mohammed Faqih – Gratitude In The Quran

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The speakers discuss the concept of sugar and its relation to gratitude, thankfulness, and appreciation. They stress the importance of avoiding confusion between sugar and hemp, avoiding labels, and creating a culture of mutual obligations and appreciation for others. The speakers also emphasize the need for gratitude and rewarding individual contributions to society, particularly in areas like eating healthy foods and processing and eating them.

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			Why?
		
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			Very close.
		
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			Okay chef Bismillah Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam in Loma Linda my photo in front of Mr. Lim Tina was in the Elmo, gentlemen, General Edina,
siniakova petrona, Santa Holloman and I said, Look, I'm in Napa I was complaining about while I'm
going on with Taco Bell, but tonight's session was on sugar, or gratitude, in the Quran, gratitude
in the Quran. And what I'm translating as gratitude is sugar. You know, sometimes we translated as
gratefulness or we translated as
		
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			thankfulness. But it's more more than that. Right? It's gratitude would be a more appropriate
translation. So
		
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			So what is sugar?
		
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			What is
		
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			sugar?
		
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			Because it's mentioned in the Quran and Allah subhanaw taala says that very few of my servants are
		
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			Shaco Coco de la mina, a barrier, a shocker. And we know that many people are
		
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			celebrating, of course, you know, by the way, it's very interesting how, I don't know if you saw
some of these videos that came out of the Black Friday.
		
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			Crazy people fighting fistfights people trembling over each. I mean, it's just crazy stuff. And it's
amazing how the same people, you know, had dinner last night, basically,
		
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			supposedly being thankful for what they have. And today, they're beating each other for
		
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			what they want to acquire what they don't need. as *, supposedly when you do think when you think
about some habitat, and you say, you say I'm thankful you're saying what? I have enough.
		
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			I have plenty.
		
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			Right? Anyways.
		
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			So so so what is what is this feeling or, or this concept that we're talking about? You know,
gratitude, thankfulness, gratefulness, or appreciation is a feeling or an attitude where the person
and listen to this Okay, listen to the definition of Muslim scholars. And listen, as a matter of
fact, actually, if you don't mind, since tonight is just
		
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			okay, gratitude, according to the dictionary, right? I just want you to pay attention to gratitude
according to the dictionary, and what sugar has been translated as
		
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			in
		
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			Islam, or by Muslim scholars. So gratitude is the quality of being found cool.
		
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			And further explanation, readiness to show appreciation
		
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			and to return
		
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			kindness.
		
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			Furthermore,
		
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			it is something that has to do with recognition and acknowledgement
		
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			of something.
		
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			It's like when you recognize and acknowledge the presence of something
		
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			that you feel
		
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			good about.
		
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			Yeah, so so it's, first of all, it's a feeling and it's something that basically
		
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			involves acknowledging and recognizing the presence of something there is something of value that is
there that you for for which you feel
		
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			For sure that you feel thankful you feel, you know? So what do the Muslim scholars say about sugar,
and so so you'd understand why I chose gratitude, to be the most appropriate term to translate the
concept of sugar into the scholars say,
		
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			it is when you count when you when you receive a blessing, right?
		
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			When you receive
		
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			a blessing, and fulfill its
		
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			it's obligations, like when a blessing comes, you acknowledge it as a blessing, you examine it, and
you see it as a blessing. And then you feel like there is something that you owe the either the
blessing itself or the one that blessed you. So, you recognize it as something positive, something
good something, you know, a value, right? Something of, you know, so and when you when you when you
receive it, the way you handle it, the way you deal with it, you know, your attitude towards it,
		
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			your own,
		
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			you know, the way you carry yourself, while having it while recognizing it. All of this has, you
know, expresses a sense of gratefulness. All of this translates into a sense of carefulness. Why am
I saying this? Why am I going into you know, the word sugar? Because very often the sugar is
confused with what
		
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			what do you say to somebody, you know, have some sugar, people say Alhamdulillah. Or sometimes
people say, I'd like a sugar
		
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			thank Allah. But that's just one level of it.
		
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			And that that is not by the way, actually sugar. So therefore, we need to make a distinction between
hemp and sugar. Hammond in Arabic is basically praising someone.
		
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			And there's while the two words are synonymously, you know, sometimes they're interchangeable used,
but they don't always mean the same thing. Actually, one of them has a more specific meaning
something that is added. And they said
		
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			hemt
		
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			it has two levels.
		
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			One level is internal, in the heart,
		
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			right, one level is internal, internally, you feel grateful, and your heart is being thankful. So
you're praising a lot in your heart or lungs great in your heart, right. The second level is to
actually other or state that verbally to verbalize it. So, one is internalized. The other aspects is
verbalized, sometimes people do it the other way around, they verbalize it. And then if they reflect
further on it, they may be able to to internalize it.
		
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			Do you see the difference between the two that is still humped you know a lot of people when you
tell them something or you remind them of something, they look at hamdulillah Now, sometimes people
people we say things just as as a almost like you know natural reaction, right? Then you tell that
person by the way, do you really mean it you need to internalize it,
		
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			then they have achieved that the other level of the internal and external the internal or the
verbal, right. You know, the the internal and the verbal. So when you internalize to you verbalize
or some people sometimes from how they verbalize and they then they're able to internalize. By the
way, for instance, only when you say Alhamdulillah laughter East Allah and hamdulillah Al
Hamdulillah have a lot of people, what do they do? They verbalize
		
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			very few people managed to internalize. They verbalize this 100 900 100 100 100 100 100 100 that
doesn't count at one point, because you're not saying you have to say the whole thing. So So suppose
somebody say Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah. There is a difference between that and somebody who's
saying Alhamdulillah every time they say Alhamdulillah they're thinking of the blessings of Allah.
		
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			They feel it in their heart, you know, that's internalizing, right? That's hemp sugar
		
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			has another dimension. In addition to those two, these two, in addition to these two, sugar goes
beyond that. So you can say sugar is an advanced form of hemp,
		
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			or hemp is the basic level of sugar or the right base, basic level and sugar base.
		
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			Basically goes beyond that because it involves What?
		
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			internalization
		
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			what we said we verbalize, internalize actualization you actualize you actually live it is a
manifestation
		
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			of what you have the manifestation of sugar in your actions in your choices in your lifestyle. right
in your in your mood and your mood.
		
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			And that's why you find in the Quran Allah subhanaw taala when he talks about what does the law say?
We're put in hamdulillah say Alhamdulillah
		
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			Alhamdulillah wa salam O Allah Abadi Latina Saba say Alhamdulillah Praise be to Allah wa salam O
Allah, Allah. So, Hamed is always mentioned as what?
		
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			Praise but Allah says can say it's a statement. Of course in order for it to count, you have to
really feel it. But it's a statement all in hamdulillah. But when Allah spoke about sugar, what did
Allah azzawajal say?
		
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			Right? ear mailloux Allah The Buddha chakra, Allah didn't say, say sugar, he said mlo act.
		
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			Work. Right? Live sugar. Sugar is something that you really live. And that's why it goes, it goes,
you know, beyond, you know, just saying Alhamdulillah Allah or Allah sugar. It goes beyond that.
It's actually this sense of pleasure and contentment. And, and you know, that that brings about joy,
right? Where the person says, you know, when they say and hamdulillah right, they you see them
living it, you know, something, because, by the way, and hamdulillah you're supposed say
Alhamdulillah even when something bad happens, right? Sometimes something bad happens, you come to
somebody you're like, so what do you think he's like, it could have been worse.
		
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			Sugar on the other if the person is true shachar like a person of sugar will say so hamdulillah man,
how they see the good aspects of it in their like, their their content, they're pleased, right? So
that is sugar. And to further show that sugar is a state of mind or a lifestyle Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I shall ask them. She said, you know, she asked him about his worship.
He said to her flr conewago Shakira, shouldn't I be a thankful shockula he said he said he didn't
say I am abdon you know Jaime, then he didn't say I'm a habit. He said Shaku I'm being thankful. So
I'm living it. I'm living it in my example.
		
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			Okay. So.
		
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			So, what what is what is in it for us, when
		
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			we fulfill sugar.
		
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			The first the first aspect that shows the importance of sugar, sugar is actually an a form of
worship.
		
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			Allah azza wa jal requires from us to worship him out of being
		
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			out of out of be grateful to him. And by the way, sugar in this sense, is the opposite of what
Cooper but a true Cooper true Cooper is to cover up the blessings of Allah subhanaw taala and deny
them or reject them.
		
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			Allah azza wa jal says, India had no severe we have guided man to the path ima Shakira was a mecca
for either shachar
		
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			state of gratitude or Kapha.
		
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			Right. So
		
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			So somebody that worships a lot of zildjian has to be thankful for that. And I'm mentioning this is
because some people worship Allah azza wa jal, they follow the religion of Islam, and they feel so
burdened, they feel like they're doing a lot of favor, they are bothered by it. They just do it
because they have to. It's just, you know, it's a nice and nasty feeling, you know, bad attitude and
all of that. It's just, and deep inside, maybe they wish they were not, you know, they didn't have
any of us. Yeah. Right. allows you just tell us in the color Obama de la colocado, sorry, perhaps
some of the kuffaar wishes they were Muslims.
		
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			Right. But then you have people you know, who have the other way around, you know, they worship with
lots of how to have it just because they have to,
		
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			not because they have this deep sense of gratitude inside. And hamdulillah who guided us to this
religion, American Nellie Natalia Lola and her daughter in law
		
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			To the level guide to this, and I tell you, and somebody might say but you know, sometimes you get
overwhelmed like overwhelmed, but somehow in the habit of online acknowledge the the blessings of
Allah azza wa jal and live in the state even in the most difficult of times. You know, when they
confronted their enemies in the, in the battlefield and they were, you know, under the threat of
being annihilated, wiped out. One of the ways that they basically
		
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			you know, boosted their morale and encouraged themselves and maintain motivation was by chanting now
manana anta Medina Oh Allah if it wasn't for you, we would have not been guided. Well, I just have
done our last Alena. So they are being thankful and they realize that Allah Subhana, Allah is the
one that guided them to this, and that this is a great blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So one
should thank Allah every day, and every night for this great number of guidance to Islam. But in
addition to that, there are other, you know, blessings that we have, you know, that we should thank
Allah Subhana Allah for. And, and by the way, one of the reasons why people get punished if they're
		
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			not thankful, if they're not thankful, one of the reasons they get punished, it's because it goes
against the worship, shocker is an act of worship. So if somebody does not fulfill this, this this
act of worship, they they, you know, then then whatever they're supposed to be thankful for will be
taken away from them. And by the way, in a way, in a way, even that, in and of itself is a blessing
from Allah, you know, why?
		
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			Because
		
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			was that
		
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			it might bring you back, that's number one. Number two, when I lost some hats, it gives you
something
		
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			and you don't realize the value of it. Right? And you don't thank, if you thankful to Allah, Allah
blesses it and increases when you don't, every time you know, every day or whatever, every amount of
like, you know, the longer you have it
		
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			was that
		
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			know that nobody, but the longer you have it, the more the more the more trouble it is for you.
		
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			You know, I mean, so if I lost my house, I was taken away from you now.
		
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			You know, so so you are not thanking Allah subhanaw taala is a violation. So when Allah takes it
from you, now you have nothing to be thankful for it right?
		
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			And you're not you're not in violation anymore. So a lot of takes it to remind you to turn to him.
Right? And Subhanallah you might be able to recover the past you might, you might be able to now
that it's gone. You might say you know what, I'm very thankful I didn't realize how, how blessed I
was. Oh, Allah, thank you for all of that Allah, you know, forgive me for you know, so you get to
ask Allah subhanaw taala and that's why Allah azza wa jal says, The kuffar whom Allah Subhana Allah
wants to lower when they when they do good for Allah continues to bless them.
		
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			Yeah, and in addition to that lack of intellectual capital and Amanullah higher, right? So because
somebody might come and say, well, you told us that if somebody is not thankful, Allah Subhana,
Allah, or Allah, or you told us that Allah said, if you're thankful, I'm going to give you more, and
here you have people who are not thankful, and they continue to get more.
		
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			That's not that's not a good thing. Actually. Why put mechanical ability for them to
		
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			because if it's taken away from them, they're gonna.
		
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			But if they continue to have it, they're just going to continue to be in that state of the ladder.
That doesn't mean that it's good and along the process, so don't think that it's good for them.
Because we just don't want to, to confuse these two things by the law, but we're commonly shagreen
it's an act of worship, to be thankful to Allah Subhana with that.
		
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			Number two, the second aspect of sugar is that sugar saves a person from the punishment of Allah
being thankful. Allah azza wa jal says what is the general population control as the denicola
inconvertible in other be necessary? if you're if you're thankful, I will give you more. If you are
ungrateful, then my punishment is severe. Allah subhanaw taala says,
		
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			number three,
		
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			blessings are a test from a loss of Hamilton.
		
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			Blessing blessings are a test from Allah hath Allah the correct answer, the the passing of that test
can only be achieved through shocker when Satan as a layman, the prophet, the messenger he had the
throne of
		
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			the Queen of Sheba.
		
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			was carried to him, when he saw it when he saw the result of this awesome power that Allah Subhana
Allah gave him. He didn't like to look around and start bragging and saying, look, look, you know,
or he didn't say, Whoa, amazing. That's amazing. Yeah, it's, you know, but he said, he immediately
said, Heather Neufeld in the lobby. This is indeed from the bounties of my Lord Leah blue and he
because he's a teacher, the end of the day, he's a teacher, he's an example he was teaching
everybody around him this is indeed from the power and from the blessings of my Lord. To test me
Leah blue any ash guru UK for to test to test me and to see whether I am thankful or ungrateful.
		
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			Alright, and that's that should be the attitude of all of us that we know blessing there from Allah
Subhana Allah Subhana Allah bless you with a child. This is from her them probably automobili
abalone ash, Chroma Allah bless you with with a huge profit you made or a breakthrough of some kind.
Or you know, you were successful in something a blessing came to you from you know, that you weren't
expecting right you were able to make to you know, to have a big achievement in your life Something
happened you know, the attitudes should be the believer of the believer should be have them in the
lobby. This is from the boundaries of my Lord the abalone ash from just me see whether I'm thankful
		
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			Allah
		
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			does the the passing of the test is through sugar.
		
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			The fourth aspect of sugar that we find in the Quran is that
		
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			Allah is origin equates being thankful to the parents with being thankful to him
		
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			or connected, okay.
		
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			Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam in the Hadith says, He who does not thank Allah He does not thank
Allah He who does not thank people, lash guru la Himalayas guru.
		
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			Innes, Allah subhanaw taala. And by the way, this hadith hemangioma for the past two, three weeks,
we've been studying it, you know, it's really affecting me, Allah.
		
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			The Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, a person is not thankful, truly thankful to Allah, if he if he
fails to thank people.
		
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			And who, out of all people who deserves most of our appreciation, who has the money, you know,
sometimes people, not sometimes people do I mean, we we are dependent on each other, we are
interdependent, you know, so people do favor to each other all the time. But out of all the fears
that people have done,
		
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			out of all the favors and the services that people provided for you, for us, the greatest of all,
are our parents.
		
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			By the way, even if they were bad parents, because the greatest there is one favor that the parents
have offered.
		
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			There is one blessing, whether they liked it or not, whether they enjoyed it or not, whether they
did a good job in it or not, whether it was an they pursued it or not the fact that they gave birth
to us
		
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			that they were the means for us to come to this life in and of itself is a blessing.
		
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			worthy of you know, thank worthy of gratitude or expressing gratitude. So Allah in the Quran says
		
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			initially when you validate, be thankful to me and to your parents,
		
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			be thankful to me and to read and that's why it's valid if I if I catch myself being thankful to
total strangers but not thankful to my own parents.
		
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			Right?
		
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			You know that that's not authentic, that's a lie.
		
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			Right? Also,
		
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			part of he is not thankful he is to Allah He who does not thank people, Allah subhanaw taala some of
the earlier Matt said, that means if a person does not show
		
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			is not humble enough to relate to people and thank them for whatever favor they do, that person has
not fulfilled his obligation towards Allah azza wa jal because a lot uses in delivers his blessings
and his risk to us by means of other people.
		
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			And that's why one of the things that we need to do, maybe we can talk about this in the future, but
one of the one of the one of the
		
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			we need to cultivate at home, a culture of appreciation.
		
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			Everybody's contribution has to be appreciated, every individual's contribution. The Father's
contribution has to be appreciated and has to be respected.
		
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			The mere presence of that person has to be appreciated just the mere presence of that person. And
then on top of that, if the person is doing their best to protect the family and provide for the
family, that has to be acknowledged, and it has to be appreciated, with with deep sense of
gratefulness, the mother and or the wife's contribution has to be appreciated. Like, deeply, like
we, you know, the person has to, you know, because,
		
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			by the way, just, and I know, I'm kind of opening a can of worms, as they say, you know, seriously,
I mean, what does, you know,
		
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			you know, what does a person like to to total strangers? What brought them together? Tonight, we
just didn't make I have the motive. Right? all it was any exchange of vows. And, you know, married,
and this is how do they become obligated towards one another? I mean, you get it's a mutual contract
you get, it's not like ownership or anything. So why, what do these two individuals owe to each
other?
		
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			It's a commitment. It's a mutual contract, they entered, invoking the name of Allah subhanaw, taala,
makes them obligated towards one another, whatever each one of them brings into this marriage or
into this relationship, whatever each contributes, is worthy of praise. And the person has to be
appreciated. And by the way, the criteria is because I gave I don't want anyone, I don't want you to
go home and say this. You heard what the chef said?
		
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			Or were you asleep?
		
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			Yeah, and I am why the day.
		
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			Right? No, seriously, I tell you why. Because people go home. Say, did you hear what the chef said?
When was the last time you said thank you? Yeah, of course, please don't say that to each other just
texted?
		
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			You know, really,
		
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			as soon as I sort of says, when somebody does a favor for you, right, then you need to thank them,
you need to reciprocate, you need to pay them back. And if you cannot forget to pay them back, then
make dua or or make a draft for that person, or thank that person had a dilemma and and
		
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			until that person realizes that you have actually What?
		
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			Give him back enough or that you have appreciated them. In other words, the criteria there are two
Hadith one Hadith, the prophet sort of says, until you feel like you have done enough,
		
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			until you genuinely feel like you have done enough. In another Hadith, the prophet Isaiah says until
the person feels that they have been appreciated, until the person says, close my eyes, I can look
at it No, no, no problem. And like, It was my pleasure until the person feels that way. You should
be you should show thankfulness and you should make it out for them. Right. And again, I mean, both
parents are responsible for creating that kind of culture, a culture where when anyone does
something, there's so much happening. Well, I remember, may Allah have mercy upon my father, you
know, some of our some of us we used to compete to do something for my dad, just because we wanted
		
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			to hear that personalized especial drive that he used to make.
		
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			Baraka lafay has never been on it is like a low
		
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			ticket if he is Islam, edic you know, Marcia, you know, stuff like that. very encouraging, very
motivating. I appreciate this part of the of the process, and why anyone that does a favor for you,
right? You don't even by the way, even if that that favorite, what they're doing is not a big deal,
even if it's as much as just bringing you a cup of water. Because sometimes we might think, oh,
		
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			why do I need to appreciate this. Just because by the way, this is not gender and the cup of water
didn't fly on its own and come to you, somebody actually brought it, somebody took interest and
brought it because they love you. And by the way, when they do it, they're just telling you, they
love you, or they telling you, they respect you, that's all.
		
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			So and and all sorts of analyst psychologists, I mean, you can look it up, you can look it up, there
is a reinforcement that happens when you do that. You're going to encourage that person you you know
to do it next time or to want to do it, the person is going to be very excited.
		
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			Right?
		
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			The person by the way, even if you have to exaggerate even if you have to fake it,
		
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			even if you have to fake it.
		
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			So the prophet SAW Selim says, do it in a loss of habitat and the Quran says those who deserves most
of our thanks are the parents Rasulullah saw a certain segment of the output intelligent DHCP woman
lambasted me for intimate ethnic check a woman catalog catalog.
		
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			Right, whoever is given something
		
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			right?
		
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			For the HDB and then then he should reciprocate.
		
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			Right? Well man, let me get and whoever cannot find or does not have the opportunity then failures
neither let him be grateful or thankful for in them and ethna for whoever is grateful or whoever is
pray, you know, praising the person
		
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			And then that person has indeed fulfilled thanks, or gratitude, gratitude, and whoever holds back
then that person has committed before, meaning the cover of nirma.
		
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			Again, I don't want to change any any household culture or suggest things that may not work, we have
to implement, you know, you have to just see what you know, I don't want to say, well, brothers, if
your wife made the food, then you make the sweets, or if she made the sweet, then you make the tea,
and give these kind of recommendations, but try to reciprocate, there are different ways of doing
things you know me. And notice that and don't don't, by the way, don't take a note the I don't take,
don't notice your contribution, and forget about the other person's contribution. Notice the other
person's contribution and be thankful for that. And make the person realize that you have noticed
		
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			it. By the way, that's the one thing that in most relationships, or most households that is missing,
		
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			the other person, the recipient of that the recipient should be the one taking notes and keeping
track and being thankful, not the other way around.
		
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			Yeah, and your husband, sisters doesn't have to come and give you hints as to what he's doing for
you. Yeah, and you don't want him to bring up as much as you want him to communicate and all that
it's very hard. First of all, it's hard, because it's very hard for men to do that, as it is to
begin with. Secondly, the recipient should be the one acknowledging and realizing it. And by the
way, we men need to be, by the way, very careful, and not dismissive. Because sometimes men, I
remember one time, I was telling my blessing, one of the brothers who used to come here regularly,
he said, so what would you like to have on Father's Day? What would you like your family to do for
		
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			you on Father's Day? He said, I just want them to leave me alone.
		
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			Like, what do you want to leave? Well, I wanted to do the right thing. Because as fathers or you
know, we just want our kids and our children in our household to be counted, we feel like our reward
is for them to be safe and to do the right thing and to be successful.
		
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			But deep inside, we like to be appreciated. Deep inside, we like to be appreciated, right? So when
they come and they, you know, express their gratitude, we should What?
		
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			We should not say, Okay, hello. Enough, you know, you don't need to know that. We should encourage
that. Right? When your daughter comes in, she makes a big deal out of it. Right? And she's like
Baba, is that you need to reinforce that and and let her know that this is this is good, you know,
be thankful and show, you know, don't be dismissive. Same thing when your son does that. Why?
Because we're teaching them we're creating a culture at home, like that only your wife does that.
Because if you don't do it, what's going to happen?
		
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			They're going to lose the ability to do it. And they're going to suffer in their future and their
own relationships. They're going to have a lot of hard time in their own relationships, and maybe
even in their professional life. And the reason is because every time they want it to be thankful
somebody suppressed them. Somebody just totally shut them down and told them that it's not a big
deal. You don't need to know we need to we need to do that.
		
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			Also, there is great to reward a waiting for those. The fifth aspect is that the reward waiting for
the people who are thankful they people by the way, who are thankful to Allah subhanaw taala they
receive the pleasure of Allah and even a bass reported saying
		
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			Allah as we're getting the Quran since we're talking about sugar in the Quran, Allah in the Quran
says what's a juicy laahu shagreen Allah is what you would reward a shackling. Isn't this amazing?
Allah blesses you have something? You think this is your reward, right?
		
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			No, that's not your reward.
		
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			A lot of something bigger for you. Well, law he this entire dunya if allow us to give us the whole
thing, right? That's not that's nothing compared to, to general or compared to the pleasure of a
loss of habitat, but alone, he gives us something in this life, he wants us to be thankful. Why
because that's not the reward.
		
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			That's not the reward is something bigger Allah says when you're thankful, that's when you're
rewarded. in Kerala calm just
		
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			so you can match Cora.
		
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			This is what Allah says. But some people are dumb. They just settle for this. Allah gives them a
wealth. They're like I said,
		
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			we're in Delhi, and he thinks Allah gave me this. This is this is my reward. Some people settle for
the lowest for dunya. Allah Subhana Allah gives them something. They're like, they don't want to let
go. They don't want to share. They don't want to be thankful. They're like, Oh, God gave it to me
and this is it. And they don't see anything beyond that. Allah just says no, I want you to be
thankful for what you have. Right? And
		
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			treated well and take care of it and, you know, share it and do whatever you have to do for I have
more for you.
		
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			It's like if somebody was to give you like $10,000 it says, Listen, I want you to take this money,
use some of it, manage it well and go and deliver some of it shared with some people, I have a
million for you tomorrow.
		
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			A wise person will be will say, of course, of course I will do that. The other person and if someone
who is simple minded will say, Who knows? What if he changes his mind? What if this promise that of
a million tomorrow is never going to come? I have 10 10,000 on hand. I'll just take this and enjoy
it and keep this in that sit around and listen to this person. When tomorrow comes, this person
realizes that
		
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			so how Allah
		
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			so Allah as we just said was he lo shagreen Allah reward the shagreen will conclude with this
inshallah to Allah Allah.
		
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			Best said,
		
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			salata to mancala fee our love, we can have a right there are three qualities whoever has them,
Allah Subhana Allah to Allah will bring them closer into His presence so Hanna with Allah, wa cetara
Allah He Brahma parameter analyzer covers up for them out of his mercy. What holla have him have
better and Allah azza wa jal will bring that person
		
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			will will, will love that person, that person will become of the people of Allah Subhana Allah,
		
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			Allah mahana He also Allah, he was asked, you know, what are they? He says, men either only a
shocker, a person that whenever they are given something, they're thankful,
		
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			you know, allows you to praise His Prophet and the Quran in the who can absentia Quran what was it
What was he praised for? They said, No, had a salad. Every time he ate a meal, or had a drink. He
thanked a lasagna
		
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			every time Alhamdulillah
		
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			You know,
		
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			every time he ate in the process of sentences in the Hadith, Allah azza wa jal is pleased when his
servant eats a meal and then says I'm hamdulillah
		
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			right?
		
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			hamdulillah
		
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			there is a lot of difference between people who have the sense of entitlement they're like they
expect a meal when they have the meal. Oh, this is good. They eat it. Oh, that was delicious. And
the person who says Oh,
		
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			man and hamdulillah Allah, this was a delicious meal. There are so many people. By the way, we this
morning after frigid we were talking about Were you there ducks chicken? I thought I saw some faces.
Or maybe yesterday was it yesterday? So how are we we're saying that, that when we eat a meal, we
thank Allah subhanaw taala for it, but there is so much that comes with it. Not only the meal
itself, but the ability to earn it.
		
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			There are so many people don't have the ability to earn it. And also, in addition to the ability to
earn it the opportunity. Some people have the ability, they have the talent and everything, but they
don't have the opportunity
		
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			to earn it. Right. And then the ability to actually process it or consume it. To eat it. There are
so many people we eat stuff that many people in the world don't have the ability to eat or consume,
actually, if it comes if they come near it or if it comes near them, they might die or they have
allergic reaction, when we only eat that, that meal, the ability to digest it and benefits for your
body to benefit from it, that in and of itself as an enema.
		
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			The ability to to dispose, right? Whatever it is, is your body doesn't
		
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			doesn't you know the ability just to be able to relieve yourself and get rid of that food. right
that is in and of itself.
		
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			You know, the safety that we have then tranquility and the peace that we have to be able to sit in
eat a meal
		
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			and not run into like an underground shelter or into a bunker? You know, a lion. Yeah. Yeah. And
some of us the the fact that there's some but somebody prepare the food for you.
		
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			How many people I mean, you know, don't have that that you know, to have warm yet somehow. These are
all Allah subhanaw taala is pleased when a person is thankful man either way the other offer and the
person when he is capable or has overpower somebody else is forgives what either called lava, Fatah.
And if he's angry, then they give themselves some selves a break and they control themselves and
they hold back until they cool, they cool down.
		
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			Allah azza wa jal says may have traveled la via their bucum in Jakarta momentum Allah azza wa jal is
not interested in punishing you. What does Allah do with been punishing you?
		
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			Well, by the way, one of the most powerful
		
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			Found out in the Quran we recited and nothing happens to us. Well lucky this is when we read it in
the Salah. We should all be crying. When we read this I was just as mad if I don't love Yeah, that'd
be cool. What? You know, why would Allah punish you? What does Allah benefit from punishing you? It
means nothing to a law to punish you in Chicago momentum if you just show gratitude and believe.
That's it. That's all that allows us. He didn't ask anything more. believe in Allah and be thankful.
What kind of law Shakira Malema and Allah azza wa jal himself is is appreciative of what a servant
does. Allah subhanaw taala appreciate you know what people do while long tada Adam, so I hope that
		
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			you all had a peaceful happy and continue to have a peaceful happy weekend inshallah. By the way,
again, another thing that we should be very thankful for for is peace. I don't know if you heard or
not, you know, there was a shooting today in Colorado, right? by
		
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			a white male who was who last I checked, they said he was arrested. They captured them in good thing
he was white. Otherwise he would have been shot.
		
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			But so they they arrested him. He surrendered.
		
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			After killing two people and a police officer.
		
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			Today Today, it just ended like a couple of hours ago in Colorado.
		
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			Yeah, it was it was going on for hours. You know, when they said they're negotiating, and there is a
hostage situation and they're negotiating for him to surrender. I know he was white,
		
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			planned parent, you know, they're talking about
		
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			Islamic violence, you know, Muslim terrorists and all of that, and that's the greatest danger of
people will lie. I've been saying this for the past two weeks. I said actually, there's more fear
from these, you know, christian right wing extremists. There's more danger that can come from them
than then than ISIS or anyone else. That's true. It happened right wing
		
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			you know, right wing.
		
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			extremists basically, you know, shot shot to people that injured more people and killed the police.
A police officer in at least four other police officers were wounded.
		
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			So
		
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			anyways, so if you have any question
		
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			or otherwise you might want to go back home for for the leftovers. Anyone has leftover? Anyone has
leftover from the weekend? No. Yeah. So you know what I'm thinking of next year maybe Thanksgiving
we should do?
		
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			We should do what
		
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			yeah, we should do something in the machine. Nino we should do something in the machine. We should
do Turkey. Turkey. Right. In different flavors. Like different spices.
		
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			No, no different spices. Yeah, it's like have for instance 1010 turkey cooked by you know with
different spices.
		
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			Something like that or just different different I want to
		
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			learn the kimono relation.
		
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			Yes, somebody wanted to ask the question.
		
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			Oh, the end.
		
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			from Surah Nisa. Surah An Nisa.
		
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			100 something
		
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			147 Surah Nisa 147 Surah Nisa would be surah number four,
		
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			Felisa
		
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			Allah, Allah magnifi wahala houfy Tiffany
		
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			Casa de la he rahmati what kind of dilemma Juan
		
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			Carlos either to Chicago either far away either all the way.
		
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			Parliament either of the checkup without cadabra
		
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			Either wildly bad photo.
		
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			By the way, something I didn't mention, maybe we can bring some psychologists or something to talk.
They say gratitude is the single most important element for success and happiness in life.
		
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			most successful people, most accomplished people, one of their secret ingredient
		
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			is, by the way,
		
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			not only just successful, but happy people, people who are content, their secret ingredient is their
ability to be grateful, and express and feel and internalize
		
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			gratitude people and by the way, it's proven.
		
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			Only this is something that that was tested, it's proven that gratitude can be learned. Yeah, to be
to be grateful is something that you have to acquire. It's something that you have to teach
yourself.
		
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			And it can be it can happen if somebody wants to sit and just keep force themselves to think about
the blessing that they have and what other people don't have. Right. They can manage to reach that
level of where they become. They become full of gratitude and thankfulness alone that just be
grateful for for what Allah Allah has given them.
		
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			Allah tala and Amazon the law
		
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			Sala