Mohammad Elshinawy – Jibreel (as) Advises the Prophet #5 1.19.2018
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The importance of Islam in people's lives is discussed, including the need for people to live their lives without the negative consequences of their actions and not being associated with anyone. The speakers also discuss scenarios where people ask for help and try to survive, and emphasize the importance of empowerment and avoiding negative consequences. The speakers also give advice on developing independence and being prepared for disappointment.
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Well Praise and Glory be to Allah. We thank him and we seek His help and his guidance and his pleasure and his forgiveness. And we turn to Allah seeking His protection from the evil whispers within us and the evil consequences of our misdeeds of our evil actions. Remember, Allah guides none can lead astray and whomever Allah leaves without guidance, one can guide them and we testify that no one is worthy of our worship but Allah alone without any partners, the true supreme King, the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam was in truth in truth, indeed, His Prophet and his servant and His Messenger O people of Eman oh you will have believed to have the TEPCO of
Allah keep conscious of Allah keep dutiful to him in the matter to the extent that he deserved subhanho wa Taala with every ounce you can muster of your energy and your strength and your obedience and your love and do not die Do not leave this world except in a state of complete and total surrender to Allah, a state of Islam.
To begin after welcoming once again our brothers and sisters to the house of Allah asila Jen and thanking him for the name of Islam and the near ma V man and the normal Brotherhood and the name of Jumeirah and the name of his Masjid near him of being in his house being permitted to visit his house for another day. And for another week, we conclude in sha Allah this Friday, this Juma with the fifth statement of Gibreel the advice of Gibreel salaam that I pray we will all memorize by now. And memorizing it is just the beginning cards we get in our conscience in sha Allah
that you've been eyeing salatu salam, he said to our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Yeah, Mohammed
he mashita fame that can be live whatever length you like, but know that you will die you search enough that? Why did men cheat the fame and camelphat April and love whoever you like but know that you will be separated from the
whatever the machines are inactive, eventually you will be and do whatever you like know that you will be repaid with it and repaid for it while I'm in the shadow of a movement will be paid and know that the honor of the believer is in his standing at night in his private conversations in his very special connection with Allah in the privacy and the sincerity of the night. And this is the fifth and final statement he said he said, Why is Zeus diviner who are in a worrisome scenario who are in us that his reserve the reserve the believer is his history that is his lack of needing is his independence of the people.
And there is of the movement, the empowerment, the dignity, the self respect, the risk, perceived respect of the believer lies in him not leading the people not being dependent on others. The word reserved by the way
some people can shop but the province also made a difference in the shot off of the believer
is standing at night his honor, whereas his razor and we're going to translate this as empowerment and there's a reason for this is in his independence of the people shot off refers to a location
either on Earth right I should have
been that means he came out and he was able to identify
I see the location in Arabic. And so shut off means your location in the ladder, your status, whereas there is comes from another as a che a color will do. When something has raised originally in Arabic, it means it's hard to find it's rare.
And so people's dignity or on people are exceptionally dignified, exceptionally strong, they use the word that is arises with them, because it's very rare that you'll get over on them, meaning they're so strong, they're so impressive. They're so big, whatever it is, you cannot dominate them, you cannot find leverage on them. And that's why we transit as empowerment, you having an edge, he says having an edge, an edge of influence and edge of strength and edge of respect, your influence your distinction in terms of the balances of power, if you will honor that is that comes in at the core of it is being liberated from people not leaving of people not dependent on any one or any of the
people.
And we said that you beat it salaam kept giving the province also limit twice where every sentence was built on the sentence before it. So there's a there's a beauty and a logic and the necessity to understand the sequence. He said to him first in the sequence in the order, Your Honor is in engaging with Allah at night.
And your power is in you being able to let go for people not dependent on the people. The connection here is obvious because whoever connects with Allah subhanho wa Taala believes that feels that closeness to Allah shut off and again, that space between him and Allah gets smaller. The more he transcends the more he climbs away from being connected. When they fall, he falls when they become poor, he becomes poor, when they become weak, he becomes weak, he becomes independent of the people. And so the more a person connects with Allah, the more they can do without the people. There's an obvious connection there that we must understand. And that's why the love of the beautiful derives
that he used to make supplication to us to make that were recorded a documents biography, he used to say Hola, Houma, Kevin Sonita, webce and suju delivery for someone who animus LTW says, Oh Allah, the same way you shield the new protected my face from being humiliated, making sujood being lowered to anybody but you, you honored you by only making salute to Allah by making me Muslim. He said and also protect my face now. From having to stand in front of people and ask of them be dependent on others, because asking others is a source of humiliation. That's why the Prophet SAW Selim with the early Soeharto numbers and others, he raised them on this concept of being independent, he said to
ignore others who were either scientifically lovable, either standard or standard that when you ask you ask Allah, and when you do pay, you depend on Allah. Can you imagine how Allah wants you to be he wants to empower you by telling you do not ask anybody but to me.
Allah one says from you, I don't want you to humiliate yourself by asking others
to connect with me learn how to knock on the doors of the heavens, and that will suffice you all of your needs.
That is where I want you. Because I know that if you ask the people, they'll get upset at you. And they'll humiliate you, and they'll disappoint you. And so if you don't ask me look at the difference when you ask the people they get upset at you. And when you don't ask Allah Zildjian he gets obscenity.
I imagine someone who's telling you don't every time you need a penny, every time you need a smile every time you come to me. I'll give you your opinion. I'll teach you how to smile again. I'll just disperse the sadness. I'll admit that happiness. I'll give you everything. Just keep coming to me. Don't go to anywhere else is going to disappoint you.
alphanumerical of your love Number one, he says that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam after we already gave him Bae I pledged allegiance to him in the terms of Islam. He says
he came to us again and said give me one and we said we did already he said it again. Will you give me baby I said we already did two will you give me they are? He wants to get them to say yes so he will ask them for more conditions. These conditions are not going to be for his sake
nor a benefit that Allah
Oh, no strings attached. I well wants to give you more you just promised to commit to the exchange. So the interaction. So they said what what is the day? I also Allah tell us yes, we will give you very high, they realized there was something more than you wanted to say. So they said yes, we will leave you. He said and Taboola should it will be a shame to worship Allah and don't ask anyone but him. not associate anyone but him. And then he said later on when I let us and unnecessary, and then you don't ask anybody for anything. I don't mean ematic says we were seven or eight or nine people in that gathering for the other h2. And therefore, mean hula Tikka. Yes, Voodoo soul to mean a
hottie him, fella. Yes, and harden, and you will have you here. He said, After that point, one of them will be one of these people that we're in that gathering, I remember seeing that they will drop the whip off of their holes, you drop your pen from a table, you drop your keys from okay, they will drop the whip from him while he's writing. And he will not ask anyone to hand it to him. They wouldn't ask anyone to do that for them. Why? Because they pledge and promise the Prophet SAW Allah, they will not ask of the people. Does that mean you never ever, ever asked for the people? No. But he was teaching them Ali Sofo Salam, and they understood this very well.
That get into the habit of anything you can do for yourself, do it for yourself. Don't seek help from above, seek straight from above and do it yourself. And if you absolutely cannot do it for yourself, then ask yourself a question can I do without it? Can I do without it and go out and do it and survive if I don't ask them to give me seconds of that drink or to pass me or do me that favor or can I do without it if they can do without it, they ignore it. That's it.
And if they cannot do without it, then they would seek out the person that is most likely not going to hold it against them that they asked them.
And so this will limit the times they asked for people it would radically reduce these times.
And the importance of that is clear because the more you ask the people it will either cost them their time, or their peace of mind or their money you will be asking them to give up something of their world of their life of their dunya for years that's what you're asking for. And that's why you probably saw Sal and some narration said was had female the ad nurse you get back a nurse, let go what's in people's hands, then they will love you. Otherwise, if you ask them the people one of two things is going to happen.
That Allah Zilla Gen does not love for you, he wishes for you to be above either number one, they'll give you what you asked for. But they will get you negatively in the process.
The best example of this, your own mother.
If you ask your mother, for a certain dish that you like, she'll be happy. Most likely, she'll be happy. He wants to eat this dish that he hasn't had in a long time.
But if you tell her
and I want you to do this on the side, and here's here's someone, and here's $100. So you can go buy the ingredients. And I want this kind of drink with it. And don't make it too hard. Because last time it was a little bit extra dry. And you started listening your request, your own mother will start getting frustrated with you When won't you
so this is going to apply to the person that is your mother that no one can offer you what they want for you willingly graciously of their lives for your life of their happiness and comfort for your ideas and comfort, then what about anyone else whatsoever. So that's the first scenario, they'll actually give you what it won't be for free. You will lose a few rights in their heart, you will lose leverage in respect in their heart because of how much you're dependent on them and asking of them.
The second case scenario is you will ask them
and they'll disappoint you
or you'll depend on them. It's not always a verbal asking is still in that means for you to not look for them to offer you what you need to validate your needs to supply your needs. And we give a few examples of this that are very important. The first of them is when you depend on someone else for your religious commitment for your Eman.
Most people on the planet are like this, by the way. You know even like social scientists when they explain why do people believe in something, whether it's their religion or philosophy or something? They say this field is believed that they had in anything happens for one of three reasons
There is what they call faith by association, it's very important for you to understand this faith by association, their faith is a result of an dependence on who they associate with. So most people have the religion of their parents, because they associated with their parents, okay? Just this is their, their environment. The second level of fee is when you become independent of your surroundings. This is by now the faith by conviction persuasion, you have a read, this is where you want to be. But even then, there's still going to be a struggle in your feet. Because if you're convinced with something, but it's just too hard, you're gonna unconvince yourself, you're still a
little bit dependent on the people around you. And so they said, the third level, the strongest form of feet, in anything, just so you understand your religion, the religion of your children not being dependent on anything, and other people, is when you climb past that you become independent, or even your mind, and you become not fully independent. You become a person of faith by experience, I felt it, I've seen it myself.
And if we have this, our children may not have this, they are dependent on their surroundings, or they're convinced on some level, but when push comes to shove, the conviction is gonna fall because they didn't taste Fake, fake by your experiences. They like more salary. So now, all these convinced and all of the world says, No, we're stuck. Those that are convinced like you are stuck. They say we're going to be caught in that after our code. Mussolini, Stalin at that point is in America. He says, The My Lord is with me. I'm not dependent on you guys staying around and believing what I believe in. Whether you live or you die, you believe you're not dependent on anyone.
And so whoever's Eman fee is dependent on another person's faith, whether it be your chef, your scholar, your parents, what if they fall off? What if they go through fitna? What if they die away?
And so this is one of the ways that your empowerment your is as a Muslim comes from you not needing that.
Another important way that you need to break away from the people for you to have this strength is to not depend on people's money. This is huge in Islam.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when two men came to him and asked him for some kind of asking for
he looked them up and down.
Because the narrative is is for an urgent D so that we were very fixed guys, we were tough men. So they don't look like the typical person who can't earn a living. And then he said to them, and he saw to Salam in sheep to mA play to Kuma if you wish, you're saying you deserve I'll take your word for it. And you are originally to take a person's word for it. Even if you're you're not sure that they need it. So long as you're not sure they're lying. They're scamming, you can give them from musica. And if you find that later, you don't have to repay yours, okay? You just take it face value.
The default is that a Muslim was honest. He said if you desire to take transactional money, I'll give it to you. When I can't budge know, when I have Luffy have it shipped to me and offer it to Kuma when I have a fee had the money whether the coffee mug tested, but know that no one deserves this money
if they are rich, if they have their own money meaning because it means they are financially independent, or they have the strength to earn their own money.
This level does not want to be dependent on anybody financially either. This is also true for nations are doing.
If the Muslim ummah is not financially independent, right, they will continue to not have power, because they're dependent on someone else to feed them and give them drink and give them inventions and give them technology and give them attitudes. Islam uprooted that and said you need to become financially independent, that's part of your power. And the third and last one before I sit, to be dependent on people's pleasure of you.
Right now I move on. That's to not feel the need that I have to be people people need to be pleased with me. Because first of all, that's impossible that people will never always be pleased with you read the Quran and see the prophets of God they didn't earn this How will you earn this? There are some people
that no matter what you do, they will only focus on the negativity they will only see that that's actually because of the negative news in them so they project it on other people. You know one brother he said to me and I will never use the example unless I was absolutely sure he was joking.
He said to me, when I asked him
to bear witness to a to a divorce agreement, he said, you know, ever since you've been in the community, good things have happened. But the divorce rate is up. He was joking because there was one divorce. And I laughed with him. But there are people actually like this, that will say nothing good has happened, except this one bad has happened.
And there are some people, no matter how genuine you will be, they will always assume evil of you. Because that's the lens, they look at the world. That's the lens, they look at the world. And so Islam says they're not the ones that validates you. They're not the ones that dictate to you. This, by the way, gives you strength of what consistency, you're not waiting for their appreciation, either. It also gives you independence. You know, they did a bad Easter, I have a whole lot of beautiful example of this. And there's so many among the sahaba. And it's entering with the rulers, but simply by the selection of the committee decided, when the French envoy of Syria came to him and
threatened him. And Central, you're going to stop teaching these poisonous ideas to the young young guys of Islamic reform and bring the slam back. He says you're either going to shut down your message.
So he said to me, you can't shut down my doubt.
He said, Of course I can. He said, No, you can't. If you shut down my message, I'll still share these ideas. And every wedding I'm invited, every epoch invited, and I'll share it with whoever sitting next to me on the train, and whoever rides with me on the bus and whoever invites me to preach and as on their relatives. And if you stick me in prison, I'm going to share it with the inmates. And if you kill me, you're going to provoke the masses even more against you.
He couldn't do much. He was not dependent on his pleasure. By the way, the masses also the masses, he did not gain is empowerment with the masses until it's stolen. I knew he wasn't trying to please stop. Because trying to please the rulers and trying to please the crowds is the same exact thing. It's just as disgraceful. But when you can have a citizen that I am not needing someone to be pleased with me. That is where it's a construct. That is where empowerment comes from. That's where no flip flopping happens anymore. That's where you have the strength to the act of Allah where you don't need people and people start reading you you become have leverage in this world.
And thus the believer should be full of all the other stuff about all the money.
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Allah azza wa jal praise the earliest believers by their protective Enos. how secretive they were when they had needs about their needs. You accept a woman gently go Alinea. And it's awful. The one who doesn't know any better considers Devon needless, I don't need anything from anyone. Because of how dignified they were. That was the protectiveness, they will dig in the fire. And so Allah praise the believers like this. And we need to develop in ourselves and in our children, that type of stuff that that type of independence, you can do this with your children, by not asking them to get you a cup of water. By not asking anyone to do anything for you at home, as the Prophet SAW said, Whenever
he couldn't, he would fix his shoes by himself and stitches clothes by himself. And he was like that adding salt was set up. You can say I want to teach my children to serve their parents, okay, tell them to serve the other parent, not this parent. That's the easy way to do it.
And here's another tip to develop this inside of us.
We said do things yourself? If you cannot do I really need it? If I really needed it fine. Then I'll ask someone who will likely not look at me in a negative light because of it. Another thing you can do
is to train yourself to be ready for disappointment. To be ready for disappointment. Tell yourself the next time someone fails me. Someone fails me they break a promise to me they betray my expectations. Don't be disappointed at people as much anymore. Say well.
It's not that you failed me. I expected too much of you.
I expected too much of you. And one of the easy ways to get yourself to do this is to remind yourself that you do the same exact thing so many times with other people. And if you don't have selective memory will realize this. You don't
One brother really disappointed me for a while until I realized I was being double standard. See, I do the same exact thing. Since I've moved into this community, he's called me three times. And I shared the story with some before. He has called me three times at each of his divorces. I never heard from him again, I hardly ever saw him again. And so every time he would call me and be extremely upset,
I'd say this brother, he called me the second divorce or his third say, that means in order to divorce her a second time, that means you got back together. So how come you're only sharing the bad news with me? I'm sitting here thinking you're going through such a struggle, and you guys have resolved and moved on to you got to another conflict and divorce, but you only rushed to me during the problems.
And so I almost wanted to block his number. I almost wanted to remove him from my life. Until I said, you know, I pray Allah forgives me for keeping him in my life because I do the same thing with Allah. Don't we all run to Allah get a little closer only when we have problems. And we move away when we don't have problems. So why do we have expectations of people that we don't even hold ourselves to.
And so this will teach you to settle even with your family, by the way, you did being so dependent on an expectation about your family is so weakening of you, and of your family. My kid has to be a doctor Mike, it has to be an engineer, my wife cannot be this way my husband just sets a little bit. And you know how you do that, and I'm done with this hadith now is to rewind to the beginning of the heavy.
It began by the discussion on that. And Hassan possibly or Nova was asked how do I get myself to be good with my family
call at the reading mica and a fella fee him colleague.
By knowing that you're you remaining among them, it's going to be for a very small period of time that it is just settled. Because your problem is that you're dependent on seeing your child's fit your mold to be an extension of life and your wife as well and your husband, by realizing you're not gonna be here very long, you become content, independent of them. And so your prosperity is not dependent on your expectations of your family anymore. You're not in need of any of this, Allah wants you like that. Because at the end of the day, they will not be able to offer you much when the disconnect happens. So empower yourself now. Stop trying to impress stop trying to be demanding,
know that they cannot offer you much when you get into your grief. So empower yourself by connecting with Allah
and living with the people graciously.
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